ASK MOMMY ANSWERS ARCHIVE                     PAGE 9
Question Asked By: Josh
Age: 14

Q:

Hi I am 14 and I have been wetting the bed for the past two months I do like 2 times a week I do not know why. The other day when my mom was at work I went to the store and bought Goodnites I have not worn any yet though I want to tell my mom before I do. If you have any tips for how to tell my mom please tell me them.


A:

Dear Josh,  One of the best ways to approach this is to take it from a medical stand point.  Tell your Mom you have been wetting and you don't know why and can she take you to a doctor to make sure there are no problems.  In my son's case it was just a immature bladder- which means he had a growth spurt and his bladder didn't.  This way the focus is on finding the reason and not on the fact that you are wetting the bed.  Hope this helps.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michael Handlan
Age: 21

Q:

Dear mommy I want to know how I can get a real life adult baby mommy and how will she love and take care of me and baby me and do everything a baby does???


A:

Dear Michael,  We have a mommy finder on our main site.  It is set up by state or province.  We of course do not have all the mommies out there listed.  You might also try posting your ad for a mommy on various sites.  It can be hard to find just the right one but keep trying. Each mommy has her own way of doing things.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joseph Look
Age: 16

Q:

Do teen babies need to changed rocked and fed?


A:

Dear Joseph,  If you want to be rocked and fed then by all means do so. It is an individual choice. Just be happy.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bud
Age: 25

Q:

I just moved to Sacramento, California and I am having trouble
finding a mommy service. I have checked many ABDL classifieds, in the
papers and the net. Can you help me find a mommy?
Babyboy


A:

Dear Bud, On our main site we do have a mommy finder set up by state.  You could try to find one there.  My only other suggestion is to post on sites as a baby looking for a mommy.  A good mommy is hard to find but keep looking and your perserverance will pay off.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michelle
Age: 13

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I am 13, have a 28 inch waist and weigh 115 pounds? what kind of diapers and what size would you recommend? I don’t have a wetting problem but I tried wearing once and I loved it. once I start to wet and make messy a lot, will I need to shave the hair "down there" to make clean ups easier and prevent rashes? Last question, aside from the actual diapers, what other supplies will I need? Thanks


A:

Dear Michelle,   There are plenty of diaper websites out there that can get you what you need.  As to which diaper?  That is a matter of taste.  Do you want fluffy? or thin and crinkly?  My suggestion would be to try a sample pack from a diaper company.  It usually doesn't cost much and can give you a good variety to choose from.  As to personal hygiene- alot of our members like to trim the hair down for comfort when cleaning up.  Now on to supplies- of course diapers,  a changing pad is a good idea- you don't want to mess up your bed when changing yourself.  The nest item is wipes to clean yourself with.  Powder and/or lotion is optional but I reccommend you use at least one of these items.  To sit in a diaper can be uncomfortable.  Powder and lotion helps protect the skin from rashes and stuff.  Some members have diaper bags to hold everything in.  These bags can be anything from an actual baby bag to a duffel bag or sports bag.  It's your choice.  And also make sure you have a garbage bag in there you are not always right next to a trash can when you change.  I hope some of this was helpful.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Someone
Age: 15

Q:

Hello, I want to be treated like a baby and I don’t want my family to know about it so I sneak at night and take a diaper and wear it and I’m scared that some of my family sees me so what can I do so I can let them treat me like a baby?


A:

Dear Someone,   Only you know how your family is. Is this something you think they would be open to doing?  Are they accepting of things like this?  There are no magic words to say or any sure fire scheme to get them to understand.  As much as I would like for this to happen for you- you need to ask yourself if your family would really treat you as a baby and be alright with it.  You might have to wait until yo are 18 and can seek friends who are accepting.  I wish you luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mark
Age: 45

Q:

I was curious to know. Do you think it is possible that a person could have been a bed wetter when they were a toddler or even early teen, and buried that memory?? The reason I ask is I am trying to figure out why I enjoy role playing the part of being forced into diapers for wetting myself or the bed, and forced to be a sissy. The only memory I have is once I had an accident (pooped my pants)when I was 13, but I know I wasn't punished. And only once did my mom make me wear my sisters underpants (cause all mine were dirty). Anyway I totally enjoy dressing, diapers, and light punishments. And I am o.k. with it as I am not hurting anyone. Maybe you have some insight???????                      Mark (Kendra)


A:

Dear Mark(Kendra),   It sounds like you are a diaperlover in the soul.  You do bring up the eternal question though.  What makes me what I am?  I am not an expert on the issue but I think you must of had positive experiences as a child for it to be enjoyable now.  The memory might be submerged but the good feeling isn't.  Life is short and in my opinion anything that can bring joy to it is fabulous as far as I am concerned.  And to be honest I know alot of males who love to play dress up and be a sissy.  So just enjoy yourself and be happy.  Do what you need to do to be content and just live life to the fullest!
-HUgs Sandra 

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Question Asked By: Drypers
Age: 39

Q:

Well I hated wearing diapers at first but I’m use to them now due to a trucking accident I have nerve damage to my spinal cord so now I’m in diapers I was just wondering do u wear diapers too?


A:

Dear Drypers,  I use to wear diapers.  I hated them because they were never absorbant enough for my problem.  I was diagnosed with a brain tumor and after the surgery and radiation I was left with damage to the part of my brain that controls my bladder. Hello diapers.  My doctors have since put me on medication to regulate me.  It is still difficult but manageable.  Thanks for asking.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jay
Age: 24

Q:

I am and AB who only wears diapers every now and then when I get a chance.  I do not "need" them for and control problems but I need them for emotional comfort.  I like to wear them.  They make me feel same.

I am in a relationship with my girlfriend and have told her everything about my life.  She is completely excepting and supportive of me.  She has shown some interest in an AB/mommy relationship.

I am not talking about all the time.  I am talking about once a week maybe or so.  And that is the way I want it.  I don’t want it all the time.  I like being an adult as well.  I is just sometimes stress just gets too much and you need to escape.

Anyways, she sees AB's as a physical/sexual need.  I have tried to explain to her that it can be that way ... but that I want it to be more emotional/mental.  More of a connection than mere physical stim.  The bond between bABy and parent is what is gratifying.  That feeling you get just by laying my head in her lap and her smiling down... that is the magic.

Can you offer me any advice as to how to help show her the difference and what I would like.  I know she is open to it.  and I know she knows what to do.  She baby sits and teaches K-garden kids and she is so good with them.

Well the instructions said give as much info as I could.  I really hope you can help.  and if not thank you for at least listening(reading)

Love, Luck, and Lollipops
baby J


A:

Dear Jay,  You have a good start in that she is understanding.  The only way to let her know what it is all about is to talk to her.  Explain that like you said it is more of a stress reliever. Life as an adult can be harsh with the realities of the world as it is. To download all that stress is to go back to a simpler time in your life when all you had to do is exist to be loved and cared for. It is as you said an emotional issue.  Give her time and she'll understand the whys and hows.  There is a lot of misinformation out there and it can be hard to get through it all.  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 31

Q:

Hi mommy.  I am a boy DL/AB who wears diapers at night, and wets and messes in it. I have always had these urges since I was 4-6 years old. At this age I secretly stole one of the cloth diapers my mother had left over from my diaper years (I'm the youngest in the family).  I used it, and hid it poorly from her in retrospect. She found the wet diaper, and I was reprimanded.  The urge disappeared for a while.  Around high school it was reawakened in a dream one night. My dream of wearing plastic panties brought back the suppressed urge. I have always looked for a cure. I have gone through many binge an purge cycles. Even now there is always the inner battle of the urge vs. my Christian teachings.  I can hold off the urge for a while, but the urge always comes back stronger, triggered by a diaper commercial or something. I often wander, other than behavioral modification/ medicine, if there's a simpler answer for us.  An answer psychologist may not have thought of yet.  The answer may be to give us what we want.  My theory is that all DL/AB's be returned to diapers 24/7 for s mandatory 3-4 years.  Of course the person would need to be unpotty trained first. It would require the person to go through his/her diaper dependant years all over again.  The person would not start potty training until after the 3-4 years of wearing diapers.  True, to some of us it sounds like a dream come true. However, would it still be viewed as such after the first year or second year of using diapers all the time, and there would be 1-2 years left before even starting potty training.  However not sure how all this could be accomplished since some of us work for a living. It is almost impossible to hide a diaper from others for that long a time period. The person could be institutionalized, but that becomes even more complicated, especially if they want to be discreet about the lifestyle. What would be a psychologist’s reaction to this method?  Would it even work?  I am currently testing a part of this theory out by using diapers at night only.  Last night I lost the urge, but forced myself to wear a disposable diaper, and t-shirt to bed.  I even had an accident in it this morning (more through conscious act). I will continue to do this for a month weather I want to wear a diaper or not.  However, even though my theory requires me to unpotty trained I have some fear of truly losing control.  The body might actually adapt to the conscious acts, and start doing it automatically.  Yes, that would help test the theory forcing me to wear diapers at night.  I will reevaluate at the end of month for now. It would be better if I was living alone, then I wouldn't have to hide it from my parents, who I think knows and just don't mention it.  That's another story. I'm curious about your thoughts?  What would a psychologist say about this theory?  Should I fear about losing control at night?  Sorry for the long post. Well I better get ready for bed wish me luck. Thanks!


A:

Dear Embarrassed, I think you are over thinking the situation. If you as an adult want to be an AB/DL why shouldn't you?  If you want to wear diapers why don't you?  Society puts a bad aura over being an AB/DL only because the majority of people don't understand it and are afraid of it.  If a grown man can pierce his genitalia what is all that wrong with putting a piece of cloth around your posterior.  When you get right down to it- that is all a diaper is- a piece of fabric around your rear but then that definition applies to panties and briefs as well.  Why be ashamed of what you like to do.  If you had an accident that left you having to wear protection would you hide it?  No it would be understood as a medical problem.  And by the way if you were to wear protection 24/7 it is possible to train the body to relieve itself spontaneously.  Not always but it is possible.  Why not just be happy with how you want to live your life.  Don't try to change.  It seems to me that to deny your feelings is a lot harder than just accepting them.  You'll also be a lot happier.  You have tried to deny it and in your teens it reappeared. I would be interested in the results of your experiment but remember to be yourself.  Only by doing that can you be truly content in this life.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 15

Q:

I want to were diaper what band should I get and how should I tell my parents that I went to were diapers?


A:

Dear James, I can't tell you if and how to tell your parents that you want to wear diapers.  I don't know them and can't judge if they would be open to it.  Only you know that answer.  If you think they are accepting and open minded- get some facts and present it to them. If they are not perhaps talk to another relative/adult who can go to them for you. As to brand you can purchase from any drug store many good brands or order a sample pack from the diaper stores on our site.  I hope this helps and good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 33 going on2

Q:

Hi mommy Sandra I am wishing to be changed by a mommy but I am afraid to seek out some one to be my mama and if you could give me advice about how I need to get changed by a woman who could be my mama to change me when I wet. I also feel that I want some woman to know that I wear diapers and I feel that if you could tell me how to seek this out I would feel a lot better about going out in public. I also like to be dressed as a girl and even eat baby food, drink bottles of formula, and even sit in a stroller am I weird for wanting these items to happen to me?

love baby Tim

ps I would like to say how I love the advice you give all of us
babies and even say I wish you were my mommy.


A:

Dear Tim,

First of all Thank you.  I care about all of you like you were my babies.  It is hard to find a mommy.  Some babies go through a lot before finding the perfect one.  On our main site we have a mommy finder with some people we know of.  They can either be your mommy or refer you to someone else. There have been cases of girlfriends and wives being mommies.  You need to look is what it boils down to. Unless you are with a woman that is open-minded I would keep this information to myself. As far as you wanting to dress like a girl-you are a sissy baby and one of my dearest friend is one.  He dresses in the cutest baby doll dresses! You are not weird, crazy or touched- you are fabulous as you are!  Good luck in your search.  I hope you find that special someone.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steven
Age: 12

Q:

I don’T wet but how can I tell my mom I want to wear diapers


A:

Dear Steven,

Is your mother the type of person who would be understanding of this type of information?  You have brothers that wet the bed but you said you don't- do you think she would accept it?  If you are not sure perhaps you should wait until you are older to mention anything. Only you can make the decision.  I wish you luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Carl
Age: 50

Q:

I hope you can help me I love the feeling of wearing diapers my wife knows but I have two boys at home with me 23 and 18 I am an Abdul and I have been eating baby food also is this wrong ..wetting my diaper at night feels good to me..is this ok?


A:

Dear Carl,

What is wrong with being happy?  Nothing.  If it makes you feel good then it is good. You said your wife knows- that's great. You keep it from your children - so what is the harm?  There is so much stress out in the world so you come home and destress with some 'strained carrots' and a warm powdered derriere. You go for it!  It hurts no one and you're happy.  It seems to be a win-win situation.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ray
Age: 22

Q:

I sit wrong for a 22 year old bed wetter to have his mommy change his wet and or poopy diapers it makes me feel good!


A:

Dear Ray,

I always say this- If it feels good then it is good.  You are not hurting anyone- so what's the harm.  If your mommy is willing to do it- then more power to you. Life is short just be happy!
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: weefella
Age: 29

Q:

Hi I am a 29 year old ab/dl male  can you tell me where I can buy diapers in Scotland I live in Aberdeen and cant find anywhere local? Thanks


A:

Dear Weefella,

I am not familiar with Scotland.  Most of the times you can purchase them from pharmacies/drug stores.  To get the adult sizes with no problem though your best bet is on the internet.  There are many wonderful companies- we have an affiliate Diaper Connections ( their link is on our main site) they ship overseas and are reasonably priced.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 56

Q:

I have legitimate medical incontinence due to nerve injury, & prefer cloth diapers & plastic pants; except when traveling. I recently bought some reusable's from a local-area online source, from a self-employed woman. We talked several times about my situation, & also about her online diaper business, & she mentioned she is looking for a "model" to take pictures of, wearing diapers, for her website; in exchange for some free cloth diapers. I also have AB/DL feelings, & said I am interested, if she doesn't show my face, or give out my identity to anyone. My question: Am I risking being embarrassed & humiliated, if she does post pictures of me, in diapers, on her website (showing my face)? I feel/hope that anyone viewing the website would either also be an AB/DL (thus it wouldn't matter), or have legitimate incontinence, & think nothing of seeing "someone" (me) as the model. If it happened to be anyone who knows me, & they are viewing to possibly buy incontinence items for a friend or relative; then  would be humiliated, if they recognized me (especially if they gossip to others who know me, or say anything about it to me). I am leaning toward being the "model" (trusting that she won't show my face, on the pictures). What should I do? I really want to do this; but hesitate, out of fear of any possible humiliation, if anyone who knows me, sees the pictures & recognizes me.


A:

Dear Jack,

You have some legitimate concerns but you answered your own question. If you are leaning toward being the model I see no problem.  You said yourself- you have a real medical reason for wearing them.  If anyone should happen to see you- well you medically need them.  End of story. And of course the bottom line if it is really making you that nervous then don't.  The decision is yours in the end but I think it is a good deal and like I said if anyone asks-you do have a medical reason for wearing them.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andrew
Age: 16

Q:

I was wondering if their was any way to ask your mother to put
you in diapers? I have asked and now I am seeing a therapist but I
still want to wear and use diapers and be a sissy which I have not told my mom. Should I just ask the therapist to tell my mom to put me in
diapers or what? I am open to anything.


A:

Dear Andrew,

From what you said already I don't think your mother would understand the 'sissy' part. She already has you seeing a therapist.  As hard as this may be you may need to wait until you are 18 to do what you want.  As a 16 year old your mother can send you to therapist after therapist. I wouldn't say anything to your therapist (they are being paid by your mother) unless you have an enormous amount of trust in them.  I normally don't advise keeping things from parents but in your case she has already taken it badly-you don't need to be in a worse situation.  I wish you luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James B
Age: 16

Q:

Is it all right to wear diapers outside with no pants?


A:

Dear James,

I would only do that if you have absolute privacy.  Most people don't understand and get odd ideas in their heads so only if you have a completely private area.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 44

Q:

Dear mommy,

first I want to say how much I love your forum. And thank you. recently I have been trying to stay in my wet diaper for long periods at a time a part of my self punishment. I realize that a pee pee odor can be strong, especially when it stays in the diaper longer. I do use baby powder and I might ad plenty of it, is there anything I can do to cut down the odor like special diet, or something for babies???? or should I stop with the punishments before someone comments on the smell. Personally the smell is part of my punishment. I am already getting some strange looks when I do this.
                              thanks 4 your help,
                                  sissy baby Kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

My one concern is you in your diapers for long periods of time and getting a rash- sorry that is the mommy part of me coming out.  I hope you are protecting your skin- corn starch powder is good.  As far as cutting down on the smell- one product you might try is an incontinent spray.  Medical supply stores would have these. You can find many incontinence sites online that would have their particular brand that they use.  It helps to clean the diaper area and cuts down on the smell.  I know of some people who use it in their laundering of their diapers to keep them springtime fresh.  If you are getting looks- perhaps you should cut down on the length of 'punishment' time.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Carl
Age: 50

Q:

Is it ok that I love to wear diapers and wet them at my age? And I love to eat baby food. At times I love to be a baby I am also a sissy and I cross-dress. Please let me know if there are others like me.


A:

Dear Carl,

You are not alone!  It is not strange at all.  There are whole communities out there who are 'sissy' babies. One of my dearest friends is a sissy and he has the most fabulous sissy outfits- he comes and does fashion shows for me. Just be happy Carl and put on that frilly panty for me!
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nathan
Age: 21

Q:

Okay, well, this will probably be difficult to express, but
I'll see if I can.

To be blunt, I don't know _what_ I am.  I don't see an identity for
myself.  Gay, straight, bi, male, female, etc.  How about none of the
above?  I feel crushed by labels.  My body is not what I choose it to be, but are there really two options?  I don't want a penis.  But I don't want breasts either.  I like standing to pee, but I don't like the bulge in my diapers or panties (and I sure as hell don't like getting kicked there).  I like wearing women's clothing, but I don't want to be stuck with the lower social standing.

I'm no stranger to other humans.  I know multiple gay people (including my sister), I've read a number of transgender books and webcomics, and I'm familiar with Dan Savage's Savage Love column (he's not too kind to AB/DLs unfortunately).

I cannot expect you to identify what I am.  But what should a lonely, no-girlfriend, diapered and confused college student do?


A:

Dear Nathan,

It can be difficult to find your 'niche' in this world.  People are quick to label.  Why do you have to label yourself yet.  You said yourself- you are not sure what or who you are.  You need to try different things and start to 'map' out who you are.  What activities do you like?  Do you want to date guys or girls or do you switch from wanting one at one time to wanting the other at other times? For right now surround yourself with people who you consider friends- just good people you enjoy spending time with. The only way to find yourself is to go looking for yourself. I know that is not really an answer but it is up to you to do the work and identify the boundaries of your world and then who you are will be more clear.I hope this helps.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bobbie
Age: 43

Q:

Hi my name is Bob, a close female friend has wanted to keep me in diapers. I agree at night yes, I have been to doctors and yes I do have a problem with incont. But only when I drink water or coffee. So I try not to drink and I am fine with out diapers, maybe a little leak once in awhile but is that to you a good reason to wear diapers 24/7? Are there any side affects if I agreed to wear them? Can other people tell if your wearing diapers, or does it even mater? Should I care? Also how many ounces of water do people require per day. Thanks Bob...


A:

Dear bobbie,

It is okay if you want to wear diapers 24/7.  If you want to then go for it.  If you only leak a little there are other eays to manage it- you could restrict fluids and frequent bathroom breaks. If you do wear diapers 24/7 be sure to clean thoroughly and dry well.  Leave the skin out to 'air' from time to time. As for diapers out there- there are many that are designed to not be noticed.  For me I don't really care one way or the other- if you need them you need them.  Why be embarrassed- it's the same as if you needed glasses or braces. If people want to say something let them- they are the ignorant ones. And to your question on fluids it is said an average human needs 24 ounces of fluids a day.  Hope this helps.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bill
Age: 32

Q:

In a lot of these galleries I see diaper with M's along the seem, do you know what brand they are and where I can get some?


A:

Dear Bill,

Unfortunately I don't have a diaper brand catalog.  If could be any brand from any country.  The 'M' you see may not even be the brand logo but simply the M meaning 'medium' size.  Sorry I couldn't be of much help.  If you are looking for a diaper, alot of the online diaper stores have sampler packs.  Perhaps you could try one of those and see which one works best for you.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John Henry
Age: 25

Q:

I went to my monthly check-up and met a nice girl there that was 25-30 years old. We talked and had a few laughs. I thaught i smelt something like poop but ignored it. Then she went into the doctors office and i kept reading my magazine. Then a nurse walked into the office. Before the door closed i saw the girl on the table wearing a dirty diaper full of poop! The doctor was cleaning her of and said something about doing a test with a rectal probe. Is this a strange sight? Should i still ask her out?
JHH:)


A:

Dear John Henry,

If you like the girl why wouldn't you ask her out. There are many reasons why she might of been in a diaper.  Since you were in a doctor's office she probably has either an injury or condition that is beyond her control. The measure of a person is in who they are- not what they wear or don't wear. If you like her don't let diapers get in the way. She could be the 'one'.  Think about what is important to you and then make a decision- I hope you still give her a chance and ask her out. Hope all goes well.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 35

Q:

How and where do i find a women that r into the ab/dl fetish? i would love more then nothing to find a women playmate a women not just as a mommy to me some one to have ab/dl fun with as in a friend!!!!!!!!!!!


Q:

Dear David,

AB/DL friends are hard to come by. In my own experience you log into a forum and post for a penpal or just a friend and just answer the responses.( We happen to have a great one-shameless plug)  Some responses will stand out more than others and those are the ones you culture. Stanley and I have AB/DL friends in alot of different states and it is nice when we come together for holidays and stuff.  Keep looking and don't give up hope.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra
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