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Question Asked By: embarresed
Age: 14

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Dear mommy I heard you can get round teeth by sucking on a paci too long. Is there anything more things I should look out for when I suck on a paci?


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Dear Embarrassed,  Your teeth only get malformed when they are still growing.  Until you have all of your adult teeth sucking on a paci could misalign them.  So enjoy your paci just do it once in a while and give your teeth a rest.  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 42

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I am looking for a site that can tell me how to be a daddy for my baby bio I am a litte new an need some help with being a daddy to my AB  any help you can give I wiil be very thankful for thank you very   David


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Dear David,  There is not a rule book for right and wrong on being a daddy.  If you and your AB are happy in how you interact with each other- then that is what is right for you.  The most successful Daddy/AB pairings are made up of people who make their own routine.  Some like bubble baths and cuddle time on the couch after. Others like to play cars and trucks on the floor before bedtime.  It is whatever works for you.  So relax- you aren't breaking any rules just go have fun and make up your own.  Enjoy each others company and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jeff
Age: 23

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I recently started wearing diapers because my girlfriend wanted me to. If we are in a mall and I wet myself, which restroom should my
girlfriend change me in ?


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Dear Jeff,  Since you are an adult that could be tricky.  Technically you can only go into the men's room and change yourself since she cant go in the men's room  You cant go into the ladies room for obvious reasons.  So.if your girlfriend wants to change you it will probably have to be done in a car/vehicle.   Perhaps when out you learn to change yourself just to make thing a little easier.  At any rate happy diapering!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Johnny
Age: 47

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Hi I would like to know what kind of mental disorder it is that makes me want to be in a diaper I wear diapers 24/7 and cant understand why I like to do this what is it called the mental disorder.


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Dear Johnny,  You do not have a mental disorder.  You have what is called infantilism.  It is a need/love of being a young child/baby.  There has been some research on this subject.  My take on it is this.  The one time in our lives when you were loved just for being you was as a baby.  This world is harsh  and day to day life can be stressful.  Why wouldn't you want to retreat back to a time when things were simple. Being a AB is simply a coping mechanism to deal with the stress of todays harsh realities.  In my opinion wearing a diaper is better than drowning in a bottle of booze.  Of course that is my opinion. Don't think you are 'defective' in any way- you aren't.  You are only going back to a safe place in your life and there is nothing wrong with that!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Len
Age: 36

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Hello mommy my name is Len. I am diaperd 24/7 do to health problems. I have a large tumer on my bladder and the doc can't op on it because if they do he said they might make it worse. so I use pampers baby dry size 6 they fit great. I can't use adult diapers they dont work for me. I've tried. My question is how is the best way to use diaper rash cream? can I put it on the diaper it self or do I put it on the for skin? I use huggies rash cream. I also use huggies pull-ups size 4t5t. They work and fit great to. My doc said its ok to use pampers and pull-ups he seen me in both. Thank you for your time Len. p.s. I am not a diaper lover. like I told you I need them for my health problems. please put it in your disciption list.


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Dear Len,  I am happy that you found diapers that work for you that is half the battle.  As for the rash cream- change frequently and wash thoroughly and dry well.  You can apply the cream to the diaper but it is better if applied to the skin directly.  Also try Balmex and/or Desitin.  They are also good products.  You might also try using corn starch powder it also acts as an excellent barrier agaisnt wetness.  It works great to keep moisture from breaking down a diaper- like sweat in the summer.  The powder can just be sprinkled in the diaper.  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 56

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My girlfriend is "ok" with my ABDL needs, & helps me with that (including changing my diapers (I have legitimate urinary incontinence); & giving my a baby bottle of milk and/or pacifier; however when she does act as my "mommy" she will not have sex with me (as she does at other times) for that entire week; saying that "babies do not have sex". I really love having her "mommy" me; but also enjoy sex (and miss having it, when she says I am a baby for that week). Do you know of a good argument I can use, to pursuade her to have sex with me; during a week where she has "mommied" me?


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Dear Jack,  Unfortunately there is not really too much you can say to change her mind.  Her feeling is probably that she can't change gears that fast.  To be in Mommy mode then switch to sexy girlfriend mode takes her some time.  Perhaps the two of you can make a sort of schedule - baby time during the week and sexy girlfriend time on the weekends or some other arrangement.  I would consider myself fortunate to have a girlfriend willing to participater in my AB lifestyle- not too many are as lucky.  Try to work a compromise that is alright for both of you.. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 31

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Thanks mommy for all the advice. I wanted to run a few things past you. Not sure if you remember me. I have frequented this board in order to help me understand being in diapers agian. Just in case you forgot I will update you on my background. I am ab/dl baby who wears diapers at night. Most of the time I have wetting(conscious act)accidents. I also sometimes mess(conscious act) in my diaper. I have been trying to wear diapers every night. I have not been too succesful with this, so I listen to hypnotic cd's that suggest to only have accidents while diapered.  I know you discourage this, but I want to be forced to wear them every night. I currently wear disposable diapers only.  That's pretty much my background which you may already know. Here's some questions I have. I need some clarification on advice you offered me. Since I am using disposable should I use a diaper pail, or is this used for only cloth? Do parents use diaper pails to collect soiled diapers till garbage day? I use to have one that collected diapers in a trash bag. It prevented the diaper from smelling up the room. Is this the same as a diaper pail, or is that a diaper genie or something?  I'm confused on the usage. Secondly, since were talking about diaper changings I usually change myself in morning. The diaper is pretty soiled by that time since I have multiple(1-4) accidents at night. Since I change myself on the bed should I always have a changing pad under me while I remove the diaper? Should I buy an adult changing pad? Where is a good place to buy it form if the answer is yes?  Sorry for the long post, but I needed some clarification from some of your previous responses. I used your responses to reword my questions. Thank You For All Your Help. I have a couple more questions, which I'll post seperatly. They will be much shorter I promise.


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Dear embarrassed,  A diaper pail is used to hold soiled diapers whether cloth or disposable.  It hold the cloth ones until laundry day or the disposables until trash day.  Empty often so no odor arises.  'Diaper Genie' is a brand name of a diaper pail.  It is usually a good idea to use a changing pad since you never know how wet and/or soile dyou are when you change.  It is just to peotect your bed.  It's easier to wash a protective sheet than an entire mattress.  :)  Any adult incontinence site will also have mattress protectors for sale.  You can order one and have it sent right to your home.  Hope this helps.  It was nice hearing from you again.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 31

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Hi mommy here is another question.  I have mentioned that I am an ab/dl, that wears disposables diapers at night for pooping(not often) and peeing(all the time)accidents. My question is are there any outward signs that a doctor can pick up on that I wear diaper?  Is there any outward signs other than diaper rash I should say? I would be very embarassed if my doctor asked me if I wear a diaper.  What would I tell him if he did mention it. Do tell him just the basics(wear them at night only, peeing and pooping, and etc.)? If he did detect this would he expect me to come in with the diaper on at my next exam? Since I worry about this I thought I would ask for your thoughts on this.


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Dear embarrassed,  It is always a good idea to be forward with your doctor.  If you did have a rash he wouild probably know why.  A diaper rash is distinctive. Why keep it a secret from your doctor?  His job is to help you.  There are no outward signs except bulkiness and a crinkling sound that some brands make.   You know your doctor and how much information he would be able to handle.  So relax a little and just take things one day at a time.  It will all be okay.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mike
Age: 10

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I rilley like wearing dipers but how do I ask my mom to by me some and I am not gay but do you think it is gay to wear them -mike


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Dear Mike,  Your Mom might not understand your need to wear diapers.  And no it is not gay to want to wear them.  You might have to wait till you are a little older to have a conversation with your Mom about wearing diapers.  Until then know that you are okay and there is nothing wrong with you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bryan
Age: 19

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I started wearing diapers when I was 14 for fun and made myself totally incontinent by only going in my diapers. I have to wear diapers 24/7 or I will have accidents. My problem is that I met an awesome girl about a month ago and it's starting to get more serious. How do I get control back so I can have a relationship with her without having to tell her I have to wear diapers? I don't want her to break up with me.


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Dear Bryan,  You are lucky in that you are incontinent only from lack of use.  Alot of poeple make the mistake of doing physical harm to themselves.  In your case you only need to retrain your  bladder.  My suggestion is to purchase a 'Kegal exerciser'  You would put it between your thighs and push it together using only those muscles- it strengthens the pelvic muscles and bladder.  Also see a doctor and get his thoughts on regaining control. You didn't lose control overnight and it will take some work..  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Some one
Age: 10

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My mom got me dipers once but she was afaid my brother would see them so she thuough them away so did not even want to buy them they did not fit me either. Do you know to ask her to buy them for me keep them hiden from my brother thanks


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Dear Someone,  If your mom is not open to you wearing diaper you might have to wait until you are older.  Unfortunately being so young you really should wait until you are older toask. Talk to your mom about it she did buy them once perhaps if the two of ytou could work out a way to hide them form your brother she might be open to getting them again.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Clement Leo
Age: 50

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Is it common for adults to love to wear plastic pants does others love the same thing?


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Dear clement leo,  You are perfect just as you are! You want to wear palstic pants- GO FOR IT1

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 31

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Mommy it's been a while since I wrote, but another question has come to mind.  I never know if you remember my name so I'll recap.  I'm a boy ab/dl who wets and sometimes poops at night/evening.  Sometimes before bed I drink a full bottle of formula (low iorn - cant find one with no iorn). I do not mask the taste since it doesn't bother me. I'm not sure if I heard this correctly, but I heard that after a bottle feeding a diaper change proceeds afterwards.  What is the purpose of this if it's true?  If my diaper is not wet or messed in should it still be changed, or should I wait until I have an accident before a bottle feeding? Do mothers do this with babies? 


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Dear Embarrassed, There is no written rule that says you have to change after a feeding. With infants after they feed they go almost immediately which is where that saying came from. In an AB's case that would not be an automatic response. So change if you want but it is not a 'rule'.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 56

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I have been seeing a  therapist who seems understanding of my ABDL feelings; but am unsure just how much I should disclose. I had to sign a contract giving her the authority to lock me into a mental hospital, if she thinks I may possibly be harmful to myself. I enjoy having my girlfriend treating me like a baby (she also enjoys it); but am unsure how much of this I can/should tell my therapist (who knows that I wear a cloth diaper & plastic pants all the time, including during my sessions with her). What would you advise?


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Dear Jack,  I do not know your therapist so I can't tell you if to tell them more info or not.  Therapists are as different as colors in a rainbow. Some will understand and others will not.  Gauge how your therapist has acted about your AB/DL so far.  Have they been totoally receptive or a little shocked?  That will give you an idea.  If they have not been totally encouraging I would not offer any more info than is necessary.  I usually don't advise that- keeping info from a therapist- but you signed a contract that gives her the authority to have you committed.  I hope she is the kind that you can talk to- but offer no more info than you need to. Hope all goes well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matthew
Age: 19

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What to know if you know of any adult diaper that are like Huggies or pampers with the baby print on them if not do you thing I could fit in a baby diaper I got a waist 29-31 and weight about 140-148 my height is 5'11 too and do you know of any good AB clothes site on the web and were can I get a good cloth diaper on the web too


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Dear Matthew,  We have all of those resources you mentioned on our site.  We have a number of places to order diaper- cloth and disposables.  I do not think you will find any baby diapers in your size but we do sell diaper tapes.  In our site mall we have a diaper tape store.  You purchase adult diapers and adhere one of our tapes to the front.  We offer many different designs from blocks to teddy bears. Starting at under $10 US.  It is a way to take the adult diapers and make them look babyish.  Check out our diaper links and our site mall.  I am sure you'll find what you are looking for.  Happy Diapering!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrased
Age: 31

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Mommy this question relates to  one of my previous post regarding a changing pad. As you know I'm still pretty new to all of this. Once again my situation is I'm boy ab/dl, that poops and pees in my diapers at night.  I went ahead and ordered a changing pad from diaper connection. I'm a little confused. On the invoice it's called a Changing Pad/Bed Protector. I know the water proof part is where my bottom should be.  I also noticed 2 cloth parts that extend form the water proof part. When changing, should I extend the cloth parts of the pad or keep them folded under the water proof part?  I guess I am asking how is it used? Thanks.


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Dear Embarrassed,  It is okay to ask questions how else can you learn?  The two pieces of cloth are optional to use.  You can tuck them under the pad when you are changing or pin them to the bed so that the pad doesn't shift under you while changing (their intended use). You should have the cloth part to your 'rear' and the water proof part to the mattress.  The pad is suppose to be gentle on the tussie.  :)  Take care till next time.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 16

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I just lately discovered diapers, and I have been wetting them behind my parent's back. however, I have been trying to find a diapered friend, preferably a girl, on the net, but I can't find any. do you know of any sites where I can find what I am looking for?


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Dear James,  There are many good sites that offer members a list of other members that can be E-mailed. Our site is one of the few that has no membership fee involved.  If you go on our EZboard we have a penpal section and a Intro section where you can ask if anyone would like to write to you.  Good luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 31

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Mommy I got a question on plastic panties.  Instead of a plastic mattress cover I use plastic panties sometimes instead of just a diaper at bed time.  As you know from my previous posts I am an ab/dl who has nighttime accidents (wetting and pooping). First off how many plastic panties should I have? I usually have 1-3 accidents in the pm/am. How often should I wash the plastic panties, and what's the best washing method? Thanks for all your advice and understanding, especially since it's hard to get over the embarrassment/shame of using diapers.


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Dear Embarrassed,  Ideally if you use your plastic pants as often as you do a good base would be 6-9 plastic pants.  This way you have some to wear while others are being washed and drying.  The best would be to wash each time the plastic pants are used.  If not possible at least a good hand wash and rinse between uses.  As for washing - hot water with a good baby detergen like Dreft or a product like Tide with bleach are good to use in the washing machine. Line or air dry.  You have no reason to be ashamed. Elimination is a natural biological function.  Some of use just don't do it in a toilet all the time  :)    Be strong and know you are special to us.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Harley
Age: 20

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How can I get a female nanny that is less than £100?


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Dear Harley,  We are based in the US and I am not familiar with the UK.  We do have a mommy finder on our site.  We have a few listings for over seas.  Perhaps you can check them out.  If they can't help you perhaps they can give you a referral to someone else.  I wish you luck in your search.  A good nanny is hard to find.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Becky
Age: 21

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I was wondering what the best website would be to buy diapers online. I live in Canada and many sites don't ship there or its too expensive. What is the best and cheapest site to buy diapers in Canada?


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Dear Becky,

Actually one of our affiliates 'Diaper Connection' has reasonable  prices and ships all over the world.  Check them out.  Hope they can help you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bob
Age: 14

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Dear mommy I want some diapers but I can’t buy any. What should I do ????


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Dear Bob,

You are unclear as to whether you don't have the money or if you can't buy them physically.  1)  If you are short of money- save your allowance, work a paper route, do odd jobs (walk peoples dogs, mow grass, rake leaves etc.) 2) If your problem is getting them- once you have money either have someone else purchase for you or buy them and store them at a friends house.  I hope some of these ideas help, perhaps you could come up with some of your own.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jim
Age: 2

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I was wondering if you could give some advice on wearing more then one diaper at a time and if it would make me look like I am a freak? I also need to know how to wear more then one diaper at a time?


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Dear Jim,

Some people I know do wear multiple diapers.  Some for the feel others for the added level of protection.  With cloth the inner diapers could be folded in thirds and just pinned up with the rest of the diaper.  With disposable again just layer multiple diapers- some cut off the sides, some don't.  For use as added security cut slits all the way through along the middle section so the wetness can trickle down to the underlaying diapers.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: S
Age: 13

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I like diapers but don’t want to tell my mom what should I do.


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Dear S,

Only you know your Mom.  Do you think she would accept this kind of information? If you think she would not- maybe hold off for a while telling her but test her from time to time.  You can ask her questions like " I heard of this kid who likes to wear diapers- silly huh?" See what her response is.  Her response will tell you if you should tell her right now or not. You will know when or if the time is right. Be patient with your Mom- she loves you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diapered girl 
Age: 14

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When I started wetting the bed I wore diapers. I went to bed and had a dream about being a baby. Is that normal? When I get a diaper change I get so much happiness from them. Should I like this? I even like to say mom I need a diaper change. And she smiles and diapers me because I pee and poop in them a lot. Is it ok to like to say that word? I even like the word diaper. Is that ok to like the word diaper?


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Dear Diaperedgirl,

What you are describing is quite common. You are a bonafide diaper lover with a shade of AB.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It makes you feel happy and there is nothing wrong with that.  So powder up and dream your baby dreams.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaper Debi 
Age: 14

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Hi I started wetting the bed so without telling anyone I bought my own diapers. I feel so relived I even pretend my mom diapers me. The way the lotion and baby powder and diaper go well nicely is my favorite part. I love changing my diapers. Is this normal? Should I tell my parents? Is it ok to feel this way?  How are diapers so secure? I love it when people think diapers is a baby term. But is that ok? Should it be ok to pretend someone else is changing you? Even though I do wet I am afraid to tell my parents. How should I tell them I love diapers?


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Dear Diaper Debi,

You are not alone. If what you do makes you happy then it is normal.  What is wrong with something that makes you happy- nothing.  As far as telling your parents only you can answer that. I don't know them- are they understanding?  Is this something they would accept? As to why diaper feel secure to you- as a baby you were safe and loved- diapers remind you of that time. Who wouldn't want to feel that way all the time?  Perhaps you could find some pen pals on this site (on the EZboard) and have someone to talk to about loving diapers. Just be happy with yourself and remember you are loved.

-Hugs Sandra
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