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Question Asked By: Mark 
Age: 43

Q:

I like to stay in a wet diaper for prolonged periods at a time (around 4-5 hour while wetting) are there any health risk I should be concerned about other than the occasional diaper rash?


A:

    Hello Mark,

    No not really. Diaper rash is about the only thing that will come to being in a diaper a long time. Just make sure you clean yourself well when you change, and using diaper rash cream each change will help as well if you know you will be in a wet diaper for long periods of time.

    -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Robert
Age: 26

Q:

How long should I Stay in my poopy and wet diaper?


A:

Hello Robert,

    For as short as time as possible to prevent diaper rash. I would say no longer than one hour. Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sean
Age: 20

Q:

Where can I find some people like me for and someone to become a mommy to me


A:

Hello Sean,

    Best advice would be to visit the message board on this site and post a message about what you are looking for. As far as a mommy, check out the mommy finder and see if there is anyone in your area, however they charge though. Wish you luck.

    -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 56

Q:

I AM GOING IN FOR SURGERY (UNRELATED TO MY INCONTINENCE), & WILL NEED A HOME HEALTHCARE NURSE, FOR A FEW DAYS, AFTER I GET OUT; TO CHANGE & CHECK MY SURGICAL DRESSING. WHEN THE NURSE IS HERE, I WILL NEED MY DIAPER CHANGED (I USUALLY DO IT MYSELF, BUT WILL NEED HELP THEN). MY WIFE WILL HELP ME, WHEN SHE IS NOT GONE @ WORK. I AM EMBARRESSED & NOT LOOKING FORWARD TO THE NURSE CHANGING MY DIAPERS, FOR SEVERAL DAYS (BOTH IN THE HOSPITAL, & @ HOME, DURING MY RECOVERY). I KNOW THAT THEY ARE PROFESSIONAL & DUSCREET; & DO THIS ALL THE TIME; BUT I AM NOT USED TO HAVING OTHERS CHANGE ME. HOW CAN I BEST COPE WITH THIS, W/O GETTING 10 SHADES OF RED, ON MY FACE, WITH EMBARRESSMENT, DURING MY DIAPER CHANGES?


A:

Hello Jack,

    Close your eyes and pretend it’s your wife changing you. Other than that I don’t know how else to prevent your embarrassment.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 56

Q:

I am a married 56 yr old male; & have legitimate permanent incontinence; due to nerve injury. I also have AB/DL feelings/needs.  My wife is supportive & non judgmental (which helps a lot); but I have emotional issues about my AB/DL feelings which I feel it would be best for a professional therapist to help me sort out. I have been in for 3 sessions, & she (my therapist) seems very supportive & has a good understanding of the AB/DL emotions & needs (as much so, as any non-ABDL could understand). On your site, you cautioned someone about what is revealed to a therapist, saying the therapist could have a "harsh reaction".  I had to sign a "standard contract", which all clients must sign, to have therapy; which includes authorizing them to put me in a mental ward, "if I may be harmful to myself or others". I can understand their need for this, in their contract; as some of their clients may be violent (to themselves, or to others). However, it causes me to be hesitant to reveal all of my AB/DL feelings (some of which are masochistic); since I enjoy having my wife "in total control", & treating me "as a baby". She isn't a dominatrix, but doesn't mind role play - teasing me, about being a baby & being "in control" over me. She finds it "amusing". For example, we have a "jumbo - sized" portable dog house/carrier (big enough for a St. Bernard); & do not have a dog. My wife has me go into it, wearing only my cloth diaper & plastic pants, & with a pacifier & baby bottle; then she puts a padlock on the door. We both enjoy this "game"; but I am hesitant about revealing it to my therapist. I don't want to be locked up, in the mental ward - I just enjoy being locked in the dog cage, by my wife. How much should I reveal to my therapist?


A:

Hello Jack,

     We repeat, most medical professionals don’t understand. Their first reaction is to admit and try to cure you. Unless that is if you want to spend time in the hospital. There are very few people who understand this. If you want to tell your therapist more, you do so at your own risk. I understand you already told her that your AB, that is more than I would recommend telling any therapist. If you continue to tell her more that’s your choice. But I would suggest not sharing any more than you already have.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tina
Age: 19

Q:

My mother put me in diapers. I ashamed of this subject. please help me.


A:

Hello Tina,

     If you do have a need for the diapers, then there is no need to be ashamed of them. If you don’t need them and your mom is making you wear them then you need to talk to your mom about making her stop. If you like it then there is nothing wrong with that. Basically if you don’t want to wear them, and you don’t have a wetting problem and your mom won’t stop making you wear them then tell your school teacher or counselor.  Hope that helps.

    -Sandra

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Question Asked By: goe
Age: 15

Q:

I love to poop in my baby diapers. I am 15 and want to know if I can get free diapers from you and I have been wearing luvs for 1 year and I have never changed it at all. It is squshey. I love luvs


A:

Hello Goe,

     We do not buy diapers for ANYONE. If you want to get diapers you need to do odd jobs, save your allowance or recycle bottle and cans for the money. Sorry we could not help more.

   -Sandra

----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 18

Q:

There should be teen sizied plastic pant.


A:

Hello Chris,

     There is, trying going to http://www.diaperstation.com or http://www.diaperconnection.com or two places to look. Or you can check out the links on links page for diapers and other supplies. Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 11

Q:

Hi eversince i was young i have wanted to wear a diaper would you put one on me and change me if i you want?


A:

Hello Will,

      I am sorry but we do not change anyone. It sounds like you are looking for a mommy. Maybe join the message board and post that you are looking for a mommy. I hope that helps.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 11

Q:

Hi i need someone to change my diaper and breastfeed me and feed me baby food. I have always wanted to be a diaper wearer. Will you breastfeed me and put diapers on me if i give u my number? I want milk.


A:

Hello Will,

     We are not a mommy. We do not baby sit anyone. We only ask questions and try to give advice. If you are looking for a mommy then post on the message board under the “Babies looking for mommy’s” forum or check in the mommy finder to see if there are any AB mommy’s in your area. That’s the best we can do.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: Unknowen

Q:

Hi i was wandering if you could put a diaper on me as i have wanted one for ages. Do mommys breastfeed u?


A:

Hello John,

     We are not a mommy. We do not baby sit anyone. We only ask questions and try to give advice. If you are looking for a mommy then post on the message board under the “Babies looking for mommy’s” forum or check in the mommy finder to see if there are any AB mommy’s in your area. That’s the best we can do.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Leo
Age: 11

Q:

Help please i live in england and want to wear diapers but i dont know how to say it. Please email me i want u to change me i really want to wear diapers PLEASE HELP BY EMAILING ME WILL U CHANGE ME. DO MOMMYS BREASTFEED?


A:

Hello Leo,

     We are not a mommy. We do not baby sit anyone. We only ask questions and try to give advice. If you are looking for a mommy then post on the message board under the “Babies looking for mommy’s” forum or check in the mommy finder to see if there are any AB mommy’s in your area. That’s the best we can do.

   -Sandra
  
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Question Asked By: Bob
Age: 37

Q:

Hey it is I Bob again...

Anyway is it really possible for a phychiatrist(dont no if that is the right doctor) to regress someone by force mental or physical and is this type of thing legal?


A:

Hello Bob,

     It’s not possible to do it by hypnosis or anything unless you want it, nor is it legal to force it on you. If you want regression it has to be your choice. Hope that helps.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Carlos
Age: 16

Q:

Hi i'm 16 and live at home. My mum found me wearing diapers. I was walking back from school in just my diaper and t-shirt, it was a hot day. When she drive past me. She slow down and stop. Got out of the car and walk over. She could not beleve what she was seeing. I stop walking and walk over. We have along talk on the side road. But at end of the talk. She said do you want to be normal or do you to be a teenage baby, she then said choose carefully. So i said Yes i like to be a teenage baby. So for the last 8 months i be a teen baby wearing diapers 24/7 and eating baby food wetting and poo my diaper. My mum changes my diaper. i even wear diapers to school, shops and beach But i DON'T want to wear diaper any more. I hate get diapers changed. But my mum said you are going to wear diaper and be a baby untill you are 18. I have started take off my diapers off but i get punished. So how do i talk to mum about getting rid of my diapers. So of punishment is just wearing diapers and t-stirt to the shops and public places. Or keeping a diaper on for week. Please help


A:

Hello Carlos,

     If you do not want to wear your diapers anymore than we recommend talking to your dad or other family member you trust about what’s going on. You can also talk to the school therapist and explain what happened. Try family members first. If you are no longer happy with the situation then it needs to stop.

  -Sandra     

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Question Asked By: Justin
Age: 16

Q:

I have two questions. first i want to get a hold on some diapers that fit me, but i cant let my parents know and i know no friends that have this interest, plus there is no place close that sells them. second i am looking for a girl to go out with that is goodlooking and has the same ineterest.


A:

Hello Justin,

     The only thing we can suggest is putting a 33 gallon trash bag over towels to make a cloth diaper. Use duck tape for the tapes for the diaper. That is the best suggestion I can make for someone who has no place to get diapers.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Erin
Age: 24

Q:

Hewwo Mommies, I am Cuurently with the most wonderful person i have ever met and she knows that i wear diapers and enjoy wearing them for recreational purposes. Usually i only wet when she is not around and also change myself. She does not mind at all, in fact she tells me to do what ever makes me feel best. She recently purchased some bottles and pacifier, baby powder etc. She  encourages me with these sorts of actions yet the one thing she will  not do is diaper me or change me. My questions is , when somone is  obviously acepting and even to a point participating, why or how can I get her to want to partake in this with me ? Any advice you might be able to offer would be appreciated. Sincerly Baby Erin


A:

Hello Erin,

     First of all concider yourself fortunate to have someone who is accepting. A lot of people out there don’t even have that. You can understand the lifestyle without wanting to live it. Be happy you have someone who accepts you for who you are. And you in turn accept them for who they are. If she is not in the AB world, you can’t force her to do it. Just know you have a caring partner who shares your life with you.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 31

Q:

I need some advice.  Heres my first question.  What should I use to prevent daiper rash?  There is too much advice out in the community on this. I use baby oil right now. I apply it to my entire daiper area. Is this correct? My second question deals with daiper leakage. When I woke up this morning I had my second accident. When I stood up I noticed that as I was going the daiper was leaking heavily enough to wet the floor.  Luckily enough it hit a pillow that was on the floor and not the carpet.  I was wearing a disposable depends day and night daiper. Even though it was my second accident the daiper was not near being flooded.  My penis was pointed down and off to side a little, but I expected the leak gaurds to prevent that type of leakage. How can I prevent this type of leakage? Should I were plastic pants over the disposable daiper or get some sort of booster?  Any advice would be welcome.  Thanks.     


A:

Hello Embarrassed,

     For the diaper rash we recommend Balmex diaper rash cream. It’s an excellent product and is good to use at every diaper change. Wash well and apply a thin layer of the cream.

    It is ok to use baby oil, but it will not prevent diaper rash. It mostly is used to soften and sooth the skin and keep your skin healthy. For diaper rash use the Balmex.

   There are many things you can do. Plastic pants can help yes. You can also use booster pads at night, that would help contain the pee. Also as far as diapers you get what you pay for. If you want something that works well some of the good brands out there are Molicare, Eurobriefs, Abena and of course there is cloth. Eurobriefs are the best disposable diaper on the market they we know of so far. The XL holds 3 litters of fluid. We hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ralph
Age: 35

Q:

Is wearing diapers and using a pacifier good for people like me, am i a sissy girlyboy for going wee wee in my diapers?


A:

Hello Ralph,

     People have different likes and dislikes. Basically if you like it, go for it. I don’t see a problem with it at all.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 31

Q:

I have another question for you, that I think your expertise can best answer. I am a male AB/DL, and wear Depends day and nights at bed time. I have been retraining my bladder to go durring the night while I'm sleeping. I do have accidents while I'm awake, but currently it is a conscious effort.  This brings me to my questions.  Since I am 31 should I let a doctor know I wear diapers at bed time for AD/DL reasons? If I should let a doctor know do I need wear a diaper to the appointment? I would imagine the answer is no, but you would know best. If I should tell a doctor would a female doctor be more sympathetic? I need a recomendation.  How much detail would I need tell the doctor. Awaiting for your recomendation.


A:

Hello Embarrassed,

     Most doctors will not understand the AB/DL lifestyle. I have worked with many of them. If you want to stay out of the psych hospital then it would probably be best not to mention your AB/DL Feelings to the doctor. If you don’t have a genuine reason for wetting your doctor will not understand. If you have a real problem then mention it. But if you proceed with telling him be prepared for all the tests. If you want to know if your doctor might understand comment about a show about people wearing diapers as adults and see how he/she reacts. From his/her reaction you can decide whether you want to tell him/her more. Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gav
Age: 14

Q:

I want to wear diapers but i cant let my dad find out is there any way i can order a FREE diapers for a 14 year old and prevent my dad from finding out that i love them?


A:

Hello Gav,

    No company I know of gives away free diapers. The ones that do have samples charge a shipping fee and it will be mailed to your home. The best way to do it would be to do a odd job, recycle cans and bottles or something and then going and buying a package of say pampers or goodnites. Concidering you are 14 goodnites would be a good choice. We hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 17

Q:

How do i ask my mom to let me wear diapers.


A:

Hello Chris,

     Don’t. Wait till you are 18 and then go and get them. If your mom feels you are crazy or something your mom has the power to have your commited to the psych hospital. It would be better to just wait and do it on your own.

  -Sandra     

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Question Asked By: Krist
Age: 12

Q:

Should I be changed in a parking lot?


A:

Hello Krist,

     You don't say whether you have a medical reason to be wearing or not. You did mention you wear them 24/7. If you do have a medical wetting problem then there is no reason why you can't be changed in a parking lot. However you should be given the most privacy possible. Blocking the car windows and such. If you need further information do contact us again.

   -Sandra
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