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Question Asked By: Zeroth
Age: 15

Q:

I try peeing myself to get into diapers but I can't seem to keep doing it to lose control. Is there a way like holding my pee that will work and I'll be in diapers?


A:

Dear Zeroth,

There is a way to lose control safely. I recommend our "Diaper Training" program to lose control naturally. However, because your a teen, be prepared for your parents to send you to the doctor. You will be put through tests. Sadly one test involves sticking a camera up your penis to check the bladder inside. It's not very comfortable. But if you feel it's worth it, that's up to you. I would also like to warn if you use the program, you may have day time accidents in addition to the bed wetting. You can't have one without the other. Otherwise I would wait till you have your own place and then you will be free to wear all the diapers you wish. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jools
Age: 15

Q:

What is the best way to ask my parents to make me a baby? And to tell my friends that I want to be regressed?


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Dear Jools,

Like I always say, I can't tell you what magic words to say to your parents to make them baby you. If you feel your parents are open minded enough, you can just ask. But if you feel they are not open minded, don't ask. As far as telling your friends you want to be regressed, if they are open minded and you trust your friend, tell them. If you feel they are not open minded and won't understand, don't share it. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra
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Question Asked By: Johnny
Age: 28

Q:

What would you suggest if I wanted to be forcefully diapered?


A:

Dear Johnny,

You would need to find a Mommy or Sitter that is into forcing someone into diapers. Otherwise, I don't see any other option. Either a person is willing to do it, or they are not. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra
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Question Asked By: Embarrassed Mommy
Age: 38

Q:

My baby (AB boy) has only a week left in his commitment. I know it's been hard for him, but his diapers are waiting for him. He'll be back to having accidents. He always is embarrassed by his diapers, but he refuses potty training. He's also embarrassed when I mention it here that he's not just a wetter, but he can't help and in having messing accidents too. I try to comfort him, and tell him that's what a diaper is for, and it's all right. Maybe you can ease his embarrassment? I try to tell him he is among other babies here. Not sure why he's embarrassed?  By the way Pampers has a new size 7 diaper. Maybe they are going to realize the AB market. Not sure about the waist size of the cruisers size 7. Any idea? I know he'll put up a fight but, might take my little guy to movie next week. At least when the lights dim he won't think about his diapers. Please give him some encouragement. Until next time.


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Dear Embarrassed Mommy,

Why be embarrassed? It's like I always say, a diaper is just a piece of fabric around your bottom. Same can be said about boxers and briefs, there is no difference. So please don't be embarrassed. The Pampers diapers fit up to about a 25 inch waist. The Pampers 7 is the same waist size as the Pampers 6. The only difference is it's longer from front to back. But because the Pampers are designed for a baby size bladder, they would leak trying to contain a adult's bladder. As for if Pampers is realizing the AB market, it's possible. I think it more comes down to the size of babies in the US market today. There is a trend of heavier babies, more baby fat? So larger diapers need to be made to fit the larger babies. And also many children are potty training later these days as well making the need for larger diapers till the toddler can fully potty train. As for the movies, I hope your little guy enjoys the movie experience.

-Hugs Sandra
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Question Asked By: Michaelbaby
Age: 14

Q:

I want to wear diapers again (or at least at night) but I don't know how to tell my mom or dad. What should I do? I tried wetting the bed and after 10 days they kept yelling at me to stop.


A:

Dear Michaelbaby.

It's most likely going to be up to you to get your own diapers. Clearly your parents are not going to choose diapers to handle your bed wetting. And if your not careful, your parents will take you to the doctor for some very uncomfortable tests. My advice is to buy your own diapers and keep it on the down low until your old enough to get your own place and do as you like. Also here is a link to our article on how to make money, get diapers, and hiding places in the mean time: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Getting_And_Hiding_Diapers.html Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brian
Age: 17

Q:

Will any mommy love to keep and change baby boys like me that is not potty trained and wear diapers to school like me?


A:

Dear Brian,

Being a teen you most likely will not find a mommy as they take AB's 18 and up. But you can ask, some will baby over the computer (e-mail or chat). Or you can check our Mommy Finder and contact Mommy's on the list and see if you mesh and if any are willing to baby you online. Hope that helps.

     -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dave
Age: 29

Q:

I am looking for a plastic over pant that makes the same sound that plastic baby diapers make. I have had no luck finding anything even close. My diapers are the cloth backed disposable type (my med will only pay for these). I have been in diapers for 6 years. I have tried some of the AB diapers from ABUniverse and Bambino but I know my med will not pay for these diapers. Any help will be greatly thankful, thanks in advance.


A:

Dear Dave,

I do not know of any plastic pants that sound like plastic backed baby diapers. All I can suggest is ordering from a few different companies and seeing if they sound like what your looking for, and if not return them. Just make sure when you test to see if they sound like plastic backed baby diapers that you don't put them on to test the sound of them. Once you put them on, legally the company can not take them back since they will have touched your skin.

You can get plastic backed adult diapers. Some medical insurance companies will pay for diapers such as Wings Choice Plus which is a plastic backed diaper but your doctor has to make sure he checks the box "Dispense as written" on the prescription pad otherwise the insurance will go with the cheapest diapers possible. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Clare
Age: 32

Q:

I am a diaper lover and I want a mommy to change my diaper. I live in Staffordshire and I want a mommy to put me in diapers and be dominant about doing it. I also want to wear a dress so you can see my nappy under my dress. I only wear disposable nappies.


A:

Dear Clare,

There are mommy's out there that can do what your looking for. It's just a matter of finding them. I would like to refer you to our "Mommy Finder" and you can contact some Mommy's on the listings and see if they will do what you are looking for. And I personally recommend rumba panties to go over the diaper. They look oh so cute when little girls bend over. Good luck! :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Maverick
Age: 15

Q:

I am trying to lose control of my bladder and get into diapers from it and pooping of I have to I dig around for diapers and go or it at friends house but nothing happens to my body so how can this work?


A:

Dear Maverick,

For losing control I would like to refer you to our "Diaper Training" program that gives directions for losing bladder and bowel control naturally and safely. I also want to warn you that with this program, day time wetting can happen. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bradley
Age: 13

Q:

How do I get my mom to put me back in diapers 24/7? And I also need to know how I can tell my mom that I'm a Diaper Lover.


A:

Dear Bradley,

Only you know your mom. If you feel she has a open mind and might understand you can tell her. If you feel she would not understand, don't do it. In the end there are no magic words for getting your mom to diaper you. For one thing, diapers are expensive and I don't know any parent who wants to go back to paying out $300.00 plus dollars a month in diapers again. Especially with the way the economy is right now. For sharing with your mom that your a Diaper Lover, I recommend having her read "When Kids Love Diapers". Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 24

Q:

My name is David and I wear babies nappies for bedwetting. I'm 24 years old and whatever I have tried I can't stop wetting the bed. So with me doing this I decided to wear a short little girl's dress, nappy, and suck a dummy. I do this because I think that if I'm going to act like a baby, I should be treated like one. What do you think??
Thank you
David


A:

Dear David,

Why do you feel you need to punish yourself? Bed wetting is not your fault. It's a valid medical condition and bed wetting doesn't mean your acting like a baby. Have you talked with your family doctor yet? The bed wetting might be a medical problem causing it. The doctor can prescribe medications or even a procedure to correct the wetting. But you do not need to feel like you should be punished for something you don't have control over. It's not your fault.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ray
Age: 40
I AM A BOY
I HAVE MY OWN PLACE
I AM STRIGHT

Q:

Is there any safe way to become diaper dependent at night and wake up with wet diapers that I wet uncontrollably like a baby? I enjoy wearing cloth diapers and plastic pants. I want to be able to go back to a normal lifestyle without wearing diapers so it needs to be a temporary thing. Thanks Ray


A:

Dear Ray,

We do have a safe program "Diaper Training" to lose control safely and it takes a few months to get to where you lose control. But even then, you can have day time accidents with it too. But there is no option to be able to wet only at night and be able to stop right away. Sorry. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Connor
Age: 13

Q:

How do you put on a taped diaper on yourself?


A:

Dear Connor,

If you are using baby diapers, there are the same instructions on the package. But the best way is for you to lay on your bed laying on your back. Then open the diaper with the tapes toward you back. Powder the diaper, then lift up your bottom and slide the back of the diaper under you. Then pull up the front and secure the tabs snuggly but not too tight. That's it. Some diapers the tape tabs come unstuck. If you find this to be a problem, I recommend putting duck tape on top of the tabs to give them extra strength. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra
     
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Question Asked By: Debbie
Age: 40


Q:

I live in Texas, about 35 miles southwest of Fort Worth. I would like to know where I can purchase a rubber sheet for my bed, not fitted, but flat. I have wet the bed all my life. I guess I am not an AB, but I am incontinent.


A:

Dear Debbie,

The only place to get just a plastic sheet that's not fitted is online. Many people buy shower curtains and use it as a plastic sheet. But if you want a actual plastic sheet for the bed I recommend doing a web search for "Bed wetting rubber sheet". It will give you lists of website's that sell plastic sheets. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra
      
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Question Asked By: DiaperDan
Age: 53

Q:

Is there any place where I can actually get flat fold cloth baby diapers that will fit me? I weigh about 130 lbs, and want to be as much of a baby as possible. I am a male, but dress as a girl.


A:

Dear DiaperDan,

Even at 130 pounds none of the baby cloth diapers will fit you. You fall into the adult cloth diapers section by size. Although there is no reason why you can't use baby cloth diapers inside your adult diaper as booster pads. If you visit our Diaper Links section you will find several links to sites that sell adult cloth diapers. Many of them also have size charts to help you find the perfect fit. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra      

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Question Asked By: Joshuah
Age: 27

Q:

I have two questions, where can I find adult cloth diapers? And do you know where to find girls like me? The second one you probably can't help with, but I thought I'd give it a go. lol


A:

Dear Joshuah,

For cloth diapers I would like to refer you to the Diaper Links page. There are several links to sites that sell cloth diapers along with a size chart on many of the sites to help you find the right size. And as for finding a girl, I would like to refer you to our Friend Finder. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Logan
Age: 16

Q:

I always have liked wearing diapers but I wouldn't ever use them. I would put water in them to feel like a baby but I now have tried to use them to pee and poop in but I can't seem to use them. It's like I'm held back by something that's telling me not to do it? Is there any way I could pee and poop a diaper without losing bladder control?


A:

Dear Logan,

It seems your potty training really stuck. Your mind knows your not supposed to go in anything but the toilet. If you wish to try to undo it, I recommend the "Diaper Training" program. Since you want to have control, I would stop using the program when you can wet the diaper, but before you lose all control. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 59

Q:

Having been an AB-DL for, the past 11 years, I actually became urinary incontinent 2 years ago, medically diagnosed with an overactive bladder after a urodynamic testing at the hospital - I had to take that test as I was hospitalized because of my diabetes and could not avoid it. My urologist told me it was due to my diabetes - I've been a diabetic since the age of 12 - I'm wondering what's actually medical and what's mental in my incontinence, i-e. I've been wearing diapers for over 8 years, been through hypnotherapy and tried the 12-months diaper training program  -  Thank you Mommy for sending me the program 4 years ago. Any idea? Many thanks for your kind help.  


A:

Dear Phil,

It's sounds like it's a bit of both issues. The diabetes is one cause, but you also have the diaper training program and hypnosis helping to cause the incontinence as well. So I feel it's probably both. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Donald
Age: 35

Q:

Dear Mommy, I am 35 y/o male. Lately for some reason I want to UN-POTTY train myself. Can you please help me and tell me the best way to start doing this? Thank you very much!!


A:

Dear Donald,

For the safest way, I recommend using the "Diaper Training" program. It does it safely, and because it's done safely it's reversible should you want control back. I just warn that with the program, day time accidents can happen in addition to night time wetting. Sadly you can't use the program for only day time or only night time. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra      

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Question Asked By: Nathan Wright
Age: 28

Q:

What brand of disposable diapers would be best for me to wear at night time as I am a heavy wetter? I have tried the Tranquility ATN's and I do not like them.


A:

Dear Nathan,

The two brands I recommend for heavy wetting is the Unique Wellness Briefs and the Dry 24/7. Both are rated for up to 3 liters of urine and can be worn for 10-12 hours without needing a change and would work great for overnight for a heavy wetter like yourself. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra        

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Question Asked By: Kate
Age: 22

Q:

Why does my dad have to spank me when I am bad and why does he hit me with his hand then his paddle then over his knee for a spanking with his hand then diapered?


A:

Dear Kate

I do not believe in hitting anyone, not even a child. You can discipline a child without hitting them. But since your 22, your a adult and can press charges for your dad hitting you. It's called assault. Tell him that next time he hits you, your going to have him arrested. He has no right to put his hands on you.

However you did mention that you have a AB Daddy. If your Daddy spanking you is part of the role playing and you don't like it, you need to let him know you want to stop that. Many AB/DL's use a safe word where when said all role playing stops instantly. Perhaps you can set up a safe word as well. I hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaperboy77
Age: 16

Q:

Dear mommy, in school my friends were talking about the episode and I missed it and they were making fun of it. So I went home and looked it up and I was very happy to see you guys telling your story. Then I saw you on your website then it clicked that you owned this website. So I would just like to thank you for you and Stanley telling your story and all the help you've given me in the past thank you! And I hope that one day we won't be looked down on and can have the respect that we all deserve so much! Thank you for helping us all! :D


A:

Hello, I'm glad you saw our Episode of the show. Sandra, the woman who used to do the questions passed away in July 2011. So I am taking over for her now. With the AB/DL community, not everyone will like what we do. A lot of people don't understand what we do. We should have the right to express ourselves as people just like they do. We do what we do to help you guys, not please ourselves. It's a lot of work just to run it. Glad some people like our work. Take care.

    -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Donald
Age: 35

Q:

Dear Mommy, I'm 35 y/o. I've been wearing diapers on and off for the last year. Due to wetting during the day and night. I've tried to wear them 24/7. But for some reason I can't convince myself to do it. Can you PLEASE HELP ME IN convinceing me to WEAR the DIAPERS 24/7? I'd appreciate it very much!!  Thank you, Donald.


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Hello Donald. I like to say it's great to answer your question. The advice I can give you to start wetting 24/7 is wear what ever diapers you wear. Keep all thoughts as babyish as possible. Keep all movies and tv shows as babyish as possible because the reason you can't convince yourself is your mind and emotion is still in adult and keeps switching back and forward and your mind can't do that. To start out your have think baby to be a baby. Take care.

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Kwu
Age: 15

Q:

How can I tell my family? Because when they find the diaper I get punished & I love diapers.  


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Hello Kwu Nice to answer your question telling your family is one of the hardest things in the AB world to do. I would say (Family member), I like diapers and use them because they make me feel safe/relaxed/calmed and I will do whatever I have to do to keep them but I don't want to get rid of them. Take care.

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Zach
Age: 14

Q:

Hello. I was wondering a lot about breastfeeding. I know I am a 14 year old boy. I am not an AB even though I want to breastfeed. When my mom came to check on me one day I was sitting on top of my bed with only my Goodnite on. After that she took her top off and started feeding me her breast milk. She can't do this much though. She has a very cute looking 28 year old friend who wants to breastfeed me. I was wondering the following: is it safe? Is it fun? Does it taste good? How does it affect my digestive system?( she only fed for a second). Anyway just wanted to know.


A:

Hello Zach Nice to answer your question today. 1. Breastfeeding is good for you. 2. It tastes a lot like sweetened baby formula. 3. It doesn't  really hurt your digestive system. It's really good for you and your brain. But do make sure you don't drink only breast milk or formula because it can't give you the nutriants that adult food can give as formula and breast milk are designed for what a baby needs. Also, many formula's are iron fortified. Such high iron intake for adults can make you sick if you drink it all the time. But a bottle hear and there won't hurt you. :) Take care.

    -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Brittany
Age: 15

Q:

help! I am a bed wetter and am required by my parents to wear cloth diapers and rubber pants [plastic pants] to bed every night. My parents won't buy me anything else and tell me the diapers and rubber pants are appropriate for me to wear. I have two brothers, one younger and one older who tease me and call me their baby sister. I do not like the cloth diapers and rubber pants. Can you give me any advice?


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Britany best thing to help you is support from me to help you through this. Let's look into some Underjams/Goodnites or some sort of pull up to help. With me supporting you we'll get through this. Sit down with your parents and explain to them the cloth diapers make you feel very uncomfortable and you would like to try out Goodnites or Underjames as they are not as noticable. If they say they are too expensive, ask if you can do some extra chores or something in exchange of being able to use Goodnites/Underjams instead of the cloth diapers. Hope that helps. Glad to care 4 my babbies

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Billy
Age: 21

Q:

Hi I love wearing soft flannel diapers and wearing rubber pants. How do I tell my girlfriend this?


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Hello Billy this is what I would say. Can you please come sit down and let's talk. I got something to tell you. I really enjoy wearing my flannels and rubber pants, do you have a problem with me doing that? 
Always come out straight and to the truth. If she loves you she will understand. Hope that helps. Glad to care 4 my babbies

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 59

Q:

Dear Mommy, I sincerely hope you feel better. I am a DL but also suffer from both daytime and nighttime incontinence due to an overactive bladder diagnosed 2 years ago. My urologist very strongly suggests that I wear external condom catheters rather than diapers which I've been wearing non-stop for 8 years and do not want to give up as you may imagine. As she does not even like the idea of my wearing PVC pants to start with, what would you recommend me that I say to her to justify my wanting to wear diapers instead of condom catheters? Also, what do you think of wearing plastic pants with built-in leg spreaders: as I definitely need the protection against urine leaks at night, are they as protective as regular plastic pants? Any risk of later hip or leg arthritis problems? Could I sleep normally? Thank you.   
 
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Hello Phil. I belive your wishes to feel better are for Sandra. Sadly she passed away in July of 2011. So I took over for her. But thank you. My opinion to your doctor would be to tell her that you don't feel comfortable wearing the catheters. When she ask what would make you  feel better, tell her you want to be in the diapers and Plastic pants. That diapers are more comfortable than the catheter. In the end, your choice of which product to use for incontinence care is your choice. Your doctor may suggest a cathator, but you have the right to say no, and insist on diapers if that's what you want to use. It's you who has to live with the choice after all, not your doctor. Plastic pants with spreaders are good but not for wearing for long periods of time because it can cause problems with yours legs and knees as you get up in age from being spread apart for so long. I think you should be able to sleep like a log.

     -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Robert
Age: 51

Q:

I`m incontinence and I have to wear diapers 24/7. I have no promblem with my girlfriend changing my diapers. But lately her older sister has been babysitting me and I feel weird also embarressed having her change me. Although it dosn`t bother her at all. Is this normal for me or shouldn`t I feel weird or embarressed no matter who changes my diapers?


A:

Hello Robert. It's normal to feel weird when being changed by someone other then who your a custom to. You need to tell her sister I feel weird because of this. But over time it will get a little better but it will take time to get custom to this. Hope this helps.

     -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 59

Q:

Mommy, I use a special lotion/ointment for incontinents. How can I avoid my plastic pants to become stiff especially around the thighs and in the front wetting area? I wear mostly Gary Original or Comfort pants which seem to last a little longer than others but after a while, they start getting stiff as well. Would baby powder protect the skin as much as a specially medicated lotion? Would it stiffen PVC in the same way? Thank you for your kind assistance.


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Hello Phil. I would do the Baby powder and the lotion. It works a lot better together. The powder won't stiffen that type of PVC pants. The chemicals in the lotions/creams often harden and crack plastic pants. Give just corn startch baby powder a try. It was my Pleasure to answer your question. I'm here anytime. Hope this helps.

     -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 41

Q:

I feel embarassed, and ashamed about myself right now. My parents never known that I am a diaper lover. I never knew about the term diaper lover, simply DL myself. I am at the computer talking to you and sitting in a plastic disposable diaper right now. Crying. Can you help me get over my feelings?


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Hello David I understand your issue with the family. Hun you shouldn't feel ashamed or embarassed of being DL your just expressing yourself. Everyone has there own way of expressing themselves. It's up to YOU if your parents know about it or not. But it will take load off your mind if your someone else knows that understands, like me. Never let parents or anyone else say that your crazy or anything of the sort because your not. Your just yourself expressing yourself. We love you and everything about you just the way you are. Your not hurting yourself or anyone else and your not breaking any laws. Just be yourself. **hugs**

     -Mommy Ruby 

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Question Asked By: Kahmen
Age: 15

Q:

I just want to know how do I tell my parents about this?


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Hello I can tell you this? The best way to tell your parent that your a teen baby is say mom or dad I'm into a fetish called TB or teen baby and it makes me feel ______ (safe/relaxed/loved, whatever fits). But I'm warning you now that if you tell them this they may not understand. They may have you admitted to a mental hospital, have you see a counseler.

     One of the worst that can happen is your parents can tell everyone what your into in a effort to shame or embarrass you out of doing it. But there is also a chance your parents will understand. Often times the best choice is to keep it to yourself until your an adult. In the end, it's your choice. Mommies here if you have another question. Take care.

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 41

Q:

I am totally in tears right now for telling you and getting out my feelings to you. I wish I didn't. I can't cope with being who i am and holding my feelings inside for the rest of my life. I was always an out cast my whole life. I finally found out why. I don't wear diapers outside my house. I never was attracted to men. I wore Pampers size 6 and Luvs size 6. Now, I wear AB super dry kids. I am not endorsing anything. I wish you could help me. Can I find a cure to being a diaper lover? Sincerely yours, David Powell


A:

Hello David  Don't cry  sweetie  Hun holding your feeling inside is the worse thing ever you can do it can cause depression and alot more.  I tell all the babbies I talk to  to express themselves be who they're suppose to be.   The last final thing is there is noo cure for being a TB and expressing yourself.

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 59

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Dear Mommy, I am basically a DL (on top of being legitimately urinary incontinent for medical reasons) but am increasingly behaving like a baby with an irresistible attraction to using a pacifier. I'm occasionally using it through the night, could it be a problem? Also, when I cannot resist sucking it, I cannot stop but doing it wherever I am, hiding as much as I can. The other day, I was in a hospital for my diabetes and was using it during the night when a nurse came in and noticed I was sucking my pacifier. I felt embarrassed and was unable to explain why I was doing it. She reported it to my treating doctor who asked me if I had any behavior disorders. Very embarrassing indeed! I then had to see a psychiatrist who asked me if I had any regression tendencies! She even asked me if my incontinence was for real or not! Fortunately, there is a urodynamic test report that confirms that I have an overactive bladder due a diabetes neuropathy! I had to admit that I was an ABDL and am now treated for that 'disorder'. What do you recommend me to do? In case I go to a different hospital, I'm afraid my medical files will be transferred to the new treating doctor. Please help! Thank you for your kind assistance.


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       It depends, for many doctors and hospitals, they cannot get your records from other doctors or hospitals unless you sign a release saying you said it was ok for one hospital to release the records to your current one. If you already signed the release form the if you go to another hospital you might have to come clean about some thing's. But not all things they only need to know what you want them to know. But if you want them completely off your tail you may have to come clean about everything. That release form is a legal binding contract. They have to have you sign that to legally request your records from anywhere else.

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 13

Q:

I still wet the bed at night but I have dry nights too but I still wet the bed. Do you think it's a medical condition.


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Hello it can be but you would have to be checked out by the doctor to be sure. So ask your mom to make a appointment with your medical doctor, and also say you want to be checked out by a Urologist (A bladder doctor). In the end, many teens wet the bed, millions in fact. Most outgrow it by age 16-17, some a little later. Only about 1% continue to wet the bed as adults. So that's some good news.

     -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Jim
Age: 18

Q:

What can I use to make a makeshift diaper


A:

Hello Jim best thing I can say you can use is a king size flannel sheet folded into a preford size covered up with a garden garbage bag (33gallon black) with duck tape to tape up the sides. Here are the right sizes to fold the towels or sheets into:

To fit up to 32" you fold the cloth to make it 32" Long x 22" Wide
To fit up to 42" you fold the cloth to make it 36" Long x 27" Wide
To fit up to 52" you fold the cloth to make it 40" Long x 32" Wide
To fit up to 56" you fold the cloth to make it 44" Long x 35" Wide
To fit up to 62" you fold the cloth to make it 48" Long x 38" Wide
To fit up to 70" you fold the cloth to make it 52" Long x 42" Wide

        And there is a page that helps describe the process here:
http://www.adisc.org/forum/content/180-how-create-makeshift-adult-diapers.html

       -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Baby Logie
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mommy I have stolen my cousins pull-ups and I wear them to bed and I want my grandma to catch me in it. So I was thinking when I go I get a shower and put it on under my pjs and she is a very loving and caring person. My second idea is to wet it so bad at night I go get her and tell her I wore a diaper but it leaked. The only thing is it's a girl pullup. My last question is will a pacifier damage my teeth?


A:

Hello Logie how are we? Best advice I have is to go to your grandma up front and tell her you want to wear diapers/pull-ups to bed if she's loving. Because if you hide it, it can be more harder on you and more questions from grandma on why you hid it from her and didn't come clean. Paci can be bad if used for too long on teeth but a light to moderate user won't hurt. A hour or two a day is best. Anymore than that can really cause problems.

     -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Cody
Age: 17

Q:

Well I was wondering what size diaper would fit the best? I have a 36 inch waist.


A:

Hello Cody. You fall under "Medium" which fits people with a 32"–44" waist. But if you want the most room to move around and to breath get size "Large" which fits people with a 44"–56". Normally each size bigger has more absorbent fluff than the one before, so sometimes wearing one size larger can help with heavy wetter's. But the down side is going larger the diapers can be harder to get snug and prevent leaks. So try the Medium and if that is snug, move to Large.

        -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Rory W
Age: 16

Q:

Could you please tell me, is there a way to make a belivable diaper out of homemade products. I can use towels but I want it to look like the real deal. plzzz help, I will be much appreciative.


A:

Hello Rory,

1. Fleece throw depending on size, 2. Bounty paper towels, 3. packaging tape.

-Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 41

Q:

I was born with a disability where my waist is still the size of a toddler. My bladder is about as mature as a 3-year-old. This makes wearing diapers 24/7. When I go outside. What clothes can I wear to cover up my Luvs 6 diaper so people can't notice? If I wear baggy shorts people can hear my diaper every time I walk. My shorts slipped down while I was at Walmart and the cashier saw my diaper. I just don't know what to do. Can you help me?


A:

Hello David,

Have you ever tried Docker shorts with a belt so it's not so loose?

-Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Devon
Age: 13

Q:

I am currently a TB/DL. I get the full baby treatment, diapers, crib, baths baby clothes , baby food and bottles. I want to take it to the next level and have my mom breastfeed me. How can this be done? Can she really produce milk?


A:

She can try, nothing is impossible. She needs to go to the doctor and find out what she can use to start producing. It is do-able!

Bree M. Kantner

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Question Asked By: Jake
Age: 18


Q:

I was wondering if it's normal for a 18 year old to be peeing and pooing in nappies.


A:

Physically no. If your wetting or messing without control, you really should see a doctor to find the cause. But if your wondering if it's ok for a adult baby to wet or mess in nappies, then yes it is. If it makes you feel comfortable, don't worry about it!

Bree M. Kantner

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 26

Q:

I wear nappies to bed, and will wet every so often but wonder if I was to take a couple of suppositories before bed would that cause me to mess in my sleep during the night? Or are laxatives better. My poop would probably need to be fairly runny for me to go during my sleep.  I am well protected with appropriate nappies and PVC pants etc. Thanks.


A:

If your taking things like that to do it in your sleep, make sure your having pleanty of bottles, to avoid dehydration! And start small, if you haven't really done this yet, ease your way into it until you know what your waking up to, like most parents if a baby has gone all night, to me a bath is in order in the morning. You can try a suppository, laxatives scare me unless your badly constipated, try prune juice and milk of magnesia, try to start safe, and like I said lots of bottles! With either apple juice or Gatorade, or pedialight, specially if your doing laxatives.

     Aside from risks of doing this, if you do this all the time your bowel muscles will get weak and you won't be able to keep from pooping without control. Same problem if you do many enama's. Your body comes to depend on them to be able to go to the bathroom.

Bree M. Kantner

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Question Asked By: Celeste
Age: 20

Q:

What type of diapers are best for teens who poop in them a lot?


A:

Durable ones like Molicare, ATN (All through the night), Dry24/7 and Unique Wellness briefs are some of the best diapers on the market. And the Unique Wellness briefs are made the same as the diapers worn into space. So you know that's quality. Depending on your size, it's really something you have to play with though. Depends for older ab, rather than trusting something smaller, and they come in a higher range of sizes and "effectiveness", stay clean, and make sure you abd cleans you properly!

Bree M. Kantner

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Question Asked By: Joe
Age: 14

Q:

Hi, I love wearing diapers but I don't have easy access to any. My parents wouldn't approve of my diaper fetish so I can't ask them to buy me anything. Is there a way of making realistic diapers at home using household objects? Thanks! :)


A:

You can try to "cover it up" and use what you've been using, old towels, and safety pins, with a trash bag as the outer waterproof layer.  Just make sure you keep up on washing them so you don't get any rashes. Use baby powder to keep dry. If your super insecure or afraid you can use over night size pads and use them in your undies :)  And just dispose of them after. Sounds like your doing well with making your own, fleece is good with an insert, (like a pad) just make sure you stay dry!!!! . Either way hunnie don't be afraid of what makes you happy, it's not strange or weird. Sooooooo many people are just like you, use what you feel is right for you and come to us for anything! One last tip is to check out the article "How to get and hide diapers" shares idea's on how to get money to get diapers and some places to keep them out of sight. You can read that article by going to: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Getting_And_Hiding_Diapers.html

Bree M. Kantner
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