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Question Asked By: Larry
Age: 40

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I am a heavy wetter and I still wake up soaked by morning and during the day my diaper always leaks. Can you tell me what I can try? My diaper seems to get so heavy.


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Dear Larry,

I do have a few suggestions for you. First off you could try using diaper stuffers. A diaper stuffer is a layered pad of absorbent material added to the diaper. They are sold or you can make your own. I know one person who takes regular toddler size baby cloth diapers and folds them in thirds and puts them in the diaper. Another is to use an actual baby disposable diaper- cut several 1/2 inch or so slits through the outer plastic cover and lay inside your diaper. The idea is the urine has to go thru these other products before reaching your diaper and the result is added absorbency. You could also try a diaper designed for heavy wetter's called Unique Wellness. Their website is located at: http://www.wellnessbriefs.com/. Another option is to talk to your doctor about medication. There are med's that help 'dry' up the urine amount in your body. Hope these tips help. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Johnny
Age: 16

Q:

My mom caught me in my sister's pants the other day and her shirt. She told me to go and take them off. I said that I did not want to so she got mad at me. She came over to me and started to undress me this is when she caught me in diapers. So now she makes me wear my sister pants and shirts all the time with the diaper on. She threw out all my clothes. How do I get her to buy me new ones? And every time we are at home she makes me walk around with my pants unbutton and unzipped with my sister there to see.


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Dear Johnny,

You really need to sit and talk to your mom. Have an open honest discussion, tell her you were just trying your sister's stuff on to see how it would feel. Also ask her to buy regular clothes for you. After all you can't go to school, church or any other activity dressed as a girl. Also it is not appropriate for your sister to see you with your pants down. I wish you good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Valentine
Age: 18

Q:

I need some advice. My boyfriend is an ABDL and I am still trying to figure out how to support him. What are a few things I can do to help him feel comfortable with who he is and what he enjoys? I would like to do everything I can to be a good mommies for him, so any advice will be greatly appreciated.


A:

Dear Valentine,

There are no rules or routine. The best thing you can do for him is to be understanding and supportive- which you already are. Just treat him like a big adorable baby. Good luck to you both.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bobby
Age: 12

Q:

I think I have begun liking to wet my pants during the day. What's the best way to wet myself and not let others know? Is there a way to wet my pants but not let it soak all the way through?


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Dear Bobby,

If you are having wetting accidents during the day the only remedy is to wear pull-ups during the day or to try to stop wetting. You need to speak with your doctor, there are med's on the market that can help or perhaps bladder muscle exercises. Talk to you doc and see what options are available to you.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed & Mommy
Age: 37

Q:

Mommy I'm a little embarrassed that Santie Clause knows I wear diapees. Among my toys he also left me a new plastic sheet for my bed a pack of diapees with a note attached. Mommy read the note to me. It said “Baby xxxxx Ho! Ho! Ho! I had my elfs make you a special pack of diapers for a special big boy. Here's wishing you a dry mess free night, and a Merry Christmas! Ho! Ho' Ho!” I felt so embarrassed that Sante knows I make pee pee & poo poo at night. Mommy made me feel better about saying it's only natural problem.

Hi Mommy, yeah he was a little upset when I read him the note. I noticed him looking down at his soiled overnight diaper as I read the note. He might have felt a little more subconscious about his diapers, because I removed his onsie. I wanted to check him for leaks especially since he had his BM. He needed the plastic sheets. I'm glad Santa brought that to us. His other plastic sheets had some tears in it. Much better sheet since it fits over the entire mattress. The diapers and the note was cute, and he has to learn to accept his diapers, and Santa said he would help. To further help him accept he was diapered all day and night. He cried a little, but took it like a good little boy. Could I be to harsh on him?What do you think?


A:

Dear Embarrassed and mommy,

I am so glad you had a nice Xmas. To embarrassed there is nothing wrong with wearing a diaper, how do I know? Think about it, even Santa knows and he's on your side helping you out! Now that is awesome. Don't ever be ashamed about who you are. You are perfect as is and I know your mommy will agree. And mommy you are not too harsh. Babies need guidance and love, and you give both. Happy new year to you both and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joseph
Age: 24

Q:

Hi my name is Joe. I wear diapers, my aunt told me that I do not need then. I love to where them.


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Dear Joe,

Bottom line is you are over 21 and can do what you want (within reason). Wearing diapers is your choice- you hurt no one and are breaking no laws. Your aunt might dislike the idea for her own reasons but there really is no reason why you should have to stop wearing. Try to talk to your aunt and explain why you love them so much. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: George
Age: 42

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Hi, I have a 19 year old (3) boyfriend (son), he's always been the greatest little boy. But recently he's started to have these fits, before his nap, before a bath, etc. I try not to punish him, but it's like he asks for it. He either starts to scream, break something on purpose or do the exact opposite of what I ask him. It's happening all day, and I can't keep spanking & punishing him, I really hate to do it. He isn't behaving at all. How can I fix this? Could you give me any advice? Please, and thank you.


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Dear George,

It sound like you are dealing with a toddler. I would sit down in adult mode and discuss why he is acting this way. What is he looking for in the relationship? Also let him know how you feel. A good open relationship will last forever. Good luck to you both.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Logan
Age: 16

Q:

Hi I was wondering if there were any places I could check for a AB parent (mother) around Jefferson City, MO. Because I am having trouble finding one? Also do you think it is weird for me to drink milk from a mothers breast if I found one? I also potty and poop in my diaper is that out of the ordinary? Thanks I'm new to this and love it already.


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Dear Logan,

You are definitely not weird, so get that out of your mind right now. We do have 2 mommies listed in our mommy finder section located at: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html. You will not be able to get a mommy though until you are 18- legal stuff. You could talk to them and perhaps arrange phone sessions, just a suggestion. Just a quick note- the only way a woman can actually have milk is if she is pregnant or just given birth. When you do get your mommy, who knows you just might get who one has milk. I wish you luck and it's good to have you here.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 13

Q:

What is the best way to act like a baby when you live at home with someone always at the house like my dad.


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Dear Chris,

That can be tricky. If your Dad is home 24/7 the only way you can be a baby is in private in your room. Maybe at night when you go to bed take an hour for yourself and be a baby, then go to sleep as usual. Any opportunities you have take them, but be careful. Don't be so into it that your Dad comes home and your still in baby mode. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bill
Age: 14

Q:

My parents are having a baby shower and is having a lot of girls over. I want them to make me be their human baby doll. Is there any way that you can think of that will help me achieve this. Please help me.


A:

Dear Bill,

Although it may seem like a dream situation, what you want is just that ...a dream. A teen girl wouldn't want to be babying a grown person. A real baby yes. I am sorry you might have to keep that dream in your head for awhile. The good news is when you are older you can get your girlfriend/wife to baby you and that will be more enjoyable for both of you. Keep dreaming!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steve
Age: 17

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I have only been driving for 1 year now, so I have started to buy myself diapers. But the diapers I can find at places like Wal-mart, Bilo, Walgreens, CVS and Rite-aid are all pretty crappy. I live with my parents so I can't order anything. I live in Chattanooga, TN if that helps, but does Publix or any other big names carry any Attends or good diapers like that? And P.S. I have tried depends and they are just to noise. I have had to go to pull-up's that have worked good but it's still not the same as a diaper.


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Dear Steve,

I am impressed by your persistence but it can still be hard as you have found out. I do have a few suggestions. Do you have a trusted friend who would be willing to accept deliveries for you? If not how about getting a PO box and having it shipped to the post office, you just pick up when the supplies are in. The PO boxes cost about $35.00 for a year in most places just to give you an idea of cost. Another option is to talk to the pharmacy's in your area. If Rite Aid doesn't have a brand, ask the head pharmacist if they can order it for you. You might have to leave a deposit but in the end you will have the better diaper. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Floyd
Age: 46/2

Q:

Dear mommy my question is how can I talk if I'm a baby? I still wet and poopy my pants.


A:

Dear Baby Floyd,

In your age section you have 2 as your toddler age. A 2 year old can talk a little. They can form simple sentences like 'Want juice'. So it is okay to talk a little. Try to stay dry and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 13

Q:

What is the best way to act like a baby when you live at home with someone always at the house like my dad?


A:

Dear Chris,

I am sure what you mean by acting like a baby. If you mean dressing like one and drinking a bottle and so on, I would say lock your room door and have a little 'me' time as a baby. It would be difficult since someone is always home (that's why you lock the door) but you might be able to get a little time alone. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bill
Age: 17

Q:

I have been a TB/DL for about 3 months I was just wondering if you know where I can get girl adult size diapers like pink ones because I am getting a bit tired of wearing the ones for boys. I went to the supermarket and it was embarrassing looking at the girl ones. I live in the UK so it would help if you could list places that supply the UK or shops.


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Dear Bill,

We have a rather good list of companies that ship to the UK. Go to our incontinent product section and look around. Not only do they have pink diapers some even have designs. Happy hunting.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: 18

Q:

Ever since I was very young I have always wanted to wear diapers and my parents always said I would just grow out of it, but I never did. And when I got to the age where I can buy diapers. But every time I wore a diaper I couldn't stand it nor look at myself in the mirror. So my question is why is it I'm so obsessed with wearing diapers but when it comes to wearing one I can't stand to like what I see? Why can I go buy diapers but I feel like it's wrong to do so, why is that?


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Dear John,

I am not a therapist but I suspect you have a love/hate relationship with diapers. You love wearing them but because of other factors- your parents and any others who might of teased you, you have a hate of the fact that you enjoy them. You are a little torn- pulled in 2 directions. I will say this, there is nothing wrong with wearing a diaper. It is a piece of fabric wrapped around your posterior.....the same can be said of panties, briefs and boxers! It's all fabric just in different styles. Hold your head high- you are perfect just as you are!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kolin
Age: 20

Q:

I was wondering how could one completely untoilet train yourself to where you have no control of bladder and bowels?


A:

Dear Kolin,

We have an excellent program that we use. It is effective and is 100% reversible, if in the future you wish to regain continence again. Be certain this is what you want before starting this program.
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/12_Month_
Diaper_Training_Program_For_Becoming_incontinent.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matt
Age: 34

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I'm sure this isn't a common question you get asked around here but I'm asking you how should I potty train my two year old daughter? I'm an ABDL but of course I keep that secret from my daughter and I suffer urinary continence. I'm a divorced single dad and my daughter doesn't see her mom so I'm supposed to kind of play both roles. Anyway since I have my own bathroom problems and I need/like diapers. I do know I need to teach my little girl how to use the toilet so she can go to school and have a normal social life without problems. What should I do about this predicament? I don't really know where to start since there's no parenting manual for this.


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Dear Matt,

Kudos to you first of all for the fantastic job you are doing with your daughter. There are actually manuals to help you with this. Huggies brand diapers sells the Pull-up brand training pants. They have a web site that has DVD's and all sorts of added gear to help with the potty training. The site's address is: http://www.pull-ups.com/na/default.aspx. So ease your mind. Just follow the program and she'll be on track for school and anything else in store for her. Good luck to you both.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Logan
Age:16

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Hi there I was wondering if there was any way to make baby diapers big enough to fit me. I can't get diapers with out my parents knowing the only way I really get diapers is from my sister who is younger and currently in size 6 Parents Choice diapers. I was hoping there was a way to make the diapers fit me better? Yes they do fit but it hard to get them to stay on. I was hoping to get some help here. Thanks.


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Dear Logan,

I do have a few tips to make those diapers fit. If they fit but are just real tight and the tape keeps slipping, an idea is to use duct tape on the sides- they will stay on and not give way. If they are too small you could try wearing them like a pad- put them on and have them stay put by pulling a snug brief (underwear) over them to keep them in place. Hope these tips help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Johnny
Age: 16

Q:

Hi this is Johnny again my mommy still won't buy me new clothes. She make me wear my sister clothes. She even now lets my sister change my diaper. I have to wear them all the time at home. She makes me go around in just my diaper. Now she is given me baby formula in a baby bottle. How can I get her to change her mind she won't listen, all she says is that if I did not want to be a baby girl then I should not have let her catch me. What can I do?


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Dear Johnny,

You need to sit down with your mom and ask her for how long she intends to keep doing this. Also what do you have to do to prove to her that you are male and not a little girl. Let her know that baby formula can be bad for you if it is iron enriched and can make you very sick. Perhaps the two of you can come to some kind of agreement. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Floyd
Age: AB age is 2 years old

Q:

Dear mommy I got a question. I have blood in my poopy and doctors cannot find out where it's coming from? What can I do to tell the Dr to help find it? Please help me.


A:

Dear Baby Floyd,

There are many reasons that there could be blood. Besides disease, it could also be constipation. If you go poop and it is too hard, it can tear tissue on the way out and cause blood to be present. Also your doctor will most likely order an upper/lower GI series of exams (it's painless, just x-raying your digestive system). Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: PuffyCrinklyDiaperButt
Age: 19

Q:

I have a big problem. All my life I loved diapers the feel, the sound, and comfort it gave me. My question is where can I find a mommy located near me?? I've looked everywhere. Help me Please!!


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Dear PuffyCrinklyDiaperButt,

A good starting place is our Mommy Finder. It is listed by area, so find something near where you live and begin your search. I suggest even calling the mommies nearby and asking for referrals if they know any. Good luck hunting.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jessica
Age: 23

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Dear Ask Mommy, I would like a mommy, where can I get one that will feed me baby food, change my diaper, give me a bath, and do all that AB mommy stuff? I have never had one and I would really like one, they look like so much fun!! Jessica AB and DL


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Dear Jessica,

We have a Mommy Finder section on our main site. It is an excellent starting point for your search. Find your area and see who is close by. Talk to some and ask for references. Mommies in the same area usually know about each other. Happy searching.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 32

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     Hello Mommy, I've been a diaper wearer for a long time and I would like to start wearing 24/7. Could you tell me what are some diapers that are good for wearing all the time? I wear the ones with plastic covering which are my favorite. I also was wondering what are some good plastic pants or diaper covers that you know of? Thank you mommy for your time. Tim


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Dear Tim,

We have an entire page of links to various diaper sites that have all kinds of diapers and plastic pants. You should check them out. The ones that we have found to be absorbent and of good quality are Wellness briefs, Molicare and Dry 24/7. Happy diaper hunting.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Seth & Sammy
Age: 16&6

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Hello, my name is Seth, and I'm 16 year old boy. But sharing my body is a girl named Sammy all of 6 years old. I don't know, but I don't think it's odd. I don't know where she came from, though she said she was always there, just to shy to say hi. Now I know it's not MPS cause MPS the personalities do not intermingle, but mine do. I'm just asking does this seem in anyway odd to you?


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Dear Seth and Sammy,

What is normal anyway? It seems to me that if you are happy that is all anyone needs to know. Life can be difficult and we only get one go at it, if we find a way to go through it with a smile, I say go for it. Stay the same and enjoy yourself because you are perfect just the way you are!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Duane
Age: 38

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I have always liked to wear diapers that are very bulky and make lots of noise. But my wife doesn' t know this. I want to wear them with her out in public and I want her to carry a diaper bag so she can change me when I wet myself. Do you have any ideas on how I could tell her this is what I want and how she could change me.


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Dear Duane,

There are no magic words to convince someone to like or participate in diaper play/wearing/changing. Only you know how your wife feels. Is she an open minded person? If not the chances of her going along is not good. If however she is someone who will listen to all sides and then make a decision, you might have a chance. In either case you need to sit down and talk. Maybe there are certain things she will do and others she won't, perhaps you could create a compromise between what you want and what she will do. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Scotty
Age: 42

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First of all I would like to thank you for your site and your devotion and understanding. Actually until a year ago I thought I was the only in the world doing or having this dark secret. I am very shy about this and very shy around beautiful woman. Well here it goes. I just have to find out I've been a adult baby for 18yrs but it was longer. There was definitely signs. When it got serious is when I got my own place that way I could start making my future nursery. It started with a square baby play pen and then I bought 2 Regent Graco play pens and I connected them together by a 12in board on the sides and on the ends painted yellow so it has the length and height of a real baby play pen. I now have my own house with my wife who understands me. I have a full blown nursery with outfits, diaper pails, everything a baby would need. My main reason is to let you know how I play out my fantasy. I love getting ready for bed time. I put in my suppository then I powder, put on my molicare, then my bambino real tight. I cut the sides off a little and use masking tape instead of diaper tape. You can get your diaper on so much tighter and the tape won't tear if you double it. Then I put on plastic pants and then I like putting in aged urine (a good week is good when it turns red it's the best). That way I can have a great diaper rash just like a real baby! When mommy wakes me up the next morning she gives me my bottle in the morning while I please myself. I use to have her change me but I like being in a poopy wet diaper instead. Then I get up and I'm ready to try and face the real world for another week. So anyway, I just wanted to know if you ever heard anything like this before. And I just wanted to know if you think I'm a adult baby, a infantilist or what I consider myself a professional baby! Thanks for your time!


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Dear Scotty,

Thank you for your kind words. The reason we do this site is for people just like you, you are not alone. As the old saying goes different strokes for different folks... I do believe you are an infantilist. You say you have a nursery, you should check out Stanley on-line plans to make a Adult Baby Crib around a twin size bed and also plans for a Adult Sized High-Chair that can hold up to 500 pounds on the seat. You get to eat your meal and swing your legs just like a kid does- you can't help but giggle. My only concern is your practice of giving yourself rashes- please be careful you can also get UTI and kidney infections, both of which can cause nasty painful health consequences. My wish for you is many happy years of being a baby. Be well and stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michele
Age: 52

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Dear Mommy, I have written prior and thank you for the response. My question is this, that though prescribed diapers from my Dr. for medical reasons is it normal to want for someone to try wearing panties though I have to wear size 8 from the little girls dept? My real age is 52 and my baby age is and has been 3 months of age. I still drink formula while in public in a solid drink bottle that ones uses daily for walking etcetera. I am drinking as I type this too you. In hindsight I will and forever be a baby.
Respectfully, BabyMichele3Mos


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Dear Michele,

There is nothing wrong with wanting to wear girly things. By all means get your panties in all the colors and have fun. One word of caution, make sure the formula you're drinking is not iron-enriched- that type of formula has too much iron for an adults system and can possibly cause injury. Enjoy yourself.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Logie
Age: 14

Q:

I'm going skydiving and I thought it would be good to wear a diaper, but how do I explain to my grandfather to stop at a store so I can buy them and if he does how could I explain I wanna keep wearing them? Please help me.


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Dear Baby Logie,

The solution is simple. Put your diaper on before the two of you leave. If you are already wearing, he won't need to stop and you won't have anything to explain. If you need him to get to a store, then explain to him that you are feeling anxious of having accidents and would like to wear protection (call it "protection") so you can feel safe and confident during what you are doing, including skydiving. Have fun!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Billy
Age: 53

Q:

I have always had a bedwetting problem, tried everything nothing has worked, so I wear....... at night. I am very shy too. Met my wife, married, back then thought by marring it would go away. Well she was not happy on wedding night. Any way that was 20 years ago. Things have been changing in the last few months since she started taking a computer class. She's been going online a lot. Well she has been making rules and things. I don't like them but she said she needs to take charge. I think she's flip after so many years of marriage. What can I do? I love her, but it's not fair. I retired 2 month ago.


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Dear Billy,

Marriage is always a give and take proposition. I think you and your wife need to go to marriage counseling. Perhaps by talking things out you can come to a middle ground. With both sides giving up a little and getting a little. Even if you don't seek the counseling you and your wife still need to sit down and talk. Remind each other why you fell in love all those years ago. I wish both of you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Garry
Age: 59

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I have been in diapers since the day I was born, 97 days premature. I was declared uneducable at age two and a half by my parents and formally by a pediatrician. I became a ward of the state because my parents were alcoholics. I was in State authorized foster homes until I was almost seventeen. There wasn't a day that I was not physically and sexually abused. I was sterilized by the foster parents of one of the five foster homes that I was in by having my testicles and my penis damaged by being held upside down with my legs spread apart while Miss. June beat me between the legs with a shoe. She would then reach into the diaper and give the scrotum a sharp hard twist. This was done for five days. About a week later, I started to get farmed out to teenage girls and women who would have me from one day to a week and do whatever they wanted with me during the day or at night when I was put in bed. The only time that I felt safe was when I was out doors. I would love to find a place where I could play in the dirt outdoors. I would love to be able to do this again before I die. Do you have any suggestions. I should tell you that I use a wheelchair and have been legally blind since birth. Thanks for your help. - Garry


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Dear Garry,

Your story deeply touched me. How can someone call themselves a caregiver and treat another human being as horribly as you were treated? It is a testament to your strength that you survived. I do have a few suggestions to make. If you haven't already, I would seek therapy to further help the healing process. There is a kind of therapy called "Psychotherapy". It's a form of talk therapy that helps with trauma such as abuse. That kind of trauma is something that is difficult to overcome and a psychotherapist could help. Also if you haven't already I would see if you have any legal recourse. If you can I would sue the foster care system for negligence at the very least. If you are on disability or getting county services you would qualify for free lawyer services. My reasoning is if you win any damages that can be put toward to getting you a comfortable home in the country. Your own home with your own backyard and the biggest dirt patch ever! Heaven! Also if you have not been yet, I would encourage you to visit the site's message board as there is much support there. There is a forum on there that is just for those who have been abused. The address for the message board is: http://bedwettingabdl.yuku.com/ I hope you continue to fight the good fight and know you are not alone. You have friends who care about you Garry.

-Hugs Sandra
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