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Question Asked By: Embarassed & Mommy
Age: 37

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Mommy says I can't were big boy pants yet. Diapers are for babies, I'm a big boy so I should where big boy pants! I'm not a baby!  Mommy has told me to go play while you and her talk, tell her I can were big boy pants!

Sorry about this mommy he's a little upset at me because he's not shown me he he is ready to be potty trained. I tried to get him interested so he can be moved into training pants. He just wants to move right from diapers to big boy pants. I ussually can tell when he has to go, and ask if he has to use the potty. His answer is always No!  I told him last week he needs to show me an effort or He can stay in baby diapers for another year. Well needless to say I sat him on the potty today and got nothing. I diapered him, and asked if he had to go, because I knew he had to. As he said no I seen a wet spot grow in the front of the diaper. By the expression on his face I knew what he had done next. I changed him and told him he's not ready. So his potty training is done until I decide he's ready. Am I being too harsh? I think he wants to were big boy pants because he was embarassed when a freind of mine stopped over and giggled when I woke him up from his nap in just his diaper. It was a full diaper, and I changed him in front of her. She mentioneed to him what a baby he was, in a cute way. He doesn't like the word baby. So no more potty training. What do you think?


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Dear Embarrassed,

In order to learn how to walk you first have to stand up and fall a few times. You need to wear the training pants like your mommy is telling you. How can she put you in big boy pants if you can't show her that you are trying to stay dry. If you need to go, be honest and say so. And no mommy, you are not being too harsh. Like I said everything is done in stages, you can't skip one and expect the next stage to go smoothly. So stay your ground, he needs to learn. And no complaining Embarrassed! Listen to your mommy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ray
Age: 63

Q:

I enjoy relaxing at home in a diaper and plastic panties. My wife tolerates this but I want to sometimes wake up in a wet and messy diaper. Are suppositories okay to use and I would like the instructions on how to use them. Will they guarantee me to wake up with a full diaper? My wife suggest that if I wear diapers I need to use them like a baby.


A:

Dear Ray,

I am totally against any method that can cause harm to an individual. We have enough to deal with, to add on an injury that occured while trying to become incontinent is foolhardy. We only suggest natural methods. Any use of instruments, drugs etc can harm you, sometimes permanently. If you wish to poop at night eat roughage and stay away from suppositories. If they are used often, the body can sometimes become dependant on them and then if you stop using them you are in for a world of hurt, cramping and constipation. To the point of needing surgical intervention. This is of course the extreme but it is possible. So be safe and eat your bran and let nature do it's thing. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mason
Age: 12

Q:

Should I tell my mom that I have a feeling that I want to wear diapers? Will she say yes?


A:

Dear Mason,

This is the question I get the most. I don't know your mom. Is she an open-minded person? Is she willing to listen before making a judgement? Only you know these answers. If your mom is accepting, you might try to have a talk. Start by saying something like "I heard of a kid who wants to wear diapers, what do you think?" You will know by her reaction, if she is okay with it. Whatever her reaction we are here to support you. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Danielle
Age: 15


Q:

Hi, I am making my first holy communion in the teen class on sept.12. I am wearing the traditional communion dress, veil, tights and shoes. My parents told me that they consider my communion dress as an entension of my baptism dress and are requiring me to wear a thick cloth diaper and adult plastic pants under my white tights. My mom sewed 2 dozen baby diapers together to make one diaper and got the plastic pants off the web. She bought diaper pins and baby powder as well. I will be with kids 13 to 17 and don't want to wear the diaper and plastic pants, but they are adamant about it. What can I do?


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Dear Danielle,

My suggestion is to talk to them. Let them know this day is important to you also. You want it to be perfect. Ask if instead of what your mother had sewn to order a pack of Wellness Briefs. They are $30.00 for 20 diapers. The smallest size (24-36 inch waist) is white in color to match your dress. They also offer a free sample. The link for the free sample is: http://www.wellnessbriefs.com/ShopFreeSample.asp

They are slim form (so not as noticeable as layers of cloth diapers) and absorbant (can hold 3 or more liters of liquid). These diapers were based on the design of the NASA diapers and designed to be worn for 10-12 hours without needing a change. Longer if you limit your fluids 4-6 hours before going to the communion. By wearing them you will have no worries about leakage or any embarrassing moments. It seems to be a win-win situation. You want to enjoy the day and be focusing on the meaning of your communion, not worrying about diapers and leaking. Ask your parents if the Wellness Briefs would be a good compramise. I wish you luck and congratulations!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Danny
Age: 49

Q:

I have been careing for my mother until just recently. It became too much of an emotional strain, I felt an apartment of my own was the answer and it was. I am an alcoholic. I've been clean a little over 2 years. I also have been ABDL scene. My first memories, yrs. I want to purchase some cloth, and disposible adult diapers, with cloud white plastic pants. Also some pink plastic lined rumba panties. I guess I am a sissy as well. I'm not gay. I'm trying to find someone, preferably a female that could help me to purchase these things. I feel awkward about this. Do you know anyone? Thanks so much for your time. Danny, or preforbly Danielle. E-mail c.cdanielcloud@yahoo.com  


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Dear Danny,

It can be difficult out there in the world when you think you're alone. Well you are not. It must of been difficult having to take care of your mother, especially with you being a recovering alcoholic. I give you your kudos. It can be a challenge to find a mate who is also into the AB scene. Most people remain private about it. You might even have friends around you already who are AB and you just don't know! You can go to our roster and friend finder to see if any one lives nearby:
Friend Finder: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Directory.html
AB/DL Roster: http://bedwettingabdl.yuku.com/forums/26

We have a few members who are dating/married to non-AB's and still are able to live out their AB lifestyle. All you need is someone understanding. So keep the faith, you'll find that special person. In the meantime know we are here for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon N
Age: 45

Q:

My question is this, why do I like having a cloth diaper put on me, then having it taken off and then having my temp taken rectally? Any other AB/DL's out there who like their temps taken that way? How can I find a person who is willing to do that for me? Thanks


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Dear Jon,

They have been trying to figure out why people like certain things and dislike others for years. No one knows. If it makes you happy and hurts no one- go for it. It doesn't matter the reason. I am sure there are others who like their temp taken that way. We have a Friend Finder and Mommy Finder section. Look through them and see if there is anyone nearby who can share your loves with. You might be surprised. Good luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Adam
Age: 21

Q:

Hi Mommy. I am 21 and I wear Pampers Cruisers size 7, but only on the weekend. I pee and poop in them but my fiance does not know, I love the feeling of wearing them and I want my fiance to help me, change me, and diaper me, feed me, but I do not know what to do. Please help me, how do I make her understand, and to baby me?


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Dear Adam,

You and your fiance need to sit down and have a serious discussion. You are about to make a commitment to each other that should include total trust and honesty. Explain to her exactly how you feel and what it does for you and that you would like her to be a part of that experience. If she is hesitant perhaps you could come to a compromise of some sort. A friend of ours who has been married for many years has an aggrement with his wife. She doesn't want to participate but will allow him weekend time to be with others who do share his passion for diapers. He gets his diaper time and is happy and she doesn't have to get involved. Hopefully your fiance will be agreeable. Try to have as much information as you can when you bring up the subject. Stay calm and be precise. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kennedy
Age: 15

Q:

How can I become incontinent only in diapers? Also, how can I wet the bed only when diapered?


A:

Dear Kennedy,

Incontinence doesn't work that way. You are or you aren't. You can't pick and choose when and where you wet. The only way that we know of to wet ONLY when in diapers without control is hypnosis. Those are not 100% to work though. And they are expensive to try and have it not work. But it's up to you. You can try and see. All we know of that you can do is put on a diaper and when in bed and you need to go, just let it go. A warning though, if you do that too many times you will be teaching your body to go in the diaper and you might end up really incontinent. So be careful.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Luke
Age: 13

Q:

Does a public school nurse have diapers in the nurses room? And if nurses do have diapers do they keep them with the spare clothing? Womans "personal" items or somewhere different like a filing cabnet?


A:

Dear Luke,

Each school nurse has their own way of doing things. As a rule any diapers in the nurses' office is for a specific person. Normally they are counted and there is a lable with the kid's name on the package. A student with a problem, their parents will bring supplies from home and go to the nurses office to change. And is usually kept under lock and key since it is for only one student. Most school's don't have diapers as regular supplies. Hope this info helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babby Benny
Age: 16

Q:

Dear mommy,

I asked you last time about a method of becoming diaper dependent and you said you would put a link below, you forgot to put the link mommy so could you give it to me again pweeze <33 love Benny


A:

Dear Babby benny,

I am so sorry it got lost or something. Here it is again.
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/12_Month_Diaper_Training_ Program_For_Becoming_incontinent.html  Hope this helps. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 15

Q:

How do I get up the guts to ask my mom to buy Goodnites?


A:

Dear Will,

If your mother is an open-minded person she might understand. If not, why not try buying them yourself? Save up allowance money or do odd jobs for cash and then purchase them yourself. It would save all the discussions about your 'desires'. If you really want to get her to buy them, then the only way would be to say you need them. And that would mean you would have to be wetting yourself. In my opinion I would try to purchase them on my own and leave Mom out of it. I know one young man that offered to till the ground in the spring, mow lawns in the summer, rake leaves in the fall and shovel snow in the winter. At age 16 he bought his first car when he got his license. Hey at $20 a job, just 5 jobs a week and that $100. Just an idea. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Conrad
Age: 39

Q:

How do I get my girl friend more involved, and for her to like more. Please reply. Thank you. Also, decent person needs someone to talk to me.


A:

Dear Conrad,

If someone is not interested in something you can't make them like it. they do or they don't. All you can do is to explain to her what you get out of it and maybe she might consider getting involved with you. If all you are looking for is some like-minded friends we have a friend finder section that you can try looking at. A good friend could be waiting. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 21

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I've got a rather unique problem, and one that would benefit from a fast answer. Over the summer, I fell into some of the habits of an AB. Like watching cartoons, and other things. One of these was taking naps in the middle of the day.

Now I'm back to college, and I find myself occupied by classes. But I get really tired in the middle of the day if I don't take a nap, so I can't focus on the math class I have in the afternoon. I have to take a nap, and as you might imagine, this sacrifices an hour of my day that would be better served doing homework.

My question is this. Is it possible for me to get out of taking naps in the middle of the day without getting tired, so I have this extra hour of my day to finish my homework and have more of my evenings free to visit with my friends?


A:

Dear James,

Your body will readjust once you get back into the habit of going to school. In the meantime perhaps you could try going to bed earlier, maybe with a long goodnight's sleep the afternoon sleepiness will be less. Perhaps also try napping once you get home in the late afternoon- if your body knows a nap is coming it might be able to hold out a little longer. Hope these ideas help. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 18

Q:

I'm a switch ABDL/Sissy and a Mommy and Daddy. My gf is the same as me. I've recently bought her some AB clothing from CosyNDry. My baby is a little different she likes to be a baby boy. I'm looking for some good AB-boy cloths. Is there any  web site you can recommend and AB training pants if you know any where please.


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Dear Paul,

On our main site we have an entire page of AB links to all sorts of clothes, diapers, plastic pants and so on. Look through them and see if there is anything that interests you and order away.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 37

Q:

Dear Mommy,

Goood morning mommy!  It's still early here mommy and I'm still waiting for mommy to wake up to change a soggy diapee. She will be happy I didn't make poo poo last night. My diapee feels very wet, and I was about to take it off, but Mommy spanked my bare bum the last time. So I need to wait for mommy to wake up. I know I have been naughty a few times, and Mommy says she spanks me for my own good. She always hugs me afterwards. I want to show her I a big boy, but when she changes my diapee she calls me her little baby! Even my diapee has 'BABY' written all over it. That's what mommy read when I asked. She says it's ok to be a baby. She also stopped my potty training saying I'm not ready yet. What does that mean? She said we'll try again in a year! I just don't want to be a called a baby. I'm a big boy! How do I get my mommy to see me as a big boy? Well I'm off to watch cartoons while mommy sleeps.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Tell mommy that you will try to be a good boy and if she could try not calling you a baby. By being a good boy she will see that you are a big boy. Be good and remember to give mommy lots of hugs and kisses.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 16

Q:

My question actually involves something on this site, and I haven't seen a question about it yet, so I'm gonna ask. Over on the side-panel there is the "Babies 4 Parents" thing, and I've gone there, I've tried to post, but when I did it said I had to log in to do so. I don't have an account and when I read the terms of use thing when trying to sign up, it mentioned fees. Nobody knows that I'm TB, and I can't pay fees without someone finding out, so my question is this. Is there a way to sign up or post WITHOUT having to pay? Or is there some other site that you know of that doesn't require fees? Some help would be greatly appreciated.


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Dear Chris,

Our site and message board is totally free. You should not have to pay ever. On the message board while signing up you do have the option to make a donation to Yuku and become a supporter account, however you don't HAVE to do that. Just select the regular/free account and you should be fine. Just ignore that pay part of Yuku.

Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: George
Age: 20

Q:

Hi, I'm George,

I'm an AB, I've had a daddy for almost two years and I love him. But recently he's been strict... I haven't been behaving my best but I'm not a bad boy. He's been punishing me for little stuff both when I'm an adult, (like for getting bad grades) and when I'm an AB (for throwing a fit). He wasn't like this, like so strict. What should I do? Am I being too bad? Is he mad at me? I love him and I don't like it when he's upset with me. Could someone give me advice?


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Dear George,

I think the two of you need to sit down and talk. Let him know you care and that you are worried about him. Express your concerns that he is becoming a little too strict and if there is a problem if he could discuss it with you so the two of you can resolve it. There could be something going on that you don't know about- added stress on the job and so on. Just be honest and open and things should be okay. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mikey117
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mommy! I'm Mikey-117. I have a bit of a question, but here is the back ground info first. I told my parents 5 years ago I was a TB. (When I was 10) After a LONG time of fighting, trial, and error; I am now in a MUCH better situation then I was 5 years ago. My dad and mom buy me diapers and baby stuff as an allowance, but don't take part in it. I'm also on the non-sexual side of being a TB. Anyways... I have a LOT of experience, and am also trying to become popular in the community. I've written three stories on ADISC (Tai's fall, Love Me Away, and Steal Me Away) and am becoming pretty popular. My question is, how can I help people out with all of this kind of stuff? I want to make a site, but I don't wanna have to PAY for one. At the same time, I want to make it LOOK, and FEEL professional. What can I do to help my fellow *B and DLs?


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Dear Mikey,

You are one of our kindred spirits. For all the reasons you mentioned, those are the reasons this site was started. There are many sites out there but not all have the support and info people want. I also want to give you your kudos for being brave and telling your parents, great idea about getting the diapers as an allowance.
One great site builder is called Homestead.com. They have packages as low as $5 a month. It is a easy site to work with. It uses drag and drop, so if you are unfamiliar with html you can still create a decent looking page. A few suggestions. Decide what your goal is, set ground rules and limits, look at other sites and see what parts you like and dislike and use your version of the parts you like. Be sure you use no copyrighted items- we had a picture of a huggies diaper package and they threatened to sue if we didn't remove it. Also look into possible money making opps, for example Stanley sells AB crib and high chair plans that help pay for the site. You could consider charging for the site but we like having ours free so everyone can use it. We understand that not everyone has alot of income to throw around. If you have any questions contact Stanley (Stanley_19802@yahoo.com) directly and he can help you more. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrasses Mommy
Age: 37

Dear Mommy thank you for your advice on preventing my little boy from taking off his diaper. I have one question on that still. What's a good zipper onsie that I can purchase for him? For this next question I'm not sure how to ask it. I have to admit I didn't think I would run into this issue. With it being a hot summer I just dress him in a diaper, and tell him to go play. For the most part he's been good in just his diaper. Things were going too well week after week. Then one day things were a little too quiet. I found him once again naked in his room. To put it nicely he was exploring his body. I grabbed the paddle on his dresser, placed him carefully over my knee, and spanked until he was pleading me to stop. I then told him good boys don't do that. Not sure if I did the right thing? Should I discourage this with punishment? How can I prevent this from occurring? I need help. I just want him to go back to just pooping and peeing. Now I have to deal with all this toddler stuff, as well as the wetting and messing accidents. Please help me!!


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Dear Embarrassed mommy,

The saying boys will be boys comes to mind. Everyone explores their bodies. Explain that good boys and girls do it in private. You do not strip out of your clothes in the middle of the day. It's not appropriate. Spanking or a time out is sometimes warranted. I know of a few good companies that make onesie's but not with zippers. I will have to check on that for you. Good luck with the strip tease act!  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Stevie
Age: 63

Q:

I would like to wear a diaper and tee shirt outside. My wife would not approve. What do you think?


A:

Dear Stevie,

I would say do that only if you have an enclosed back yard. Being in public in only a tee shirt and diapers is considered lewd in some communities and frowned upon...by the police. So if you have a nice yard with a nice high fence then indulge away, otherwise do your modeling only in the privacy of your home.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ray
Age: 63

Q:

I enjoy wearing diapers and plastic pants. I'd like to be able to wet uncontrollable like a baby. How can I do this so I someday can reverse this when I want to remain dry? I really like the feel of diapers and plastic pants. I've also had the fetish of being breastfed. What can I do?
Ray


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Dear Ray,

You are in luck we have a program that teaches you to be incontinent but is totally reversible. The breast feeding though is up to you, you can contact our mommies and see if any of them in your area is willing to do that for you. The program link to start wetting is http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/12_Month_Diaper_ Training_Program_For_Becoming_incontinent.html  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Heffa
Age: 32

Q:

Is it common for incontinent people to use disposable baby diapers inside of their adult disposable diapers for soakers & if so does it work really well or not so? Thanks Heffa


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Dear Heffa,

They do in fact do that. The sad fact is that baby diapers are made so much better than those for adults. Why? I am clueless as to that answer. So the only obvious action on our part is to use the baby diaper inside our own as a soaker. Remember to always cut the slits through the plastic liner on the outside of the baby diaper to allow it to trickle through. All of the major brands are excellent as soaker and help increase the wear time of your own diaper. Try out a few brands and see which works best for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kennedy
Age: 15

Q:

Can holding in your pee for a long time eventually cause any form of incontinence? Also, if I go potty before bed and don't drink anything before bed for about an hour, I won't wet the bed. If I don't go potty, I'll wet the bed, even if I don't drink anything. Same with the other way around. So if I don't go potty and I drink some water before bed, I'll wet the bed for sure. So if I make sure I wet the bed every night, how long would it take to start wetting every night no matter what?


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Dear Kennedy,

What you are describing is pretty much re-training your mind/body to become incontinent. How long it takes is different or each person. Some only take a week, others up to a year. One word of caution, if you do this and become incontinent it will be full, I mean 24/7, you will not have daytime control either. Which would mean diapers all day, every day. Also holding in your pee can sometimes cause damage, to the bladder muscle and also contribute to a kidney infection. Nasty stuff. Think long and hard about doing anything that will cause you harm. We care about what happens to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Noah
Age: 13

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Dear Mommy,

I have been a DL all as long as I can remember, I was never able to wear diapers though, so I suffered without them. But when I was 11 my dad and step-mom (who is really nice) had a little baby girl. So now I am able to wear diapers sometimes, but I really want a mommy to do it for me.... Whether she's my age or older or even if its my own mommy! I also really want to meet a girl 11-14 that is also a DL, or even TBDL. Recently I have become a TBDL, and recently my urge for diapers has strengthened, I CANT STAND IT!


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Dear Noah,

You are not alone. There are many who feel the same as you do. I should tell you though most mommies online won't deal with anyone under 18 (it's a law thing). However if yo go on our friend finders listings you could find that girlfriend... at the very least a friend with the same likes and dislikes. Hang in there and stay strong. Remember you are not alone!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ste
Age: 17

Q:

Dear Sandra

I need some advice I am 17 and I live in the UK with my mum. I don't know why I want to wear a nappy now. A few weeks a go I was at my girlfriend's house. And well I seen a pack of Goodnites on the side so I tried one on. It was just for fun to see what it was like. Only I used it by accident. So then I decided to put a nappy on because they were next to them pullups. The only problem was she walked in on me when I was taping the nappy, she laughed her head off, after the laughter she started to treat me like a baby. IE, feeding me, clothing, and changing me like a proper baby for the whole weekend with her mum and 24 year old sister, her dad was away for the weekend. So this my is the biggest problem. I now have the urge to wear a pair of Goodnites and or a nappy all the time ie "when I go to the shops, hang out with mates and to bed". I can't stop thinking about what it was like. My girlfriend won't buy them for me she said "if you want me and my mum and sister to put you into nappies and treat you like a baby then you need to buy them." I can't buy them because I feel so embarrassed about what people would think if they seen me with them, I probably wouldn't mind going to the shops and buying them it's just the embarrassment. I can't ask my mum because well again it is embarrassing and she would tell the whole family would know but how can I tell her. Am I sick in the head or is it normal? I don't mind changing my self like. So can I please can I have some good advice. 


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Dear Ste,

If your girlfriend and her mother are really serious in their offer to change you and you really want that to happen, I would say for you to take them up on their offer. Actually you would be fortunate because most don't find anyone to do this with until quite a while later. As far as buying the diapers goes, use a store a little ways away from your home. And if anyone asks you can say they are for a younger brother, cousin etc. But I doubt anyone will ask. And to answer your question you are normal. So what if you like to wear diapers, some people like to get tattoos, others like to dress in only designer clothes....it's all just a expression of your own individuality. You hurt no one and you enjoy it so go for it I say. Would you tell a female she can't have a short hair style as she wants, of course not, so why should someone make you feel bad about wanting to wear a diaper. Most don't understand but like I said its all personal choice. So you are normal and have a great girlfriend. Live life and be happy. You only get one chance at it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Scotty
Age: 41/2

Q:

Dear mommy I have used diapers off and on for several years. I now find myself wanting them more and more. I have even started to double my diapers, feels even better. What I was wanting to know is my parents and girlfriend all know that I wear diapers. I want them to start changing me all the time. It's hard for me to change myself any more. My girlfriend is not good with this. She says I am a man not a baby. How do I get friends and family to start changing me and letting me be the baby that I want to be? Please help, thank you Baby Scotty.


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Dear Baby Scotty,

Unfortunately you can't make people do something they don't want to do. As much as you would like to share this with them if they are not into it- it won't happen. There are no magic words. All you can do is try to explain why you love it so much and why you wish them to join you. You might get a yes or continue getting no. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Pedro
Age: 19

Q:

I would like to know some place where I could get some cool baby tapes to baby up my diapers. And I would like some help to tell my parents and family about my liking for diapies.


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Dear Pedro,

You are in luck. We have our own diaper tape store with many different designs. The web address for that is: http://tapes.homestead.com/index.html We do also offer custom designs if you desire, we will create a design just for you. Give a description of what you want, and we make 2-3 designs based on what you said, and you choose the one you would like to go with. Our prices start at 8 regular size tapes (2 inches wide, 8 inches long) are $4.50. And 4 double thick tapes (4 inches wide, 8 inches long) are $4.50. As far as telling your parents goes, I always say the same thing. Are they understanding and open minded? If they are the chances are good, but if you know they aren't I would keep quiet about the whole ting. To gauge how they are you could say you read something interesting online about a person who liked to wear diapers, depending on their reactions it should give you an idea as to how they feel. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tom
Age: 49

Q:

I wear all in ones wet wear at night and going out. I act like a baby, drink baby formula. I don't know why I've been like this. My marriage ended because my x didn't like my way. I been like this for 49 years. please can you help me understand more? Thank You.


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Dear Tom,

There are a few basic reasons I've found why people like being a baby:
1) They are trying to get back something they had as a child- the security and love 
2) They are trying to get something they didn't have growing up- that same security and love 
3) Stress relief
4) Fetishism.

     I find most fit in the first two- who wouldn't want to be a baby? A baby is adored and loved and cherished, just for existing. A baby has no deadlines, no quotas, has no one to impress to get love and acceptance. A baby only has to be, to be perfectly loved. We only get that once in our lives. Why wouldn't we want that? There is nothing wrong with you, you just want what we all want...love.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kennedy
Age: 16

Q:

If I go 24/7 for a few weeks when I'm on vacation, will I start wetting the bed anymore than I already do? I'll wet the bed if I don't go to the bathroom right before bed and drink anything before bed. If either one of those things does not happen, I'll wet the bed for sure. Also, I have wet dreams like 5 times a year at max. So, without going to the bathroom before bed and drinking something before bed and going 24/7 for those few weeks, do you think I could possibly start wetting the bed anymore than I already do?


A:

Dear Kennedy,

There is always that possibility. Whenever you allow yourself to just go, you are basically telling your brain that it's okay to 'go'. No need to alert you and you will be sitting/laying there and all of a sudden 'whoosh'. How long this takes is different for each individual. I know of one individual who tried doing that, in one week he was incontinent day and night. He had only night wetting issues before and now he was 100% incontinent. So be careful on your time off- perhaps keeping some amount of control is better than having none.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tacobaby
Age: 20

Q:

What's the best way to tell your parents the truth about why I use diapers? They have caught me before but I've lied about it. I want them to know but I don't want to end up sitting on a couch talking to a doctor about why I do it. They think I'm crazy and weird.


A:

Dear Tacobaby,

You are in a tough spot. How can you tell them wen they already suspect? My advice would be to talk to someone you trust and they trust, a favorite aunt, grandparent, someone in authority. Explain to them how you feel, be clear and precise, get as much facts on the topic as you can and present it. Then ask if they will help you tell your parents. It can help if someone is there to plead on your behalf. Of course there is no guarantee that your parents will understand but it is an option. The other is to remain silent for now and wait for a better time. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 37

Q:

Mommy I just can't seem to grow up to escape having nightly accidents. My mommy tells me all little boys have accidents. My inner baby just won't let go. I never thought as adult I would still be stuck in diapers, or hear the sounds of plastic sheets on my bed. Sometimes it feels like an addiction, you just can't break free of. In any case since I'm stuck with my inner baby for now here's a question on the subject. First, I wear a disposable diaper to bed. When I wake in the morning I've had multiple accidents, but's it usually holds, though it does leak on occasions. Mommy doesn't change me until she wakes up. My night attire sometimes consist of a T-shirt that doesn't completely cover my diaper, and that's it. The shirt comes down to maybe the half way point of the diaper. Sometime I wake up before mommy at 7am. I usually go downstairs to watch T.V while I wait for mommy to wake up and change me. If I go to the kitchen for a drink I worry if my neighbors can see me. The back door windows don't offer a lot of privacy. Since my soiled diaper isn't completely covered would they mistake it for just white underwear or is a diaper more obvious? I think most people are not up at that time, but if they did catch a glance could they tell?


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

It is good that you wait until your mommy is up. There is nothing wrong with waiting downstairs. However if there is a question of privacy concerning that back door window, there are two options. One is to get a curtain but if you like the light coming in you can go to your nearest department store and purchase 'Contac' paper in a frosted design (about $5.00 per roll at Wal-mart). The frost is usually in a swirl or flowery design. Bottom line- light in, no one see in. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra