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Question Asked By: Judy
Age: 14

Q:

Hi Mummy.

I have been a bed wetter all my life. But my parents still makes me wear nappies 24/7 in case of accidents. They won't let me change myself and when I need a no.2 they would say that's what nappies are for. When my dad change me he would take his time wiping all over my nappy area and wrap a finger with a wipe and clean my insides, is that normal for a nappy change? Before putting my nappy on. My mum would keep me in short skirt for easy change when out and about. How can I ask my parents that I want to change myself or just to wear at night?


A:

Dear Judy,

I do believe you are old enough to be able to change yourself. Have you actually tried to sit down and talk to your parents about this? If you have and they still aren't listening there are a few things you can do. Talk to your doctor the next time you see him and see if he can intervene on your part and talk to them. Also due to your age is is inappropriate for your dad to still be changing you. Your mother-okay. Ask if you can have a trial run wearing just during the night and see if you can go the whole day with minimum accidents. Also you might want to point out that you are getting older and need to start being able to care for yourself, including diapering yourself if necessary. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andrew
Age: 19

Q:

Is it ok for a guy to wear a bra? What's your Opinion about guys who want to or wear bras.


A:

Dear Andrew,

As they say 'whatever floats your boat'. Go for it! If you want to wear a bra then wear one. You are hurting no one and making yourself feel good. Sounds like a win-win to me. Anyone who cares about you will want for you to be happy so strap up and smile.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jane Doe
Age: Unknown

Q:

How do I get my Mom to diaper me?


A:

Dear Jane Doe,

I have answered this question many times and I always say the same thing. If you know your parent to be open-minded and willing to listen then mention how you feel to them. If however you know them to be judgmental and close-minded, I would keep my feelings to myself. Since I don't know your mom I can't make a recommendation. I suggest you sit and think long and hard about what to do. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Fred
Age: 47

Q:

How can I unpotty train my bladder, and how long will it take? Can I unpotty train my bladder without unpotty training my bowels?


A:

Dear Fred,

I have a noninvasive method for un-potty training. It is safe and reversible. However I have to mention that once you unpotty train, you are completely unpotty trained. There is no way to separate the bladder and bowels. You will have no control in both. So you will have to think long and hard before you decide to proceed. Here is the program: http://www.deeker.com/Articles/twelve_month_
diaper_training_program.pdf. It says it is a 12 month program, but one of our members achieved incontinence in 2 weeks. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amy
Age: 31

Q:

I want to produce milk for my AB, how can I do that?


A:

Dear Amy,

There is only one way I know of for a woman to start making milk and that is to have delivered a baby. Once she is lactating as long as she is being suckled she can produce milk for awhile. Sorry but I don't know of a way to just start spontaneously. I do know of some AB mom's who put extracts (like vanilla) on their breasts to make it a more pleasant experience for the baby. Sorry I couldn't of been more help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Alex
Age: 15

Q:

What is the percentage of AB's DL's exc. I want know because I feel like no one in my country feels the way I do.


A:

Dear Alex,

No one knows for certain what that number is. There are many who are still in the closet about it. Most people just don't talk about it. I will tell you this though, you are not alone. There are perhaps some around you that you are unaware of. A member of ours who was 16 was looking for a friend who was also a AB/DL and to her surprise she found one.....in her school! They were classmates and never knew the other was AB. Who knew? All I am saying is you are not alone. If you ever need to speak with someone or need to vent- we are here. Stay positive and remember you are loved.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mark
Age: 40

Q:

Hi mommy,

I have been wearing diapers pretty much my entire life as I was late being potty trained and had accidents all the way up through junior high school, I now wear them 24/7 and have accepted it as part of me and am no longer ashamed at all. I wear disposable diapers only and have no desire to wear cloth. I love my disposable diapers. The way they feel, look, sound etc... I have researched diapers extensively and tried many many kinds and brands. My question for you is that women who are far more experienced in diapering toddler boys or baby boys must know of a proper way to diaper boys. At nite-time I sleep on my side and wet without even knowing I have wet. And no matter how absorbent the diaper and even sometimes with plastic pants over them for added protection. I leak. Or I should say my diaper leaks. Am I diapering myself correctly? should I be pointing my penis downwards into the crotch area of the diaper. How do mothers really diaper there boys at nite? Is it different than during the day? I am small in size so should I just diaper myself normally with my penis kinda up or to the side? Please tell me what I'm doing wrong. Thanks mommy, Mark.


A:

Dear Mark,

I am glad you are comfortable with who you are, that is very important. What is a diaper anyway- a covering around the butt....so are briefs, boxers or panties, it's all the same. I do have a few suggestions for you. First off- yes do point your penis downward. In a relaxed state if pointing upward to the top of the diaper with no resistance there, the stream can easily escape the diaper and soak the bed, same can happen at the leg holes. With no resistance the flow just slips on out. So point down. Second try using diaper doublers. They are simply diaper absorbency boosters. The cheapest and easiest way to get some is to purchase regular baby diapers open them out and cut slits all the way through them. Lay them inside your diaper before putting them on. The idea is when you go the flow hit the baby diaper first and whatever is left filters through the slits to your regular diaper. With half or more of the flow caught by the baby diaper, your diaper can better absorb what's left. Hope these suggestions help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 20

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I've been wondering for a long time how exactly I became a diaper lover and I came up with an idea how it might have happened and wanted to get your input on it. Anyway a little background story on me I was in diapers really late I don't think I even started potty training until I was two going on three and after that I was in diapers and pullups during the day until I was about 5. I still remember wearing them under my clothes at preschool even though I was day time trained then I still wore them for just in case. I wore pullups at night until I was 7 for bed wetting even. Anyway, the point is I was really comfortable in diapers and didn't want to give them up. Late at night I would even still use them when I just wore them at night because I preferred it to the toilet this is how comfortable I was in diapers. Anyway, I hear about parents who start potty training late about how their kids are comfortable in diapers and are harder to train. I guess my question is do you think there is something to that? Do you think most kids would be comfortable in diapers if they wear them late and do you think because I wore them for so long that I was comfortable in them and didn't want to give them up and because they were taken away that's why I like them now?


A:

Dear Todd,

It is possible that wearing has made you almost dependant on them. First off the latest diapers are great with the materials they use and when you wet, it's wicked away and no discomfort is felt. Also diapers remind you of when you were a baby and were cared for and loved just for being around. And for others the convenience, like you were saying about nigh time wearing, you just don't have to trek to the bathroom on a cold winter night. Whatever the reason it is very possible that wearing while young left an impression on you and a feeling you don't want to give up. Either way it's okay. Who are you hurting? No one. So diaper up and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joseph
Age: 13

Q:

I want to wear diapers forever, both day and night, but my parents don`t approve so I have to sneak diapers and diaper changing supplies from another baby in my house. Because I don`t have any money and don't plan on getting a job until I am sixteen and I am thirteen now. But I will be fourteen this year, also even if I did explain to my parents why I want to wear diapers forever they still would not approve. What am I to do?


A:

Dear Joseph,

You are in a difficult situation. With no money and your parents not approving it would be hard to get supplies. One way to get money without working a job is to collect bottles and cans and recycle them for the cash or do odd jobs and/or errands for cash. That brings you to where to hide the diapers. I know of one person who hid them in the hollow trunk of a tree in their backyard (in a plastic bag so no moisture could get it). Another hid them at a trusted friend's house. But there is always the risk of being found out by the parents. So your options are either to do the 'Mission Impossible' scene and hide everything or just wait until you are older and can get everything for yourself. Neither one is good but like I said you are in a tough spot. I hope all turns out okay for you. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Pester
Age: 15

Q:

Hi I have liked diapers for a while just not on me and I want my girlfriend to wear them. But I have no clue how to bring up the subject with her. I'm a 15 year old boy and she is 14. I don't want nothing sexual, I just want her to wear them. How should I bring the subject up that I want to see her in a diaper? I don't know her views on the subject and don't know how to bring it up in normal conversation. Please help me the best you can.

      -The Pest


A:

Dear Pester,

It is only natural that you would want your girlfriend to share in your love of diapers. One roundabout way of finding out how she feels is to test her in a way. You, in a casual conversation, say that you saw on the internet an article about teens who wear diapers for fun. Ask what she thinks about it. That should give you an idea of her views and perhaps if she is open to it you can then ask if she would be willing to try something like that. That should tell you definitely one way or the other if she would ever join you. I hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mathias
Age: 15

Q:

Dear "Mummy"

I'm a kid who loves diapers and even makes diapers out of towels to keep my desperation down. However now I got myself into some kind of mess. Spring break is coming up within some months and it's great. But after spring break I am going to a boarding school and I don't know what I should do with all my pacifiers I collected behind my parents back and all the other baby stuff. If I took it with me, it would probably be discovered. If I leave it at home I don't know if it will be discovered or not. And I wouldn't like to come home to get some talk about it, since I'm not an open minded person.

      -From Mathias


A:

Dear Mathias,

You only have a few choices. You can take them or leave them. Now if you leave them, is there someone you trust that perhaps you can leave a locked box with. I say a locked box just so they don't get curious and look in. If you have the only key it should be safe. Or perhaps a storage space. There are many storage spaces with different size boxes or containers that rent monthly. Option two- take it with you. Again take everything in a locked box. Even if you have a room mate at the boarding school with you having the only key, chances are your items should be safe.  Or you can place all the pacifiers in a Ziploc bag, place them in a Rubbermaid container and bury it in the back yard. With it in the container and the zip lock bag, they will be safe from bugs, dirt and moisture. There is one other option I forgot to mention and that is throwing everything away. If it is not there it can't be found. Think over all the options and see which one works better for you. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ashely
Age: 16

Q:

What's the best diaper for a kid that weighs 140 lbs other than depends. I'm to scared to buy them in stores. Oh and also I would like it to be a tape diapy not pull up. Well thanks. Now I got to go change my very wet and messy diaper. :)


A:

Dear Ashely,

There are many good diapers out there. If you live where there is a Walgreen's Pharmacy or a CVS, they have a good product. Another option is online ordering. Many companies offer a sample pack. You would receive 1 or 2 of each kind of product that company offers. When you find your match, order a full box. With home delivery there is no embarrassing trips to the store and no one needs to know. So check out our incontinent products page. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed & Mommy
Age: 32

Q:

Hi mommy I'm suppose to tell you I've been a bad little boy, and that I am not allowed to take my diaper off by myself when I'm in bed. I'm still a baby that needs diapers for many wetting, and pooping accidents. If I do not wear diapers I will mess my bed. Mommy knows best and will diaper and change me. I should only concern myself with pooping and going pee pee. Mommy will take care of the rest.

      Hi mommy I'm embarrassed's mommy.  I had him write this as a punishment. Right now I have him waiting in his room for me to finish this up. Will you help reinforce my punishment, and let him know he was wrong? I also plan to enforce this with a bare bottom spanking with the paddle. That will help him remember what I had him write.  He's old enough to handle this type of punishment since the other methods don't work. I hate to do this especially since he'll beg and plead with me when I remove his diaper. More so when he see's me take out the paddle. I just have to do it quick. Am I wrong for doing this? I also do not plan to potty train until he shows me he's not a baby and wants to learn. He still doesn't tell me when he wets or makes a bm. He just keeps playing. What do you think? Thank You


A:

Dear Embarrassed and Mommy,

A bond between a mommy and baby is special. A good mommy takes care of her little one and tries to teach them. If you don't listen to your mommy how will you learn? Of course there has to be moderate punishments. What you have described to me seem fair. Hopefully he will learn to listen and not have to be reprimanded. It is hard for us to punish but we do it in love, don't we? The both of you take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Eric
Age: 34

Q:

I live on my own and have been wetting more and more and now I am starting to poo at night when I am sleeping. I went to see a doc and can't find a thing wrong with me. What to I do?


A:

Dear Eric,

There are many reasons why we lose control. Anything from a disease/condition to everyday stress. You said you saw a doctor, was it a general practitioner? The reason I ask is you said you are now pooping as well. I would see a specialist, a urologist and see what their thoughts are. In the end though it could just be that you are under added stress and need a break in your routine. I wish you luck and take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Greg B
Age: 39

Q:

Hello Mommy. Where can I find a mistress mommy, dom daddy or both? What web sites? And I am looking to be a 24/7 live in sissy baby maid, servant, slave. So which web sites will help me do that?
THANK YOU Mommy.


A:

Dear Greg,

It is difficult to find that perfect mommy. You will have to do alot of searching. We have a mommy finder page that is a good start. Look for mommies near where you live. If you are willing to relocate look in the areas you would like to live. Ask the mommies you contact if they know of anyone else in that area. With some good intel you will find someone. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Patrick M
Age: 17

Q:

I am actually a TB/DL daddy and I just found a new baby girl. But I was wondering other than spankings and making her wear soaked diapers, what is a good punishment?


A:

Dear Patrick,

Another good punishment for naughty babies is no play time or having to go to bed early. No dessert or treats is also good. But be sure to not be too harsh with the spankings and don't have your little one in the diaper too long. A diaper rash is a burn and really hurts. So enjoy taking care of your 'baby'. You both take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brittany
Age: 20

Q:

OK I'm Brittany. I'm A twenty year old woman who is married to a baby fur. He has given me information on what he is but it keeps changing and getting worse. At first he said it was occasional, then it became all the time, then he developed a split personality named Benji who liked to act like a toddler and pitched severe temper tantrums. I got him to stop that by letting him know that I was ok with him acting like a baby sometimes as long as it was still him with his personality in all essences still my husband. Well things were OK for a while but now it's changing again. He told me he wanted to change for the sake of us and our new almost 16 month old daughter but gets mad when I bring up the subject. Now he is always on the computer with his Facebook or in baby mode and we never have any "us" time and that really hurts me. I don't mind the baby mode as long as there is a separation of the roles. I cant be mommy all the time. I need to be wife and just woman sometimes. I cannot feel OK with being intimate with him acting like a baby, I just can't. Can you please help me help him find a way to separate his roles of father husband and baby without blowing up at me and having a tantrum.


A:

Dear Brittany,

You do seem to have a problem. It is commendable that you are willing to let him have his baby side. Quite a few wives aren't so understanding. The two of you need to sit down and talk. Tell him what your feelings are and ask him what he feels about the situation. See if you can come to a meeting of the minds. I do have a suggestion. A friend of ours is married with children and also has his baby side. The agreement they reached was this. He is a normal adult male when the children are home and up. He has teenagers by the way. He has his baby time on the weekends after the kids are asleep and/or if they go for a sleepover. So basically his wife has her husband during the week, the kids have their Dad during the week and he has his baby time for himself on the weekends. Perhaps a arrangement like this would work for the two of you. Like I said sit down and talk honestly about things and I hope all turns out well. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amanda
Age: 15

Q:

I have a twin brother and we are both being confirmed on may 23. My brother has to wear a suit and tie and I have to wear a white dress, veil, tights and shoes. My parents are requiring me to wear a cloth diaper and plastic pants under my tights. I feel this is unfair and I don't want to wear them. What can I do?


A:

Dear Amanda,

Confirmation Day is very special. I know your parents only want to make sure the day is perfect for you. If you don't want to wear the diaper and plastic pants, suggest a compromise. Ask if you can wear another product like a pull-up or something similar to that. There is no noise and bulk to notice. I hope your special day is all you hope for and congratulations to you and your brother.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ty
Age: 13

Q:

Will I ever grow out of my diapers? I think not. They're so comfy and awesome to go to the bathroom in. I love filling them.


A:

Dear Ty,

Why do you need to grow out of them? They make you happy and you are hurting no one so....keep wearing. It is nice to have something that can relax you and make you feel good. And all with no side effects---yeah. Wear and smile real big for me!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 27

Q:

Mommy, I have been looking for a mommy for a long time already, still can't find a mommy to take care of me. How can I find one? I need a mommy. I feel little bit tired, but I still want it! Can mommy find a mommy for me near my place? Or mommy know got any mommy in Malaysia?


A:

Dear Paul,

It is difficult to find a mommy under the best of circumstances. To find one that has a connection is rare. We have a mommy finder on our main site and it is fairly large. We are adding new mommies all the time. I do not know of anyone personally that is in Malaysia. Perhaps in the future? Perhaps you can contact someone near you and see if they know of anyone. I wish I could help more but unfortunately we are on the other side of the world. I do wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joseph
Age: 29

Q:

Is it safe to eat only baby food and baby formula? If so much is recommended and how often I be changed. When are naps recommended and how long should they last?


A:

Dear Joseph,

It is okay to eat baby food but you would need additional adult food. Unless you have a medical condition you would need fresh fruits and veggies to keep your system up and running- so to speak. Formula is fine however do NOT use the iron enriched formula. It's fortified for a baby and not an adult and can sometimes cause harm to certain individuals. Diaper changes should be within 1 hour at the most of wetting (to prevent rash) or every 4-5 hours to be comfortable, unless you are using a Unique Wellness Brief or Molicare which can last longer. Naps are usually after lunch and are generally an hour. So I hope this info helps. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 14

Q:

I only get to wear diapers every now and then but when I do I buy the diapers at wal-mart from their diaper changing stations for a dollar. But it's kind of expensive and the leak pretty easily. And I have to adjust them with duct tape so they'll fit. Do you have any ideas on how to get more diapers cheaper but still secretly. (Nobody knows I like to wear them when I can get). Also when I go out of town to a store or something I like to let the back of the diaper sort of hang out of my pants and I put my hands in my pockets so people can see I am wearing a diaper. My parents or siblings have never noticed the diaper when I do this. I just really wanted to tell someone that I do that, because I like the thrill when someone see's my diaper and they start spazzing about a fourteen year old that's tall enough to be a junior in high school wearing a diaper. Anyway's that's it and thanks for your help.


A:

Dear Paul,

What you describe is common- you're wearing and you just have to let someone know. It's kind of like a secret you have and want to share. I do have a couple of suggestions about your diapers. One is to go to the store and buy a travel pack of diapers (usually convenience or dollar stores have them) It's a small pack of maybe 3 diapers meant for use by a parent who ran out of diapers while driving on a trip and so on. The other option is to save up, buy the regular pack, find a good hiding place and have diapers for awhile. This is of course a riskier option, you better have a good hiding place where no one will come across it. We have a newly added article about hiding diapers you can look over located at: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Getting_And_Hiding_Diapers.html  Hope these suggestions help, good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Tim
Age: 1

Q:

I was wondering if you have had anyone say that they want to be breasted by a female that does not have any milk and if they can still be breast feed or do they need to use formula?


A:

Dear Baby Tim,

There are some AB's that want the full baby experience which includes breast feeding. Only a woman who has recently given birth can breasted. And she needs to start breastfeeding right after the birth or her breasts will 'dry up'. Where she will no longer have the ability to make milk. I do know of some AB's who in place of milk still suckle but have their 'mommy' use vanilla extract on herself so the baby is getting some flavor. In place of all that, formula is okay to use in moderation and never iron enriched - it can be potentially harmful to an adult the percentages in it. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Scotty
Age: 14

Q:

How can I make a good easy reliable diaper that my family won't find out about?


A:

Dear Scotty,

If you can't afford to purchase diapers there are a few items in your home that will do well as material. I know of members who have used towels and old T-shirts. You will still have to buy a plastic brief to go over it to prevent leaking. But again I know of members who have used garbage bags with holes cut in for the legs temporarily till they could get the plastic pants. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra