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Question Asked By: Tom
Age: 21

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I wasn't daytime potty trained until I was 5 and I wet the bed so I wasn't even out of diapers until I was 7. I remember liking how cute and comfy they were and how convenient it was just to go in them instead of using the bathroom. Do you think I like wearing diapers now is because I wore them for so long? I wore them in the day until I was 5 and then I wore them at night until I was 7 do you think this is the reason I like to wear them now?


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Dear Tom,

You just might be right. Some wear for the comfort. Others for the sentimental factor, it takes them back to when they were a baby. And still others for practical reasons. Did you know that there are many truck drivers that wear diapers? They wear so they don't have to stop to use the restrooms....less time on each run means more runs in a given time equals more money. In your case I do believe you are probably on the right track and the convenience factor is your reason.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 20

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I was curious about a medical issue that affects me and you used to be a nurse right? I was wondering as a guy that wears diapers do you think this could be hazardous to the health of my testicles? I read somewhere that wearing diapers could be a detriment to testicular health in even little boys. Do you think it could be bad for boys of all ages to wear diapers because it could be harmful to their testicles?


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Dear Todd,

Alot of people are not aware of that fact. There is a health issue concerning wearing diapers and testicular health. Simply put the heat generated in the diaper damages the sperm being created. The easy fix is to 'air out'. Even if you need to wear 24/7, try to sit on an absorbent pad for at least an hour or more so that the genital area is exposed to a normal temperature. Do this as often as you can to maintain that health and you should be fine. If you can't go without diapers, it won't do permanent damage. When your ready to have children, you can go a few months without the diapers and your sperm should return to normal. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 21

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Mommy,

I am a AB/DL and I have researched several items on infantilism and what not. I live at home with my parents I have my own source of money to buy diapers. But knowing my parents they won't be very accepting of my love for diapers. I secretly wear and buy them on my own time and hide them from parents. I don't want to do anything that hurts me or them but is there any way I can like be subtle about it and see how they respond to see how accepting they be? Cause from my past experiences I don't think they'd take it well, and then I thought I could tell them and they send me to drs and stuff wouldn't be so bad. But that leads to my next question. If they accept it no harm no foul, but if they don't and the drs find nothing wrong and I end up in a psychiatrist (no clue on spelling). I'm afraid he/she would try change my mind. But I don't want to. So any ideas?


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Dear David,

You do have a dilemma there. However there is a way to do this without calling attention to yourself. One evening while you guys are just sitting around tell them you heard about something different and what were their thoughts on it. Tell them about people wearing diapers and only wearing because they like the way it feels. The feeling of safety and comfort, like they did when they were small. Even say they even did an episode on CSI about it (they did if you didn't already know that. The episode was called "King Baby". If you type King Baby into youtube.com there should be a clip about it to show them if you want). Anyway that should get the discussion going and then you'll know exactly how they feel about it. Then you can make an informed decision on whether to share the info that you like diapers with them. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michael
Age: 20

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Hi I want to know if you could tell me how to get a female ABDL to love me, but I don't know any ABDLs. So that's why I am asking. It's just it's hard wearing diapers on your own when you want a relationship and nobody likes you because you wear diapers, and I just want some one to love and get love back and feels the same way that I do. Thanks Michael.


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Dear Michael,

There are never any guarantees in life. We all look to find that special someone. A happy few get lucky and find the one for them. Who you connect with is a matter of chemistry. I can't find a person for you and I can't make someone love you. I can however suggest that you go to our penpal and/or looking for ABDL's section on our main site. You can make a post and maybe just maybe you might make that special connection. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 17

Q:

What is the best diaper?


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Dear Jordan,

The best diaper for you depends on what your particular needs are. Do you need absorbency or long wear etc. If you want my opinion Uniquebriefs are excellent. Another good brand is Molicare. You can order them on our Absorbent Products Page on the main site. If your looking for a thicker more AB style diaper you can check out Bambino's. Stay dry!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James Clark
Age: 46

Q:

Where can I find super thick and noisy diapers that are completely obvious even under clothes.


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Dear James,

All you need to do is visit our incontinence products page and order away. Find a brand you like and if need be double up on the diaper. Two suggestions is the Uniquebriefs or Bambino's. Both are thick and able to hold alot. Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 15

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Dear mommy

I was talking to one of my moms friends on facebook. I told her that I was studying for my written test for driving. She said 'no you're not young man! you are too young to drive. you are only a year and a half old." It sort of shocked me that she said I was still a baby. What should I do about this?


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Dear Jordan,

The first thing you need to do is find out if this friend was kidding. She might of been playing a joke. If not then you need to tell your Mom. Her memory loss could possibly be a sign for quite a few medical problems and should be checked out. Talk to your Mom about it. I hope all turns out okay.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 18

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Dear mommy,

I have been doing extensive research and yet I can't seem to find any information. See I really like Thick diapers, the thicker the better for me. And I've seen some videos of girls in diapers and I am not that knowledgeable about the diaper scene, though I have been into it for a while. My question is what kinds of diapers do they use in these videos? They look so thick and I'm hoping I can get my hands on some. I know this is an odd question but I have no where else to turn to. Thank you for your time,

-Chris


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Dear Chris,

There are never any questions that are odd. If you would like an answer to a question it is never wrong to try to find an answer. I don't know which videos you were watching but I do know something about diapers. Whether you use cloth or disposables- it is simply bulking up. With a cloth diaper use 2-3 or more diapers folded in thirds to bulk up the middle and make the diaper thicker. For disposables you take a baby diaper and cut slits through it and lay it in the middle of your diaper again you have added bulk to the diaper. Another suggestion would be to pick up a pack of toddler size cloth diapers and fold 2-4 cloth diapers folded in 3rd's and that will give you pretty good bulk. Both ways add more absorbency to the diaper and a longer wear time. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bailey
Age: 12

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I am a 12 year old girl, and I wet the bed. But the thing is that my parents don't know. Sometimes I put a lot of toilet paper in my underwear and pee my pants... on purpose. I would love to go in diapers for the fun and baby like feeling. But I am embarrassed to tell anybody. My parents don't know I wet the bed because I put toilet paper in my underwear at night. I stopped wetting the bed recently I stopped wetting the bed. But I want to have diapers. So 2 nights ago I woke up at 3 in the morning and I needed to go to the bathroom. (I don't wet the bed anymore) and I thought it would be a good reason to get diapers so I was awake and peed in my bed. My parents saw in the morning and so later that day I asked if I could have a diaper in case it happened again. She said it was a one time thing so I woke up this morning, it was time to wake up but I heard my parents talking in bed about to get up, so I tried to pee in my bed. I did, my mom came in and saw me with soaked sheets so she changed them and said give it another night, so 2 hours ago I walked by and wet my pants on purpose, but now my body is going in my pants a lot today by accident because of that one time going in my pants. My parents have gone out to get me diapers, but now it is by accident and is no fun. what do I do?


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Dear Bailey,

You have discovered the danger in peeing the way you did--- you have un-potty trained yourself. By letting yourself pee all those times your mind learned that it doesn't have to let you know when it has to go anymore, so it doesn't give you that warning it just goes. The only way to get in control again is to potty train yourself. Go to the bathroom every time you need to go. Don't use the diaper, use the toilet. In time your mind will relearn to warn you. Starting and stopping your pee while you go helps to also strengthen your bladder muscles. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joe
Age: 25

Q:

How do I tell my parents about my passion for wearing and using diapers.


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Dear Joe,

It is usually not a good idea to tell your parents about your diapers. However you are well over 18 but you should still think long and hard on this. It's not something you can unsay. If they are not open-minded they could not understand and cut you out of their lives (worst case) or if receptive ask you to give them more info (best case). Either way it is your decision. If you decide to go ahead to tell them get as much information as you can to present a coherent and factual presentation. God luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brian
Age: 14

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I have liked diapers for as long as I can remember and would love to be babied by someone. I was just wondering how can I tell my mom when I was 8 I peed my pants on purpose a few times and mom diapered me till I was 10. But now I want to be diapered again but I'm afraid my mom will think I'm weird or I'll get spanked. Please help me


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Dear Brian,

I am not sure telling your mom about peeing on purpose is a good idea. She might get angry and you don't want that. But from what happened it should give you a clue to a possible solution. If you want her to diaper you again then apparently you need to be wetting. Just a thought.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 24

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Dear Mommy,

I have been looking into buying a diaper pail, but feel a little daunted by all the choices and prices. If I were to buy a diaper pail intended for baby diapers (like the Diaper Genie), will the adult-sized diapers fit into it? Also, should I be using a changing pad when I change my diapers? If so, are there inexpensive products available? Thank you.


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Dear Chris,

You can use a baby diaper pail. However the overall size is small and you would be emptying it often. Another option you could try is to purchase a locking top pail or garbage can. Whether you wear cloth or disposable the garbage pail can work. One I like is the pails that you can use regular 13 gallon trash bags in. Trash bags are much cheaper than to buy diaper genie refills. They sell for around $10. I would recommend using a changing pad as well. It is always a good idea. Just to have a soft surface on which to change and powder can be priceless. They can be purchased from $15 and up. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Robby
Age: 23

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I am a liight wetter and do not need a heavy diaper. Where can I get super large cloth training pants like I had as kid.     


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Dear Robby,

We have a fairly large listing of companies that provide incontinence products. You might also want to check out the AB/DL Links page as some sites will custom make you what your looking for. Forever A Kid makes alot of nice things.You can check out the page and see if anyone has them. There are some companies that will sew an item to your specs. Happy hunting.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Eric
Age: 30

Q:

Mommy I want to be dressed and treated like a baby girl. How do I get my adult mommy to do that?


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Dear Eric,

If you want something all you need to do is ask. I suggest you sit down with your AB mommy and have a talk. If you ask nicely and explain all your reasons she just go along with it. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 19

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Dear mommy question is about a comfort level I guess. I have gotten a diaper put on by my girlfriend and was comfortable and happy with it a while ago, we haven't talked about me wearing for a while because I'm a bit embarrassed sometimes that I'm still secretly wearing at 19 years old, and she thought it was more of a "problem" I have tried mentioning the topic before and am having a hard time convincing her I like to wear diapers and get changed she kind of ignores that topic. Do you have any advice for me or ideas how I could get her more comfortable with the idea again?


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Dear Chris,

It is difficult when in a relationship to involve the other person. What you can do is to gather as much info as you can about why you like wearing. Have a question and answer talk- let her voice her concerns and let her know that it is important to you and if it is something she could get into. Maybe she'll say yes and maybe no. Be accepting either way. Honesty in a relationship is important. I must caution you though, sometimes when told the other party will not be supportive and will leave. It is a risk but any relationship has its risks. So think long and hard on it before saying a thing. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matthew
Age: 14

Q:

Where would I get really thick diapers that strap on, not pull up. I live with my parents so it can't be mailed and I live in Gladwin, Michigan USA


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Dear Matthew,

To get the diapers you are talking about you would most likely have to order them. My suggestion is this. Have a trusted friend or relative act as the address destination for the delivery. This way your parents would never need to know. You could of course try checking the local stores near you and see if they have anything close to what you are looking for. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Ben
Age: 14

Q:

There is someone in my school who always makes fun of me because I wear diapers and I want revenge what do I do?


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Dear Ben,

As hurtful as the teasing can be, getting revenge is not the answer. It makes you as bad as they are and you are better than them. Let them keep talking. Of course there is the old solution of the next time they tease you- you say to them "Well I can stop wearing anytime I want, you can't change the ugly on your face without surgery!" Okay it's lame but funny. Stay strong, we are with you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ben
Age: 14

Q:

Someone is picking on me at school cause I wear diapers what do I do? Ps I love y'all so much!!!!


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Dear Ben,

You are in a tough spot. If you tell someone at school the other kids could pick on you more because you told on them. Have you discussed this with your parents? Perhaps you could wear a pull-up at school with briefs over them to cut down firstly on the sound and secondly if the back of your pants slip down all they would see is the band of the underwear. It might be enough to stop the teasing. The other option is to stick up for yourself, you are doing nothing wrong after all. Everyone has problems, some are obvious to others and some are hidden. In any case stay strong and know that you are perfect the way you are.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 20

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I've been a DL since toddler-hood as I've said in other questions I was a late potty trainer and because of being in diapers for long enough to know that I was in them and I liked them is the reason why I'm a DL. Anyway someday I want to get married and have children of my own. Which brings me to my next question, how do I find the right woman for me that would accept me  for who I am as a DL and understand my feelings and desires? If I also had my choice I would marry a girl that already was a DL. How do I find either a woman that will accept me for who I am or a woman that is a DL herself?


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Dear Todd,

Unfortunately there isn't a perfect match site anywhere that I know of. All you can do is what the rest of us do- trial and error. If you meet someone who is special you'll know. When you get to a point in the relationship when things are getting serious then the two of you will sit down and have a talk. If she really loves you, she'll listen and understand. If she leaves then your relationship wouldn't have made it through the first serious hurdle. I know it's hard to put yourself out like that but to find true love it's worth it. A good place to start to look would be in our friend finder section. At the very least you'll know the one you're talking to is DL aware. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steven
Age: 15

Q:

Where are the best adult baby sitters in nitro, WV?


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Dear Steven,

We have a mommy finder list on our main site. It is a good place to start your search. If your town is not listed look for the nearest town to you. Contact one of the mommies from there and inquire as to whether they know of anyone in your area. They are usually happy to give referrals. I do have to tell you though- most mommies/babysitters won't work with anyone under 18. You have to be of legal age, if not and your parents find out, that sitters could end up in a big legal mess. So you might have to wait for a little while. In the mean time we are here for you if you need to talk. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaperboy77
Ask: 15

Q:

Dear Mommy, I have a mattress protector on my bed, if I wet do I have to wash the bed or can I let it air dry. I wet it once a month and doesn't get moldy thank you.


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Dear Diaperboy,

It is great to have a mattress protector on the bed if you wet. The purpose of it is to take the wetting so all you have to wash is the protector and not ruin the bed. If you have only light drops you could most probably do it with your regular weekly wash. If you are a heavy wetter and the pad gets soaked I would launder every time it gets soaked. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Zachary
Age: 17

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Why am I an AB/DL? My parents are very nice so there not the reason, I think the reason is because I was bullied all through middle school. Could that be the reason?


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Dear Zachary,

They have been looking for that answer for a while now. Why? Who knows. I do have a personal opinion on it. I have met quite a few AB/DL's and I have for the most part liked all of them. To me being AB is just a way of holding onto something we had when we were a child- love, comfort and security. Today's world is harsh and to have a little retreat to go to is priceless. For some it is to revisit that innocent time in our lives when all we had to do, is exist to be loved and adored. Who wouldn't want that? You might be correct when you talk about the bullying- maybe that did spark the flame that made you want that comfort and security back. Bottom line is though- does it really matter why. If you enjoy it- continue doing it, you are hurting no one and actually helping keep your psyche on an even keel by doing so. So diaper up and know that you are special. And that someone's cares about you, just because you are...

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John Doe
Age: ??

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Hello I've just found this site and when I saw the you could ask for advice and stuff I wondered if you could help me out. I'm a teen living at home and I can't seem to get diapers. I want to try either ordering them and shipping them to another address or maybe try wetting the bed. I used to and my parents made me wear goodnites. I wonder if that would work, also I can't drive so I have to order or get my parents to purchase them.


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Dear John Doe,

You don't say how old you are. Do you have any money of your own? Is it possible for you to get a job? Perhaps you could do odd chores and jobs for cash. I know of one young man who in spring and summer offered to mow grass, fall he offered to rake leaves and in the winter to shovel snow. He surprisingly made quite a bit of money. Just an example. If you have a bicycle you could go to the store and purchase something saying it's for your grandparent (good cover story) or if you have a trusted friend or relative have them order it for you. Put your mind to work and consider some of the things you could do to get diapers. Maybe one of my tips might help. Good luck to ya and I hope to hear from you again.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 17

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Dear Mommy, Hi it's me Kendra and I have written you several times for myself and my real mom's questions. I hope you are well and my mom say's hello. I have always pretty much been in diapers and when I was 13 was honest with my mom and told her I wanted to still be in them. she was and is loving and understanding and has totally accepted that diapers are part of my life and she continues to change me. although I have never in my life worn cloth diapers she would like me to cuz of cost issues of disposable diapers for teens these day's. my question is I wear youth attends and plastic panties that seem to be perfect and hold alot of my wetting. I have seen some cloth diapers on the net that they call 9 layer cloth diapers and I know nothing about that. do you think that one of these 9 layer cloth diapers and plastic panties would hold more multiple wettings then my current disposables with plastic panties before leaking? besides I adore the crinkly sound of my disposables when I walk around the house etc... please help. Love Kendra


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Dear Kendra,

I am glad to hear you are doing well. We're doing okay over here and thanks to your Mom for her caring. The 9-layer diaper should do well. You can try them. If they are not 100% effective enough you could try using 'diaper stuffers' or boosters. What these are is simply a regular baby cloth diaper folded in thirds and put in the middle of your diaper for extra absorbency or boost. You can use as many as needed to get the level of protection you are seeking. Those and your plastic pants should do fine. Since you love the sound of the crinkle, why not keep some of the old diapers around and wear them as a special treat or pick-me-up when you need it. Hope all stays well with you, till next time take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Courtney
Age: 16

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Dear Mommy, I'm a 16 year-old girl, I been wetting the bed at night for as long as I can remember. I really want to stop before I move out for college. I tried to stop drinking before bed but that didn't help. Some morning I wake-up dry and other (mostly) I wake up completely wet. I been on med's for it before, and tried waking up every 2hrs none of that helped. I tried wearing diapers and I loved wearing them just not going to the bathroom in them. How can I stop wetting the bed? 
-hugs-


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Dear Courtney,

I am not sure exactly what your reason is for wetting at night. You could be a heavy sleeper and just sleep through the alerts that your body gives you. If that is the case you might want to try a wetting alarm. Yup, it wakes you if you wet and can be useful in gaining control. I don't know if it'll help but there is a program designed to help 're-potty-train' people, it might help. Since you mentioned med's I am assuming you have gone to a doctor for this, what was the doctor's opinion? I am sending you the link to the program you could try it. Let me know how it goes for you. Take care. The link is http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/files/Free_Bedwetting_Program.pdf

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Etienne
Age: 13

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Hey, I was wondering if you could help me make a site about AB's DL's and sissies so that they can share tips and tricks please help me. =)


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Dear Etienne,

It is very admirable that you would like to help others. That is why we have this website. I have to be honest with you though. running this site is very time consuming and somewhat expensive. To have your own site you would need a site builder and a server and someone to design the layout of it. Also once built you need to have it monitored 24/7, are you ready for all of that responsibility? I would suggest this, get a notebook and write down all your ideas. Keep adding the ideas as they come to you. When you are older and have a little money to play around with, open that notebook and put all your dreams into reality. I am not saying give up on your dream, only put it on hold till you can do it right. You are awesome by the way.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kaylea
Age: 13

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See, since I'm 13 I can't have anyone get me diapers, but I want too. I'm really afraid about asking my mom ( there is no way I can get diapers without her knowing) and she's really open minded and stuff, I just don't want anyone else to know. (family) I have been thinking about wetting(or trying too) the bed but I'm scared what should I do?


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Dear Kaylea,

Do you have any money of your own? If not you could try doing some odd jobs around for cash. Perhaps offer to grocery shop for an elderly neighbor, pet sit, cut grass, help clean an attic or basement and of course babysitting. Go to a store in the next town (so you won't be recognized) or order online and have it delivered somewhere else (a good friend, trusted relative). There are alot of options. Also you said your Mom is pretty open, gather your facts and sit her down and tell her in detail why you would like to wear diapers, maybe she'll be okay with it and maybe not. Do this only after you have given it much thought and if there is any doubt in your mind- keep it to yourself. I hope some of these have given you ideas. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra