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Question Asked By: joshua hennen

Q:
       is this a normal behavior to be into at my age. the wearing of the diapers brings me back to being a kid again. i want to ask how much fun is it to have someone treat you like a baby. like do the people change the person put them down for nappies in a adult crib treat them like babies in public. just want to find out what i am missing out on. thanks bye for now. your baby joshua hennen


A:

       Hello joshua,

      There is nothing wrong with it. It's not hurting anyone. You can look for babysitters that do AB's. If you like it then you know where to go. A babysitter runs normally between $50.00 - $1,000.00 per hour depending on who you use and what they have to offer. Ask alot of questions and make sure they cover what you want, and make it knowen exactly what you are looking for. We wish you all the luck.

  -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Alex

Q:

        I asked a question about becoming night time incontient, and you couldnt help. Now if i used a Catheter what would that do for me and what health risk are there, as well as a mild duritec they sell for dieting and stuff and is there strong ones?


A:

        Hello Alex,

        We don't recommend using any medications or other forceful means to make yourself wet or mess. You can cause serious damage that cannot be reversed. If you really want to wet, all you can do is do as we suggested. Drink alot of water right before bed. If you are into the hipnosis, you can try that road. We don't want you to do something that will make you diaper dependant for life. Hope that helps you.

   -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: alex 

Q:
       what is the thickest diaper made and what happens if i hold my urine when my bladder hurts for such a long time will my body void it self?


A:

       Hello Alex,

       The best disposable diaper is Eurobriefs or you can try molicare. As far as holding it till you can't hold it no more, bladder damage or bladder infection and kidney damage can happen, if you withhold your urine long enough it can release poison into your blood stream which can cause death. Best idea we have heard around is to everytime you have the smallest amount of urine, to just pee it out right away. Hope that helps. 

    -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: neil

Q:
        my quedtinon is how do u punish urself if u made a poppy or pissed in ur diaper?


A:

       Hello neil,

       Could spank yourself with a wooden spoon or wooden hairbrush and spank yourself 2 times hard on each side of the butt. But this could cause problems with your sitting for about 2 days. Spanking yourself 2 times on each side of the butt hard is the extream. But we advise you to instead sit in your wet or poopy diaper for two hours, but no longer. If you have diaper rash go to the store and buy Balmex diaper rash cream. Hope that helps.

  -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Daniel

Q:
      I was wondering what a good way was to tell my Grandmother i wanted her to put me back into diapers. I used to make diapers and her and my mom would find them and sent me to a therapist. Is there anyway or anything i could say to her so that she would allow me or put me back into diapers? They know i want to wear and use them but i need a good way for her to just put me back into or maybe even treet me as a full blown baby. Im 16 she isnt to to old. ANd i dont want her to tell my mom and i feel that just asking to be diapered wont work. Thanks alot


A:

    Hello Daniel,

    There is no way we can see for you to do that. We feel based on your parents reaction we don't think you should share this desire with them. We think you should wait till you are 18 and can do what you want without asking your mom first. Keep comming to the site message board and Ask Mommy. We are happy to give you what ever support we can. We are sorry we could not help more.

    -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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dillon wood

Q:
        i want to wear diapers and pull-ups at home


A:

        Hello dillon,

        You mention you wear day and night and that someone changes you, but you are asking how to wear diapers at home. We don't understand why you would need help if you are already wearing both day and night.

       If your not wearing day and night already, then there isn't anything we can do at this time. You will have to wait till you are 18 and able to make your own choices. We are sorry we could not help more.

     -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Laura

Q:
         I'm not sure if I'm asking the right people, but I don't know what to do. I'm in a bad situation and need advice. I was just sentenced to 30 days in jail for a mistake I made a while ago. I have a 2 year old son now and my husband says he won't eat or hardly sleep. I know he's stressed because I'm not home. I do have work release and I have my husband bring him up on lunch, but I need to know what my husband could do to help relieve some of the stress he has due to me not being home now? I know it'll pass, but it kills me to see him like this. Should I not see him until I get out or is 1/2 hour a day better for him? Please help. I know he's hurting and I want to help. But for this short amount of time, my hands are tied. Please help me.


A:

        Hello Laura,

        It could be that he is under stress from you not being home, or it could be him being with you and then having to leave you. It's really hard to say. Maybe try once a week. Your son is at the age to have seperation anxiety. It might be better for once a week. This way he does not have to deal with seeing you and leaving you every day. We relize it will be hard for you and your husband. But with you knowing it's only 30 days and not longer you will be able to be with your son again soon. We are sorry we could not help more. If you wish, feel free to write us back. Take care. We will be praying for you.

   -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: gary

Q:
        Yes i need help finding a good diaper. i been wearing diapers since i was 17. the brand ive chose has been leaking please help me. also i got real bad diaper rash can you help me and the person who diapers me thanks gary


A:

        Hello gary,

        The best disposable diaper that we know of is Eurobriefs. Next to that is Molicare. For the diaper rash we recommend using Balmex. Use it to clear up the rash, Then use it 2-3 after the diaper rash. Use cornstartch baby powder to keep your skin dry. If you see the rash come back use the Balmex again.

     -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Q:
        Are there stores that sell adult size cloth diapers and plastic pants? The prices charged on-line for adult size cloth diapers seem high and I would like to find something more affordable. I live near Dallas, Texas and hope you can suggest a store in my area. Thanks for all the help and support you are providing big babies like me! Baby Stevie


A:

      Hello Baby Stevie,

      The only places we know of are online. You can try www.diaperstation.com or type in "adult cloth diapers" in yahoo search engine. Just have to shop around. We wish you the best of luck, sorry we could not help more.

     -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lee D. Hales

Q:
         I was wondering if you keep wearing diapers if it will make you loose control of your bladder?


A:

         Hello Lee,

         No, wearing diapers will not make you loose control.

    -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: JOEY

Q:
       I have been in diapers for a long time. I wet them only. My crabby wife doen not really approve on them but put up with them. I have a desire of having a mommy or female to take care of me and change me and take care of me. It is hard to find someone to do this or even talk to on the computer. I do get so lonely at times cause i cant find any one to take care of me. baby joey


A:

        Hello JOEY,

        You can go to www.babycareservices.com and look under Mommy's and Babysitters. There are numbers, websites and locations for people around the world. We hope that helps, sorry we could not help more.

    -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: DAVID One

Q:
       hi mommy im 17yr old boy who doesnot wear diapers,but i do on occassion like to mess and wet myself as badly as i can. My mom gets mad at and says i know better...and there is no excuse for this. Unfortunately she wont change me,but she is constantly checking me to make sure i havent messed,my question is if you were a mother in this situation how would you handle it


A:

       Hello DAVID,

       We would make your clean yourself up. Wash out your clothes and take a shower. Basically you would be responcible for cleaning up your own poopy pants. Most AB mommy's would charge $50.00 or higher. So you can imagine no one likes to clean it up. Hope that helps.

   -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: clement leo

Q:
        its it common for adults to wear diapes and plastic pants,and to love wearing plastic pants,I feel good at night if am wearing my plastic pants is this normal thank you plastic pants lover


A:

       Hello clement,

       There is nothing wrong with it. It's more common than you think. Live long and pamper!

     -Mommy Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Al

Q:

     How can i lose contience permantly please help me out. thanks, al


A:

     Hello Al,

     We strongly recommend you making yourself incont. And we will not tell you any idea's to do that. The only suggestion we will give you is to just wear diapers 24/7 and just use them when you feel the need to go. Over time you will lose control. That's the safest way.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jared

Q:

        I wet the bed still and i use a plastic sheet. im am wondering if i should switch to dipaers? i hate washing my sheets all the time.i never wet during the day. and wut kind of diapers should i use? i am 120 pounds. i dont wet alot only enough to get my boxers wet and a little bit on the sheets like half a large glass.


A:

       Hello Jared,

       I recommend using Goodnites XL. They fit up to 125lbs and should hold the 14oz you say you are putting out. The depends overnites might be ok to use. That should help you. If not please e-mail back and I will try to suggest some other products. Please keep us posted on your progress. Take care.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: deanna

Q:

        how do you get balmex out of someones hair


A:

       Hello deanna,

       All I can suggest is to keep washing your hair with shampoo repeatedly over the next few days. Hope that helps.

     -Sandra

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Question Asked By: mike

Q:

     do you Know how i can overcome my diaper obsesion? i have been a bed wetter tell the age of 19 and have had urges to wear diapers after that for 4 years tell my wife and i decided to try and go into the diapers and see what happens i do not want to stay in diaper but i dont want the urges to wear them like i had befor.


A:

     Hello mike,

     Maybe look into seeing a therapist if stopping is really what you want. Or you can try this, every saturday night for example wear a diaper and the rest of the week don't touch them. See how that works out. I hope that helps.

    -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Jeff

Q:

      Since I do not have a mommy to nurse me; which brand of infant formula is closet in taste to real breast milk ? I use a bottle, but only with juice or real cows milk. Thank you, Baby jeff


A:

      Hello Baby Jeff,

      All I can say is just try a few brands. Everyone likes different kinds. Some people can't stand it at all, and have to add things to it. But best idea is to just try the ready to serve formula and try them out and see which one suits you. But stay away fromt he ones with iron in it. It will make you real sick.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bobby

Q:

        what are the effects of my anus from to much anal sex?


A:

       Hello Bobby,

       The effects of too much anal sex is as fallows:

1) Redened area, very sore - use a cool compress or ice pack

2) Possible tearing of the anus and bleeding - go to ER if there is alot of blood

3) if you experience pain that last for more than 24 hours go to the
   doctor to make sure you didn't damage yourself.

        Hope that helps.

      -Sandra

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Question Asked By: shawn

Q:

      Could a AB mommy feed me a breastmilk and change my diapers.


A:

     Hello shawn,

     If you can find a mommy that does that you can. And it's rare to find a AB mommy that is still producing milk. Best advice is to just post messages about what you are looking for. I wish you all the luck in your search.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Destyni

Q:

        Hi I'm Destyni's mother for the last 3 months she has started wetting her pants. When asked why she said she was to busy playing or or didn't want to go. She has a younger brother at her fathers, he's 4 months old. Frist she started it there, but now she did it at home. What do I do?


A:

      Hello Destyni,

      I would recommend setting up and appointment with a child therapist. Try not to force the issue at the moment. She might be doing it to gain your attention. Or she could have a medical/mental problem that the therapist would be able to tell you more about. But my advice is to take her to her doctor and have a check up, and set up an appointment to see a therapist. Hope this helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tara S


Q:

         Hi mummy i am just wondering what is an easy way to wet my self with out pressuring myself, what products can i use. are molicare good nappies? i live in australia and i cant find adult pacifiers???


A:

      Hello Tara S,

      Molicare is a good diaper yes. You can also try  Eurobriefs. You can get them at:

http://secure.uniquebrief.com/index.htm

      As far as wetting yourself, just drink plenty of water. That will do the trick. And the pacifires, I am not sure where to get them in the UK. Sorry.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mark Venable

Q:

well what can i say i dont have much of a happy ablife lol adult life is tirning out to be pretty desont but being AB is something id love to exsplor but havent had much luck finding anything lol wwwaaaaaaaaahhh lol :) i know i woul dbe one of them happy goofy baby's if given a good mommy but do i ever seam to beable to find one NOOOO but part of that is in my mind i guess is my mother that i seam to be liveing with right now she dosent get the AB stuff she asumes that just cuz you have an AB tendinsy in privet that you cant be liveing on your owne and like live a normle life in publek.... now from talking to other AB/DL like me i have lurned that to be totle and uter BS lol alot of Enishling goin gon here i know but yeah and that proves one other point of mine it is not always true that all AB's are Egg head retardow not to put it in a mean way or anything but i think you get the point... but if whoever reads this has any ideas as to how i can saulve this little delemma i have then please feel free to get ahold of me and if you want you can also reach me at 000-000-0000 or at home at 000-000-0000 but please refer to me as Mark if you call my house cuz well my mom dosent aprove of me and my AB stuff and well i dont need to hear her BS the whole night lol

A:

Hello Mark,

     The best advice I can give would be to move out of your moms place and find a place of your own where you can explore being AB. Be it with friends, another family member or a complete place of your own. Because you might want your mom's thinking to change, you can't change her way of thinking. Just have to work around it. Hope that helps.

    -Sandra

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Q:

i want to were diapers to school what should i do please e mail me at achiilesmatthew@yahoo.com. ASAP PLEASE

A:

Hello Mathew,

     The best idea for wearing diapers to school, if you really want to would be using goodnites. One they can be passed off as being underwear, they are quiet, and they are as close to diapers at school as you can get without hearing the crinkling of the diaper. Hope that helps.

     -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ron Rae

Q:

im looking for a girlfriend who wants someone like me but lives in Quincy massachusetts

A:

Hello,

     I ran across a site called "www.DiaperMates.com". But I belive you need to be 18 years old first. That's all we can think of to suggest at this time. Hope that helps.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: BILL

Q:

HI MOMMY, JUST WONDERING HOW MANY DIAPERS A DAY IS NORMAL,LIKE TODAY IN 7 1/2 HOURS I WENT THROUGH 4 DIAPERS. AND I WAS ALSO WONDERING WHAT YOU RECCOMEND AS FAR AS BABY FOOD,OR OTHER BABY FOOD PRODUCTS,SUCH AS CEREAL, JUICE, SNACKS,FORMULA,NOT WITH IRON. THANKS FOR YOUR TIME. BILL

A:

Hello Bill,

     In a 24 hour day a adult uses between 12-15 if you are diaper dependant. Try stage 2 gerber baby food. Those are good stage. Can also try Table Time type baby food. Cereals you have to try a few to find the one that works for you, but of course stay away from the iron ones. Juice is pretty much anything. Hope that helps.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mello

Q:

I'm trying to look into cloth diapers, but fo rthe most part their incredibly expensive. I'd just like to know if yuo can recomend any sites that decent cloth diapers at a fairly reasonable price. Also, what kind would you recomend (ex. Standard, pre-folded, countoured, etc.)

A:

Hello Mello,

     We recommend trying Diaper Connection or Diaper Station. We recommend using the contoured. It's very straight forward. You mention you only wear at night, so do use at least 8 layers or more for good night time protection. Hope that helps.

    -Sandra

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Question Asked By: matthew fox

Q:

im go on trip in 2 month and what know if i should wear diaper on the trip because the pills I take for medical problem make use bathroom a lot I use the bathroom about i would said every 10 or 15 min

A:

Hello matthew fox,

     For trips we recommend using the Eurobriefs. You can find the site which has a free sample you can order and try out. The site is located at:
http://secure.uniquebrief.com/index.htm

     Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anthony

Q:

i am wanting to know if you can tell me on where i can buy a crib and an adult car seat from and i always wet the bed at night

A:

Hello Anthony,

     If you want to buy a crib, we suggest going to www.bedwettingabdl.com and going to our affiliate links and then click on "Baby Apparels". They sell many AB furnature's. Or you can check out the crib plans sold on the site. Hope that helps.

    -Sandra.

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Question Asked By: Jack

Q:

I am middle aged, & have permanent incontinence due to nerve injury. I recently saw a therapist (LCSW), to discuss my feelings about incontinence (and being an AB/DL). I am somewhat reluctant to really get into all of my AB/DL feelings, since I had to sign a contract, with the mental health company; which included giving them authority to lock me up in a mental institution, if they feel that I would harm myself or anyone else (this is a standard contract, which all clients must sign, in order to see a therapist). I am somewhat afraid that they might decide/intrepret my feelings, as being possibly harmful to myself; and lock me up, against my will. I do have masochistic AB/DL feelings, involving my incontinence, & wearing cloth diapers & plastic pants. I do enjoy having friends "accidentally" discover that I wear diapers & plastic panties; & have dressed as a "baby" @ Haloween parties, & volunteered several times to be the "New Years' Baby" @ New Years' parties. Thus, all of my friends have seen me wearing nothing but a diaper & plastic panties (although most do not know that I am really incontinent, & wear them all the time). How far can I go, in revealing to my therapist, my AB/DL feelings, without risking being locked up against my will, in a mental hospital?

A:

Hello Jack,

     It really depends on the therapist. In this case, we recommend you not mentioning it. They can see AB/DL as being mental ill and have you locked up till they "cure" the feelings. So it would be a good idea not to share that with the therapist. If you feel like you need to talk about it Jack, you are free to post on the message board, or join in the Pen Pal's program. That way you can talk about it without being in fear of being locked up. Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack

Q:

I RECENTLY MOVED, & THUS OBTAINED A NEW PERSONAL CARE PHYSICIAN (DOCTOR); WHO IS FEMALE (I AM MALE); AS I CANNOT DISCUSS MY INCONTINENCE WITH A MALE OR MY AB/DL FEELINGS, )WHICH I CONFIDED TO HER, A FEW MONTHS AGO). TODAY, I WENT IN FOR AN EXAM & REMOVED MY TROUSERS, SINCE SHE NEEDED TO LOOK @ A SPOT ON MY SKIN (WHICH COULD HAVE BEEN PRECANCEROUS). I WAS SITTING ON HER EXAM TABLE, WEARING NOTHING BUT MY CLOTH DIAPER & PLASTIC PANTIES (& A PAIR OF SOCKS). I ENJOYED THIS, AS AN AB/DL EXPERIENCE; BUT ALSO HAD A LEGITIMATE NEED FOR WEARING ONLY MY CLOTH DIAPER & PLASTIC PANTIES. MY QUESTION IS: DO YOU THINK I SHOULD HAVE INSTEAD WORN A REGULAR PAIR OF UNDERWARE, WHILE @ MY DOCTOR'S APPT (TAKING A CHANCE OF WETTING IT IT); INSTEAD OF MY CLOTH DIAPER & PLASTIC PANTIES (SO AS TO NOT HAVE HER SEE ME WEARING THEM - SHE ALREADY KNEW THAT I WEAR CLOTH DIAPERS & PLASTIC PANTIES)?

A:

Hello Jack,

     We see no reason why you should not wear the diapers in front of your doctor. She should have been very professional with you about it, which I am sure she was. I am sure she has seen many people (adults) in diaper before and is used to seeing it. So the answer to your question would be no, the diaper was fine to wear.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Robert Vasquez

Q:

When do i tell my mom i am a TB and when should i start to really wear diaper instead for fake ones?????????????

A:

Hello Robert Vasquez,

     Unless you have no choice, I would recommend keeping it on the down low till you are at least 18. Many parents have punished their children for being AB/DL. Making them wear diapers to school, making them wear nothing but a diaper while at home. Just real mean things to make them never want to wear a diaper again. So best advice would be to just wait. As far as diapers, it's up to you when you decide to wear them. But do be careful about getting caught. Like I said, it can be very bad.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: austin patrick svedsen

Q:

will you be my mommy love from your teenager sissy baby austin

A:

Hello austin patrick,
    
     No, sorry. I don't take on any AB/TB/DL's. Sorry.

    -Sandra

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Question Asked By: bob

Q:

i like 2 think about diapers.and i want to wear them. i used to wear my little couins,i would take them when no 1 was looking.wat should i do?

A:

Hello Bob,
    
If diapers is really what you want. I would say do some odd jobs and save up for a package of diapers and buy some. Just make sure you hide them well. Explaining why you have them is pretty hard to do.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: joel

Q:

all the stuff up there is bull i dont wet the bed but is wanting to were a diaper at 14 a bad thing ?

A:

Hello joel,

     If it makes you happy and comfortable then no, it's not a bad thing. Millions of people of all ages wear diapers for different reasons. Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris

Q:

Hi momma, I love diapers and i have wanted to wet the bed for a long time. I want to be diapered by my girlfriend and changed by her. also i want to get her into diapers too, how do i do this?

A:

Hello Chris,

     As far as getting diapered and changed by your girlfriend, I would wait on that for a few years. Many kids that age don't understand the want to wear diapers. And you don't want to lose her as a girlfriend with this right now. Try telling her later when she is older and more understanding.

    As far as getting her into diaper too, this probably won't happen. It sounds like what you need to do is find a girlfriend that is also AB and likes diapers as much as you do. Trying to force someone who isn't into diapers to wear them just does not work. Sorry we could not help more.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jake

Q:

Hi. is it normal to enjoy peeing my pants and bed?

A:

Hello Jake,

     If it's something you enjoy doing, then yea it's normal. There are many people out there who wet their bed because they like to. So yea, I would say it's normal.

  -Sandra
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