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Question Asked By: Bobby
Age: 13

Q:

Dear mummy

My mum caught me stealing so she decided to diaper punish me. So that night before bed she spanked me hard and then diapered me up with cloth diapers and rubber pants before she left the room. I was told not to get out of bed or to touch my diaper. In the morning I was wet when she came in, I apologies about the stealing but it fell on deaf ears. She said I will be like this until so. Its been a while now and am still diapered. So how do I tell mum?


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Dear bobby,

I am not sure what your question was. If you are asking how to tell her you don't want to wear diapers anymore, here's what you can do. Sit down and have a talk with her. Tell her again that you are so sorry about the stealing and have learned your lesson. Ask if you can stop the diaper punishment. Hopefully she'll listen and will stop. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By:  Allen
Age: 17

Q:

First of all I don't like to be referred to as a baby of any kind. I am a teenager or a young adult with a problem and part of my problem is being referred to as a baby and treated like one. I am 17, well, 18 in March. And yes I wet my bed and have daytime accidents as well. The biggest problem I have is that my mother will let me change myself during the day while at school. I wear pull-ups which I change myself most of the time. The school's policy is this is to be done by the nurse. But my nurse is pretty cool and understands me being embarrassed by her changing me. Sometimes I usually do it by myself. About once a week she will tell me she has to examine me to be sure I don't have any rashes and stuff like that. She gives me a pretty good going over and put's some cream on me. The only time she actually changes me is if I had a bowel movement accidents. Sometimes once or twice in a year, but at school I am under their rules and stuff I don't get. When I am at home, I'm not allowed to change myself. When I get home I have to wear cloth diapers and plastic pants. I can wear regular clothes over them but I say at my age as long as I can I should be allowed to change myself. Tired of all baby stuff. Please, any suggestions.


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Dear Allen,

I do agree with you at 17 you should be able to take care of yourself. Perhaps you can talk with your parents. Tell them that you are getting older and will be on your own soon - whether you leave to go to college or to just get your own place- and that they need to let you start taking responsibility for your own care. By not arguing and trying to hold an adult conversation they will respond more favorably. I do wish you well. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Holly
Age: 14

Q:

Hi mummy.

As I have a wetting problems and wear diapers I can't wear normal undies, so my question is when I have my time of the month I don't need to worry about sanitary pads and stuff as I have a diaper on. Do other girls do the same thing as me that wears diapers who has, or not have a wetting problems and use it for this purpose?


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Dear Holly,

It is a matter of personal preference. There are two trains of thought. For most it is convenient just to keep the diaper on and let it 'do the job' and just change at the regular time. However there are women who have a very heavy flow and to have to change a diaper every 2-3 hours can get expensive. They actually use a sanitary pad inside of their diaper. The diaper can do its job as normal and she can change the sanitary pad as often as necessary. Pads are alot cheaper than diapers. So I would say depending on how heavy your flow is will most likely determine how you handle that time of month. I hope this helped some.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Vicky
Age: 14

Q:

Hi mummy.

When I was 10 years old my mum caught me trying on some diapers and then she is started diaper punishing me. It all started when I was getting ready for bed and putting a diaper on when she comes walks in, She screamed what the heck you doing with that diaper and I said I just wanted to try one on, she says in that case let me help you with it and from now on you will be wearing diapers and you will not touch it or you will get spanked until I say so, So she put the first one on then cut slits in it and gets a second one on. She says I don't want the baby to have any leaks when she wets it. From then on I was doubled diapered every where I go, my clothes was child like, small short dresses just enough to cover my diapers butt. She makes me carry my own diaper bag so I can get changed when I needed it. every time she checks my diapers she pulls up my skirt/dress and sticks a hand down to check if it's wet or not and when people sees me they starts laughing at me. At home I would be changed in to a doubled cloth diaper and plastic panties and a T-shirt. So it's 4 years now how do I tell my mum to stop the punishment?


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Dear Vicky,

I am sure your mother only wants the best for you. I do not know what gave her the idea that diapering is a good form of punishment. Have you stopped the behavior that started all of this? If you have then there is no reason for punishment.  I would talk to her and say that you no longer do what the punishment was for and can she stop it. See if you can work it out. Now I am going to tell you something that your mother is probably not aware of- what she is doing is illegal and falls under the abuse category. I hesitate telling you but I cannot let anyone continue being abused. In your mother's defense she is like I said probably not aware of the fact that this practice is against the law. And was desperate for a way to discipline you and someone told her about it. Please talk to your mother and see if the two of you can come to a mutual agreement. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaperboy
Age: 15

Q:

Dear mommy,

I always wear make shift diapers without my parents knowing. I also wet them at night then throw them under my bed to dry. I want to stop wearing and I'll stop for a week but then I just try it on. After I have it on, I can't hold back and I wet in it. My question is how can I stop wearing diapers if it's just so much fun? Thank You!!!!!!


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Dear Diaperboy,

It sounds to me that you like to wear diapers. If you are hurting no one, then why can't you keep wearing? If you are determined to stop, all you need to do is just stop and not do that try-on maneuver. If you don't put them on you won't have that urge to use them. So you need to decide if you really want to stop or continue wearing. The ball is in your court as they say. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Maci
Age: 33

Q:

I need nanny


A:

Dear Maci,

We have a 'Find a mommy/daddy' section on our main site. It is a good starting place to find someone. Look at the area close to where you live and see if any are there. If not, go to the next closest and contact one of the nannies and see if they know of anyone near you. Once you have a few names, contact them and see if the magic happens! Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matthew
Age: Unknown

Q:

Ummm, well I like to sneak diapers and I am 12. What should I do?


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Dear Matthew,

It can be hard to keep liking diapers a secret. We understand and you can come and talk to us about it whenever you want. You ask me what you should do, I am not sure exactly what you want to know. There are ways to get diapers and hide them. The best time to wear diapers is when you know no one will be home. It might seem wrong sometimes to keep hiding but the sad fact is most people don't understand the desire. In truth you are hurting no one by wanting to wear a diaper, so why not? If you have any specific questions just ask. We're here. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tom
Age: 15

Q:

Mommy, I didn't know who else to ask this but lately for the last week every time that I've had to pee it has hurt really badly. I do wear diapers sometimes and I do go pee and go poop in them. What do you think I have and how could have this happened to me?


A:

Dear Tom,

Unfortunately it sounds like you may have an infection. You need to see a doctor before it gets any worse. The possible causes are numerous. Since you wear diapers, it could be you need to be more careful in cleaning yourself. Or if you were in a soiled diaper for too long some of the feces could of gotten into your system. And that is just to name a few. I hope all goes well for you but please try and see a doctor soon. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd Adler
Age: 20

Q:

I think I'm a DL because even though I wasn't completely potty trained until I was 4-5 and I wet the bed until I was like 6 I think I wasn't mentally ready to be out of diapers. I liked wearing diapers as a toddler and I have many great memories that I cherish from my toddler years of me in a diaper. I remember like a week after I stopped wearing pullups I asked my mom if she would buy me more pullups. She didn't say no but she never bought them for me. And now I think I'm a DL and in my mind I don't think I've left diapers behind in my mind. I still like to wear them. My question is do you agree with me and what would have you done if you were in my mom's role? If I told you when I was 4-5 that I still wanted to wear diapers. Would you have still let me wear them at home and at times and places where I didn't have to wear regular big boy underwear?


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Dear Todd,

I am inclined to agree with you. I do think that your diapers as a toddler did offer you a feeling of comfort and safety. Who wouldn't want that feeling to continue? What would I have done in your Mom's place? I probably would of let you wear at home if you wanted. Even so your Mom did what was right in her situation. You are now an adult and are reasonably adjusted. So just be who you are and be happy. We only get to go 'round this life once.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embrasses Mommy
Age: 38

Q:

Hello Mommy! Thank you for  helping all our little ones find their way in the world. I'm a mommy myself, and have an AB/DL little boy. I just put him down for a nap, so I have a little me time. :) I think he wrote you about a spanking he received from me a few days back. I've had to resort to bare bottom spankings since time outs are no longer working.  I think he's old enough for them now. I even bought a paddle which I would hate to use on him, but the mere suggestion will get him to settle down. However, if he is reading this I won't hesitate to use it! In any case I felt I needed to justify his spanking. I had a friend come over with her cute baby girl. We told them to stay in the living room while the mommies talked in the other room. They were playing nicely when we left. As we talked about all kinds of subjects we noticed it got too quiet in the other room. We went upstairs, and found them in his nursery with Alicia's wet Diaper in his hand. First, he himself needs his diaper changed by me, and here he was trying to change another babies diaper. I was thankful it was just wet, but what if she made a BM. That could have ended up a mess to clean up. Secondly, he's a boy changing a girl. I don't need to tell you the issue. The third strike is he left the living when I told him to stay in the living room. I lost it, and grabbed him by his elbow and took off his diaper, laid it across my lap (sometimes he has accident when spanked), and took my hand to his back side. As I rediapered him I apologized to my friend Jen for his behavior, and told him he's not old enough to change a babies diaper especially since I still change him. He was real quiet while I changed him, I think he was embarrassed a little because of his exposure in front of visitors, but it  teaches him a lesson. I didn't blame Jen for leaving after that, but we agreed to be more watchful next time. Well I need to get a few things done before I wake him up, and change him. Thanks for backing me up. Us Mommies need to stick together, but do you think I was to harsh on my little one?


A:

Dear Embarrass mommy,

It is as you said, he should not of tried to change that diaper. He should of done as I suggested- tell you or the other mom. He did need to be disciplined. It does not sound like you went too far, a smack or two can fix a whole lot. Just continue to be a loving mom and you'll do fine.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Loves to suckle
Age: 13

Q:

Dear mommy,

Is it possible to make a homemade pacifier? If so, how can I do so?


A:

Dear Loves to suckle,

I don't know of any homemade way to make a pacifier. The closest that I can think of is to use a bottle nipple, block the back of it off (to prevent gas) and enjoy. You might just have to purchase one. Or do what my youngest did and just suck her fingers.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Doyle
Age: 38

Q:

Ok I have a question on how long does it take for a adult baby to drink baby's milk to where he or she can with stand the tease of it and how long does the baby to with stand a spanking where he or she doesn't kick or jump around on the parent that is doing the spanking?


A:

Dear Doyle,

Everyone drinks at a different rate, some guzzle down and others sip. If you don't like the taste of the formula, why drink it? Perhaps have a bottle of apple juice or chocolate milk. As to the spanking- I raised 3 kids and did not use spanking. I see no reason to use it. Why should a person get used to a spanking? And it is a natural response to jump around and try to avoid the punishment. Maybe find another way to discipline? I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 36

Q:

Is it ok to get a bottle and baby milk? I want my wife to baby me, is it ok to ask her? I have been in diapers all my life, is there a diapers for adults with baby prints on them. I wish they had baby diapers to fit adults.


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Dear Tim,

It is okay to have a bottle with milk, just be sure that it is NOT iron enriched formula. The iron content is too high for adults and can cause possible health issues. I know of one AB who loves a bottle with apple juice at bedtime- so enjoy your bottle just be aware and safe. As far as your wife goes you know her, so only you can answer if she would be agreeable to babying you. At present there are no adult diapers with baby prints however we sell diaper tapes. Baby designs that you can put across the front of your diaper for that baby look. We have designs from ducks to blocks to jump rope skipping bunnies! Check out our store and see if one tickles your fancy. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaperking
Age: 14

Q:

Hi I have a little bit of a problem. I'm 14 and I want to wear diapers ..I know its weird but they are so soft and warm to sit in. But I'm scared to tell my mom cause I'm scared she'll think of me less. Should I purposely wet the bed so I can wear them? My brothers diapers are to small for me and I have been wanting to wear diapers for years now but I'm potty trained and I don't wet the bed can you help me? Please help ! :(


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Dear Diaperking,

I would like to say first off wanting to wear a diaper is not weird. You would be surprised how many celebrities wear one. Who wouldn't want to feel soft and comfy? Just like you said. I see nothing wrong with that. so you are okay- got it! Now wetting your bed is not the best way to get diapers. I suggest trying to wear when no one is home. I know it will be only once in a while but at least you would be getting some diaper time. On the days when you know everyone will be gone for a while put them on and enjoy. Be sure to dispose of them in a separate garbage bag- you don't need Mom saying where did this diaper come from when she empties the trash. So find your time and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaperking
Age: 14

Q:

I AM CRAVEING TO wear diapers for years now ! I just wanna wear them to bed and for the night, but my parents can't know I'm wearing them cause I didn't tell them and I'm not sure how to. What am I going to do? I always wanted to wear goodnites briefs, they look so soft and warm. How can I cope with this?


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Dear Diaperking,

I am assuming you are able to purchase the Goodnites on your own. Once you have done so, you need a plan of action. Do your parents go out overnight? Perhaps stay out late? On the days when you are certain they will be gone for a few hours you could try wearing your goodnites. If you are able to spend time at grandma's, perhaps that would be a great time to wear as well. Of course providing Grandma doesn't check you, which most wouldn't because of your age. You just go to bed and put them on and dispose of them before you go to breakfast. Hope some of these help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Slightly Worried
Age: Unknown

Q:

I have been a "secret" ab/dl for a good 10 years. My parents have known about me and have raised hell every time I was "caught". I soon moved in with my sister and she says that while I can be padded there ARE health risks (other than diaper rash). What are the risks that are possible and how do we prevent them?


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Dear Slightly worried,

You can relax. There are no diseases or illnesses that are related to diaper wearing. Of course you need to change often and be sure to clean thoroughly. The only other issue would be your testicular health. As a rule if you wear diaper 24/7 the warmth inside the diaper could lower your sperm count. That would only be an issue if you were trying to father a child. And to reverse this whole thing all you need to do is to 'air' out. It goes without saying that this is a 'might happen' situation, it only occurs in extreme situations. So calm yourself and relax, you're just fine.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaperboy
Age: 20

Q:

Hello Mommy.

I have two questions about diaper rash: First, how do I prevent diaper rash? Is it just by changing often after I wet or mess in my diaper? Or should I be using cream/lotion with each change?

Second, what is the best way to cure diaper rash? I have tried using creams and lotions, but I don't like to use them, because it makes it harder to clean up when I change. Is there a way to cure diaper rash without messy creams/lotions?

Thank you.


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Dear Diaperboy,

The most important thing with diapers is to change often. Wash thoroughly and dry well. Creams/powder are optional but can be of benefit to keeping your skin healthy. When using creams use a little bit and rub in well. There should be nothing to clean up if rubbed in enough. Use creams as a barrier against the acid in the urine ( the acid is what causes the diaper rash). Once a rash is present, you need to take a different approach. We recommend Balmex. It is a good product and should give relief within 24 hours. Again rub in well. It is also good for other skin conditions like bug bites and other skin irritations. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brian
Age: 23

Q:

First, I have an issue. I have had a rash for a few months and can't seem to get rid of it so I need tips on that. Second I need advice on what to look for as far as diapers, because all of the store brands of adult/teen are too big and leak. I am 5'10 and 90 something pounds if that helps. Third what is the best way to find a AB mommy or daddy? Thank you and I hope to hear from you soon.


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Dear Brian,

It is possible that you have more than just a diaper rash. You could have a yeast infection that would require medication to get rid of. You might need to see a doctor and make sure. There are many diapers on the market. Which one is right for you? Depends on your needs. Some are more absorbent, others have gathers on the legs to keep 'things' in. and the list goes on. You might want to try contacting some of the online companies and ordering a sampler pack. You can try their brands and see which one is the best for you. We also have a mommy finder. Start with anyone near your home and ask for referrals. When you 'connect' with the right mommy you will know. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Mark
Age: 36

Q:

Mommy, my wife makes me put on an adult diaper to go to bed. I wet the bed and she is sick of me soaking her every night. She told me it turns her on when I wet myself when I'm cuddled up to her. She can feel the wet hot pee filling the diaper. She even changes me like a baby. Now she has started to make me suckle on her breast. Yesterday she told me "you have been a good boy for mommy and deserve a treat" She let me sleep without a diaper on but I had to put a adult baby
grow outfit on with a space for my genitalia to go into a catheter like apparatus. She has always been a good wife throughout our 10 year marriage but I'm worried about her sudden fetish. I don't like it when she tells me she is my mommy and master. She gets all angry and violent if I don't do as she says.


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Dear Mark,

As it is in any marriage, there has to be mutual cooperation. If your wife's fetish is starting to bother or concern you, you need to sit down and have a serious talk. During this talk establish guidelines. Let her know what you are comfortable with and what makes you uncomfortable. Likewise find out exactly what it is she wants. What are her desires. Only an open discussion can resolve this. I hope all goes well for the both of you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Matt
Age: 28

Q:

How can I ask my partner to change my diaper?


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Dear Baby Matt,

In a relationship you need to have open communication. As long as you and your partner can openly discuss things you can agree on where and what you want in the relationship. So my advice is to sit down and voice your desires. If they say no, see if there is a compromise point that you can both agree on. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Connor
Age: 14

Q:

Hi, Sometimes at night, I start to wee, but then I wake up suddenly, so I try to stop myself weeing, afterwards, there is a small patch of wee on my PJ's. I also like wearing diapers. How can I tell my mum about my bedwetting and get her to allow me to wear diapers at night.
Thanks


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Dear Connor,

Honesty is the best policy. I would be honest and just tell your Mom that you are wetting and can she take you to a doctor. When you see the doc, ask him if you should wear protection at night. Your Mom would have to let you wear if the doctor says so.  ;) I hope all goes well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Connor
Age: 14

Q:

Hi,

Recently I have been having wet dreams, and it is annoying when it gets on my PJ's. Do you think I should wear diapers or goodnites for them?
Thanks


A:

Dear Connor,

This happens quite often to teenage boys. Wearing a diaper is a good solution to the situation. So if you are comfortable by all means wear one.

-Hugs Sandra