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Question Asked By: Betty
Age: 16

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Hi my name is Betty I go to a all girls school , we wear red sweaters and skirts above the knees. One day I wore 2 of my favorite panties with a panty liner inside them and since I didn't poop for about 2 days I wanted to poop my panties on my way to school. As I walked I started pooping as more and more came out I lost total control and I started wetting and pooping even more. I was nervous and aroused, then I sat at a bus stop area. It smeared all over my bum and privates. I just decided to go home and clean up. Now if you can tell me, where can I buy some diapers and plastic panties for teens. I am petite in size and wear size 6 or 7 in panties. Thanks.


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Dear Betty,

I think going home and cleaning up was a smart move on your part. It can get messy at times. If you go too long with messy pants/diapers you can get a rash. We have quite a few sites that sell diapers and plastic pants in all sizes. Or you can go to your pharmacy/chemist and purchase some. If the store you go to sells Goodnites or Underjams bed wetting underwear they should do the job. Depending on the absorbency there is always a product that will fit your needs. With the online sites you can purchase a sampler pack, that give you a full sampling of that companies products. Test drive each one, so to speak, and see which works the best for you. However to order online you need a credit card. Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Ron
Age: 35

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I am looking for a mommie in bullhead city, who I can visit. She must wear the nurse uniform and sometimes dress as mommie. I want to be changed, bathed and bottle fed and sometimes breast fed. I really like the medical side of being an ABDL. Please help me find someone thanks.


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Dear Baby Ron,

There are quite a few AB/DL's who enjoy the medical side as well so you are in good company. It might be a little difficult to find a mommy that fits all your criteria. All you can do is search. Go to our Mommy Finder, Can search the Mommy looking for babies listings on the message board and can make a listing of your own for babies looking for a mommy and see if there is anyone in your area. Search nearby cities as well. You can contact those mommies and perhaps get a referral to someone who is not listed. It might take a while but anything good is worth the wait. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jak
Age: 16

Q:

I live in Louisiana. How can I find a mommy who will change me, feed me, and spank me if there is no one in Louisiana who does it.


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Dear Jak,

We have a Mommy Finder on our main site that might be of help. If there is no one listed for Louisiana you will have to do some searching. You could perhaps see who is the nearest mommy to you, contact them and ask if they know of anyone in your area. You could also put a request on "Babies looking for mommies/daddies" section and see if you get any responses. And then search through the listing for "Mommy/daddy looking for babies". There usually are people in your area, you only need to connect. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 36

Q:

Dear Mommy I woke up before my mommy did, and figured to write to you while I wait to be changed. So far it's just a wet diaper. Mommy will be happy about that, an easy clean-up morning, But then again depends on when she comes in to change me. Being a toddler at times has it's draw backs some times. My mommy set up a play date for me with another baby. We played for while the mommies talked. At some point I noticed my play date wet herself so I took her to my room to change her. Just when I got her diaper off the mommies walked in. I tried to explain, but my mommy was furious. She took my diaper off and spanked me in front of the other mommy and my play date. She told me I'm not old enough to change anybody, especially since I still need help being changed myself. Mommy I don't think I did anything wrong, I see how mommy changes me and figure I can do it to another baby? What did I do wrong to deserve a bare bottom spanking in front of strangers.


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Dear Embarrassed,

It is not appropriate for babies to change each other. Even if you knew how to, the right thing would of been to tell your mommy or your play date's mommy she was wet. Did you deserve a bare bottom spanking? That is a question only your mommy can answer. All mommies discipline their babies differently. Your mommy thought a spanking was the thing to do in this case. Like it or not she is the final authority. So the thing to do is to ask her what you can and can't do to avoid any more spankings in the future. We all just want a safe and happy toddler. You be good and take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Allen
Age: 31

Q:

Dear Mommy,

My name is Allen and I love to wear diapers and wet in them. I recently told my fiance about this and she thought it was cute, which surprised me. She loves to see me in diapers and tells me I am cute in them. We have talked about her putting me in diapers and changing me when I am wet and she said that was a good idea, but there is a problem. She has not been doing it. I have been doing it by myself. The only thing she will do is take it off me, but want change me. I have talked to her about this and she said she was fine with it. I think she don't know what to really do and I have tried to tell her but need some help from someone who has experience. Please help me. She has never put diapers on a baby or anyone before. Could that be the problem. Hope you can help.


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Dear Allen,

That could be the problem. To never have changed a diaper and the first one is for an adult...intimidating to say the least. Tell her to relax there is no right or wrong way only trial and error. Of course the first step is to remove the old diaper, clean the area thoroughly. Next step is to have you pick up your hips so she can slide in a new opened up diaper (be sure the tapes are in the back if using disposables), then lotion and/or powder as desired. Then bring the back tabs/sides to the front and fasten. Be sure to make it snug, while you are laying down your hips spread and once you stand back up if it is fastened too loosely your ankles will have the benefit of wearing the diaper! (happened to me my first time) As with anything practice makes perfect. Keep trying, you might even come up with your own way of doing things. And the added bonus is being partners you can make it REALLY fun- hey just a suggestion. Take care and I hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Etienne
Age: 12

Q:

Hey I tried being a sissy and I loved it. But I have 2 questions about it. First I need a make-up lesson, and second I want to be a sissy and a baby. Help please.


A:

Dear Etienne,

There are mommies out there who will baby sissies. All you can do is look and see if there is anyone in your area. I actually use to do makeovers for sissy babies. Your mommy will probably will know of someone if she doesn't do it herself. Some of the mommies who do sissies also have sissy baby classes, you will have to do some checking around. Good luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kittn
Age: 18

Q:

I am 18 and recently moved out of my parents in with my boyfriend. I had one job for a few months then nothing. When I get stressed or depressed I revert to my mental age of 4 but lately I have been going into deep depression and in my mental age all the time...It's annoying my boyfriend who knows about my AB and is sometimes my Daddy when he isn't pressing for me to be his mommy....When ever money issues or anything major comes up I kinda just go hide and cry with my stuffed lambie...My question is...How do I "Grow up" ?
Kittn


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Dear Kittn,

There is no timetable for growing up. Some people mature at a young age due to circumstances. Others it takes a while. What you need is to find a stress reliever other than the ABism. You need to take an active role in finding solutions to whatever the problems are and stop ignoring them. At the very least your boyfriend won't be annoyed. And if the two of you work together to find answers your relationship will strengthen. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Larry Swetnam
Age: 51

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First of all, let me give you some context. I am not an AB/DL. I wear diapers to deal with my wetting problem, day and night. It is either that or risk wet pants or wet bed sheets. I have endured wet pants accidents in public and I don't want that anymore! Consequently, I wear cloth diapers and plastic vinyl pants when I feel it is necessary. I don't particularly want to, but it is better than the alternative.

     My urine, I have been told by a reliable RN, has a high-acid content. Consequently, it sometimes has an unpleasant odor. When I get up in the morning, I typically shower along with rinsing out my wet diapers and soaking my plastic pants in the sink with anti-bacterial soap. Sometimes, this doesn't always eliminate the odor remaining on the vinyl.

      Finally, my question is: What can I do to help eliminate that odor? I've tried baby powder but it only covers it up. I've tried Febreze but I am reluctant because my skin is sensitive and I don't want any more chemicals on it.

      Believe me, this is a legitimate question! Only recently have I gathered up the courage to ask for help on this subject. You know the ol' male ego! So, thank you for reading my blurb. Answer when you can. It will be greatly appreciated! Plus, I hope a kindred spirit can learn from this!


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Dear Larry,

This is a common problem among diaper users. You are not alone. A few options: they sell incontinence products that help cut down on the odor (add to wash water), also try soaking in vinegar and then washing as usual (vinegar can break down the odor and normal washing can return a god smell), and lastly try baking powder in the plastic pants. Hey if it's good enough to get odors out of your fridge it should be good enough for your undies! :) Hope these tips help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jill
Age: 18

Q:

Dear mommy,

I've been using diapers for a while now, but I've only went #2 a couple of times. This is because it was hard to clean up, and I've had to take a shower each and every time. My question is, is there a way to clean up after #2 without having to take a shower? I really want to become incontinent, but I can't take 2~3 showers per day.

Also, I'm on the road to becoming fully incontinent, just like the little baby I am inside, but I want to know, when I do, just how many diapers I'll need per day. I want to stock up in advance and I want to make sure I have enough, and there's no room to buy too much on my somewhat tight allowance.

Looking forward to your response,
Baby Jill
*wanders off to a corner to suck my thumb*


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Dear BabyJill,

I will first address the messing portion of your question. There really isn't anyway around the mess involved. If you don't want to do the constant showering the only other option is baby wipes and lots of them. Pampers sells a bulk box of 5 packs of 80 wipes per pack for about $8.00. So depending on how often you would be changing would determine how many boxes you would need. The second part of your question is how many diapers to have on hand. The average is 6-7 changes a day. Your personal lifestyle will determine exactly how much you would need. Like how much liquids do you drink and how much roughage is in your diet will all determine the frequency of you going. But do the average of 6-7, and remember to have a diaper pail and be prepared to do laundry every other day or so, unless you are using disposables of course. If you need extra absorbency you can get a pack of baby diapers and cut several 1 inch long slits in the plastic backing. Or you can go to Walmart and get a pack of Gerber toddler size cloth diapers. Experiment on how many you will need. 2 seem to do well for most people. Just don't let the cloth diaper sit longer than 3-4 days before washing or they will begin to grow mold. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaper Kid
Age: 14

Q:

How can I make my mom diaper me?


A:

Dear Diaperkid,

Only you know how your mom feels about diapers. If you know she would be open to it there is not really anything anyone can say to change her mind. There are no magic words If she has an open mind you might be able to convince her you need them. But be certain before you mention anything, a lot of parents don't understand and some over-react. So think things over before saying anything. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michael
Age: 33

Q:

Hello mommy....

I have had a thing for diapers for years. I just love the feeling of them and I feel they are more comfy than underwear. I was caught by my sister years ago but nothing ever came from it. But also I have almost been caught many times. I have three friends that know I like to wear when I can and they are fine with it. Now I am married and have an eleven year old step daughter and I have been hinting to my wife about wearing but I think she thinks I am joking (but I am not). How can I tell her I like to wear diapers? I don't have to wear all the time but I would like to wear more than I do now. My wife is from an asian culture not that it makes a difference. But I want to approach it the right way. I have a stash of diapers and when she's not home for a period of I time I put on a diaper. Weird thing about me I kinda like when certain people find out. I have worn to work and in public and don't worry about others very much but when it comes to my wife I don't know how to handle it. I would love for her to be into it as well. I have already asked her what would she do if she came home and found me diapered? I don't get a real answer. I broke away from wearing diapers but went back to it again and again and now all I can do sometimes is think about being in them and trying to find different ones online (the thicker the better too) Well thank you for your time mommy. I can't wait to hear from you!


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Dear Michael,

As much as you would like to have your wife involved with your diaper wearing it doesn't look good right now. You have tried to approach her a few times already and she has not been receptive. Take heart , she might just not be ready yet. Give her time. Educate her a little about AB's. Mention that you read an article about it and discuss it with her and get a better picture of where she stands. Perhaps with time she will see things your way. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michelle
Age: 41

Q:

When I wet a diaper what happens if I don't use baby powder?


A:

Dear Michelle,

How you clean and diaper yourself is a personal one. If you choose to not use powder is fine. Nothing will happen. However if you wet often or sweat it is a good idea to use some form of skin protection, if not powder, a cream or lotion will do fine. Otherwise if you go too long exposed to a wet/messy/sweaty diaper you will get a rash.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 20

Q:

Do know where I can look for a mommy (that is female) that is relatively inexpensive? It would be preferred if she was near Oklahoma and Texas.


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Dear Todd,

We have a Mommy Finder on our main site. It is a good place to begin your search. Also you can check and see what mommy's are listed on the "Mommy's and Daddy's looking for babies" forum and can post a ad of your own on the "Babies looking for Mommy's and Daddy's". Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dave
Age: 55

Q:

I am wondering if any of the diaper videos are available in a CD, I have dial-up internet and can't download a movie. I tried to find an e-mail address for Stanley but couldn't so that's why I have asked this question here, thanks Dave in NC.


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Dear Dave,

Unfortunately all of the videos are from Youtube.com and are not in CD. You might want to consider upgrading your service if possible. I know of DSL for $20.00 a month through Clearwire.com. Just a thought. Stanley's Email is all over the message board. It's stanley_19802@yahoo.com.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Floyd
Age: 46

Q:

Mommy I tried an adult water resistant bib but it still made a mess on my clothing, my neck is like a real baby's. I got a toddlers bib and tried it on, it fits me like a toddler baby. Should I just wear it.


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Dear Babyfloyd,

By all means if the bib fits wear it. I am glad you found something that works for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 36

Q:

Hi Mommy!

Mommy I woke up this morning while I was having A messing (pooping) accident. Some of us little ones have bigger accidents than others. After I finished pooping I noticed I didn't pee as I usually do. I figure I'm going to need to pee soon, and figured I would hold off a change until I pee. Is it ok to do this if you know an accident is close at hand? How long should I go before a change without risking diaper rash? Wish me a clean changing, but I have feeling it won't be that easy.


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Dear Embarrassed,

It is alright to sit in a messed diaper for a short time. I wouldn't stay too long though. As to how long is up to how sensitive the person's skin is but I would say no longer than an hour. Longer than that and the clean-up is much harder. I wish you happy diapering always.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Etienne
Age: 12

Q:

Hey it's me again. I wanted to ask you this? When I wear a diaper I get hard and it hurts can you give me tricks on how to not be hard in a diaper please.


A:

Dear Etienne,

There are not too many things you can do. One option to try is ice. Put 1-2 ice cubs in the diaper or a little bit of very cool water. It should cool things off ( no pun intended). See if that works for you. Good luck

-Hugs Sandra