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Question Asked By: Andrew Retzloff
Age: 22

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Mommy how can I find a mommy where I live in Nashville, TN. Because I don't have a AB parent to take of me like I want them to. I also want her to treat me like the baby I know I am. Put me in diapers day and night. I also want her to put in a high chair and feed me baby food, and baby formula from a baby bottle. I also want her to take me through the stages like potty training etc. you can email at edwardraetzloff@yahoo.com until I hear back from you goodbye mommy .


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Dear Andrew,

We can't find you a mommy. Simply put- a mommy and her baby have to have chemistry between the two of you for it to be a good match. We can't determine the chemistry part. You need to do the search for yourself. When you contact the right one you will know. To start your search go to our 'Mommy finder' section and see who's there. You can also contact other mommies for references to someone close to you. Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andrew
Age: 22

Q:

Mommy How can I find a woman who is willing to diaper me, feed me baby food in a high chair and baby formula from a baby bottle and breastfeed me from her naturally when I'm hungry? And treat me like the baby I know I am and also take me through the stages like potty training etc. I live in Nashville TN, and there are AB mommy's that are available for that service. I have to hide my pacifier and my baby bottles and the formula and the Gerber apple juice when I buy it. How I tell the people I'm living with or my adopted parents that I want to be babied again. If you give some advice on that it would much helpful, my real age is 22 years old, my baby age is 0 - 3 years. You can email at edwardraetzloff@yahoo.com. until I here from you goodbye mommy . sincerely baby Andrew.


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Dear Andrew,

We have on our main site a 'mommy finder'. It is a great place to start your search for a mommy. We have it arranged by state so just look up Tennessee. Write to the persons listed and see who connects with you. At the very least ask for names of other mommies and expand your search. To tell the ones around you about the baby items is a big step. Be sure you are ready for whatever the reactions might be. There are no magic words- you know how open they are to new things. Is this something they will understand and accept? Only you know. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 14

Q:

Dear mommy:

Will hypnotic tapes that cause you to loose control in diapers cause you to loose control full time.


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Dear Jordan,

I only support programs that are safe and reversible. Hypnosis tapes don't work for everyone. You should be warned if the tape works then you will lose control 24/7. If you train your mind/body to lose control, how can it have control and only during certain times? Your body will not be able to tell the difference. Have no control at night, have no control during the day. So if you use the tape and it works you will have wetting accidents during the day, so be prepared.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sissy Carla
Age: 48

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I have trouble getting my disposable diaper on right can you help me please?


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Dear Carla,

This is a very common problem. It takes a while to get the right procedure down. You need to put the diaper under your posterior opened up. bring one side up and over and either use the tapes or pin the diaper closed on that side. Now the secret to all this is you are laying down and gravity has spread things out somewhat, if you just pin regularly the diaper will be loose when you stand up. so the trick is to pull up the other side but pull it as tight as you can. It will loosen when you stand as I said. Fasten the side down the diaper should now be snug. Practice.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 20

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Is it uncommon to become dependent on pacifiers? I've only had one for a few days, but I can't imagine not having one. Yet when I'm not suckling on one, I'm not sure I like the idea of becoming dependent on them.


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Dear James,

It is very common to have a 'security' item. As a child we have our bears or blankies. The world today is full of stresses- we all desire to return to when things were simpler. So you have a attachment to a pacifier- so what? It is better than drinking or doing drugs. So suck away, you are hurting no one and soothing your inner child at the same time. be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jake
Age: 28

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I have been wearing diapers on and off for a while now. The problem is I am having a hard time wetting due to the sexual arousal the diaper has on me. I have tried to masturbate first, but that didn't work. Is there any advice you could give me?


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Dear Jake,

You are definitely a diaper lover and there's nothing wrong with that. But you do have a problem that does seem to be hindering you enjoying fully wearing your diaper. You have tried to relieve the situation before putting on a diaper with no results. My suggestion is to de-sensitize yourself to the diaper. You are just too excited when you put one on. Try this- if you have a block of time (like a weekend) try wearing 24/7 and see if after wearing constantly ,if the situation doesn't relax somewhat. I hope this helps and we are always here for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Max
Age: 18

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Mommy, Me and my girlfriend have an AB mommy baby boy relationship. Well lately -last 3 months or so- she has been acting and being my baby girl, but I don't wanna be a daddy. I'm content enough with just being baby boy but I don't want to hurt her. We have talked about it and I don't want to take that part of her life away, but I have trouble participating. We are engaged and I don't want to leave her and I don't want our relationship to fall apart -not that it will- HELP please!


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Dear Max,

Since you and your girlfriend are in a solid relationship, it is good that you have talked about this. I do have a few suggestions. You could have alternating weekends- this week baby boy time and next week baby girl time. Of course that means you will be a baby for only 2 instead of 4 weekends a month. But you love your girl and want her happy and it is really a fair way to split up the time. Now you said you aren't comfortable being a daddy. It is not for everyone. If you can't do it you might have to let her find a daddy or mommy. The two of you would have to sit down and work out a compromise that both of you can accept. good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Frank
Age: 20

Q:

I've heard about people wearing diapers so that they only lose control enough to wet the bed; but is it possible to lose control so that you wet and mess your diaper while your asleep, and still stay in control during the day?


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Dear Frank,

Usually if a person is wetting and pooping at night, they have lost complete control. That level of lose is hard to control. There would most likely be daytime accidents. You can't ask your body to have no control at night and control during the day- there is no on and off switch.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

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I just changed my dirty diaper, and airing out now. I forgot to ask you a question. I wear a disposable diaper, and since I have never changed a babies diaper, besides my own diaper, I have question about diaper changes. I had a poopy diaper So I grabbed my changing pad, undid my diaper, and cleaned myself with baby wipes. After cleaning I took the diaper to bathroom and cleaned excess poop off with toilet paper. However the poop was sticking to the diaper pretty good. It was smeared on-the-job the diaper during the night. Do you need to clean off the excess? When do clean off the poop? What determines that you need to clean off the excess? Also got a little poop on the changing pad. I cleaned it off with baby wipes, is that good enough if you removed it?


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Dear Embarrassed,

To clean or not to clean...that is the question. In general if you are wearing a disposable diaper that gets thrown away, why clean off any poop at all? Change off and dispose of diaper in a small bag and throw in garbage. If you are wearing a cloth diaper, remove diaper and scrap any poop off without smearing it in any further into the fabric. Either wash right away or soak in a diaper pail with water, some soap and a little touch of bleach (I mean a little- 1 tsp) Then wash no later than 3 or 4 days later. Soaking in the soap and bleach will start the cleaning process. You can clean any runaway poop with a wipe, but still wash the changing pad with the rest of your laundry.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 2

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I am wondering if it is wrong to use a enema solution then put a diaper on to make your self go potty and what the effects would be from it?


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Dear Tim,

I feel very strongly against using any med's or devices that make you go. They are dangerous. If you use an enema of course the immediate effect will be you going. If you continue using enemas the potential of you losing bowel control is there. And by that I mean you will no longer be able to poop without using an enema (worst case). Why can't you just wear a diaper until you need to poop and go poop in it? That will do no harm. Just a thought.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

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Dear Mommy my drawer is full again with disposable diapers, powders, and creams. My room once smells like a babies room as well the fragrances used on my diaper area. My bed once again is filled with crinkling noises. Then there's the crinkle from the diaper when I move. Back to the babies life. Unfortunately this means going out in public wearing a diaper under your clothes. I'm curious about bulges. When I slide on my pants the crotch doesn't look to bad, but can't tell what it looks like when I walk. Does the backside bulk show when you walk? I also make sure I wear long shirts to prevent my diaper than showing from behind. Then theirs the baby smells that comes from the powders and diaper cream. Usually in just a diaper I smell the baby care products under my diaper. I would be so embarrassed if somebody knew I was in a diaper because I'm unpotty trained. Not being ready for potty training has me being paranoid again when I go out. What should I do?


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Dear Embarrassed,

We are always more self conscious when we are out in public. The truth is most people don't even pay attention to anyone else. We are all red and hot in the face certain that someone knows and all they are thinking about is what's for dinner or what movie to watch tonight. I wouldn't worry so much. If the pants you wear are loose there are no tell-tale bulges or anything, so relax. Keep wearing and smiling.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I felt pretty upset when you recommended I wasn't ready for big boy pants, but I understand you meant well for all us babies. I just want to be big boy so bad, that I ignored my nightly accidents. Maybe in another year I will try potty training again. Even though I didn't make progress this last time I'm back to having both bm and wetting accidents nightly. Mommy I can use some encouragement that will make me feel better about wearing diapers instead of big boy pants. Maybe you can part with some wisdom to help me cope for another year. With summer here what's a good dress code to keep cool. Right now I usually strip down to just a diaper. I think that's a common dress code for us babies, right? How often should we bare our bottom half and should boys be forced to do it more?


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Dear Embarrassed,

You are right I am only thinking of what is good for all of our babies. We have a potty-training program. You could try it if you are up to it. It can be a bit of a roller coaster ride emotionally. Even if you still need to wear for a while-so what? Babies are always cuter anyway's (pouts). I think you are perfect just as you are, diapers and all. And yes the official summer wear is diaper and T-shirt. Be sure to air out at least once a day for an hour (boys and girls) You need to let the skin breathe. If you are up to trying this new program to potty-train the link is :  http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/files/Free_Bedwetting_Program.pdf. Hopefully this might help. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra