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Question Asked By: Riely :)
Age: 13

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Well I try to wear diapers because it's fun and you don't have to run to the bathroom. So I started using towels and my mom started to wonder were all the towels were going and why some smelled like pee. So do you have any other suggestions besides towels and cloth that I can use.


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Dear Riely,

If you can't get to a store and purchase actual diapers, towels are a good substitute. But as you have discovered it can get hard to hide. Another possible substitute is to use old T-shirts. The beauty is they won't be missed (being old). Of course you would have to alter them somewhat to use. You would need to cut off the arms and possibly the neckband if it is stiff. You also would have to find time when you do the laundry. This is not perfect but until you can buy your own diapers it is a temporary situation. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Laura
Age: 19

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Why was I forced into wearing a diaper when I went into hospital for a routine c-section? The nurses catheterized me and diapered me and I wasn't allowed out of the diapers until I could stand up and walk. After just having had a c-section I was unable to get out of bed for 5 days and was made to have to endure wearing a diaper and being changed by the nurses for all that length of time! Surely there is something I can do about this now, I'm thinking of suing?


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Dear Laura,

I myself had to have an emergency c-section when I had my twins. I was up and walking within 24 hours and was never catheterized. I am not sure why they would do that to you. It could be that there was another condition/ailment that you were not aware of. If that was the case all of that should of been explained to you. I don't know if you have a case or not. At the very least you could sit down and discuss things with an attorney. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CZ
Age: 18

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Hello I was wondering are there any adult or youth diapers similar to baby diapers with the plastic? And where could I find a store not online? I am also wondering, do you have any suggestions how to order diapers online without people finding out?


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Dear CZ,

It can sometimes be difficult to find a diaper that is absorbent enough. To find one that is also styled as a child's diaper is almost impossible. One option is to get a Walmart prepaid visa card. You just add money to them at the customer service desk. Your statements are only online so you don't need to worry about one coming in the mail. As far as ordering diapers online and no one finding out at home, you can call the company's 1-800 number and ask that your order be shipped out in a plain box. Or you can get a post office box (runs about $48.00 a year) and have the diapers shipped there and pick them up later when it's safe to bring them home. If your not able to order online and still want the baby designs we created 'diaper tapes' which we sell in our site store. Our diaper tapes are different designs that you apply to the front of your current plastic cover diaper or plastic pants to achieve that baby look. We have many different designs such as balloons, baby bottles, trains, baby blocks and so on. Check them out. We are adding new designs all the time.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Shawn
Age: 25

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Hi my name is Shawn. 25 year old single man. Adult baby son 24/7 adult diaper wear adult breastfeeding.


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Dear Shawn,

I am not sure if you have a question or not. If you are just adding your profile to the site please go to the Friend Finder/Directory and do so. Nice to have you here.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tamiko
Age: 35

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What free chat line number I can meet a mommy? A guy off of Studio 55 chat line told me he was a adult baby. He has a mommy. If you do not know any chat line numbers I can meet a mommy, can please tell me how I can find me a mommy? Thank You your Kindness is greatly appreciated.


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Dear Tamiko,

I do not know of any free chat line numbers for mommies. The ones that we are aware off charge per minute. We do have a mommy finder on our site. It might serve as a starting point for your search. Who knows you might get lucky and find one right there. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 17

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What diapers do you recommend and where can I buy them other than online. PS I live in Washington


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Dear Will,

There are many good diapers on the market. The best we find are Molicare, Uniquebriefs and Dry24/7. Unfortunately I know of no other way to get them other than online. If you call the company you can request a sample. Some send them for free or charge only the amount to ship the sample to you, normally around 3-5 dollars. Or you could go to your nearest drug store or medical supply house and see what brands they carry. One of them might be to your liking. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kevin
Age: 16

Q:

Is it ok for my sister to change me, she is 16.


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Dear Kevin,

I have to admit it is a little strange for her to be changing you. She is the same age as you. The only reason I can see is if you have a disability that causes you to be unable to do it yourself. If not, you are old enough to learn how to change yourself. You will most likely be leaving home for college and no one will be around to do it. So it would be in your best interest to learn now how to do it. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amy
Age: 16

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I have always been a bed wetter and have been diapered by my mother at night every night of my life, but here is the problem. I have started to have a few accidents lately...once even at school. I have not told my mom yet and I am scared. What do you think I should do?


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Dear Amy,

I don't think you have anything to be scared of. Your mom already knows you wet. You should see a doctor just to be sure there are no problems starting. Then discuss things with your mom as to how to handle this new development. You are very fortunate in the fact that your mom is on your side already. She loves you and will only do the best for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: Two (Baby Age)

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I have been feeling like I need to wear diapers all of the time, but I feel embarrassed to wear out in public. How do you get over wearing out in public?


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Dear Tim,

You don't get over it.  If you have embarrassment wearing in public you always will. The one thing you can try is to lessen the feelings. One way to do that is a form of aversion therapy. Basically force yourself to wear them in public- the theory is that eventually the uncomfortable feeling will start to go away. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaper Boy
Age: 24

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Dear mommy

I have liked diapers for ten years. I have bought 3 packages of disposables in the last 4 years, but always end up throwing them away out of fear of being caught. I have decided that I can no longer run from this interest. I am some what in between the sissy and DL world. I was wanting to ask about the two mommies here in Texas. I am scared to contact one due to the fact that there was just an email address plus my fear of getting in trouble. Are these mommies actual mommies? What do they do if you set an appointment up with them? What services do mommies usually offer?
Thank you
Diaper boy


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Dear Diaperboy,

Each mommy is different in the services that she offers. One might for example be a full-fledged mom and do diaper changes and feed baby food and bottles, play baby games and treat you just like an infant. Another might do changes and play more toddler type games and feed you real food but cut up. And another might have you only be a baby at night- giving you a bottle and diaper change to go to bed, read a bedtime story and back to adult world in the AM. That is why you have to contact them and find out what they offer and ask if they do what you would like to be done in your fantasy. You don't need to be scared. Nothing can happen e-mailing or talking on the phone. If you get a weird feeling or vibe- discontinue talking to that particular person. I also know of some mommies that give phone sessions- they talk to you like you're a baby and they are a mom and talk you through what she wants you to do. Just let your fingers do the walking! Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Missy
Age: 45

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Dear Mommie,

I have been wearing diapers to bed now for almost 2 years but I still can not wake up wet - is there anything I can really do? I do wet my diaper at night but I wake up, then wet diaper, then either go back to bed or change to dry diaper and then go back to bed - I do so need to wake up wet some day.
Missy


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Dear Missy,

What you need to do is train your brain to not wake you up. I must warn you if you do this there is a possibility of you losing control. That being said the next time you wake up because you need to go or are wet- ignore it and go back to sleep. Your brain will take the hint eventually and will stop waking you up to go. I mean if you are going to ignore it why should the brain bother? That is one way to explain why this works. I know of some member's who did this and in only a week were losing nighttime control. Just to caution you again, be sure this is what you want. Your brain will not be able to tell the difference between day and night and you might have daytime accidents. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Danny
Age: 15

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I live in England, and I want to buy some diapers, where can I buy these? And what brand? I want tape up preferably, thanks :)


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Dear Danny,

Most major department stores would have a baby section, that is if you can fit baby sizes. If not a druggist would be your next best bet or a medical supply store. If these don't appeal to you there is always online ordering. We have a very extensive collection of diaper companies on our diaper links page. I would suggest ordering a sample pack to find which diaper best suits your needs.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ryne
Age: 20

Q:

What's the difference between girls pooping their diapers and boys pooping their diapers?


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Dear Ryne,

As the saying goes when the poop hits the fan- it makes no difference if it is from a girl or boy. There is no difference between the two. Poop is poop.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Francis Beggi
Age: 50

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I wear Cloth diapers all the time, sometimes Depends overnight. My bed is always wet. Is there a certain way to stop this? I wear plastic pants also.


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Dear Francois,

You might want to try seeing an urologist to see if there is anything that can be done to ease your wetting. To avoid a wet bed and mattress you might want to try using a mattress protector. You could also try using diaper doublers to increase the absorbency of the products you are using. If you don't leak there would be no problem. I hope these few tips help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Robert
Age: 13

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Dear Mommy:

I told my mom about wanting to wear diapers and she rejected the idea. How can I change her mind?


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Dear Robert,

There are no magic words to change someone's mind. As much as you would like her to think differently, she feels the way she does and that's that. All you can do is to accept it and try to deal. Sorry.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 36

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I have been in diapers all my life but when I was younger my mom bought me cheap baby diapers. Now when I go to sleep my wife tells me I cry, that I want my friends baby diapers. What do we do?


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Dear Tim,

I am not sure exactly why you are having these dreams. Since you already wear diapers, perhaps there is something about baby diapers specifically that you want. perhaps you could try using baby diapers in addition to what you use now and see if that helps any. To do this, take the baby diaper and cut several 1 inch long slits through the plastic backing and lay it down inside of your regular diaper. This way when you use your diaper the urine can pass through the baby diaper when it gets full and go into your diaper through the slits you cut. Maybe your desire for baby diapers will be satisfied. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Finn
Age: 31

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I have a slight disability and have worn diapers all my life. Cause my right hand is bad my older sister (10yrs older) or brother (8 years older) would change my diapers while my Mom was out. When I got to my teens my mom thought my brother should change me. I could do it myself but I was slow and it was easier if he did it. I just wet. I was a late developer, skinny guy till 18 and a half when I got puberty after I was given pills. Late development part of my disability. Sometimes he would change me in front of his buddies and I didn't like that. All these big guys seeing my private parts but he said I did what he said. We went on vacation with my brother, me and his buddies each year when I was like 12 thru to 16 and they made me just wear my diapers and a T-shirt. We were in a cabin. My brother he changed me and his buddies looked at me and laughed. I've moved away now and got my own place. I'm not gay, not about sex or stuff. But I just want a guy to change me and look at me and guys to see me changed and be forced to wear just my diapers with guys looking. Its weird and I'm confused. Any thoughts on what I should do would be good.
Fxx


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Dear Finn,

I am not sure why you have these feelings. You say you are not gay and I believe you. My guess is that even though growing up and having your brother change you was at times embarrassing you still felt love from him and your family. Perhaps it is not so much the guys looking that you are craving, maybe it is just the whole idea of acceptance and your family being there for you. Sometimes familiar things are what we need to feel good in life. Just a thought.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wetone
Age: 54

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As long as I can remember I have been in diapers and plastic pants. Several foster homes, lots of abuse (sexual, mental, physical). At age 13 pulled from home with lots of physical abuse, I still wet a lot at night. Foster mom made me wear frilly baby girl plastic pants and use baby bottles and other things. I was sexually abused at this time, foundling is all but it was my first sexual experience, so that's how I relate now because that is what she told me. Even my older sister got in to changing me to. Am I all alone or are there others like me?    
Wetone


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Dear Wetone,

It is sad to say but you are not alone. I will never understand how anyone can abuse a child. Even if the offender is caught and punished the damage is already done. The child has to live the horror for the rest of their lives. You are not alone. We are here for you. If you ever need a sympathetic ear or if you need to vent. Remember you are loved. There is someone out here who cares and that is US!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mark
Age: 30

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Dear Mommy,

I have been in diapers pretty much 24/7 now for a long time. It wasn't my intention to be reversed potty trained but I am not opposed to it happening. I feel it is happening though for the following reasons, and my question is if you agree that it is happening to me. The first is that when I am not in a diaper and wearing my panties and feel the urge to wet I had better be near a bathroom right at that moment or I will have an accident which has happened a few times. The second is that also when I am not diapered and am using the toilet and think I am done and pull my panties back up I leak quite a bit after I thought I was done. The third is when I am in bed and asleep at nite I am beginning to wet in my diaper without feeling it and waking up in a wet diaper. Also do you think in your experience that this will become even more of a full bladder loss like a toddler? Thank you mommy.


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Dear Mark,

It seems according to your description that you have leakage and control problems to begin with. Wearing diapers is a good idea in your case. You could be helped with medication if you wanted to correct the situation. But since you are not opposed as you said, you could just continue as you are. Will it get worse? Maybe. Only a doctor can tell you that for sure. First and foremost be comfortable with whatever you choose to do. You only live once. Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steven
Age: 22

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Hi Mommy,

I have a tough question. I am in the Military, I have a few months to go before I get discharged. I have really got attracted to diapers, I only have worn a few times due to my working environment. But I do have a problem going, I do want to be able to go with out knowing it. I'm willing to wait the few more months and become more active in this. I also hope you don't see the military wrong because of me. Take care and hope you can help.
- Steven


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Dear Steven,

First off I would like to say I hold our military in the highest regard. You are out there risking your lives because your country asked you to- that is noble to me and I wish to thank you. That being said once you get back home you can explore more into getting to the point where you can go without knowing. I do have a program that is safe and reversible. It's a 12 month bladder retraining program. If you have a problem loading it, that means you don't have the program to read PDF files. You can get the program by clicking here.  God bless.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CZ
Age: 18

Q:

Dear mom do you know where I could buy or find some Vintage Plastic Backed diapers? I used to have some around but can't find them. Web sites would help but I'm looking to find a place where I could get some thanks
-CZ


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Dear CZ,

As far as Stanley and I know, the best place to try is Ebay for finding diapers with plastic outer cover. Someone might have some for sale. Sadly just about all the baby diaper companies are switching to the cloth like outer cover. Even some of the adult diaper companies are switching to the cloth like outer cover as well. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Meredith
Age: 20

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Hi I have been a bedwetter since as long as I can remember, I have tried everything except surgery. My mom took me to my doctor and he prescribed many different kinds of medications throughout my childhood. Nothing seemed to help. We tried the alarm thing but over time I got use-to the sound and began to wet before I heard the alarm and my mom got tired of getting up several times a night. I tried relaxing before bed, drinking less water four hours before bed and was not allowed caffeine like tea or soda after dinner, also tried kegal exercises but nothing worked. We even went as far as to bring the doctor into the house to understand my living conditions. With no positive results.

So I was forced to wear diapers/pull ups to bed every night with no exceptions. I have accepted that I need to wear diapers/pull ups to sleep and kinda like wearing them. They give me a sense of security. But little by little over the past few months I have been leaking while I am awake.

I am not sure what is causing this and do not want to be in a diaper all the time. I tried it for a few weeks. But when my menstruation started it was very uncomfortable and had to change and clean up every couple hours mostly showering every time because of the mess. I am only 20 years old why is this happening to me? I do not want to go to the doctor because he said if anything were to get worse he will want to try the surgery.

I was told that having surgery to repair and strengthen my muscles and fix the problem. but it could also result in total loss of control. I am ok with the bedwetting since I have always wet at night. To me it is just part of my life. I do not wish to lose control during the day though. I just want to know what would be the best alternative besides having the surgery and being diapered 24/7?


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Dear Meredith,

You have indeed tried everything there is. If you don't want to have the surgery my suggestion is this. Wear your diapers 24/7. The only different thing is when you are menstruating use a tampon. It is easier to take off your diaper temporarily to change out a tampon than to clean up the entire mess, as you already know. There would be no mess in the diaper and to stay cleaner will make you more comfortable. By keeping both body functions separate should help make things a little easier for you on a day to day basis. Hope this helps and good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nick
Age: 12

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Dear mommy,

I live at home with my mom. I am 12 years old. Lately I have been wetting the bed. I think that it is a nice feeling when I wet the bed. I have wet the bed three time in the past month. The problem is that I don't know how to tell my parents that I wet. Plus ever since I can remember I have wanted to wear diapers. Please give me advice on how to tell my parents. Plus they don't know that I want to wear diapers and I know that they won't understand.


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Dear Nick,

This happens a lot. What you need to do is to just be honest with your parents and tell them you have a problem wetting and can they take you to a doctor. Your parents will want to be sure you have no medical problems and it takes any fault off of you. Actually my son had the same problem at your age. The doctor explained that his body had a growth spurt and the bladder didn't. So his bladder could not keep up and so he wet. He did outgrow it eventually and is fine today. Talk to your parents, you have no reason to be nervous. they love you and will listen. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: diaperlover77
Age: 14

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Dear mommy,

This is not a question but how to make the perfect diaper. Wear 2-4 pairs of tight boxers. Then lay 2-4 pairs of underwear on top of each other but don't put them on yet. Fold them long ways and position like a diaper pad inside the boxers with them brim near the back. Then put a sanitary napkin in the front. Pull it up as tight as you want. Please post this mom, it works good. If anybody has an abdlpixel.com my name is diaperlover77 and can give you more advice. If you have a ps3 my name is dcskaterforlife. GOOD LUCK!!!


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Dear Diaperlover,

Thanks for the tip.  It does sound like it would work well. Using items already found in your house is always easy on the wallet. Feel free to send in more ideas...;)

-Hugs Sandra