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Question Asked By: Not telling
Age: 19

Q:

Hi Mommy. I am curious to find out what it is like to be incontinent, but I don't want to permanently lose control. Is there something I can do that will make me temporarily incontinent, and that is also
safe?


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Dear Not telling,

The easiest way to experience incontinence without doing any damage is to simply wear a diaper. When you feel the need to go just use the diaper. Simple but effective.
-Hugs Sandra

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Alex
Age: 35

Q:

Hi, I am the girlfriend of a boy AB.- He just told me he is into this and I'd like to be his mummy. Any advice on how to start to be a good one to my boy? Is there any site for mummies? Thank you very much.
Cheers
Alex


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Dear Alex,

There are no specific sites that teach how to be a mommy, as far as I know. I do know that most AB moms treat their 'babies' as if they were babies. You love them and cuddle with them and so on. Some AB's like to eat baby food and drink from a bottle- also alright, just be sure that your precious one is also getting adult nutritional requirements. If you ever have any questions on any one topic just write us here and we'll help. Enjoy your little one!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chaz
Age: 13

Q:

Recently, I've been getting the urge to wear diapers again. I've been making them out of towels but have only been wearing them (my parents wouldn't react very well if they found a wet towel after all). I really enjoy wearing them & I try to do so when no-ones home or in my bedroom. I'd like to start using real diapers but I know my parents wouldn't be very happy about it. I can't order them online or go to a shop to get them which is really annoying. I was considering becoming a bed wetter again so I could get some diapers (like Goodnights) but I don't know if that's the best option. I'm thinking that I might later regret it &, obviously, I won't be able to just go back to normal. Basically, I was wondering what the best option for me would be. I know there aren't many available but I really do need some help sorting this out.
Thank-you.


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Dear Chaz,

Wearing towels is a good temporary option. But like you said you can't use them. If you ever did the laundry you could use them and do a load of the used towel/diapers when doing the other loads. Just an idea. You don't mention why you can't go to the store because if you could you could get disposables, but a better idea (for money and convenience sake) would be to purchase the cloth ones which can be reused. If you decide to go the bedwetting route, you can always miraculously get control again (hint hint) if things get a little crazy. The decision is yours in the end. Another option is to wait until you are 18. Difficult to wait but still an option. I wish you luck with whatever you decide.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 30

Q:

Dear mommy,

I am starting a job soon and I want to wear diapers at the same time. I wet and mess my diapers a lot but I can still control where I go to the bathroom. Is it possible to get a hypnotic tape that allows me to wet and mess only in diapers. If so, when I am off work, and use my diapers all the time, will I become fully incontinent and be re potty trained.


A:

Dear Jordan,

Congrats on the job. It is great that you want to wear while at work. Many of our members do just that with no problem. And since you do have some  control you should have no problem. That being said, unfortunately you can't have it both ways. You are either incontinent or not. You can't have control at work and have no control at home. You have to re-train your brain to be incontinent, once the lesson is learned- it is learned 24/7. I would like to suggest that you continue as you are- wear while at work and just use the diapers while at home. This way you still maintain some level of control.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ian
Age: 15

Q:

I live with a girl who is 11, and her mom, who is 30. I am an AB/DL and I have a AB mommy and she is my friend's mom. She always changes me, but sometimes the girl who is 11 changes my diapers, and I have to change her diapers to. So I have seen her naked and she has seen me naked. But one day her mom had me take a shower with her and she diapered us both and had us both sleep in a bed together, and last night I woke up to the girl changing my diaper in the middle of the night. And since I usually shower with my AB mommy and my AB mommy changes me and I usually sleep with my AB mommy, I don't like sleeping and being change by this little girl. what do I do?


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Dear Ian,

You are in a difficult position. I do think it is inappropriate for you and the 11 year old to be so close and intimate with each other. You are both older and really shouldn't interact together the way you are. I would talk to her mom and ask that you be allowed to change yourself. Say that it makes you uncomfortable to be changed by the little girl. You also don't mention where your parents are, if they are in the picture perhaps you could speak with them as well. At the very least try to get to the point where you are changing yourself. That would assure no more embarrassing moments. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nicole
Age: Unknown

Q:

Hi mommy, this is only my second question and I'm hoping you can answer it. What is the maximum waist measurement a person can have and still fit into goodnights? I'm wondering because I fit into the weight range, but that isn't always useful huggles,
Nicole


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Dear Nicole,

You are so right. The way our bodies are shaped are all different. Just because you fit the weight doesn't mean the side to side dimensions will fit you too. I do believe the goodnites can fit up to a 30" waist. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Hawk
Age: 19

Q:

I am curious to know your opinion on these diapers: http://www.abuniverse.com/products/abu-eto.asp I'm considering buying them, but I don't want to waste my money on an inferior diaper. I have a large bladder capacity, and sometimes it can get a bit ... full.


A:

Dear Hawk,

On that particular site the best diaper there is the Molicare. It has a great holding capacity and wears well. It is very much worth the money. If you are going to wear overnight I would suggest using doublers to make sure there is no leakage. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: HATEZ
Age: 18

Q:

Hello Again, I have written you before in  case you don't remember (your advice was most helpful) and now I have another problem. I like disposable adult diapers. But I can only wear them when my mother is out of the house or asleep (She is one of the most closed minded people I know) but despite that I am running out of diapers to wear in the house from my last pack Purchased. Normally this wouldn't be a problem but recently my car has broken down and it is beyond repair. So the only way I can get around is by bicycle. Now here's the point, Before I would travel clear across town to buy more diapers so no one I knew would see me buying them but now that is not an option. I have no one that would give me a ride to buy some. And the only place within biking distance is where several classmates of mine work and several Neighbors shop. Most of these people know that I have no relatives who use diapers and are always looking for a new way to Persecute me. Any suggestions on how I can get the diapers and get home without people getting wise. I would like to give you more info so you could get a better handle on my situation but I have to go now (I need a diaper change)


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Dear Hatez,

You are in a bit of a spot huh? It seems that if you can't get to the diapers, have the diapers come to you. Most diaper companies ship in unmarked boxes so you should be alright.  If your mom is nosy, perhaps have it shipped to a friend's house. They don't need to know what is in it. Or even get a PO box at the local post office. You can rent a box for as little as 3 month intervals for about $24.00 a month on average, and just pick up at your convenience. And the online companies can sell you box or a case- depending on your need. Think over your options and see if any fit your situation. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Debra
Age: 11

Q:

I have a grumpy dad and I need a mommy. Know any Christian
single-want-to-be-a-mommies? Please send me a phone cal my phone number is:1xxx-xxx-xxxx


A:

Dear Debra,

Because of your age I believe you would have trouble finding a mommy you need to be 18. However in the meantime you could find a penpal or friend to talk with. so check out our friend finder section and check your area for who is nearby. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Haley
Age: 18

Q:

Dear mommy,

I'm  a teen baby and I don't know how to tell my girlfriend, can you help me please ?


A:

Dear Haley,

I get this question every month. I always say the something. Only you know the person. Is this person open-minded? If they are then you should be able to have an open conversation about this and be able to answer any questions they might have. If you know this person to be opinionated and close-minded then most likely they will not be favorable to hearing what you have to say. There are no magic words. I hope all goes well if you decide to tell her.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: None
Age: 15

Q:

Ok mommy I love to wear my diapers, but I can't fully enjoy the experience of wetting myself. Because I have to stand up every time I have to go because I have a erection. Which makes it impossible for me to wet myself while sitting down or laying down. Any ideas on how to make it stop?


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Dear None,

You ask a hard question. The obvious answer is to relieve yourself of the erection. But you need to go, so what are you to do while relieving yourself- hold it in? The simple fact is you are excited by wearing your diapers. Just the thought of using them makes you happy. In time, once the feeling gets a little more familiar you should be able to go about your business normally.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jody
Age: 36

Q:

Is there any way to regress the male reproductive organ and area to look like it did when I was a toddler?


A:

Dear Jody,

Unfortunately you can't undo puberty. However you can make the area look more child-like by either shaving or at the very least trimming the hair. I recommend trimming only because if you shave it will itch growing back. It is a good idea to keep the area as clear as possible- makes for an easier clean-up.Stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CZ
Age: 18

Q:

What is the best way to ask for a diaper change from my mom or girlfriend? I have told both of them I wear but have only gotten help once from my girlfriend and she only has put a dry one on me, Is there a better way of getting a change while I am around them. Should I just sit in a dry or wet diaper when I ask or should I just hide it under my clothes? I am also wondering what is the best baby diaper you recommend?  And would sending this link to either of them or the questions asked frequently help my situation?
Thanks


A:

Dear CZ,

You have conquered the first hurdle- telling them that you wear. If you wish to be changed more often just tell them so. Ask politely if they could help you out. Hopefully they will get the message and both will accommodate you. The diapers that we recommend are Molicare, Uniquebriefs and Dry24/7.  As for sending them the links of the questions- it might help them understand better where you are coming from. At the very least it wouldn't hurt since they know already.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 23

Q:

Hello,

I have two questions: I have been an AB for most of my life (though I started as just a DL). The first question is: While I am male, I seem to be only drawn to female AB products (my diapers have girl designs, I have a pink footed sleeper, etc). Does this mean there's something wrong with me??

While I have been wearing disposable diapers for some time (several years), lately I've become obsessed with wearing and using them 24/7. I've done this for about a week. I don't want to risk becoming incontinent, but will that happen if I continue with this obsession? Why would I have become so obsessed lately?
Thank you


A:

Dear Chris,

There is nothing wrong with you. In my experience most of the AB's that I have known are drawn to being a AB for the feelings of love and acceptance that a young child would get. In the infant world a baby girl gets the full princess treatment. A baby boy has scaled down versions of what Daddy would wear but a baby girl gets the lace, satin and all the frills. In my opinion a sissy baby is just opting to be more cuter and receive more love and attention. And there is nothing wrong with that. And most likely the reason you are wanting to wear 24/7 is that for whatever reason you are in need of more comfort right now. Ask yourself if there has been any new pressures in your life. You can become incontinent if you wear a diaper 24/7. As long as you are taking 'time off' and wearing regular briefs or boxers, you should be fine. And if you ever have an accident while undiapered, I would not wear the diapers for a while to let your body readjust. Hope this
helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lindsay
Age: 18

Q:

Where can you get free diapers and mommy's to visit?


A:

Dear Lindsay,

Unfortunately the saying you can't get something for nothing applies even in the AB world. No one gives anything away for free- product or services. Of the diaper sites that might have free samples, you still have to pay the shipping and handling. And I have never heard of any Mommies offering free services. I know a few who have offered services in trade- she be the mommy and in exchange you become her housekeeper. Perhaps you could make some friends on our Penpal pages or contact some of the Mommies close to you and see if there is anything you can arrange. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amen
Age: 17

Q:

Hi there mommy I always had leakage problem. Even after my mom switch to cloth diaper. When I'm wet I will leak, although my mom add more layer into the cloth diaper, I will still leak. Pooping in my diaper is a disaster, my diaper will not hold. Do you have any suggestion to solve this problem. For the plastic pants, its the right size for me, however when I wet or messy some how it will not hold.


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Dear Amen,

I am so sorry you have had so much trouble with your leakage problem. You did say your mom already tries to thicken it up. Does she use diaper doublers? They are great and in your case I would use as many as are necessary. I would also like to suggest using either Uniquebriefs or Dry24/7 as diaper brands. They have a tremendous holding capacity and wear well. Hope things go well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Riley
Age: 16

Q:

Is it possible to unpotty train? Is that possible cause I'd really like to be able to go and not realize, or not be able to hold it.


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Dear Riley,

There is a program that I recommend that causes no harm or injury and is reversible. I always warn anyone trying to become incontinent that if you are successful you will have no control. So if you go to school or work, be aware that you could have accidents while there. This is something you need to think long and hard about before doing it. If you wish to go ahead please email me directly and I will send you the link to the program.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babyfloyd J Godleske
Age: 46

Q:

Dear mommy, My question is I went to Dr for a check-up and she told me since I went through the Oklahoma bombing to eat baby food and drink soybean milk for babies. Is that okay for me to do? I tried to eat adult food, it tore my stomach up and gave me diarrhea. But when I eat baby food it does not hurt me. What should I do? email me at babyfloyd@q.com ok help


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Dear Babyfloyd,

Since you got so sick I would say your system just can't handle the seasonings that is in most adult foods. Your best bet is to steam and bake food items that are unseasoned and then puree or process them down to a manageable size. Soybean milk is also good for you, it has protein. Which can be lacking in your diet if you are only on baby food. I wish you all the luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steven
Age: 20

Q:

I was wondering in your opinion, what is the best diaper for heavy wetting.


A:

Dear Steven,

The best diaper brands for heavy wetting are Molicare, Uniquebriefs and Dry24/7. They are available online on our absorbent products page.

-Hugs Sandra