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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

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Mommy I always feel embarrassed when I have accidents at night.  I'm not sure how many times I went pee pee last night, but my diaper is definitely showing signs of a flood. No leaks on my sheets. I even feel more embarrassed when I make a mess in my diaper. Even though I've accepted having about as much control as toddler at night I still feel little embarrassed about needing diapers at night at my age. Since I need diapers why do I feel embarrassed?  How can I change that feeling? Even if I tried to change my need for diapers it would just come back. Should I be embarrassed of having accidents at night at my age? Also my diapers have not leaked yet, but when this happens what do you need to do for the plastic sheet? One last thing, I noticed my diapers feel a little looser in the morning is that due to the sagginess of a dirty diaper? Is it normal? Sorry for the load of questions. Time to strip off this diaper, hope a rash isn't forming. Thanks and happy holidays.


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Dear Embarrassed,

You should never feel ashamed or embarrassed about needing or wanting to wear diapers. Whether you need to or want to, last time I checked it was a free country.  You are entitled to wear whatever you want at whatever age you are. So hold your head up and be proud of who you are. As for the mattress protectors, a good quality one has a leakproof liner adhered to fabric and is machine washable. You should be able to launder whenever it gets soiled. Now a diaper can get a little heavy due to the weight of the fluids absorbed and as a result hang a little looser. If it is hanging too loose just be sure to hold on to it until you can change :)  Anyway go and change- no rashes here. And happy holidays to you and your family!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Stephen
Age: Unknown

Q:

Should my mommy change me or should I change myself?


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Dear Stephen,

You don't say how old you are but I am assuming you are at least in your teens. That being said I would say that as far as you being changed by your mommy depends on your comfort level. Some want to get changed by others and there are others who cherish their privacy and change themselves. So the answer to your question is whichever you want! Just be happy with who you are.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dan
Age: 22

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I am planning on going to job corp soon. What is the best way to buy, wear and hide my diapers.


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Dear Dan,

You might have to cut back your activities for just a while.  A friend of mine who was in the job corp told me that the sleeping arrangements were like an army barracks. There were 6 bunk beds in one room  If this is the case where you are going, you will have no privacy for wearing and changing of your diapers. However if you are fortunate enough to get a private room then there would be no problem. You could order diapers and request they be sent in unmarked boxes. Of course they would need to be close fitting so no noise would be heard while you were working. Another option is to wear briefs over the diaper for sound dampening effect. You need to find out what your sleeping arrangements are and then you can make plans from there. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nathan
Age: 13

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Hi. I'm 13 years old, and I've had an attraction to diapers ever since I was about six. I've found numerous ways to get diapers, some of which I'm not exactly proud of. I use to steal them from my friend's brother who wet the bed, but I soon realized that was morally wrong, in my eyes. Since I was about 11, I have tried to put off my urges of wearing diapers for as long as I could. I would eventually crack, and end up stealing one of my friends brothers diapers, but leaving a couple of bucks laying around his house, to ease my guilt. So far, I'm currently on a streak of around 7 months. Is this healthy? All I want to be is normal, and I've realized that if I stop wearing them, I will have occasional strong desires to wear diapers, but for the most time, the sensation just stays in the back of my mind. I have everything cut out for me, except for my one flaw: this diaper fetish! I have outstanding grades, I'm soon playing In Memphis for an international blues showcase, and I have great friends! Is there any way for me to stop this desire? I really doubt it, but it would be a total breath of fresh air. You see, every time I bring home a diaper, yea, it gives me a certain feeling that any DL feels, but it also brings an amazing amount of anxiety of how I will throw away the diaper, and how I will hide the few others. I also have other mixed emotions that I can't really explain. I know some people could say to just quit, but I can't! It's more than a feeling, it's almost a part of me. I want to quit, but I can't. The other huge burden that I carry is that I will have to be affected by this for the rest of my life! Uhhh! I just want to know if I can possibly stop this fetish, and if not, should I just give in to my desires, and just ride my bike to Wal-Mart and pick up a bag of Goodnites, while also getting weird looks at all the adults and the cashier...Please help me, if you can. I'd greatly appreciate it if you gave me Some advice. Thanks for listening! 


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Dear Nathan,

First off I want to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you or how you feel. You ARE NORMAL. And from what you said a really great person to know. If you desire wearing diapers, so what? It like I always say, a diaper is a piece of fabric around your posterior, so are boxers or briefs.  There is no difference except in construction. Why be ashamed of something you seem to need, regardless of the reason.  Be who you are. You will be outstanding as yourself! If you want to get diapers free of guilt the solution is to buy them for yourself. To be better able to conceal them I would suggest going to a thrift store or a dollar store. They sell small packs with 4-6 diapers in each. It is a way to have diapers around in a small quantity. Also if anyone says anything just say it's for a younger brother or sister. So no embarrassment. My one wish for you is that you be comfortable with who you are. Whether your desires continue or not is not certain. If we
can help you in anyway we are here for support. I hope all turns out well. Good luck on your concert by the way.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chrissy
Age: 15

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I am being baptized catholic soon and want to know what kind of diaper I should wear under my poofy white dress?


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Dear Chrissy,

You don't mention what if anything you use now. If you can fit into them you could try pull-ups. Some other brands to order is Molicare or Uniquebriefs. They are quite good and relatively quiet. A different option is to wear cloth diapers and a plastic outerpant. To minimize the sounds of the plastic pants you could wear white tights over everything. Also by wearing the tights there would be no chance of anyone seeing anything. I congratulate you on your baptism. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dave
Age: 34

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I have a caravan on east coast which doesn't worry me cause I be on my own all the time. Fact is in '09 I am going away on holiday abroad. I am going to share the same room. He is not gay/bi and he's not into nappies. I am bed wetter What do I do? I don't want to loose his friendship. A few years ago he lost his wife through cancer.


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Dear Dave,

Your trip sounds like it will be fun. I know you'll enjoy yourself. And that trip would be a lot more fun with a companion. Your friend sounds like he has been through a lot in recent times. It wouldn't be fair to blindside him on the trip with the diapers and stuff. If he is your friend he must already be aware of you being bi.  So my suggestion is to just be honest and tell him about wearing diapers.  You could explain that you are a bed wetter and need them. I believe that as a friend he would understand a medical need for them. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babyfloyd J Godleske
Age: 45

Q:

I would like to know if it's ok if doctor puts me on baby food and baby milk (soybean) I have a bleeding ulcer and tumor. I am small like a newborn or a toddler but like a baby. How can I stay out of adult food


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Dear Babyfloyd,

If your doctor advises you to do something you should definitely do it. You can have an ulcer and/or tumor and still eat adult food. You would need to be careful of the types of food you eat. Nothing too spicy or irritating. Also cook the food with mild seasonings. When cooked, if necessary you can chop or puree the food to whatever consistency you need. Baby food is wonderful but doesn't contain the vitamin and mineral content an adult needs. So a good vitamin supplement would be a good idea. Whichever way you decide to go, discuss it with your doctor and get their okay first.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: HawkFlight
Age: 19

Q:

Is it possible to live on nothing more than milk or baby formula?


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Dear Hawkflight,

I wouldn't recommend it. Baby food and formula is made with the vitamin/mineral content necessary for babies and not adults. You can eat them but would need to supplement to get your dietary requirements daily. If you really wish to have a full baby experience, all you need to do is cook a regular meal and process it into chunks or puree. You can drink formula but do not use the iron-enriched kind, the iron content is too much for an adult and can be harmful. Hope these tips help. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: JODY POPE
Age: 35

Q:

What can I do to get rid of my pubic hair permanently besides laser?


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Dear Jody,

There are many methods out there. Not all are safe to use. Laser is one of the few that is somewhat safe. Otherwise just a close trim is recommended- don't shave to avoid the itching. If you just trim close there is less to clean.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Manuel
Age: Unknown

Q:

I really like diapers and the way they make me feel when I wear them, but I haven't told my sister. What should I do and is this wrong of me to like the feeling of wearing diapers.


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Dear Manuel,

I will start by saying if it feels right to you then it is right. If something gives you comfort or pleasure, how can it be wrong? So wear whenever you feel the need. As to whether you should tell your sister, that all depends on your sister. Is she supportive and understanding? If she is then gather as much info as you can and sit her down and calmly explain your desires to her. Answer her questions and discuss them. Hopefully she will at least be open to the idea. I wish you well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amen
Age: 17

Q:

Dear mommy, How serious can water intoxication be? Although drinking mineral water are a healthy habit. How much water is safe. Is it true that if you drink more water you will produce more pee, however I think that a myth. Anyway's I'm diapered 24/7 during my school holidays, and I'm happy because I'm able to spend more time with my mother, however she is working and most of the time I have to change my diaper myself. She moving to cloth diapers because it would be cheaper. Is there any advice for her? She is not use to cloth diapers.


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Dear Amen,

Water intoxication can be dangerous to your health especially if you have any other problems. To put it in simple terms with too much water, it is like your cells drown. In certain people it can be fatal. As to the cloth diapers they are economical in the long run as long as you have a washer/dryer handy. The only thing you need to do different from using disposables is skin care. Because you are sitting in your urine, you need to be extra careful about cleaning and using some sort of barrier cream (Balmex, Desitin or even A&D). Change more often and be sure to wear a good fitting plastic overpants. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nicole
Age: 18

Q:

Where can I find free downloadable wetting hypnosis?


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Dear Nicole,

As a rule I don't endorse any wetting method that might do harm. As a nurse I have seen a few methods that went wrong. The method that I do recommend is safe and reversible. That being said if you still wish to do the hypnosis tapes an excellent place to try is SoCalAB. However their tapes are not free. The only site I am aware of that had free hypnosis tapes are now charging for them. But if you wish to check out SoCal's site the link is: http://socalab.250x.com/. I hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Poor Boy
Age: 14

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Hey mommy I need your help. I wear diapers every night but I have a problem. Mom wants me to wear cloth diapers. She says it is the cheapest and the problem is she says she needs to change me because I can't do it right. The worst part about it is she is letting my little brother of 5 watch. I don't know how to make her stop. Should I just play along and act like a baby and be helpless? What can I do?


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Dear Poorboy,

You are in a tough place but you need to sit down and talk to your mom. Let her know how you feel. Ask her to show you the right way to put on the diaper to save her time and trouble. Also tell her that is embarrassing , not to mention inappropriate for your younger brother to see all of this. Be honest with her and tell her exactly how you feel. It just might help. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wonder
Age: 16

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Hey mommy, I am just wondering why do people lie when they write to you? Are they trying to sound cool or what. I have read a question by a guy that writes that his doctor told him to use diapers and other baby stuff.......We all know that that is a lie. So I am just wondering why do people write to you just to lie??


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Dear Wonder,

We respect and care for all of our members. Some are fine and others have problems. Problems relating to trust, being made fun of and just plain getting hurt. Because of that I take every question I receive seriously. Whether I think it is a lie or not doesn't matter.  It is important to that member to have an answer. And that is all I need to know. Life can be hard and at times painful. If I can help ease even one person's pain then I have done well for that day. And that is why I answer every question without prejudice.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 13

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I am a diaper lover in my thoughts. whenever I get the chance to steal a diaper when my parents aren't looking I do so. but I want to be a diaper lover for real and not in my thoughts. I asked my parents and they said no what should I do. Thank you mommy, Jordan (future baby Jordy)


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Dear Jordan,

Unfortunately your parents have control over you until you are 18. The only option besides trying to change their minds is to  sneak a diaper occasionally. You could try gathering info and presenting it to your parents in a logical way. Answer questions and discuss things. They might surprise you. If not, then start saving to purchase small packs from drug stores. I hope things work out for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy just woke up to a soggy diaper. Almost as wet as it is outside.  We've been getting allot of rain here. Thanks for letting me know my age of my inner child. Most likely I'll be stuck in my terrible 2's for a long time. I'm just happy I can shed off 35 and go back to day when diapers where being used for their true use. I still have multiple wetting and messing nights, but I'm thankful this morning minimal clean up will be needed, even though my diaper looks like a swelled balloon. Since I know I'll need to pee soon I figure I might as well wait before a change, just hope a bm movement can hold off. If you know your going to pee again is okay to stay in your night time diaper until you go again? It may take 10-30 minutes before I got to go after I wake up. My morning diaper usually like this morning was hit with multiple wetting accidents during various times during the night, and occasionally may be poopy. I just figure if I'll need changing anyway from the night why not wait to use it again for morning potty time.  What do you think?


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Dear Embarrassed,

Actually it is a good idea to wait. As long as you go regularly every morning it is worth the wait to change. Why change when you will have to change again in a half hour? The morning clean up is usually a big one since you are basically cleaning up an entire night's worth of pee and/or poop. So a little more time won't hurt. Happy washing.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mom
Age: 32

Q:

Hey I need help. I am a mom of a girl of 13. About a week ago I walked in while she was trying to put on a.....DIAPER. I became very confused and asked her what was going on. She told me she had been messing the bed and needed to wear diapers.... I could not understand this. I had not noticed that her bed had been dirty....So I thought I would try something out. I walked over to her (while she was sitting on the bed stunned), laid her down and started to put the diaper on her...She was stunned....when I was done I tucked her into the bed and said goodnight and walked out. Next morning I came into her room, she wasn't awake so I checked her diaper..it was not dirty... I don't know what to do mommy. What is wrong with my girl? Is this a fetish and how can I make her tell me that it is and stop lying to me. Do I have to be hard and make her use the diaper? What can I do??


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Dear Mom,

It is unclear as to whether this is a fetish or not. The main thing missing is communication. How long has she been needing to wear the diapers? Does she need them or does she like them, there is a difference. I would take her to a doctor and make sure there is nothing medically wrong. Then you will have your answer as to if it is a fetish or not. If she has a medical problem then you know she really needs to wear them. It is possible that she is not sure herself. So open up the communication lines.

-Hugs Sandra