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Question Asked By: Diana
Age: 26

Q:

Where can I get a large pram/push chair please?


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Dear Diana,

We have a long list of vendors listed in our products section on our main site. I am not certain if any of them make prams or carriages. One popular alternative is to re-purpose a wheelchair to look like a stroller. My suggestion is to go on the sites that do make major furniture pieces, perhaps one of them will make one for you. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kelli
Age: 25

Q:

How do I become fecal incontinent? Should I just keep wearing and using diapers 24/7/365? I don't use the potty at all because I want to be incontinent so bad. Can you help me?


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Dear Kelli,

If you truly want to become totally incontinent and have thought it all through then you are basically doing what you need to do. Just keep wearing the diapers and whenever the urge comes ignore it and use the diaper.  Your mind will gradually realize that to alert you is a waste and will eventually stop giving the warning signs. Then you will be incontinent. But I have to caution you make sure this is what you want because to undo this training can be difficult. That being said I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kelli
Age: 25

Q:

How do I make it easier to poop in my diapers without any pushing at all? I want to be able to have it come out automatically. Should I just keep wearing and using diapers 24/7/365 without using the potty?


A:

Dear Kelli,

If you want to have an easier time pooping there is just one word for you - fiber. The more fiber the more you will go. Also make sure you drink plenty of fluids to help lower the chances of constipation. And the longer you wear the diapers eventually your body will get the idea and will just go on its own. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wittle Frankie
Age: 38

Q:

Is it unhealthy to keep wearing 24/7 when I don't have to?


A:

Dear Frankie,

As long as you are happy and practicing good skin care you are using healthy practices. You hurt no one and like I am fond of saying A diaper is a piece of fabric around the posterior, the same can be said about panties, briefs or boxers. So be happy and rest assured that what you do is okay.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jamie
Age: Unknown

Q:

My wife wants me in diaper 24/7. Is this normal behavior for a wife?


A:

Dear Jamie,

Who defines normal- you do.  If you and your wife are okay with it then it is perfectly fine and normal for the two of you. And more to the point you have to have something on during the day whether it's a brief or a diaper is entirely a matter of choice. So make your choice and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amen
Age: 17

Q:

Hi mommy it me again Amen. I have a question to ask. I'm going on a 2 weeks expedition on December. Thus I will be trekking in the woods. Therefore I need your advice on traveling with diapers. I have already plan to bring 2 packs of diapers, but which one is better pull up or the standard one?. I will traveling by bus and air plane. Once again I want to thank you for helping me out.


A:

Dear Amen,

As to which one is better is entirely a matter of choice. On one hand to change a regular messy diaper is a lot easier if you only have to peel it away from your body. But on the other hand since you will be traveling, ease of use would say to use the pull-up kind. If you need to change in a bathroom stall standing up, the pull-ups definitely have an advantage. You are off to a good start 2 packs of diapers are good. Don't forget wipes in their own resealable bag and powder for comfort. A lot of walking equals friction and you don't want to be stuck with sore areas trying to get around. I hope you enjoy your trip!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 57

Q:

I found out what "free birthing" is. Home birth with no help of a dula or midwife. I wish I could find mommy for me, I am somewhat being neglected.


A:

Dear Michel,

I am sorry that you are feeling so alone. You aren't you know, not really. You have all of us here as friends and we'll help you out whenever we can. If you are looking for a mommy check out our mommy finder and see who's available in your area. You never know. And remember you are not alone.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Reno
Age: 13

Q:

Dear mommy I was wandering what is the best plastic underwear for men. I am 13 and a bedwetter. I am embarrassed when my friends come over because I wet my bed and I want to know what's causing it please help!!!!!!!!


A:

Dear Reno,

They have many excellent products out on the market. If you are small enough to fit into one a pull-up brand would be perfect for you. It looks like underwear and has the protection to keep everything dry. You might also consider a mattress protector.  As to why you are wetting only a doctor can tell you that. Some common causes are stress, worry and as in my son's case he had a growth spurt and his bladder didn't- it couldn't handle the amount of liquid it was being asked to process. It did eventually catch up and everything is fine today. But like I said only a doctor can tell you for sure why you are wetting. I wish you luck and try the pull-ups next time you have company.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 13

Q:

How do I get my parents to treat me like I was a newborn?


A:

Dear David,

Only you know how your parents are. If you believe that they would not agree with treating you like a newborn then there is nothing that can be said to change their minds. No magic words. I know you would love them to but it might never happen. Even if it doesn't though remember that they do love you as their little boy. And from a mom's point of view no matter how old you are, you will always be your mom's baby boy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anonymous
Age: 27

Q:

Good Day.

First off, I'm not trying to diss anyone's 'hobbies', I'm simply a curious guy, seeking answers to a question that has bugged me for a while.

Now, here's the thing. I can understand the whole AB/DL thing as a way of returning to a simpler time, a time free of worries and cares, where the only worry was what cartoon was on, or what your mommy fed you for breakfast. I can even understand diaper use as a part of this fetish. But what I can't understand is, why would anyone want to become diaper-dependent?

Thank you for your time, and I look forward to your answer.

---Anonymous


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Dear Anon,

As the expression goes "Different strokes for different folks." Like you were saying you understand the wanting to be child-like again when everything was simpler. Some only want a small taste of that to relax so they get home from work and put on diapers and start to distress from their day. Others want to experience their childhood to the fullest. To really get the full impact they feel a need to be incontinent like babies are and to maybe even have a mommy to take care of them. Someone to care for them and love them unconditionally. All we can do in this lifetime is to try to find some happiness wherever we can.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 16

Q:

Dear Mommie,

I haven't written in awhile because I have been grounded from my computer. I did however get my grades back up and now my real mommy has allowed me to have not only my computer back but my diapers as well. There are no secrets between my mommy and myself as it is just the two of us. She has known about me wanting to be back in diapers since I told her at age 13, and has been completely supportive in me wearing them. I would much rather have her spank me then take away my diapers as punishment , but she always say's she knows best and I agree. My question is my best friend Jillian say's I need to grow up and only babies wear diapers. I have tried to explain to her that it isn't true and have even showed her some diaper websites. So anyway she reluctantly let me diaper her one night on a sleepover at my house and now she loves them as well but has to sneak her diapers at her house. Now she wants to come over all the time and not only wear her diaper but has asked me to ask my mommy if she would also diaper her. I mean she is my best friend and I want to support her being herself and of course I understand how she feels about diapers, but I am totally uncomfortable with my mommy changing anyone else's diaper but mine. Am I being selfish? Should I be a bit more understanding. And I know my mommies heart and I know she would help my friend. Please help!!
                                Diapered Kendra


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Dear Kendra,

I am glad you wee able to get your grades up and get your computer back. You are lucky that you have a mommy that is understanding and is willing to even help your girlfriend. It is normal for you to feel uncomfortable with your mommy changing your friend, that activity is something you and your mom share together. You could talk to your mom about it and see how she feels. You could discuss the best plan to help you feel better about the situation. Your mom loves you, that is obvious and like you said she knows best. So trust her judgement. I hope all turns out well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mikel Lee Danzig
Age: 55

Q:

I may not be a famous rocker as my younger brother Glenn Danzig is, but I have always been a bigger bed wetter. After having rabies for a time I began having sudden urges to wear diapers. (Rabies is an acute, mortal infection that affects the central nervous system (CNS) in warm-blooded animals, including humans.) Even after the procedures to correct this ailment, I still had a strange fascination with diapers. I was recently perusing through your thought-provoking stories. Many of these legends had major grammatical errors which hereby encumbered my enjoyment of these works of art. I was wondering if anyone ever corrects these for proper grammar. If so, why does nobody have the capabilities to write at a level beyond that of a common 3rd grader? (Mind you, not EVERY story has errors. A large percent of the papers are wrong, but not all.) I suppose that my point is that having run-on sentences and other errors makes things hard to read. For the enjoyment of everyone, I feel that the proper actions must be taken. I am not doing this to be a literary critique. I simply enjoy reading these stories, most of which play out my sissy fantasies. Please do your best to alleviate my problem. (I have also found it ironic that the form that I've been typing in, spell check is available, yet all of the stories I have read have simple spelling mistakes and common misusage of words eg: where vs. were.)


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Dear Mikel,

I was sorry to hear about your health problems in your youth. I too suffered with health problems. However we may of gotten here- well here we are with varying degrees of incontinence. As to your comments regarding the stories, we welcome any feedback any member may have. I will say in defense of the story section, it is written by our members and not professionals. Therefore we tread lightly. We are not publishers and are not willing to rewrite a person's story. We do minimal clean-up and for the most part leave the story as written. It can be difficult to read some of them but if that is how the author wrote it then that is how it stays. I apologize if this is inconvenient but there are many other stories to read and enjoy. Not to mention there are over 100 others waiting to be screened and added to the site. That is just for the AB/DL stories section. There just isn't time and man power it would take to correct every error sadly. We just correct the spelling with a spell check, however is does miss some as where, and were are both spelled correct. But there are used differently in a sentence. So it can slip through a spell check. Aside from that and checking for appropriate content, the story is then added as is and we move on to the many others. I hope you continue to visit our site as we add on to the story section all the time.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jake
Age: 20

Q:

Hi mommy, I have another question, last month I asked about me starting to wet without me noticing, well I chose to keep wearing and I have started to wet more easily everyday. Ok my question is from my girlfriend, is that in March we have to go to one of her family reunions for a whole week, problem is only her mom knows about us and she doesn't want us to tell everyone just yet, so my girlfriend wants to know do I have to be re-potty trained and if so is there anyway to get something with wet indicator on and what is the best way to handle me when I do wet myself instead using the toilet, of course after all this I'm going right back into diapers bye mommy.


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Dear Jake,

As I had said if you continue wearing 24/7 you could become incontinent. If you are going to wear 24/7 till March most likely you will not have control. Your options are to stop wearing now and re-pottytrain yourself or resign yourself to finding the diaper that absorbs the most. There are quite a few diapers available that have some sort of wetness indicator- whether it be the name printed on the diaper starting to fade or a line or design disappearing. You have until March to do some research and find the one diaper that is (no pun intended) a perfect fit for you. I wish you luck. You can go to our diaper links pages and have some samples sent to test.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Hawk
Age: 19

Q:

Dear Mommy,

So, I've got a couple questions. First off, and this has nothing to do with anything, but how can any AB/TB fit into a baby disposable diaper? It just boggles my mind....

Now to the meat of the matter.

1. It's been remarked in the hospital, when I broke my leg, that I have a very large bladder capacity. Which diaper would you recommend, in order to prevent leaks?

2. And this one kind of worries me. I've heard excessive diaper use can "potty un-train" someone. While I do find this attractive, as it provides a more unique baby experience, I'm worried that if I become diaper-dependent, it'll be irreversible. So, is this potty un-training reversible, or is it a permanent change? If it's reversible, how would you recommend? Thank you for your time,
Hawk

P.S.: Question 2 will only apply once I'm in my own place, or living with a roommate who's comfortable with it, so other people are not a factor in this question.


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Dear Hawk,

As strange as it may sound, our members come in all shapes and sizes. Our more slender members can fit into the size 6 diapers. The diapers that seem to have a large capacity are Uniquebriefs and Molicare. We recently tested a new one called Dry24/7 with good results. They have high capacity with long lasting durability. On to your second question, you can become incontinent from wearing and using a diaper 24/7. There is a mind/body connection and your mind senses that you are using a diaper and determines it no longer needs to alert you that you need to go. That is if you are using the diaper, if you are only wearing but using the toilet as usual there should be no problem. And if you do become incontinent due to diaper wearing it is a reversible condition. You would need to potty train the way a toddler is. Repetition is the key. I hope I shed some light on the matter.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: C
Age: 24

Q:

Ok here is my question: I want people to know I wear diapers. How can I tell people?


A:

Dear C,

You need to be careful of who you tell about wearing diapers.  Some people will never accept or understand the need for wearing diapers. But for those who you want to know you simply need to sit them down and explain to them the whys and what's of it all. You can either do it one person at a time or have a group and make an announcement. Be prepared for a lot of questions. I wish you the best.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babyfloyd
Age: 45

Q:

Dear mommy I went through the Oklahoma bombing. The Dr told me I would have to wear a baby diapers for life and baby food, bibs and play with baby toys and baby stuff and sleep in a baby bed and eat in a highchair. My question is if I was your baby and I wet and poppy in my diaper what would you do?


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Dear Babyfloyd,

Well if you were my baby I would do what any mommy would do. I would clean you and put on a fresh clean diaper. Then either play with you and your baby toys for a while or put you to go night-night.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brittany
Age: 15

Q:

I am receiving my sacrament of catholic baptism over Thanksgiving and have to wear a poofy white baptism dress with bonnet,lace socks and satin booties under my dress I have to wear a cloth diaper and plastic pants and tee shirt. I know I will be asked by my girlfriends at my party as to why I have the diaper and plastic pants under my dress. How do I explain to them they are part of the outfit?


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Dear Brittany,

How would your girlfriends know you have on a diaper? If you wear a disposable that is snug with a quiet outer layer no one will ever know. You can dress in your whites and also be sure of no leaks since the diaper is snug. Problems solved. I hope all goes well for you on your special day and congrats!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andi Weeks
Age: 29

Q:

Can I have sex and have a baby while wearing diapers?


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Dear Andi,

If you are a diaper wearer it is possible to become pregnant. The two activities are separate from each other. So if you are having sex and do not wish to have a child my suggestion is to visit your doctor and talk about the best birth control option that fits your lifestyle. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Mommy I welcomed back a little bit of being no older than a toddler today.  I usually only wear diapers at night, but this weekend their just not for night time accidents. After changing my poopy diaper, and getting a bath I put on a plain white diaper. I put some jeans on, and shirt that hung down to the crotch. I don't think it hid it too much, but none the less I went out to run some errands. One of my errands included buying Baby Powder, Desitin, and a plastic bed sheet for my mattress. Sometimes I would see parents with their toddlers, and I thought to myself they are probably wearing the same type of underwear with the exception mine are a little bigger. Its been while since I've heard the crackling of the plastic sheet under my normal bed sheets, and using my diaper as my toilet is liberating. However, I had a wetting accident when I got home, and the diaper soaked it up without a problem. To save some diapers I didn't change it right away, especially since my underwear are diapers for the weekend. Is this a common practice, and when should a daytime diaper change take place? Is it ok to leave a diaper on until another accident to save on diapers? By the way I had to use toilet paper to remove the bulk of poop from my diaper. It didn't shake off as I thought it would. How do should I get the excess poop off my diaper, and into the toilet? Well got to go, but loving having no more control as a toddler. One more day to go in diapers, then it's back to wearing them at night.


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Dear Embarrassed,

I am glad all is going well for you. You don't need to change every time you urinate. It all depends on the absorbency of the diaper but a good diaper can usually hold 2-3 small wettings. At any rate you should change every 6 hours or so regardless (even if you don't wet, the diapers break down). A good trick to cleaning the excess poop out of a diaper is to use the very top portion and scrape down and off into the toilet bowl. You can of course use toilet paper if you wish. Until we hear from you again take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked Here: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy by the smell and feel of my nigh time diaper I didn't make it through the night without messing in my diaper. ;-( The diaper did it's job, but the teddy bears on the front of it might need to hold their noses. ;-) I also find the onesie helpful in the winter since it keeps my tummy warm in these winter months unlike the T-shirt. Mommy if you had to guess from my accidents at night how old in a babies life would I be? Oh almost forgot to mention I do use a bottle some times with formula. That may help. With these type of accidents I'm certainly not a big boy, but I'm not in a hurry to grow up.  Well need my diaper changed. Stay forever young.


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Dear Embarrassed,

Since you are still messing your diaper you might be between 2-3 years old. Some kids are potty trained from around 18 months to 3 so the age range I'm using is about average. Be sure that the formula you drink is not iron enriched. Those formulas level of iron is too much for an adult and is dangerous. But alright otherwise. So change your diaper and snug up your onesie and settle down with a warm bottle.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dan
Age: 23

Q:

When should I tell my parents about my diaper fetish?


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Dear Dan,

I need to ask, why do they need to know? I understand wanting to share this information with them. But only you know them, will they be accepting? If you believe so then sit them down and explain it all to them. Be prepared for questions.  But if in your heart you know they won't understand I wouldn't mention it just yet. So just think about whether you need to share this or not. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 18

Q:

Do you believe and agree that wearing and using diapers is more convenient and practical than using the toilet? Also is it normal that I miss my toddler years because I remember them so well and miss wearing and using my diapers in my toddler years? What's the best way to deal with that nostalgia?


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Dear Todd,

Many people have fond memories of their childhood. It is very common to want to relive that care-free time. Being AB is a way to revisit those wonderful years. And there are quite a few people who do believe it is more convenient to wear a diaper than to use the toilet. Especially on a trip/excursion where you have no access to a bathroom. So wearing a diaper is a good option for when you need to go and have no where to go.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy it's a little odd using diapers from evening to morning, but I no longer wear big boys pants or use a potty after work. Had to go out in my diaper under my jeans, and often wander if people notice the baby smells or notice the bulge. Does a diaper bulge up in the back when your standing? Also how often should a mommy check our diapers? I don't know when I need to be changed, but shouldn't mommies feel our diapers every so often? They also sometimes let you go in a wet diaper? Don't we need changed ASAP when were wet? Why don't they change us? Should they also check us in public?  Is it that bad if we wet or poop in public if the diaper holds? Why won't mommie just let us be without making such a fuss over our  diapers? Well I'm told I need changed? Sorry for the loaded question at least it not my diapee!

PS: Mommy told me to tell you she wish she could talk to you, but because I was wet before dinner and during dishes she needs to get me changed.  Hugs and kisses.


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Dear Embarrassed,

A cloth diaper does tend to bunch up more than a disposable one does. If wearing cloth you need to be checked more often. A disposable diaper has a protective layer that keeps most of the urine off the skin, cloth however has it in direct contact and can cause diaper rash. So change a cloth diaper frequently, after every wetting if possible. If yo are wearing a good fitting plastic pants over the diaper you could postpone the change but only for a short time. And you need to listen to your mommy- diaper changes are important. Diaper rash is basically an acid burn from the acids in urine. Very painful- your mommy is only looking out for you. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Good Morning mommy!! I should  probably accept the fact that I'm always going to wet, and or mess during the night. My diaper and plastic sheets reminds me every morning that I'm still a baby. I don't think I'll ever get a girl friend who will put up with my accidents. Since I'm still pretty much a baby I wander if you can put a good word in for me to Santa Clause with it being so close to Christmas. I don't know if my night time accidents will put me on the naughty list, but thought you can ask him for me. Can you ask him to bring me a case of diapers. Nothing would make me happier than opening a present of disposable diapers. Can you ask him for me? Secondly, I usually wear the plain white diapers with no wetness indicator (bambino blanco diapers). Not that wetness indicators helps in the morning since it's the same thing every morning. I wonder if there are  any other companies that you know of that just sell plain white diapers? I just would like to shop around price wise for disposable diapers that have no wetness indicator. Well thanks for your help, need to change out of this messy diaper. Maybe you should also ask Santa if he can hello the diaper companies like Pampers, Luvs, and Huggies to see there is a market for bigger babies.Thanks hugs Andorra kisses.


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Dear Embarrassed,

I will let you in on a secret. I believe Santa could be a wetter himself. Why? I think part of that jolly tummy is really padding from a diaper! :) Well maybe not but then again.... As to your request about the diapers, if you go to our diaper links section you could contact the companies and ask for sample packs. This way you can find a plain diaper that has the absorbency needs that you require. And yes I will put in a good word with Santa because you have been very good this year!

- Hugs and kisses Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kate
Age: 31

Q:

I am an AB and so is my husband. We both engage in diaper play and to our own knowledge we keep it pretty hidden from our children. However recently my 7 year old son asked if he could wear diapers. I asked him why and he said because he thought they looked cute and comfortable and he admitted being lazy about going to the toilet. I told him I understood and told him I would think about it. I just thought I'd ask since I browse the site as it is, should I allow him to wear if he wants to? I've been in his shoes but I never let my parents know so I was wondering what advice you'd have as a parent.


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Dear Kate,

I want to first off commend you for being a understanding parent. Which is probably why your son felt comfortable talking to you about this subject. How many parents can say that? I really don't see a problem with letting your son wear diapers, as long as it is like he said for comfort. I would set down some rules though. Such as you can wear but you still have to use the toilet. I would strictly enforce that rule because if he gets into the habit of using the diapers and not the toilet, he could unpotty-train himself. And that is something you definitely don't want. Perhaps another rule would be only on weekends- again as a precaution so he doesn't become diaper dependant. Talk it over with your husband and see if this is something you both are okay with. I know you will decide on the best course for your son.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 19

Q:

Hi I was wondering what was the best way to diaper myself? I wear depends mostly and I was wondering if you could give me step by step advice in diapering myself because sometimes I tear the tapes off and I'm tired of doing that. Can you please help?


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Dear Todd,

The basic steps for diapering are to clean thoroughly and dry. Use powder if desired. Lay flat and place diaper under the buttocks. Proceed to pull and stick the tapes on each side. Pull till snug but not tight. I do believe the tapes are breaking on you because you might be pulling too tight.  Are the diapers big enough for you? If so a remedy you might try is to use duct tape. Yes I said duct tape.  Pull the tape tab and secure but reinforce with duct tape. So even if the tape rips the diaper is still held together by the duct tape.  Just a thought. Try it and see if it helps.

-Hugs Sandra