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Question Asked By: Tyler
Age: 15

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Hello mommy I have finally got the nerve to go to a cvs store and buy the diapers I have wanted all my life. All I need is some stories I could tell cashier in case he/she asks me why I need diapers and if you have any advice on where I could hide my diapers. That would be helpful too. Thank you so much


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Dear Tyler,

Have no worries. Depending on what size diapers you are getting will determine your 'reason'. If you can wear the bigger kid diapers or pull-ups the obvious reason is "They're for my younger brother." Now if you need to buy the adult sizes then you say "They're for my grandfather. He can't get around too good anymore." What a wonderful grandson you are! (hee,hee) As far as hiding places- anywhere your parents don't go regularly. I have heard of in the basement, back of closets, inside old suitcases/backpacks. I know of one person who hid his in the hollow of a tree in the backyard. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: UKBaby
Age: 35

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I am married man in my mid-30's with children. Since I was about 5 or 6 I have wanted to wear nappies 24/7. In my teens I lived away from home and had a chance from time to time to wear baby nappies and the idea has never left me. Recently I have started wearing nappies to go to work although no one has realized, least of all my wife. My problem is that when I am in work I find that I am wetting myself without even realizing. There are two main worries I have. Firstly, I am becoming incontinent? Secondly, when I take off my nappy before I go home it is thoroughly soaked - it even leaked the other day (luckily no one noticed). What should I be doing in order to stop myself from getting nappy rash? Thanks Ukbaby87


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Dear UKbaby,

I am glad that you are fulfilling your lifelong wish. I believe that what is going on is the simple fact that your mind knows you are wearing and doesn't bother to send you the alert signals to go to the bathroom. If you continue to wear all the time there is a chance you could become incontinent. Perhaps wear every other day. Just break up the frequency- keep your system in check. And as far as getting a rash goes- cleanse well and dry well, use a cornstarch powder and if desired a rash cream put on as a light film for protection. Also if you are soaking your diapers you might want to consider using 'stuffers'. These are rectangular pads of diaper material that you put inside of the diaper when you put it on for added absorbency. I do wish you much luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John Chapman
Age: 28

Q:

Hiya I just wanted some advise on me. I'm incontinent. I have no control over my bladder or my bowels. The problem is when I mess myself when I'm out, how can I stop my diaper from smelling in public so no one notices.


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Dear John,

If you are unable to change right away it would be a great benefit for your poop not to smell. I have heard of 2 possible remedies. One is to chew parsley and the other is to take chlorophyll tablets. They are suppose to remove the odor. How much to take? It would depend on your height and size. I would do the tablets 3 times a day. I should mention the chlorophyll tabs turn your poop green- it is normal. It also takes a few days to become effective so continue using for at least a week before expecting any results.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jessica
Age: 26

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It's me again the mom that's a DL with the then two year old son that has recently had his birthday so he's three now. Anyway, it's very relieving that you think it's ok that I allow him to wear at home if he wants. I know this an ABDL board and not a normal place for potty training questions but I figured since you are a mom I'd ask your advice. My son does still like his diapers I'm sure for the comfort and convenience I guess it's genetic since both of his parents do. Anyway I told him he could still wear at home but at preschool he would need to use the potty. He's ok with peeing in the potty but won't poop in it, he says he's scared and doesn't want to. I am very afraid of him withholding his bowel movements because obviously I don't want him to have any bowel issues or other health problems. Any advice on how to get him to overcome this fear?


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Dear Jessica,

Actually this is quite common. My own children had issues also. My pediatrician told me it related to separation anxiety. Nuts I know. He explained that the child is okay with the pee going away but their poop is something they can see that was theirs. Mommy and/or Daddy go away every day and that is upsetting to the child but of course we come back. In many cases the child's poop not returning is the first time in their lives the concept that something they had/loved might not return has occurred. It scares them and they don't want it to go. How I over came it with my kids was we did a good bye ceremony for the poop. Silly but it made my kids understand that some things don't come back and that poop was something they could let go. It worked after a little while. Consult with your doctor and make sure that this is something you could try with your son. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jerry
Age: 56

Q:

I am new to the diaper scene. I know what AB and DL mean, but can you tell me what TB means?

   Thanks.


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Dear Jerry,

Welcome to the diaper scene. I hope you get a lot of useful info as you look around our site. And for your edification TB is a teen baby. We have members from 11 to 92. So welcome to the family!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nahtnaiel
Age: 24

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I've had a desire to wear diapers since as long as I can remember, I just always set the thought aside and decided it was not normal. I've been doing that consciously since 7 or 9, when I was caught using my brothers diapers. I thought it would go away with time, but it always resurfaces. Then one day, I was shown a thing on infantilism, which led me on a research path to this site, and to the, to me, unknown world of the AB/DL lifestyles. I feel a lot better knowing I am not alone now, and am planning on buying my first diapers soon to see if it is still something I am actually interested in, not just a 'memory euphoric,' but part of me is curious about the extent of what I would like as an AB. I do not identify with the Diaper Lovers completely, as to me it is not as much about sex as it is the comfort and security, and the idea of a 'mommy' or 'sitter' is appealing. I am just not sure where to go with any of this, and I guess I am just bouncing my thoughts off of you... well my real question is, where is a good place to begin if I want to experiment with this lifestyle, see if I really do belong?


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Dear Nathaniel,

I am glad that you are ready to explore the AB/DL side of yourself. A lot of our members remember having thoughts about wearing for most of their lives. And it is perfectly normal. Like I often say: A diaper is a piece of fabric around your butt, the same can be said about panties, briefs or boxers- so what's the difference? To become involved in the lifestyle you need do nothing more than you already are. Try your first diapers and see if you like them. Go to our friend finder section and perhaps find an email buddy to talk to. And if you are daring look at our find a mommy section and see if anyone is in your area. Of course we are always here and available to answer questions. So go and explore and see what develops.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Mommy the teddy bears on my diaper don't look too happy after the thorough soaking from last night. :-) I'm done with potty training for at least another year or two. I rather wake to wet and/or a messy diaper in the morning. The body feels much better when we don't have hold your pee and poop while we're sleeping. Potty training is just to hard. Plus the print diapers look better than bland underwear. Does it matter than I'm 35 and that I'm unpotty trained at night?


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Dear Embarrassed,

It is easier to just let go rather than fight. The only problem with night wetting is you can have daytime break through wetting. So just be careful during the day and use the bathroom often.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matt
Age: 16

Q:

Where can I purchase chest-high diapers, preferably thick ones?


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Dear Matt,

I am sorry to tell you that chest high diapers are not the norm. The only place you could possibly get them is special order from an online diaper site (see our links). You could try a too large size but there is the danger of leaking. I hope you find what you are looking for.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Rebecca
Age: 18

Q:

Hello, I live in the Dallas, TX area and I have no trouble at all finding diapers to wear, my problem is finding baby clothes in my size. I can't buy them online for fear of my family finding out. Is there a special store that can make adult size baby clothes? I doubt I could just call up Sears or a regular store and ask if they make custom stuff like that. Please help me.

Love,
Baby Rebecca


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Dear Rebecca,

It would be great if we could just get in the car and drive to the adult baby clothes store. We are not there yet but we do have many online companies that offer these services. You could request from some of these vendors that the items be sent in a package with no outward print that would tell what is inside. On our main site you can check out some of these stores. the link is http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/TB_AB_DL_links.html
Happy shopping and good luck,

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Mommy I'm a boy who wears disposables for night time accidents. I always wake up in the morning to a sagging diaper. For us bedwetters what's the average number accidents that a little boy can have at night while he sleeps?


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Dear Embarrassed,

Many factors will determine how many accidents will occur overnight. How much did you drink before bed? Are you under any stress? and the list goes on. But the average is for a 8 hour sleep cycle is 1-2 accidents. Stay sweet.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jason
Age: 29

Q:

How can I lose control of my bladder, is there anything I can take to help the process?


A:

Dear Jason,

I only recommend methods that can be reversed and cause no harm. There is one program that I approve of. The link is : http://www.deeker.com/Articles/twelve_month_diaper_
training_program.pdf.
I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ryan
Age: 17

Q:

Why is our society so adamant about getting kids out of diapers? Why is our society against diapers? Is it normal to be sad when you hear that a kid is potty trained and they are out of diapers?


A:

Dear Ryan,

You are definitely a diaper lover. Very few parents have the luxury of letting their kids potty-train when they are ready. To make ends meet both parents have to work and few places take children that are not trained. So kids are being trained early- some too early which causes problems. As far as being sad, for the most part it is the natural cycle of life to become trained. That being said it is always a little sad because it means another precious little one has begun to grow up and childhood is golden.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Mommy I'm thankful for my diaper every morning. This morning my diaper is sagging pretty good after wetting marathon from last night, but it's the first time there is no familiar smelly bulge in the back of my diaper? I haven't really been potty training, but could my body be remembering how to hold it, or is it possible it's not a potty moment so to speak? If I normally have messing accident at night is it possible that it was just a good night? I also been having dreams at night about my underwear preference. Last night I had a dream I had wet my diaper at work. I had a meeting and all sudden I could smell the urine fearing my co workers could smell it. I was happy when I woke up in a wet diaper realizing the smell must of  snuck into my dreams. I fear that someone is going to find out about my diapers.  What makes it worse is that the teddy bear diapers shows through the white trash bags. I make sure I bury them deep in the trash can. Should I worry about it or show off my teddy bears with pride in the trash? ;-) This is kind of a loaded question, but when should you use a booster pad in your diaper? How do you know when to use one? Well I need to strip off this wet diaper? 35 going onto 2,

Embarrassed


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Dear Embarrassed,

It could be entirely possible that your body is remembering how to have control. The reasons you are having the dreams is because you are stressed about your wetting. And that brings me to the issue of booster pads.  If you are using diapers at work perhaps wearing one or two with your diaper might ease your mind about having an accident at work. And for disposal of said teddies- if you want to flaunt them, then flaunt them.  But if you wish to maintain some secrecy then keep burying them or use a black bag. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Reno Mcdonald
Age: Unknown

Q:

How I make myself wet my bed please. I want to know but I won't do it. Someone will give me $20 to tell them please.


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Dear Reno,

There is no big secret on how to wet the bed. Just drink a lot before going to lay down and don't use the bathroom. When you feel the urge to go in the middle of the night, ignore the feeling and just go on yourself, if that is what you truly want to do. I guess you just made an easy $20.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mommy I have 3 questions. I like to poop in my diaper and I want to know how long is it safe to stay in a dirty diaper because I love the feel of it and want to stay in it as long as possible. And my other question is since I have been wearing diapers for awhile now, I wanted to know if there is any chance that I will lose control if I only put my diapers on for fun 3 out of 7 days and if there is a chance I will lose control how can I prevent it?


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Dear Chris,

To answer your first question you can probably stay in a poopy diaper for a little while. Poop is not as irritating as urine is.  But I would still change within 2-3 hours. Use a protective cream to be sure to protect your skin (Balmex, Desitin etc.) Now if you are wearing more than you are out of diapers there is always a chance you could lose control.  If you think that might be happening the solution is simple decrease your diaper wearing time before it gets any worse. I hope this info helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jake
Age: 20

Q:

Hi mommy, I just became a baby, my girlfriend introduced me to this about 6 months ago. My question is that yesterday while getting out of college, I just started wetting without even noticing until it was happening, my girlfriend was over joyous at hearing this but I'm worried is that suppose to happen.


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Dear Jake,

I am glad that you found the AB/DL community and are happy with it.  Also it is rare to have a girlfriend that is involved. That being said I do believe your problem can be traced back to the fact that you are wearing for extended periods of time. Basically you are unpotty-training yourself. If you wear diapers for a long time your body interprets that as not having to alert you to the fact that you need to go.  It is aware that you are wearing a diaper and are covered (no pun intended). So why concern itself with alerting you.  If you wish to prevent this from getting worse just decrease your diaper wearing time and frequency.  Perhaps only wear on weekends.  On the other hand if you wish to be diaper dependant all you need to do is keep wearing.  I wish you the best whatever you choose.  We are here to help anyway we can.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ryan
Age: 17

Q:

What in my last question made me a true diaper lover? I'm just curious. Since you said it was ok to be sad when a kid gets potty trained, is it ok to think it's cute when a kid goes pee or poop in a diaper or their pants? Is it ok to prefer going in your pants or a diaper if you prefer it over a toilet?


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Dear Ryan,

I am sorry if I somehow offended you.  All I meant was that a person is entitled to feel the way they do and know it's okay. And as many diapers as I have changed as a Mom and as a nurse- trust me there is nothing 'cute' about poop in a diaper especially when it's an adult diaper! It is just that on a certain level by a child getting potty-trained is just one more step closer to separating from their mom and becoming an adult.  I love my kids they are all in their 20's but every once in a while I remember them as babies and toddlers and miss that time. And it is preferable to go in the toilet, if only for the clean-up factor but if you wish to go in your pants--well whatever feels right to you.  Bottom line, this is a free country and you should be able to live it how you wish, diapered or not. Just my opinion.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Hatez
Age: 17

Q:

Dear mommy, I am an abdl in need of advice. Now, I live in Utah and there is nothing I would like better than to wear and use diapers, but until now I have been fearful of my mother, friends or other people finding out because I don't think anyone I know would understand. So I have been limited to just wearing them when no one is around and I'm sure no one is watching. (I prefer disposable but have worn cloth before) but my mother is going on vacation soon and I will be alone for a whole week and I want to use them so I have a question once used how would I dispose of the diapers so that my mother would never find out. She is the one who usually takes the garbage out so she would definitely see them and garbage pick up is the day she gets back. So what if they are late picking it up what do you suggest I do. I have considered a neighbors trash can but I am fearful of being seen by the neighbors. Please respond I need your help.


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Dear Hatez,

You have the right idea. Put the used diapers in another trash can beside your own. You put the used ones in a double bag (use recycled grocery bags) and take them to a local store/outlet strip and just put it in their dumpster. In a row of stores they will usually be lined up in the back of the businesses and out of plain view. Hope you enjoy your week.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Carl Hilburn
Age: 48

Q:

I have a hard time putting on my disposable diaper I have  used the back up to the wall laying down on bed can you help me?


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Dear Carl,

It is usually a case of trial and error the first few times you diaper yourself. One of the easiest ways is to use the bed method. Lay on the bed and raise your hips. Put the diaper directly under your posterior. Now here is the key and a source of a few embarrassing moments for myself- when taping/Velcroing/pinning up the sides be sure to suck in your tummy and tug real tight to adhere. If you don't do this you will stand up and the diaper will slide down. When laying down the rear is spread out so you have to compensate (so to speak) Hope this tip helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy thought I would post this separately. Next week I plan to use my diapers day and night. It won't be 24/7, but before I leave for work I will lay out a fresh diaper and diaper care products on my bed. When I get home from work it's right into the diaper, and the bathroom is off limits. On weekends I'll go from the night time diaper to a and then back into a diaper. Weekends are all day. This will only be for a couple of weeks, but my concern is going out in public.  I plan to throw my jeans right over the diaper, since it is my underwear for those times. Should I worry my diaper will show? Sometimes my jeans slip down a little that may show little in the back?  Should I expect looks? What should I expect from wearing diapers in the daytime for those two weeks?


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Dear Embarrassed,

Jeans are a tight fitting garment and will show the bulkiness of the diaper and will show the top of it as well.  If you don't want the possible looks and/or comments perhaps a better choice of garment might be cargo pants. Most people are too busy to notice anyone else. But there are a few non-life-having people who have nothing better to do than look at others and critique everything about them. Sometimes they say things and sometimes they don't.  Personally I don't care because their opinion counts for nothing in my life but that's me. So depending on what you are looking for (attention or no attention) in those 2 weeks you can wear the jeans or the cargo pants. Either way enjoy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Hey mommy I'm a big boy but still need diapers at night, but it usually is  for little accidents. I mainly only need them for for pooping accidents, but I'm waking up shortly after. The only reason I wet is because making a poopy makes me pee.  I think I'm getting better at holding it and am looking forward to wearing big boy pants to bed! However I have a question about changing a poopy diaper.  When I first wake up in the morning my diaper is already wet and my poop poop is already in the diaper.  Some directions on changing says use the front of the diaper to wipe the excess poop poop off. The problem is most of the time when the tapes are undone and the front lifted it's all yellow from my pee.


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Dear Embarrassed,

The directions on cleaning poop are not always clear. As for using the diaper to wipe off the poop, you can use it even if it is yellowed. All you are doing is removing the bulk of the feces off, so as to whether it is with a clean or used portion of the diaper doesn't matter.  You are still going to have to clean the area. So if you wish use the diaper to wipe and then remember to cleanse thoroughly, dry and powder.  You'll be baby fresh once more!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gregg
Age: 36

Q:

Hi and thanks. This is a serious question so don't disregard please ok. Here goes I've had a mommy in the past but didn't tell her what I liked until I already had two kids with her. The waiting wasn't too good and ended up in counseling and understanding after about two years. For other reasons we have since split. I just started dating after about 4 years of abstinence. Sorry but it took that long to get over my x/mommy/girlfriend. Anyway here's the question, I'm with a girl who says she will try anything once. I told her I'm into infantilism. Do I assume she knows what that means and how do I tell her that I like diapers. I'm not AB for the most part and trying to keep it clean, but I do think about being made to wear diapers even when I'm not into it you know. So you know we have only been seeing each other three weeks but I'm pretty confident that I can tell her without getting rejection but I need a little help and advice. I don't believe in lying so I won't tell her I wet the bed. I already thought of that, some thing honest or a brief description of how I can tell her so there's no misunderstanding. Sorry so long thanks Gregg


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Dear Gregg,

Sorry to hear about your first mommy but at least the future is promising. To answer your question most people don't understand infantilism or only have a partial knowledge. You might need to help your girlfriend get familiar with what it is to be an AB.  One suggestion is to let her look through our site and answer her questions. Let her know it is more common than most people are aware of.  Encourage her that if she has any questions she could come to us and ask.  I hope all goes well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Henry
Age: 18+

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I am a disabled DL.  I am suffering from border-line Autism, extreme OCD, severe Sleep-Apnia (without the ability to use a C-PAP), Diabetes, and potential Depression.  Right now, my life is the BEST it has ever been, as I am now living by myself (for the first time).  It took me a long time to realize that I was both "gay" and had a fantasy for "plastic pants", therefore I feel I have two problems, instead of one.  I read all 18-19 pages of your website, so 90% of my potential questions were answered just by reading your site.  I can't believe how helpful it was, just to read the questions to you, and your answers.  It seemed very repetitive, with people asking the same questions, over and over again, but it really helped me.  So, thanks for your site!  Maybe you need to answer me PERSONALLY (if so, please call me at ***-***-****, or email me at grapesoda6@comcast.net), as I am in somewhat of a quandry?  All my life, I have been attracted to plastic pants, even though I never used them, and only recently began to understand why (thanks to your help)?  My problem is that both of my nephews (also my two best friends), know that I have always been attracted to plastic pants (and sometimes they tease me about it, but it is obvious how much they love me), but I never actually wore plastic pants.  I now live very close to all my family members (the first time, because I always had open-minded roommates, living away from my family).  At my nephews house (he is single), I wore plastic pants, so as not to leak on his sofa).  In the morning I put on my blue-jeans, just to smoke a cigarette on his balcony (I know cigarettes are not healthy, but they are my only vice).  When I came back in his living room, he saw the plastic pants sticking above my back-waist, and got worried about "what others would think".  But due to accidental gossip, the rest of my family now knows about my plastic pants fetish.  And for the first time, I actually need them, to prevent leaks.  The other members of my family think, by wearing plastic pants, that I am a pervert, when I actually "must" wear them, because I sleep on my side, and have leaks.  How can I let them know that I "must" use them, instead of their thinking that I want to wear them?  If I had my choice, I would only use them in privacy, and not want to have real accidents.  My last question is that pull-up cloth diapers now cost an extreme amount of money, (now up to $80 each), and I have to start thinking about disposable diapers.  I found out that both "Molicare" and "Euro-Briefs" are by far, the best.  Can you please give me the websites (again), to purchase them?  Thanks!   


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Dear Henry,

I am so glad you found us and that our site has been so helpful to you.  It really is hard to get honest info out there.  To answer your question about your family just tell them you have a weak bladder and wear them as an insurance policy against wetting. Like you said in your letter you were wearing them to protect your nephew's sofa- just tell them that. And yes the diapers you mentioned are excellent and reasonably priced.  The Euro or unique briefs link https://secure.uniquebrief.com/index.htm. The molicare link http://www.dmponline.com/catalog/category.asp?id=41. We also just got in a sample of a new product called Dry 24/7. As per our testing they seem to perform better than molicare but are on the same level of quality as the uniquebriefs. Their site is located at http://www.dry247.com/ Well I wish you luck and hope to hear from you again. I am glad you found us.

-Hugs Sandra


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Question Asked By: Micah
Age: 14

Q:

I like to wear diapers but my mom wants me to stop and I don't want to stop wearing diapers. What should I do?


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Dear Micah,

Unfortunately since you are under 18 you are technically under your parents guidance.  That being said you could perhaps talk her into letting you wear at night because of the bedwetting.  You could explain that you need to wear them and maybe she'll listen.  There are no magic words that will make her accept the diapers but you could try. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 57

Q:

What is free birthing?


A:

Dear Michel,

I am not sure what you are asking.  Do you mean 're-birthing'? If you do then rebirthing is a process where you recreate being born. You would need to find someone who is well versed in this procedure. I have been told it is a very liberating experience and cleansing as well when done under the correct conditions. However in the past it has been used on children by parents and therapists to cure reactive attachment disorder and resulted in death. Either the blanket was too tight, too much weight...anything can go wrong. It's not something to do at home. Consult a professional who specializes in this. Hope this helps answer your question. A page that covers this well is located at:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_therapy

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ladwig
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy, I have had a deep interest in wearing diapers since I was very little,and worn them from time to time. Now I buy nice thick disposable diapers.


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Dear Ladwig,

The time necessary for each person to lose control varies.  There are a lot of factors involved: age, length of time wetting, frequency of wetting and if you wear 24/7, these are just a few.  I know of one member who started wearing 24/7 and started to lose control within 2 weeks. Their brain realized that they weren't using the bathroom anymore and no longer needed to alert them to that fact. So when your mind is in sync with you wetting a diaper then you will lose control.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matt
Age: 16

Q:

Please help me with this problem, I am afraid to buy diapers, and I am also afraid to order them because I worry that my parents will find out when they come in the mail. Unfortunately there isn't another address they can be shipped to. I have the money and I want them but I can't seem to think of how to get my hands on them. Do you have any ideas that could possibly help me? Or a way to make a makeshift diaper, "I have tried trash bags but they don't feel real", please help me. Also is there a way to find a mommy or other TB/DL's in my area, how would I go about finding them? sorry for all the questions- please reply if you can help me.


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Dear Matt,

If you can't buy them and have them delivered then just buy them. Go to a store and just buy what you need. Take your backpack so you can hide them till you get home and find a secret place to put them. When in the store if you wear a small size and can fit the toddler diapers just say it's for a younger brother/sister and if you wear an adult size diaper you can say it's for an elderly relative like a grandfather. On our main site we do have a 'mommy finder'. Unfortunately though until you are 18 and are of legal age the majority of the mommies won't take you. However you can become a penpal with some until you are 18. You might also find another TB/DL in the penpal section. You never know. I wish you well.  Let us know how everything turns out.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amen
Age: 17

Hi mommy I'm asking for an advice on behalf of my mother. She has agreed to baby me. However she wants an advice from you on how should she treat me. She doesn't want to embarrass me. Thus she wants to enjoy the time with me. Due to my age She has trouble changing me in public. She also has trouble on the right size of the diaper. My waist size is 40, medium size diaper fit me nicely but it is tight. Large size fit me very well, it is big and often I have leakage. So these are the issues that my mother had.


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Dear Amen,

There are no rights or wrongs when it comes to how you would like to be treated.  If your mom doesn't want to embarrass you in public then when out just act as if you have no diaper. The two of you should talk about what you would both be comfortable with. For instance do you want hugs and snuggles, would you like her to read you a story at bedtime and rock you to sleep or stroke your forehead until you fall asleep (my kids favorite). It's up to you. Concerning the diapers, each brand is cut a little different.  The sizes are the same but some are cut with a little more room than others.  I'm afraid you will have to do a trial and error approach and sample different brands. Most companies do have samples pack that you can order for a low cost.  I wish you and your mom well. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra