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Question Asked By: Cory
Age: 14

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I can not control my bowels and bladder, so I wear diapers. I like to swim and I can't go swimming if I still have bowel accidents. What do I do?


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Dear Cory,

It can be embarrassing to have an accident while swimming. If you know that you go regularly you could schedule your swimming after you have had one. Another option is to buy swim diapers (they do have adult sizes too). Their only purpose is to contain the bowel movement. But first and foremost enjoy your summer without all the worry.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 18

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I see a therapist and for a long time I've wondered why exactly I have a diaper fetish. Should I tell my therapist?


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Dear Todd,

Whether you want to tell your therapist depends on the kind of relationship you have with them. If you have complete trust in them I see no reason why you couldn't discuss it with them since it is of importance to you. However I know that people can have their own prejudices and that includes even therapists. Sadly there are some who completely misunderstand the AB/DL world and have wrong ideas as to what it is all about. So think carefully on all I have said and make an informed decision. I hope all goes well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

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Dear mommy I'm a baby boy who has potty problems at night. Since I untrained night time continence, I poop and pee while I sleep. I use mainly the custom disposables that looks like a real baby diaper (cute teddy bears line the top of the diaper and it has no wetness indicator, but is plain white).  I have accepted the fact I may never get out of diapers. Some abdl's can truly kick the habit, some of us are destined to remain in diapers(that's another post). For those that use diapers why is it that pampers, huggies and Luvs don't make an abdl line? There is a need, and they could probably sell them under different brand. You wouldn't sell them in stores, but online to protect company reputation. Maybe all us ab's should start writing these companies that we want adult diapers with the same prints. Is it the market? Are AB's too small percentage to offset the cost or should we unite and start writing them letters? What do you think? Well I need a changing since I just got up, later and thanks for your support.


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Dear Embarrassed,

You are saying what all ABDL's want. A baby diaper is so well made and with great prints- why can't they do the same for the adults? They even advertise all the science that goes into a baby diaper- staydry lining and leak-proof legs and so on. Then you look at adult diapers and I hate to say the majority fail terribly to provide good protection. So you just might have an idea there. Maybe we should contact these companies and ask them to make an adult size diaper- we would most definitely buy them. We are here for you and thanks for the great idea.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Pamper
Age: 16

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Hey mommy Okay here is my thing. Me and my mom have decided that since I like to be babied, I am going to be a baby the whole summer. We have ordered a lot of things. Okay listen, we have decided that I am going to be treated like a 1 year old. Right now I use diaper 24/7. I was born incontinent. My mommy changes me, I sleep in a crib, drink from a bottle and use pacifiers. Momma feeds me baby food. Okay we need some ideas to make this baby feeling more hardcore. Do you have any ideas (non sexual)


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Dear Pamper,

First thing I want to mention is that this is a non-sexual site so no worries there. As far as going more realistic- you are doing pretty much everything a 1 year old would. An added bonus could be toddler toys for you to play with. If she has a playpen available- have you spend time in there playing and taking naps. Have her think back to when you were 1 and do some of the things she use to do then. I wish you and your Mom well. Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 57

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I bought 3 2x diapers, I don't know how to fold them so they will fit.  Do you have any ideas?


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Dear Michel,

There are 2 popular ways to fold a diaper- the hour-glass shape and the triangle. To do a hourglass shape, you need to lay the diaper out and in the middle tuck in the sides until it makes a hour-glass shape. The easiest fold is the triangle. Use as many layers of diapers that is needed for your comfort. The triangle is also easier to fit snug since it is pinned right in front and easy to adjust.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Elliott Clausen
Age: 24

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How do I ask my mom if she will be okay with me wearing diapers? I do because I just like to and have for about a year anyway. I live with her now and she will more than likely find me out. What should I do please help. And also if she is okay with it how do I get her to change me?


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Dear Elliott,

I get this question all the time and I always say the same thing- only you know your mother's frame of mind.  Is this something she would be open minded about? If you know she is not- chances are she won't be accepting no matter what you say. On the other hand if she is open minded she might be willing to listen. If she is willing to listen getting her to change you is another matter. Again she might or might not be open to the idea. The bottom line is you can't talk someone into doing something they don't want to do. You are in a sticky place since you do live with her- you could explain to her why you wear eg: comfort, relaxation, stress relief etc. By doing that even if she is not open about it perhaps she would let you continue to wear. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Secret
Age: 16

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I am sort of a DL but not completely. I was wondering since I am about 5'1" and only about 115 lbs. What size diaper should I use and what brand? (IN SECRET and PREFERABLY CHEAP)  Also, I am trying to explore new options other than wearing boxers all the time. I am not a cross-dresser or anything and I am completely straight, but I was wondering what it would be like to wear women's underwear (maybe even a bra, keeping in mind I am not a crossdresser this would be really weird) and how I can get hold of stuff like this without my parents knowing about it and looking suspicious at a store. Should I act like I am talking to a girl on my cell phone while at the register or what?
     Sincerely Secret


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Dear Secret,

As far as diapers go, the one size that might fit is Goodnights. You could buy a small package and try them. If they don't fit you will have to go to adult diapers. If you wish to have a baby print on them we do sell diaper tapes on our main site. We have all kinds from baby bottle prints to building blocks print. When you go to the store to buy female clothing I don't think anyone will ask you anything. But if you are uncomfortable you could say you are buying for a twin sister (this way you can ask if the color goes with how you look) I wish you well and take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Terry Lee
Age: 22

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Yes I was wondering what kind of disposable diapers I should get? My problem is; I have a 36" waist and the smallest size of depends are too small. We only have a walmart in this small town, so I am limited on variety. I guess I was wondering if Goodnights or any other form of diapers would fit me? (Disposable only please)


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Dear Terry,

Goodnights are a good option for you. There are also many good online diaper companies that would deliver to your home. Try a small pack of Goodnights and see if they meet your needs. Then if they don't you can go online and order diapers in your specific size. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

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Mommy I'm a boy who wears disposable diapers at night for wetting and bm accidents. I've been thinking about potty training since I want to be a big kid. To be big kid I would need to be potty trained, but I realized I'm not ready to give up my diapers. Is it normal not wanting to be potty trained? Granted I get crabby sometimes since diaper changes take some extra time instead of just laying down, and falling asleep like a big kid, but I do sleep much more comfortable! I also love the teddy bear design! Does it sound like, I'm ready? Also I usually powder the diaper first in my changing routine, but I read I should powder the diaper area after after applying diaper rash cream. However you can't apply powder and rub it overtop of diaper rash cream can you? How is this done?


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Dear Embarrassed,

If you want to wear your diapers- wear them. You can be potty-trained and still wear at certain times that would keep you happy. Have the best of both worlds. Now about the powder issue- you can use a powder puff or even a washcloth- first apply your diaper cream and then sprinkle some powder on the puff or washcloth and gently pat the powder on. Voila- you are creamed and powdered! Or as you do, put the powder in the diaper. Either way works. By the way there is nothing wrong with wanting to stay in your diapers. It is a comfort issue. There is enough stress in everyday life, any comfort is good. Of course that is just this one woman's opinion. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kim
Age: 20

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How do explain to my partner that I feel the need and the fact that I want to wear diapers more, without feeling it's totally wrong, as he is not a AB/DL????


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Dear Kim,

Only you know how accepting your partner would be to that kind of news. Are they open minded? Perhaps if you just explain that you wish to wear more often/longer, they will be understanding. And by the way there is nothing wrong with wanting to wear more. If it feels good and makes you feel comfortable, what is there that's wrong about that? Not a thing. So keep wearing and keep smiling!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

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Mommy hello again. I'm a baby boy who wears disposable diapers for night time accidents. While changing my diaper about a month ago I noticed two small bumps in the lower genital area. At first I thought it was the start of diaper rash, because I usually wake up soaked.  After a few weeks I went to the doctors and he looked at it and told me it's a shaving infection. He asked me if I shave. Couldn't really hide the fact since that area makes me look like a seven year old boy. ;-).  Well the bumps are still there and usually.it only gets irritated from wetness even if its not a night time accident. I'm afraid to see the doctor again, because I might need disclose the fact that I wear diapers, and don't have a real need. It will be more embarrassing to expose my teddy bear diapers during the examination. Do you think it would be beneficial to wear the diapers to an the examine or could I get away from wearing them? Could the bumps be related to the diapers? Is there a way to get around from mentioning the diapers? I'm very afraid of going back especially if I need to wear the diapers. I would have to close my eyes when he would ask me to drop my trousers. Would probably die from embarrassment right there. Please advise!  Can I avoid the doctors? Is the infection just taking a while to heal.


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Dear Embarrassed,

It is possible that when you shave as the hairs grow back they can become ingrown and cause a bump. This is one reason why I usually suggest only trimming close and not shaving. That area is very delicate after all.The same as with your face you will have to wait for the bump to reabsorb. You could try using different creams to help it along and that I would ask the doctor about. You have no reason to be embarrassed to talk to the doctor about it and you don't have to tell him you wear diapers unless you want him to know. All he knows is you shave and have a bump. So if you want to sport your teddy bear diapers or not is entirely up to you. Talk to your doc and get some suggestions from him as to how to take care of the bumps. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nick
Age: 18

Q:

I have not wet the bed in like 3 months and my parents still make me wear attends at night and goodnites during the day for water training. I don't need them anymore but she won't listen please help


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Dear Nick,

Old habits are hard to get rid of. Your parents are most likely just so use to you being wetting that they find it hard to let them go. Keep emphasizing to them that you haven't wet in a while and if you could try a trial period of not wearing. As long as you are dry they should start to realize that they can ease up and let you go diaperless. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ally
Age: 25

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Hi just a small question for you. I have noticed a rash between my legs that feels hot and itchy, could this be nappy rash. It is sore when I wet my diaper and it gets sweaty down there. It's on my bottom as well. What should I do? I'm really embarrased about this and can't tell a doctor. Please help. I started to use my potty so I don't get sore, but can't stop wetting my diaper.


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Dear Ally,

Sorry about your rash. It sure does sound like diaper rash. I also suspect there is a little heat rash there as well. I recommend you get some ointment- Balmex or Desitin. Use on the rash. Once the rash starts to go away you need to do a few things. Change often- especially in the summer. Sweat can also cause problems inside a diaper. Use a light coating of the cream I mentioned and use corn starch powder (it absorbs moisture). You should also use the powder between the legs to help protect and soothe the area. But the most important thing is to change often and clean thoroughly and you should be feeling better soon.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Blake
Age: 14

Q:

HOW CAN I TELL MY MOM THAT I LOVE WEARING DIAPERS AND BEING A BABY. I DON'T WANT TO TELL BUT I NEED TO BECAUSE I NEED A MOMMY TO LOVE ME LIKE THE BABY I AM.


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Dear Blake,

Only you know how open minded your mom is. Is this information something she would really understand? If it is then you might have a good chance. But if you know her not to be most likely she would not be accepting. There are no magic words that will change a reluctant parents mind. So think about your mom and if she would be accepting. Make your decision as to whether to say anything on that.

    -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Katy
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mummy. My mummy still keeps me in diapers even when I wet at night. She won't let me change or use the bathroom, as I am diapered. She changes the diapers for me like a baby with all the baby stuff: wipes, powder etc and she checks me every hour if I'm wet or not. Even with my period started she won't buy pads or tampons for me. So I have to use my diapers instead as it will add to the cost of diapers. Help me what do I do?


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Dear Katy,

You did not mention as to whether you had control or not. If you don't then it would be understandable for her to still have you in diapers. But if you do have control, you might want to discuss the easing up of wearing. You could ask to have a probation period and see how you do without the diapers all the time. If you do well she would have to consider letting you go diaper free at least some of the time. I wish you luck.

     -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nick
Age: 12

Q:

Hi mommy, I'm a boy of 12. My mum is making me wear girl cloths, diapers and pads for life as a punishment for being bad. She keeps me in a skirt and she diapers me at night and I have to use it or get spanked. In the day time she puts a pad in my panties and a drop of red dye before I pull it up and say thats your period. It stays there until I ask to go potty and I am not allowed to change or go to potty on my own. Then she would change the pad and do the same thing again. It's the same thing if we go out to the shops or anywhere else, if I am bad she will diaper me instead of pads and the diaper will still have the red dye in it. Still not allowed to use the potty and > use the diaper with the short skirt people see what I'm wearing. So how do I stop my mum from punishing me? Or just have her diaper me and get my boy cloths back? It's been going on for 4 months now, please help?


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Dear Nick,

I am sorry to hear all that you have been through. Your mother I have to say is taking things above a normal level. There is nothing wrong with having AB cravings but when you are being forced into it beyond your comfort level then it is wrong. Is there anyone in your life that you can talk to about this? Perhaps a trusted relative, a church elder or even a trusted counselor at school. Until then maybe you could talk to your mom and ask that she cut back on some of the activities- tell her you want to be a boy like you are. I don't know if your father is in the picture- if he is talk to him about this, he might be able to help. I wish you all the best. You are in a tough spot but stay strong and know we are on your side.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Noah
Age: 24

Q:

dear mommy, Where can I find a rectal thermometer? To take my temp because I can't keep one in my mouth for the set time allowed for a correct temp. And what kind of lubricants I should use for rectal thermometer? My second question I have rash form on left side where the diaper tabs sat on my waist.


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Dear Noah,

You can find rectal thermometers in most drug stores and even the health/beauty section in most department stores. The best lubricant for rectal thermometers is tried and true vaseline. Now concerning that rash, it sounds like you might need to get a bigger diaper size. To take care of the rash, air out as much as possible and also use Balmex to heal things up fast. When diapering use cornstarch powder in that area to ensure smooth movement and no rubbing on the skin and cause another rash.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tony
Age: 29

Q:

I AM 29 AND I WANTING TO KNOW WHO I SHOULD GO SEE FOR MY PROBLEM


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Dear Tony,

I would love to answer your question but you were not very specific. I am not sure of what problem you are referring to. Please write back and give a little detail so I can better answer your question.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sadie
Age: 18

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I wear diapers when my parents aren't around. I wore to bed and my mom saw and now she treats me like a baby. I've started to wet myself when I don't wear diapers to bed. My mom says it's because I'm a baby, but is there another reason for my wetting?


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Dear Sadie,

First off don't feel that there is anything wrong with you. Parents sometimes try to make you feel like you're defective- well you're not! So what if you wear a diaper- it's only fabric around your butt-- so is a panty, brief or boxer. Think about it. And I think the reason you are wetting is due to stress. Stress can cause wetting and having your mom catch you in a diaper is definitely a stressful situation. So relax and know that you are wonderful just as you are. We are here for you if you need us.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ginny
Age: 21

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If I was an AB, when my AB parents punish me should I not be able to change my diaper for a whole 24 hours?


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Dear Ginny,

The rules that are set by an AB parent are between the parent and the AB. However being in the same diaper for 24 hours is excessive and can cause a major, painful rash. In that situation I would sit down with my AB parent and see if there were another punishment that could be set instead of that one. Anything would be better than having to deal with the discomfort and pain of diaper rash.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 35

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Mommy morning changes from night time accidents are always a pleasant experience, even though on some of those days we little boys have to enter our adult world. Guess we can't be a baby forever. After a night time filled with accidents a shower is a good dtart. This leads me to my question. What would be good practice for keeping our diaper skin healthy? What should be used to promote healthy skin?


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Dear Embarrassed,

As always wash thoroughly and dry well. It is also a good idea to give your posterior some 'air' time. Leave off the diaper and allow the skin to breathe- note: use a protective pad if you are prone to accidents. Use a good moisturizer and corn starch powder to keep things comfortable. In the summer and during any physical exertion be sure to change often to prevent any problems. Your skin will thank you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Palle
Age: 18

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Hey mommy, I live with my gf who is also into diapers. I use diapers 24/7 and when I need to go I just let it out. Okay last night when my gf was changing me suddenly I just started to pee. It went everywere and I could not stop it. I was not wearing a diaper. What is going on?


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Dear Palle,

This happen quite often to long time diaper wearers. If you are in a diaper 24/7 and just go when you need, the body learns that no warning signals are required and that it can just release. And that is why you just went- you have been un-potty trained. This will happen again. If you want it to stop you need to start using the bathroom but if you are okay with it then just continue wearing just be aware of possible sprinkling accidents in the future.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Rosilynn De Pruitt
Age: 41

Q:

I wish I had a Mommy & Daddy!


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Dear Rosilynn,

On our main site we have a mommy/daddy finder. It is organized by states or countries. Look through the list and contact a few. When you are comfortable with someone then perhaps you could schedule a meeting. Best wishes for your search. The link is: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Beth
Age: 14

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Hi mummy. Since my mum and dad split up and I live with my dad, my dad started diapering me. I don't have any wetting problems but my dad diapers me 24/7 and won't let me go out at night with friends. My dad diapers me in cloth diaper and plastic pants- no disposable ones. He won't buy me shorts or trousers. He only buys me skirts and dresses as it would be easy to change my diapers. Please help me mummy to stop my dad diapering me.


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Dear Beth,

Even if you were interested in wearing diapers 24/7 it is very inappropriate for your father to be changing you at your age. If you really want it to stop all you would need to do is tell someone in authority what he is doing. Of course the police would most likely become involved. Perhaps you could try talking to him and ask him to stop the diapering. If you decide to take things further you could talk to a trusted family member, a church elder or even your school counselor. I wish you luck. Please let us know when you are doing alright.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jessica
Age: 26

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Hello I was just wondering what your opinion on this matter was because you seem to have to some good ideas,you have some medical background and you are a parent. My predicament is that I became a DL because my boyfriend a few years back who is now my husband introduced me into the fetish and now I like it. He however has liked them all of his life and he says he has liked them since he could remember which was like 2 years old. He says he still has an attachment to diapers because he was upset when they were taken away from him when he was potty trained. He even asked his mom to buy him diapers again but she refused and he says that really hurt him. Anyway we both have a 2 year old son and I am trying to potty train him because preschool requires it but he is showing resistance and he seems to be more interested in wearing diapers than using the potty. I know he may just simply not be ready but I fear he is like his dad and might have an emotional attachment to them. So I was wondering if after he potty trains and he wants to wear diapers still but in the privacy of his own home would it be ok if we let him? I just don't want to traumatize him because I know it traumatized his father and I don't think a child needs to feel that way at such a young age.


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Dear Jessica,

You are rare- a parent that understands the issues that a DL has and is concerned for their child. I also had the same problem with potty training my twins. It was necessary to be potty trained for daycare but they were not really ready. I think you have an excellent remedy though. Have your son go to preschool potty trained and when he is home let him wear diapers if he wants. Have him wear only when he wants to. Let him know it is only at home and when he no longer needs to wear them to let you know. At least this way he will be able to let go when he is ready and have no trauma to deal with later in life like your husband.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jason
Age: 15

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I have liked diapers for as long as I can remember going back to when I was a toddler and when I was getting potty trained I always wondered why is it that the majority of people use the toilet and give up diapers when the toilet is so much more inconvenient? I knew then that I liked diapers better and I know now that I like diapers better than the toilet. Do you think that's ok? Do you think it's unusual to want to wear diapers instead for the comfort and convenience?


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Dear Jason,

When you analyze it, it does sound silly doesn't it? Why depend on being near a toilet when you need to go instead of just wearing one around your rear. Now that makes for a good debate. And I suspect that debate would go on and on. Now you are most definitely normal! Diapers are convenient and comfortable- no doubt. Why would wearing them not be normal. You are hurting no one and breaking no laws. So I say powder with pride and wear all you want!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Billy Jaeger
Age: 40

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I recently went to the emergency room and was wearing my diapers. For some reason, I have been enjoying wearing diapers more and more. More so than in the past. Am I ok, or is this a bad thing? I have been trying to find a babysitter for quite some time. Is my behaviour normal...or is there something wrong with me because I really want to be treated like a baby?


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Dear Billy,

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be treated like a baby. Who wouldn't want to be loved unconditionally? To be accepted for just being you. So to want to wear diapers is a natural off shoot of that. So you are normal. To find a mommy can be difficult. To start, go to our mommy finder and check out some of the mommies listed. At the very least if you can't find one you can get a referral to another one. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Davie
Age: 39

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I am 39 going on 18 months old, I am looking for a mommy to take care of me as a baby. Can you help me find a mommy that will come get me and treat me as her baby? Please help me!!!! Love, Baby Davie 405-720-1695 come get me!!!!!


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Dear Baby Davie,

It can be hard to find a mommy. A good starting place is our mommy finder on the main site. You can also put an ad on the friend page. Even if you don't find a mommy you can get referrals to others. I wish you luck!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Marv
Age: Unknowen

Q:

How do you put a bra on?


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Dear Marv,

Sorry if I got your name wrong - you didn't enter a name. To put on a bra put it around your chest backwards and hook the eyes and hooks. Then twist bra around your chest till it is facing the correct way. Then put your arms into the armholes and pull up bra into position. Voila - you now are wearing a bra. I hope this information has helped.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 18

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Hello, as you can tell I'm a DL and the root of the fetish starts from me remembering the ages of 2-5 very well. I loved being cared for and cuddled and changed and wearing and all that, I remember all of it. I also remember being toilet trained and although learning to use the toilet didn't traumatize me. My parents taking the diapers and pullups away traumatized me and it made me want to wear again and that's why I'm a DL today. My question is how should I cope with all this trauma from my toddlerhood that affects me to this day?


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Dear Todd,

In today's society there is a rush to get kids potty trained. Most daycare centers don't accept children still in diapers. If you have a parents/parents that both work they need to have little junior in a daycare as soon as possible. The result is that some children are potty trained before they are really ready. Like you said you didn't mind it but the loss of your diapers affected you deeply. You being DL is just a natural response to your need to have that feeling of security that your diapers gave you as a toddler. There is nothing wrong with wearing a diaper- it's only fabric around your posterior, and the same can be said of panties, briefs or boxers. So indulge your needs. You are hurting no one. The one thing we can hope for in our lives is to be happy. So if wearing diapers makes you happy- powder up and go for it!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Emma
Age: 16

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Hi mummy I have been wearing diapers for so long now that I have lost total control of my bladder. So good job I am wearing one. The thing is I have been hiding it from my mum and it's getting harder to hide it from her with my loss of control and the pee smell coming from me and in my bedroom. I have been wearing baggy pants to hide my diapers from her, but she is getting suspicious of the way I walk and why I always wear baggy pants. So should I tell my mum or should I keep on hiding it from her?


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Dear Emma,

If you have lost control and are wearing all the time now it would be hard to keep it secret for too much longer. As to whether to tell your mom or not depends on if you want her to find out by accident about your diapers or if you tell her yourself. Since at this time you are for the most part incontinent you could approach your mom and say you have lost control and need her help. She doesn't need to know that is in part due to the fact that you have been wearing for so long. Get her in a motherly mood and hopefully she will be more accepting of the situation. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tom
Age: 14

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Hi mummy I'm Tom and my mum caught me trying her sanitary pad on the other day. Now she is making me wear it every day. Not only that she makes me wear my sister clothes and panties with the pad in it instead of my boxers, if I don't do as she says she will tell all my friends about it. She has bought me diapers to wear at night and she found some old box of baby stuff for me to use. So before bed she puts me in a diaper and makes me drink milk out of a bottle and use the diaper throughout the night. If I don't I will get spanked in the morning when she checks it before she takes off the diaper and put me back in a pad and panties with a dress on. And every hour or so she comes in and checks my pad if I messed in it or not, If I messed my pad with my cum she will spank me for it for being a dirty girl and takes me to the bathroom to use the toilet and change my pad for me, because I am not allowed to touch my panties at all. Is my mum doing this to me at my age allowed? Please answear me back thanks Tom.


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Dear Tom,

As a general rule your mother should not be dressing you in girl's clothes whatever your age. The only exception would be if you wanted to be dressed as a girl. You are old enough to change yourself. Even though she seems to be diapering and dressing you to control you perhaps you could talk to her and ask to have some of her rules eased up. You should be allowed to change yourself. Again you are old enough to do so. If things become too difficult for you you could speak with a trusted family member, clergy or a school counselor and ask for help. I hope all goes well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Josh
Age: 21

Q:

I want to get caught wearing diapers but not by my parents, what's something I can do so be assured somebody sees me wearing a diaper?


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Dear Josh,

Depending on if you want a stranger to catch you or a friend will determine how you go about it. If you just want someone in the general public to notice all you would have to do is wear your diaper with the top showing over your pants. If using cloth you could overstuff. If you want friends to catch you that would be easier. All you need is an invite to a friends house and a convenient accidental showing of the diaper. I must caution you though be sure this is what you want before you do it. Once done it can't be taken back. But if you are sure then go for it and have fun doing it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Troy
Age: 40

Q:

I'm 40 and like to wear diapers and go in them. I don't understand why this is. Is it normal? Any answers as to why I like to wear and use diapers.


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Dear Troy,

There are as many reasons to wear as there are people. In my opinion it all comes down to one basic reason- a desire to be loved. Think about it. When was the one time in your life when all you had to do was exist to be loved and taken care of. There were no expectations or any goals that needed to be filled to get attention and love. Who wouldn't want that in their life? Is it normal to want unconditional love and acceptance? Of course it is. So be assured you are normal and just craving that wonderful feeling back from when you were little. So keep wearing and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 35

Q:

Mommy it's embarassing being a grown adult who needs to wear diapers for a baby problem we should have grown out of. To even further complicate the embarassed feeling I then have to face waking up in the morning in a messy teddy bear print diaper, but here I am this morning in exactly that situation. I would die of embarassment if anybody seen me now in a very noticable wet diaper and messy diaper. (I usually wear just a diaper to bed in the summer months.) I think even if I had a mommy I would be even more embarassed especially at changing time. I know I shouldn't be especially since being completely exposed isn't anything new to women if they changed diapers before. I just can't shake the feeling. I will never get out of diapers and have excepted them as a way of life. How should I cope with this feeling?


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Dear Embarrassed,

It is very common to have that embarrassed feeling. We always think that everyone is looking at us. We worry- 'will they notice my diaper?' 'Does my diaper make too much noise?' and so on. The fact is most people don't notice and really don't care. And as you said if you have someone changing you they have probably been doing it for a while and it is nothing to them. When I worked as a nurse, to give patients baths was routine. It was nothing to me but to the patients I had to reassure them that it was okay. Some were more embarrassed then others. So don't worry about it. The person that will be changing you has most likely been doing it for a while and it would be routine to them too. Relax and try to enjoy wearing.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kris
Age: 14

Q:

I need some help here. There was this girl that I really liked and she didn't know. She moved and she was the only girl that I ever really liked. She was the only one who cared for me. What do I do? I really like her and she moved. She made me happy. She was the only one that made me happy and feel loved. How do I get over her? You can email me at krissyk@optonline.net. Hurry I feel like my heart is never going to be happy.


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Dear Kris,

Is there any way you can contact her? Do you know her new address? If you can't have her physically in your life perhaps you could still email her and keep in touch. It can be hard to have someone you care about leave. In time the hurt will be less and you can move on. There is a reason they call them crushes- because when it ends you are crushed. We are here for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Art
Age: 49

Q:

Hi there thanks for your help. I'm abdl, I find it exciting to go out in just a diaper and a t-shirt. Is it legal to do so? I live in Jackson, Michigan. I would like to find others near me if you can help. Thanks.


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Dear Art,

There is no specific law that says you can't wear diapers. However there are laws about exposure. Depending on how much cover you have while wearing your diaper will determine if you can be arrested.If you are interested in finding a friend go to our friend finder section and see who is in your area. good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dan
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mummy. My mum wanted a baby girl. So since I grew up my mum dressed me up as a girl and she still does. She dress me in a nightie and diapers me when I go to bed. But I don't wet the bed but she still makes me use it. When I'm in the house my mum dress me up as a girl with a hair band on my head and she puts a big sanitary pad in my nickers in case of accidents. If we go out mum gives me boys clothes but still with the pad in my nickers under neath my shorts. Is it ok for my mum to still do this to me? Thanks Dan.


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Dear Dan,

You are rather old to be still getting changed. If it really bothers you perhaps you could talk to your mother about easing up on some of her rules. As far as it being okay if you and your Mom are alright with it then it's okay. But if you are not comfortable with the situation like I said try talking to your mom. If she doesn't want to hear it then you should try to contact someone and let them know what is going on. A trusted family member, friend or clergy are usually good choices. I wish you all the happiness you can handle.

-Hugs Sandra