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Question Asked By: Baby Floyd John Godleske
Age 45

Q:

I have been through the Oklahoma federal bombing and wet my pants since then. I sleep in a baby crib, eat baby food, play with baby toys, eat in a high chair, drink from a baby bottle, use a baby bibs when I eat. Ride in a baby car seat. Use a binky. Sleep with a teddy bear. I use baby diapers 24/7. Pampers, Luvs, Babydry, Crusers size 6. My MD told me to use baby diapers sense adult diapers brake me out and eat baby food for life and baby soap. I am small like a toddler to a baby. I weigh 34lbs. Would that make me a baby?


A:

Dear Babyfloyd,

You didn't really ask a question. But I will say that because of your medical situation if you wish to be an AB then by all means be one.  All you can hope for in this life is to be able to live it the way you want
and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sam
Age: 12

Q:

Dear Mommy, I wear 24/7 because originally I had daytime and nighttime accidents. Now I'm completely used to diapers and I've lost bladder and bowel control. I'm ready to stop wearing diapers again and I want to potty train. My question is where do I start? I don't have any control and I can't make it to the toilet. What should I do?


A:

Dear Sam,

Due to your age and the fact that you say you are now completely without control, the one option you have is to go see a doctor to get some help.  Perhaps if he can get you on some med's to gain some control you might be able to retrain. In the meantime perhaps you can try to chart when you go and try to make it to the bathroom on any times when you always go. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack P
Age: 15

Q:

Hi.

When I was very young about 4/5 I was ill for a short time and was put back into diapers for a short time. Then at the age of about 6/7 I had the desire to wear diapers and recall secretly trying to try on a diaper from my sister's doll. Then I forgot all about it for ages until the age of about 12, when I again had a very strong desire to wear a diaper and pee in a diaper. From then onwards I have had this desire, however have only tried it once with a makeshift diaper.

I am very concerned about this. I don't know whether it would be best to try my best to forget about it or to go along with it. But I certainly don't want anybody like my parents finding out. I also wouldn't know how to get the diapers/hide them/dispose of them secretly? Also, at the moment I have no real desire to be babified to any further extent and nor do I want to wear diapers 24/7 or in public, but I'm worried that if I start it might spiral. Could this happen?

I was wondering if you could tell me how common it is. I know lots of people have the same feelings but I also know that it is quite rare. Is it likely that there is someone my age/ a group in my school/area (I live in South England) with the same feelings? I would love to be able to express my feelings to a friend with the same feelings.

Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you, and sorry for the many questions.


A:

Dear Jack,

Well you have made the first step in reaching out and talking to someone. There are many people out there who do feel as you do just as you thought.  They do keep to themselves because they are misunderstood alot of times. Our site is one place to start making some connections. We have a penpal section and a directory where you can perhaps find a friend by just leaving an Email. There are no right or wrong as to how far you wish to be 'babified'. Go only as far as you are comfortable with and that is perfect for you. I hope you stay with us and any questions you have you can post on the forum or any comments.  We would try to find an answer for you if at all possible.  I hope we get to hear from you again. Check our penpals for anyone by you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 34

Q:

Mommy last month you had a concerned individual challenge your support for all the individuals that write into this forum.  Maybe we are wrong in what we do, but it's not like we can just quit.  It's not that easy,  I wish it was.  For some us like myself this formed early on in childhood, and runs way too deeply to believe I can just give it up like smoking.  Is it a sickness, an addiction, or maybe it runs deep into the realm of the subconscious. I don't think parents should blame themselves, but we can't abandon the thought that this may replace a missing need during the developmental stages. I try to research the cause through what I know, but still don't have the answer.  I'll continue to research it, and plan to get help along the way to answer some questions, but I do not plan this will be a short journey.  By that time I may be ready for potty training, but for now I have accepted who I am, and acknowledge my inner child's needs.  I hope this may help explain to those who do not know what it's like why we do what we do. Do you think this will help?  What are your thoughts?  Does the psychology field research this?  For now it looks like a diaper is a fact of life for the foreseeable future, I've excepted it for now.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

They have numerous studies going on but  in my opinion--who cares?  Does it really matter the who, what, when or why?  Everyone has problems they have to deal with in their day to day life.  Some more obvious than others.  How a person chooses to deal with their life is their choice and no one's business.  So I believe in the individuals right to do and be what they want to be happy.  If you hurt no one else and bring happiness to your life then what is the harm--none. So live and be happy, life is too short.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 34

Q:

Good morning mommy. By the smell of it my diaper did it's job last night. What a mess I would make without it.:-) Funny my dreams now have parts were I'm peeing or pooping only to wake up in morning with a loaded diaper. Is this common for night time accidents? Also how much Balmex should I be using? You only get so much in a tube, and it only lasts a week it seems. I mean I need to pick up more today for tonight.  Do you think I'm using too much? Also where should pay close attention to when applying on your diaper area and should you apply it to the entire area?  Sorry for so many questions.  Well time to get out from under these warm covers for changing time. I always hate being exposed to the cold morning air, but can't stay in this messy morning diaper all day!:-) 


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

You should be using a little all over paying close attention to any skin folds and areas where the diaper might rub and cause irritation. And yes we do often have dreams about what is going on in our lives. And speaking of dreams who wants to leave a warm snug bed in the morning to get up in the cold air-ugh. You take care of yourself and stay warm.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anthony
Age: 13

Q:

HEY um I um wet my self....................... and I need a mommy.


A:

Dear Anthony,

You will always find support and maybe even a friend or two here on this site.  But until you are of legal age you can not have a mommy because of the law.  Once you are 18 you can have the mommy you are dreaming of. We have a listing of some of the mommies out there divided by where they live.  Once you are old enough you can start your search for the one that is right for you.  I wish you luck until then.

-Hugs Sandra 

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Question Asked By: Coltin
Age: 13

Q:

I was wondering if I would be old enough to ask my mom if I  could wear diapers.  My mom isn't exactly "open minded".  I for some reason, all my childhood,  have wanted to wear diapers 24/7.  But anyway I wondered if I should just push this urging off a little longer because its a 50/50 chance on a response, good or bad? 


A:

Dear Coltin,

I think you answered your own question.  You already said your Mom is not open minded and that your chances are 50/50 at best.  As much as I would love to tell you to talk to your mother about this- do you really want to spend at least 5 more years with her possible disapproval?  I would wait a little longer before bringing up the subject. I know it will be hard but it will save your sanity.  And remember we will be here for you to vent to.  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Meep
Age: 16

Q:

well my mom is the only one left and my family and me in my area where I live, the rest live in Europe.  My mom runs a day care center, so I am hanged and bathed and basically live down there with other babies.  MY mom diapers me, and says aren't you lucky you are in the security of a diaper.  She calls me honey bun. I hate it.  Sometimes I talk baby.  I don't know what to do.  One time we went on a plane to Florida and on the plane she diapered me and everyone could here the crinkling.  I wet the bed because I have a nerve problem and I tried med's but no use. I have a boyfriend and he understands me, but he changes me to comfort me sometimes when I need it.  Is my life normal.  I am 4"9 and sometimes my boyfriend carries me to where we hang out while I'm in a dress and a diaper.  Is this normal, what's you opinion on this?


A:

Dear Meep,

What is normal any way? Consider yourself lucky to have such an understanding mom that she includes you in her day care business.  My only suggestion to you is if there is any thing that your mother does that bothers you talk to her about it. Only communication can change things. I wish only good things for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 13

Q:

What would be the best way to tell my parents I want to wear diapers, just say it or say it a different way?


A:

Dear James,

You know how your parents are.  Do you really believe this is information they will take in a good way?  If you believe so then it doesn't matter if it's slow or quick.  But if you think they would not want to hear it then no matter how you say it they would never accept it. Like I said only you know your parents and changing their minds may or may not happen. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bob
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mommy I'm a boy of 15 and I want to start wearing diapers 24/7. But I want to keep it a secret from everyone else, even my mom.  How do I keep it hidden in my room?

Thanx bob


A:

Dear Bob,

I have to tell you what you are talking about is very difficult.  If you lived alone it would be alot easier but you still live with your Mom.  To wear a diaper occasionally- alright, but to try to wear 24/7 and not have her know- impossible. Where to hide them? I have heard all sorts of ideas from inside of other boxes to outside inside of trees!  Some were found and some were not.  How determined a hunter is your Mom? So think over your decision and make sure it's right for you.  I wish all the best for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 34

Q:

Dear mommy it's embarrassing to wake up in a wet and messy disposable diaper like today. If people seen me in my diaper and T-shirt and knew I had wetting and messing accidents at night I would be laughed at, but I don't want to start potty training. Even though I look like an adult I'm no more than a 2yr old at night. Any way there are many times I wake up to just a wet diaper, and even though I have covers on I still smell it.  I'm usually wearing just wearing my diaper.  Do mothers have a trick to prevent a diaper from smelling too much or is this just a normal process to growing up?  Also does a diaper stretch during the night? Sometimes it feels a little loose when I wake up? Well I need to change this diaper before it leaks since I just had another big wetting accident as I was writing this.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

There really isn't a magic trick to making a diaper smell better when you use it. You have to remember though that a child has had a limited variety of foods and their system has little to form a bad odor with. All we can do as adults is change often, use deodorizer and launder and/or freshen what we can. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 34

Q:

Dear mommy you probably know from my previous questions that I'm a boy who wears diapers for protection at night for multiple wetting accidents, as well as sometimes a messing accident as well.  It wasn't a big surprise to wake up this morning to a sagging wet diaper, I'm thankful there were no leaks.  Anyway as I showered I noticed a few red spots on my scrotum that itched a little as if they were irritated.  Might be the start of some diaper rash.  Not sure if this a common place for boys to get diaper rash, but it is on the side that I sleep on that could contribute to the uncomfortable spots.  If I lived alone I would probably not wear any pants for the day just to air it out, as that is the best remedy.  I did put Balmex on the area after my shower, and am wearing my shorts with no underwear to help.  I know this won't heal it up today, but how should I handle it when I need to be diapered again tonight? Is there something else I can do in the day? Also do I need to have the Balmex dry before putting my underpants on?  I guess I'll have to use more Balmex in that area, which I assume is common area for diaper rash for us little boys. Also how much Balmex should I use?  Sorry for the loaded question.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Sounds like you are doing all the right things.  The only other thing you can do is to change more often. The Balmex needs to be rubbed in leaving a light coating on the skin as a barrier.  Using cornstarch powder is optional and a matter of comfort.  One suggestion might be to set your alarm to go off in the middle of the night and do a diaper change- again optional. I hope all ends up alright.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaperboy
Age: 28

Q:

I do a lot of driving and want to know if it is a good idea to wear protection so I don't have to stop as often to pee. I also have a trip coming up to fly to SC. wondering if I should wear diapers on the plane.


A:

Dear Diaperboy,

If you think it would help you out I say go for it! I know quite a few drivers who prefer to drive through without stopping  to their destination. A drive marathon.  The same for the plane- with the lines and check points perhaps having not to leave the line might help speed you through. Happy traveling.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 14

Q:

Dear Mommy, First let me Thank you for your advice and comments last month. I am a teen diaper wearer who's real mom allows me to wear 24/7 and changes me as well. I started wearing diapers out of curiosity a year or so ago and have just absolutely fallen in love with my diapers. It has brought me back to the comfort of childhood. All my friends know I wear diapers but think it is for medical reasons. There is not the problem of being seen at school as I am home schooled by my mom. I am an only child so it is just me and mom. I have asked my mom if it is possible for me to be outside in our own backyard in just a diaper and T-shirt and she say's it isn't a good
idea as the neighbors wouldn't understand. My question is if I am not at all ashamed of being in a diaper why not be in one in public. I mean there is no law about wearing a DIAPER RIGHT? I mean it's not indecent exposure I am wearing something. And for anyone else out there my comment is be free with yourself and your diapers there is nothing to be ashamed of. It is after all just a diaper. Thank you.
                                    Kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

You are a very lucky young woman to have such a wonderful mother. She is also lucky to have such an inspirational and independent spirit for a daughter! Sadly though the world is not always as tolerant. You might want to be in the backyard in your diapers and
see nothing wrong in it but others might.  They could call the authorities- not for indecent exposure- but for child abuse or neglect or worse. People just don't accept what they don't  understand. You are of course right there is nothing wrong with wearing a diaper it is like I often say only fabric around your butt which the same can be said of panties, briefs or boxers. Maybe one day things will change.  Until then stay sweet.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ron
Age: 13

Q:

Hi mommy I'm a boy of 13 my mom dresses me like a girl and still diapers me at night. And during the day if I'm naughty she keeps me in diapers and a dress so she can check if I'm wet. And if I'm good she puts a pad (napkin)in my panties and I'm not allowed to change my self at any time of day. So is this wrong for my mom to do this to me?


A:

Dear Ron,

There are many types of TB's.  If you don't want to be a sissy TB- a boy TB who dresses as a girl- maybe that is a topic you and your mother should talk about. The only way this would be wrong is if this was something you did not want. Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Beth
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mommy I've been using diapers for a while now and I like the wet feeling of it. So where can I find some good old cloth style diapers or prefold one with good plastic pants?


A:

Dear Beth,

Many people just purchase regular baby diaper and sew 2 together. Others purchase the fabric and sew their own and still others buy from online AB sites. Because you're still young I would try buying regular baby diapers (cheaper) and going that route.  I wish you luck.  Any store that has baby items would have them.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lindssy
Age: 13

Q:

Ever since I can remember I have had the urge to suck a dummy and would really like to but I'm scared of telling my parents that I do. Three months ago I went and got myself one and I use it at night, but I would love to be able to suck it in the day. How can I tell my parents?


A:

Dear Lindsay,

Sucking a dummy is all the rage these days.  Maybe you could just tell your parents that it is the latest fad- which it is. There is nothing wrong with that. Hope it all works out for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jess
Age: 12

Q:

Hi mommy my mom still keeps me in diapers all day long, but I only wet at night and I'm not allowed to change myself, my mom has to. She keeps me in it till I come close to leaking. She say the diapers are expensive, so I have to stay in it till I get changed, What should I do? I like to wear panties now and again, but she won't listen. She thinks I would wet myself or something please help.


A:

Dear Jess,

I would try talking to your mom.  Tell her that you understand what she is saying about the cost of diapers. Point out that you only wet at night and that maybe she could put on a probation period of time wearing panties.  If you stay dry during that time then maybe she could let you wear panties once in a while. It is worth a try asking. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kako
Age: 14

Q:

How can I can get a Parent / Guardian to let me wear diapers with out having to wear them behind their backs? I have tried everything even saying that I would buy them for myself and everything please anything will be useful and I do not wear diapers all the time.


A:

Dear Kako,

I must commend you for not wanting to do anything behind your parents backs. However that being said I am not sure there is anything else that can be done. If you offered to pay for the diapers and they are
still saying no their minds are probably set. Short of hypnosis there might be no solution. Try to stay positive and focused.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Eric
Age: 31

Q:

I told my mom that I use diapers and she was not happy about it. She said I was sick and needed help. How do I get her to understand that I like diapers :(


A:

Dear Eric,

Unfortunately our loved ones don't always understand. The best you can do is to sit her down and ask her to listen calmly.  Try to explain it to her one more time.  She will either get it or not.  Tell her that you are not sick and use them as a comfort - they remind you of a good time in your life, when you were a baby. That only goes to show what a good job she did- that you would want to have that feeling always. Hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Misty Summers
Age: 28

Q:

Yes my name is Misty and my husband is Anthony. I have to make him wear diapers 24/7 because he won't use the potty. He is also mentally retarded but can do things and appears fine. He just won't
use the potty. What should I do, keep him in diapers or take him for a mental evaluation or what? I need advice.


A:

Dear Misty,

You should talk to his doctor and see what they suggest. Maybe they can find out why he doesn't use the potty.  If there is a problem of some kind perhaps they can find a solution and then he can start using the potty and use less diapers. You really need to talk to his doctors on this one. I hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Karly Jason
Age: 15

Q:

I love diapers but my friends treat me like a baby and I am getting to where I can't go ANYWHERE without a diaper. And at school my friends change my diaper and the teachers change my diaper. I poop and pee a lot in my diapers. I sleep in a crib, I eat baby food and sit in a high chair and at school one of the teachers take turns feeding me in front of everyone. I want to know what I should do? Since I am currently a baby I don't know what to do. I got some free time and nobody is home but if they find me on the computer I'll be spanked and put in my baby crib and  poop and pee my diaper.


A:

Dear Karly,

It sounds like they are being very strict with you. Perhaps if you can show them that you know how to be a bigger girl- do more for yourself like a toddler- they might ease up on some of the rules.  Only by showing them that you can be a big girl will they let you be a big girl. I wish you alot of luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brendan:
Age: 42

Q:

Of recent I have become to wet my self. In fact I was in hospital last week and I was asked by the nurse did I need a pad (nappy). Least to say I was embarrassed. What I want to know is because I am frequently wetting, especially at night  would you recommend I wear a nappy at night.  And if so do I go to my doctor to get them for me.


A:

Dear Brendan,

There is nothing to be embarrassed about when it comes to wearing nappies (it only fabric around the posterior-so are boxers or briefs). I would go see my doctor just to make sure there were no medical reasons for the wetting but you can purchase them on your own or have him recommend and write out a script.  Sometimes wetting can be managed with simple techniques like no fluids after 6 PM and so on. Again talk to your doctor.  Hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anonymous
Age: 14

Q:

Hi, I have always wet the bed, and since I sleep close to 10 hours per night (8 PM-6 AM) I wanted to find out what time I would wet the bed at. I had a bedwetting alarm from when I was five so I put that inside my Goodnite while I slept. I did this for 1 week and concluded that I usually wet between 9:30 and 10:00, and again at 1:00 to 1:30. That means that I sleep in a wet Goodnite for 8 hours! I remember you saying once that you should not be in a wet diaper too long. I have never had a rash, and don't use a cream (skin irritation), and so I was wondering if I should stay in my wet Goodnite all night long (I don't wake up when I wet), or should I interrupt my sleep by waking up at midnight to change my Goodnite? I have two problems with doing that. 1. Can't afford it. 2. Hard for me to fall back to sleep. I really don't know what to do. Please help.


A:

Dear Anon,

I wouldn't worry.  If you have been doing it already with no problem then your skin is most likely able to handle it.  My suggestion would be just be sure to wash thoroughly in the morning. Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarssed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy I always wondered why parents would let their toddlers run around naked or without any pants, but I now understand since being back in diapers. Now when I come home from work I remove my pants and air out a very irritated area. I'm beginning to feel more like a toddler every day. Last month I metioned I thought I was getting a diaper rash on my scrotum. It occured shortly after a series of night time accidents. It started on the left hand side, which is were my pee pee usually ends up on those wet mornings. The itching never went away. I tried Balmex, Desitin, Baby Powder, Medicated Powder, and now airing it out. I have feeling it is not diaper rash, but a yeast infection since the warmth and wetness of an accident makes a good breeding ground for such growth. Is this another common diaper related issue? What is the best treatment for such problems? How long should you air it out (go pantsless)? How long should it take to heal? Since it doesn't seem to be healing since I got it a week ago I stopped using a diaper at night and set up an appointment with the doctor. Will he know this is diaper related? I do not plan to tell him. Hope this may helps other little boys, and posibly their mommies.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

It could possibly be a yeast infection and would need special medication to clear it up. They do have some creams out on the market. You could ask your local pharmacist/druggist. Since you are seeing your doctor he will most likely give you a prescription for something or at the very least recommend a good OTC (over the counter) product. As to whether you want to tell him it is diaper related or not- well that is as always your options. Hope everything clears up
alright.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jeff
Age: 45

Q:

I wear assurance protective briefs and I sweat in them, which causes a rash. What can I do??


A:

Dear Jeff,

You have a very common problem. If it is at all possible during the day see if you can change a little more often. Also use a protective cream for your skin- Balmex, Desitin- to prevent a rash. Just a
light coating rubbed in.  And for the sweating use corn starch powder- it helps to absorb some of the sweat. I hope some of these tips help.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 18

Q:

Dear Mommy, I like to poop in my diapers and I was wondering how I could be able to poop more without being more vegetarian and eating the natural laxatives? Also, what's the healthiest and best position to poop in a diaper?


A:

Dear Todd,

Besides the obvious foods like beans and so on the only food to eat is more fiber.  Roughage makes you 'go'.  Another little known fact is that licorice is also a laxative od sorts, so if you like the taste of that particular candy- indulge.  As far as a best position- the old saying 'different strokes for different folks' applies here, whatever is the most comfortable for you and aids in ease of elimination is the best. Happy pooping!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Collin Berend
Age: 15

Q:

How can I lose bladder control, like you know, with out me knowing I'm peeing or pooping. How can I do it?


A:

Dear Collin,

I am not sure exactly what it is you are asking. I do have a program that can help you to learn to pee and poop.  However you would always be aware of what was happening except for overnight. If all you need is an outline of the program email me and I will send it to
you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cynthia
Age: 48

Q:

My teen daughter is making her first communion in May 08 and wants to wear a cloth diaper and rubber pants under her communion dress. She wants to be cute and little girlish. Should I let her wear them?


Dear Cynthia,

If you have no objection to her wearing them- let her wear them. They will be under her clothes and no one else need know. It is a special day for her so why not let her feel extra special? It will be one of those memories that she'll always have in her heart and mind. The little gestures that count. I wish you both a happy day!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kyle
Age: 14

Q:

What would be better for 24/7 diapering, cloth or Disposable? I would of course be at school and want to know is cloth healthier or Disposables. And which is better comfort wise.


Dear Kyle,

You ask a loaded question. It really is a matter of preference. Neither one is healthier than the other- it all depends on the care that is taken in the laundering of the cloth diapers.  If properly washed and sterilized they could be healthier- but if not done correctly then the disposables are a better choice. For ease of care the disposables- pull out of box, put on, take off and throw away. Cloth diapers- put on, use, store in some form of antiseptic water till can wash, wash, dry, then can use again. Remembering that all you put in the diaper you have to clean out of that diaper (it can get real bad) For comfort some say the softness of a cloth diaper can't be beat. Others prefer a disposable. So it's hard to answer your question as you can see. You would have to experiment and see what fits into your lifestyle. What makes you happy. Take your time half the fun is trying new stuff!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anthony
Age: 34

Q:

Hello. I love to wear diapers but only wear them at night. I would like to start wearing them all the time. 24/7 to work and everywhere but am afraid of getting caught. I like to just wear my diaper under clothing. If I do do this should I have extras on hand? Not sure what to do.


Dear Anthony,

It is a  bold decision to go diapered 24/7. I don't know your particular situation but to safe I would take extra diapers. Whether you use them (for urine) or not certain activities that cause sweating. And that can have the diaper material to break down and chafe those delicate areas and leave you with a nasty rash. So extra diapers a must with corn starch powder. Also to keep the crinkle of the diaper silenced some members use regular briefs over the diapers to keep it quiet. I hope these few tips help. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lisa
Age: 13

Q:

Hi mummy I have been wetting all my life and I wear diapers. My mum does not let me change myself because she say that I don't clean myself properly down there that I might get diaper rash or something. If she's not there she ask one of my friends to change me if we're out. but I'm old enough to do it myself, help?


Dear Lisa,

I think you need to talk to your mother. Show her you are more mature. Take responsibility around the house. Maybe do some chores around the house without her asking you to do it. Then ask if you can try to change yourself and have her check and make sure it meets her approval. Once she is sure you are 'growing up' she'll start to let you do more.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon
Age: 13

Q:

Hi mummy, I've got a wetting problem day and night. And I wear diapers and I don't know how to deal with it. My mum diapers me and checks me every hour and its embarrassing for me when she does that in front of my friends. what do I do?


Dear Jon,

You need to talk to your mother.  She really doesn't need to check you every hour, if you go you can alert her. And you are not an infant and don't need to be changed in front of anyone- you need privacy. As a matter of fact perhaps you could speak to your mother about changing yourself. Show her that you are mature enough and responsible enough to do it. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amen
Age: 16

Q:

One week has passed. My night accidents has not stop nor there's improvement. I used to have night accidents when I was 5 years old till my late pre-teen years. However I began to have night accidents at 16, thus I'm worried and concerned about this problem. I'm to shy to talk about my problem to my doctor nor does my mom able to entertain my problem. Does this problem occurs due to stress.


Dear Amen,

You didn't mention what is going on but I do hope all is okay. Since you did have a history of wetting when you were 5- the likelihood of you wetting again at 16  when under stress is very high. Why this happens is not clear. The wetting will most likely taper off slowly once the stressful situation is resolved.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Pamer Drengen
Age: 15

Q:

Hey mommy, Do you think it is wrong that my real mother changes my wet diaper? Btw I use diaper 24/7


Dear Pamer,

There is nothing wrong with your mom changing you as long as you are okay with it. You are getting older and should try changing yourself. Maybe you could ask your mother to give you some diaper changing pointers and show you how to do it. It would give your mom a rest from doing it once in a while. I wish you well. Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy woke up with a soaking diaper this morning that swelled 2 times it's size. Looked like a yellow balloon.:-) Must have had multiple accidents last night. However I noticed more and more the front side of the diaper is absorbing most of the pee right up to top of the padding. The seat is soaked, but only where my pee pee sits in between the legs. I don't do a diaper change at night since most of the time the diaper absorbs the pee and I usually am up early for work. I'm still a little confused on diaper rash even though I've read about it. This morning I found another blood red spot on the right side of my scrotum. Have to say it felt like a small scratch. Should diaper rash look like a small pimple or just a red spot like the one I described? This is now the second time I had genital irritation in less than a month. Unfortunately I don't have any control on when and where I pee at night, but should the pee be more absorbed by the buttocks area than the front of the diaper? Maybe I should try positioning my pee pee a different way. Can you help me understand diaper rash a little better than what I've read. Do you know a good web site that can help me identify if it's the start of diaper rash? I'm totally confused based on information overload.


Dear Embarrassed,

Diaper rash usually starts with all over redness and then turns into small red bumps. Some rashes are from exposure to urine but can also be due to exposure to yeast. They have the usual ointments out on the market for regular diaper rash but if you have the rash caused by yeast you might need to get a prescription from a doctor. They do have some new med's out that are supposed to treat yeast rashes - you'd have to hunt to find them. As far as the soaking goes you should try repositioning the pee pee. Another suggestion is to use soakers to absorb more- therefore cutting down on the wetness. Try some of ointments, the repositioning and the soakers and if they don't work- see a doctor, preferably a urologist and make sure all is okay. Take care-

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Micah
Age: 15

Q:

Hi, I am a house sitter for my neighbor when she is gone and she has found out my secret of loving to wear diapers. This happened about a year and a half ago and my neighbor has, out of the kindness of her heart, helped me move forward into the lifestyle I love. When my parents go out of town I spend most of my time with my neighbor and she takes care of me by diapering and feeding me (breastfeeding when I ask). I have wanted to tell my parents for the longest time that I love to wear diapers and be treated like a baby but I am worried on what they will think\do. I have heard about one of your staff being put under house arrest and going to therapy and that just makes me even more worried. I know that if I told my mom she would immediately ask why but I don't want to have to tell her my reason. So please help  me with this predicament. Thank you.


Dear Micah,

There is nothing wrong with you liking diapers. However there is a problem with your neighbor helping you. If your neighbor is over 18 there are legal problems that could happen over this situation. Legal issues that could involve fines and possibly jail- so consider if you want to continue that relationship. As for your parents you know them- will they be accepting of this whole situation? Before you mention anything think long and hard about it. Also you are mistaken- we have never had any of our staff on house arrest. We had one of our young members tell her father- he put her on house arrest and therapy. It was definitely not any of our staff. Bottom line- you need to think about alot of things and decide what is important. Protect the people you care about and be good to yourself at the same time. Remember though that we are here behind you and for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 14

Q:

Dear mommy, hi it's me Kendra again. I know this is your advice page but I had some input for all TB/dl's out there. I know exactly how most of you are feeling as I was once there concerning hiding your diapers or afraid of telling your parent or parents. I know also some of you don't have an understanding parent such as myself, but if you think you do I say try to talk with them about your feelings, most parents wish their child were open with them. I too was afraid at first to approach my mom about wanting to be in diapers, but I got the courage and have never regretted it because she not only allows me to wear them but changes me as well. This is not advice but just my observation of adults in general. Yes mommy I do have a question, well it's more my mom's. Here she wrote it down. Since my daughter Kendra now is back in diapers I am using the experiences I had when she was a baby and toddler before she was potty trained, I believe I am still doing all this the correct way as far as diapering her and preventing rashes etc...is there anything I should be doing different since she is older.ie: more powder, cream etc..
                                  thank you,
                                      Kendra's mom


Dear Kendra,

Thank you so much for the kind words. I found being open with my kids made raising them so much easier. They were much more likely to come to me with questions. I wanted to guide them not have them listen to their misinformed friends. To answer your mom- the same rules apply. The same things you do to change a baby you do for an adult only difference is you are covering a larger area (no pun intended). Just make sure to clean extra well during a female's monthly cycle to prevent any irritation- but that's it.  Good luck to you both.

-Hugs Sandra