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Question Asked By: Dana
Age:37

Q:

Dear mommy How do I get rid of the body hair down there?


A:

Dear Dana,

You can trim real close with scissors but be sure to be careful.  Or you can use a bikini wax area product-but that is only for the surrounding area.  If you try to shave the area or other method- your biggest problem will be the itching when it starts to grow back.  You will not want to sit still for wanting to scratch the area which is some situations could be embarrassing to explain.  My best advice is to just
trim as close as you can and use the bikini area product and be COMFORTABLE. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Noah
Age: 24

Q:

I have two question I work in a auto shop and don't want co- workers to see me wear my diaper, under my pants and sticking out of pants around waist line and bent over the car and under it  and to bent down to put thing  up. I wear depend and how do you drown the noise from the diaper. The work uniform is dark blue pants and dark blue shirt and work for a high end shop.    


A:

Dear Noah,

The ideal product for you is an adult onesies.  It is a T-shirt that goes all the way down and is snapped in the crotch area.  So if you bend, twist or boogie all anyone will see is the T-shirt. And as for the noise
problem a very good friend of mine wears his keys to disguise the sound.  You could perhaps do the same, a simple clip-on ring with a few noisy keys should do the trick. Wish you luck. Here is a link to some sites that sell the onesies.  Good luck.
http://store.nexternal.com/shared/StoreF
ront/default.asp?CS=dc&StoreType=BtoC&Count1=
625332057&Count2=542472481

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Floyd John Godleske
Age: 45  But I feel like a 1 years old baby

Q:

Would that make me like a baby? I use a baby diapers 24/7. I can not use adult diapers, they break me out in a rash and baby ones do not. So what should I do, should I use my baby diapers} I use size 6 at  daytime and 7 at night. I am 45 years old. I went to doctor and they told me to wear baby diaper and a baby bibs and a baby bottle, crib, baby food. I been thru Okl. bombing. I live across the street when it happened, it left me like a baby.


A:

Dear Floyd,

Sorry to hear about all you have been through. You are obviously a survivor and I commend you on that. Now to your question- if what you are doing is working for you why change the routine?  If you want to try to use adult diapers perhaps you could try using a barrier cream- such as  Desitin or Balmex to name just a few. Liberally apply and rub in well be sure to leave a little residue as protection. Of course at the
first sign of any discomfort remove them immediately. I wish you all the best. 

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35
Q:

Dear mommy while I was writing you last I had another accident.  This flooded my diaper wetting my blanket a with couple of wet spots.  From your last post to me that constitutes a flooding, right? However it usually floods to the side my pee pee is pointed.  This time it was from the left side of the leak guards. Shouldn't it distribute the wetness evenly, or start to soak up into the back material? Well I need to change out of this diaper before it does any more damage.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

In a perfect world diapers would soak evenly. The honest truth is sometimes when you sleep your body is at an angle that twists your diapers leaving gaps and the result is spotty leaking.  A flooding is when the entire diaper is saturated and can hold no more.  Your
situation sounds like just spotty leaking. Which is why we always recommend a sheet protector.  Because you just never know.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy if you remember me last time I told you I gave up on potty training, and it seems whatever progress I made is gone since the entire front side of my diaper is yellow. I also dreamt I had a messing accident. It's not unusual now for me to have the dream and wake up in the morning with that familiar bulge in the back of my diaper.  Which brings me to my question. Since my messing accidents are increasing while I sleep is Balmex enough to prevent diaper rash? I don't always wake up for an early morning change.  Is it normal to sleep through a messing accident? I know with messing accident it's not good to go too long without a change. Is the worse case scenario a diaper rash?

PS:I think of all those kids you help with bedwetting problems, let them know their not alone, and some adults, like me, still need diapers for more than just bedwetting problems.  That may help them feel better if their feeling down.  Sometimes diapers are just a way of life. 


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Thank you for those encouraging words that you had for other wetter's.  It can sometimes feel like a lonely and painful place to be- being a bedwetter. I was totally supportive of my son but he still felt ashamed at times.  I told him 'Hold your head high.  You have nothing to feel bad about. You are precious to me and that is what counts.'. So I thank you for letting them know they are okay and precious also.

Now to your question- as always it is never good to stay in a soiled diaper.  If you know you are going to mess and not be changing right away a good barrier routine should be set up.  Balmex as you mentioned would be excellent- at the bedtime change rub some into the skin leaving a light coating to act as a 'shield' for overnight.  Use powder if you like.  This way at least your skin is being protected.  And always remember to air out the posterior to promote skin health even further.  Hope this helps!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 14

Q:

Dear Mommy, My real mommy gave me permission to be up past my bedtime to write and ask your opinion as to what happened to us today. You see last year I told my mommy that I had a liking for diapers. I told her that I just liked the feeling of them and they made me feel a little younger and safe. We had a very long talk and after some time she was very open and agreed at first to let me wear and bought me the diapers I wanted, but just around the house with my underpants over them. Right away she noticed I wasn't able to change my diaper properly, so being the mom that she is she changed me and has ever since then. I now get to be in my diapers all the time with the proper care like baby powder and my plastic panties, well today we were at the store and I had wet my diaper and told mommy. Since we still had tons of shopping to do she took me to the restroom and pulled out an extra diaper she had in her purse and started to change me while I was standing up. I mean its not like we carry a diaper bag around (duh) anyway in walks this woman in the bathroom and just is like wow in shock or something. Which is fine because I'm like 14 but then
she starts to just almost yell at my mom on how bad a mom she is to not only have me in diapers but to change them. I mean she doesn't even know us. My mommy is a great mommy. And she told this woman to mind her own business. So I guess my question is do you think it is a bad thing to be changed in public at my age. I mean it could have been a medical thing how would she know. Thank you,
                               Kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

Unfortunately there are alot of small-minded people who just don't understand that things can be different in someone else's life.  All this woman saw was a young girl getting changed. Like you said she knows nothing of the background, medical or otherwise. And actually the bottom line is- it is none of her business. Who appointed her bathroom police? If you need to be changed you have the right to change!  My one suggestion would be this- since you are older I would suggest your mother changing you in the handicapped stall. It is usually wider so would be more comfortable. And also being your age to have any of your privates exposed could cause legal problems. All in all better safe than sorry. So change in the stall and be comfy. You deserve it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steven
Age: 35

Q:

Ever since I can remember I have wanted to wear diapers and be treated like a baby.  When I was a teenager I wet the bed alot but my parents never took me to the doctor.  I was afraid to tell them I wanted to be diapered. I would secretly try to make my own diaper.  When I turned 20 I wised up and bought some adult diapers.  Over the past 5 years I've tried to give up my ABDL lifestyle with the help of a counselor. My wife has been very supportive. I just can't seem to break free. When I get stressed I find myself wanting to be mothered and diapered. Sometimes it's so bad I think about telling my primary doctor. I'm not sure what to do. I'm trying to find a new motivation to help me keep maturing. I'm not real close to my mother, maybe you have some advice.


A:

Dear Steven,

There are quite a few people that being AB is an emotional issue.  It gives them a feeling of warmth and security and being loved. While most of society refuses to understand there are a few who try to. Your wife seems to be one- you said she is supportive of you. My question to you is why do you want to pull away from being AB? If you get comfort and ease of mind from an activity- why stop it. I know quite a few AB's that are married with children and happy. They have rules that they follow so that the children are not exposed to the AB lifestyle but still have their 'comfort' time.  If you really want to stop then all it would take is you never putting on another diaper. As simple as that- no more. But if it is difficult for you to imagine that then maybe you're just not ready or prepared yet to give it up. I would really give some long and hard thought to if you really want to give up diapers and all that goes along with it. Because in the end you are the who has to live with that decision. I wish you well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 17

Q:

How do you sneak diapers in so my mum doesn't know?


A:

Dear Will,

From some of our younger members I have heard some interesting hiding places. One member just outright had them at a friend's house whose parents were not nosy. Another kept them hidden in the basement- put bag by basement window behind bushes and later open
window and stash away. Another kept the stash hidden in a hollow part of a tree in the yard. Yo should be able to think of an excellent place to hide them. Venting ducts, behind furniture places never cleaned or attended to.Also break up the pack so if one pile is found there is still another elsewhere. Just a few of strange places diapers have been hidden.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: NICOLAS BOKIDES
Age: 25

Q:

I AM 25 AND I AM AN AB, BUT I WANT TO STOP WEARING THEM BUT I CAN'T SEEM TO GET MYSELF TO STOP. IS THERE ANY HELP FOR ME OR AM I DOOMED. THANK YOU

NICK BOKIDES


A:

Dear Nick,

Why are you coming down so hard on yourself?  If you can't stop then there is obviously a benefit you are getting from being an AB.  If you really want to stop all you have to do is never wear another diaper. It's just that simple- if however you can't do that perhaps you need to wear for just a little longer or find another activity to replace that one. It will take your force of will to do it.  I wish you the best.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 15

Q:

Hi, I was wondering if it is normal for a 15 year old to want to wear diapers? When I get the chance I buy some and wear them to bed, school, and church. My parents don't know that I want/like to wear diapers. I try to keep it a secret. I told one of the nurses that works at my church about how I feel because she caught me wearing a diaper and now when I go to church on Wednesdays I stay after for a while so she can change me and breastfeed me. So again, is this normal?   


A:

Dear James,

Whatever your reasons for wanting to wear diapers you are entitled to be able to do what you want. It is fortunate that you found someone to change you. My one concern is that you mentioned that she also
breastfeeds you.  Because you are under 18 that can cause legal problems for her and the church - it is illegal for her to interact with you in that manner. Perhaps you can still have her change you without the other activity. I hope all goes well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matt
Age: 15

Q:

How can I get my girl friend into diapers? She's not actually my girlfriend but we are really close and she knows I like to wear diapers. I asked her  if she would be kind of like a big sis to me and change my diapers and  baby me. But she said she didn't want to cause she didn't want to feel grown up like that and pointed out her IM icon which says never grow up. I know she doesn't currently wear diapers and I'm pretty sure she never has (other than when she was a baby) but I really want her to try it out. So if you have any  ideas on how I could get her into diapers please let me know.


A:

Dear Matt,

As much as you would like to have your friend be involved in your TB life if she is not interested there are no magic words that will make her do it. She has already told you that she doesn't want to change you or wear diapers. She has made up her mind.  I'm sorry but you'll have to accept her decision.  I know this is not what you want to hear but you can't make someone do something they don't want to. Just be thankful that you have a close friend and cherish her for being just that.

-Hugs Sandra