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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 13

Q:

I really like diapers but my mom won't buy me diapers. I was wondering if there are any people you know that give away diapers to teen babies and diaper lovers my age?


A:

Dear Jordan,

There is a long list of people who wish that.  Unfortunately diaper companies are in business to make money and giving them away doesn't make any money. And I don't know of any kind hearted millionaire who is donating free samples. The best you can probably
do is to get a small pack from a store/company for a small fee. It would be nice though wouldn't it, if you could get some for free.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anthony
Age: 25

Q:

I would like to wet again. But I do not how I can do this. I tried CDs/tapes etc


A:

Dear Anthony,

There are slot of programs out there. Most of them involve a drug or device that can cause harm to the person using it. I only use safe reversible methods. There is a program I like that is safe and cost you
nothing,  Just follow the directions.  Be aware that if you decide to go incontinent at night it can cross over to day time incontinence.  That said here is the program
http://www.deeker.com/Articles/twelve_month_diaper_training_
program.pdf Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy I have given up on potty training.  I don't think I'm ready yet as anxious as I was the last time I wrote you. This morning is just more proof as my diaper(which looks like a baby diaper as it is a bambino diaper)is no longer white.  I really don't know how many times I wet last night but it must have been a few.  At least it's still holding.  I did go to the next size in diapers as the other ones felt too small in the crotch, and made if feel very uncomfortable.  I do like how babyish these diapers look, especially with no wetness indicator.  I mean why do we need wetness indicators?  I mean diapers don't lie.  You can tell by looking (size, color, sagginess, and etc.) at it or smelling it.  Any way I may try potty training again next year, but for now it's back to diapers at night for the foreseeable future.  Any way now that I will not be potty training, is there any way to avoid diaper rash or is it inevitable that it will return one way or another?  How many more times can I expect to get it?  Should start using diaper cream instead of Vaseline.  Well I need to change and get a shower.  At least I can now sleep without the stress of potty training on my shoulders. 

PS: I figure since I'm having these accidents I should at least look the part, that's why I picked some bambino's.  The baby print reminds I'm still just a toddler at heart.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

I am sorry that your efforts didn't work out.  Hold out hope for next time like you said.  I have always said on the site to avoid diaper rash you need to change often. For overnight the best barrier cream is
balmex.  Wash and dry thoroughly- you put a thin layer of this stuff down (a little goes a long way) it is like putting armor around your posterior!  If you have any other minor skin ailments/rashes it helps
them too.  And if you already have a rash- relief and healing within 24 hours will be felt.  It is wonderful stuff. Look for it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jake
Age: 16

Q:

I want to wet my pants in public but I don't know how to do it with out ruining my clothing. And I can't afford diapers how should I do it?


A:

Dear Jake,

You would have to put out some money at first but there is a way you can do what you want.  You would need to invest in some cloth diapers and plastic pants.  And if your budget allows get some
'stuffers'-they add absorbency to the diapers.  It is a one time investment and all that is needed is to wash as needed. Hope that idea helps

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Hello again mommy. Thank you for all the support you give to us babies. This is the only place I have ever mentioned I use a diapers for my nightly accidents.  As you know I have given up on potty training, and am back to using my diapers at night. You and anybody else that reads this are the only ones that know. However I suspect my family knows, which worries me.  I still live at home to help my aging parents. Since the holidays arrived my siblings have returned home to celebrate. They have little ones themselves. I already encountered that one of my nieces said something that I didn't catch. My parents and my nieces mother  heard it, and quickly changed the subject when I asked what she said. OK that could be paranoia. However, yesterday after I removed my wet diaper I went downstairs to take a shower and encountered my nieces again.  The youngest(3) seen me and said to me "Your all wet!".  No one else was in the room at the time, but it sounded like something a mother would say when changing a wet diaper. Boy my face must have turned red with embarrassment when I heard this. Kids usually imitate their parents phrases when faced with a similar situation.  So they may know, which makes me believe that my family knows, and have discussed it.  Maybe I'm being paranoid? Maybe they know and are not discussing it around me?  I mean even though my family respects my room as my privacy, I'm sure certain smells that I may be use too may attract another's attention, or is that paranoia? I do not know what to believe.  What do you think?  I do have another question but, I'll ask that another time. Thanks and have a happy holidays!


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

We are always self-conscious when we think someone is checking us out.  Maybe they know or maybe not. Is your family the kind where you could just go to them and say I have a medical condition that requires me to wear a diaper- and they accept it and be okay with it? Or would that only happen in a well staged Hollywood production. You are not being paranoid.  You have a healthy amount of self-preservation.  You like your life and want it to stay as it is.  Nothing wrong with that.  We'll just have to see how the holidays play out.  Happily I hope.  I wish you good cheer for the season!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sonny
Age: 32

Q:

I am a DL and I wear a diaper. Every day I ride the city bus home and at that time I always poop my diaper. Usually no problem, but when I'm on the bus it is a problem! The Poop always comes out the top of the back of my diaper so that when I get off the bus, people can see it! It is embarrassing! Is there anything I can do?


A:

Dear Sonny,

Yours is an interesting situation. First off you might try loosening the diaper just a little- perhaps it is too tight and that is why the poop is being forced up and out. Another is to wear plastic pants over your
diapers so any run-out gets caught by the plastic pants and not seen by anyone else. And lastly try pooping before you get on the bus and totally eliminate the problem (if possible).  These are just a few suggestions.  I hope one of them can help you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 14

Q:

How can I suggest diaper discipline to my parents with out starting a conversation just for discipline?


A:

Dear Will,

We do not endorse diaper discipline. It is cruel and humiliating in the way it is used. The people it is used on are affected for the remainder of their lives- some not in a good way.  It would not be possible for you to bring up the topic to your parents- it is the parent who tells it to the kid.  Saying anything would only make them ask questions. As much as you would want to be able to wear diapers freely, diaper discipline is not the way to go.  It is not what you imagine it to be.  A diaper can be painful if worn for over 12 hours (done by some parents).  Your time will come. Be patient and be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bry
Age: 16

Q:

Hey mommy, I'm wondering... I have been wanting to try to be diapered 24/7...yes I do have to hide it from my parents.. I want to tell them, but at the same time I only want my mom to find out, not my dad or brother.  And in all honesty I only want to be diapered at home, not at school or outside... what should I do?? Also I would love to be able to find a motherly figure, online cause I'm only 16. I have submitted to your TB roster thing, but how long will it take before I get emails, and how often do people actually get emails...?? and one more question...lol sorry this is soo long.. but I don't think I'm very good at diapering myself... I think I do it too tight so I can't pee laying down... could you please tell me how to diaper myself?? (if its ok with you that is)


A:

Dear Bry,

It seems to me for now the only time you would be able to be diapered 24/7 is if Mom and Dad and bro were away overnight.  Or if you could go to your room and lock the door and just enjoy some alone time.  In a family it's hard to keep a secret- once someone knows
everybody knows.  You said you signed up with our roster, that's great!  How about instead of you just sitting and waiting - you Email some of the people listed that sound interesting to you. We had one member who discovered another DL not only in her home town- he went to her school!And as for diapering your self- lay down and place the opened diaper under your butt, pull up the front between your legs adjusting
the fit as you go then bring the back end flap to cross over the front end flap and secure quite snug and repeat with the other side.  You should be done. Hope this helps. Stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon
Age: 16

Q:

I want my mom to know about this TB thing I got going on but not my dad. Should I risk telling her?? I really want her to change me etc. but not around my dad. Is this possible? Regardless of the answer I will probably tell her. How and when should I tell her that I want to be diapered and to get more diaper??


A:

Dear Jon,

In a marriage couples rarely keep secrets from each other concerning their kids. Most likely if you tell your Mom she will tell your Dad. There are of course exceptions.  As to how and when- only you know your Mom and know whether this is something she would be
accepting of.  There are no magic words to say that will make her accept it if she is set against it. Think very carefully before you bring the subject up. Once you talk about it you can't take it back. I do wish you luck in whatever you decide.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy nothing prepared me for what happened today, but I guess when your a toddler at heart you need to be prepared for a toddlers life.  It happened during changing time.  It started out like any other changing time. First all my clothes were removed, and my diaper so I was naked.  I was then asked if I had anything to say.  I said no.  That's when the bombshell dropped. I was then told big boys don't play with themselves.  Trying to cover up my earlier actions I said I don't.  Wrong move because at that moment as I followed her movement I realized there was a paddle on the dresser.  Before I knew it my legs were pulled up exposing my bare bottom to the wooden paddle. At that moment I started pleading I wouldn't do it again as my poor bottom received a few thwacks until I was whimpering.  As I was being rediapered a stern warning was given that the next time the spanking would be more severe.  Do you think the punishment fit the crime? 


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

I for one do not believe in disciplining babies, but of course there are some who do.  They have their own set of rules of do's and don't's. If you are with a person who has these rules be aware of what they are
and don't break any.  Do I think it fit the crime? Like I said I don't believe in disciplining my babies but that's MY babies. In your case if the rule was broken then you have to be punished.  But I will give you a hug and tell you it's alright and do better next time.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kyle
Age: 14

Q:

How do I get my mom to change me. She does not know I wet


A:

Dear Kyle,

I get this question all the time.  My answer is always the same. Is this something you think your Mom would understand and accept?  Only you know how she is. Would she really be okay with you wetting and changing you? If you can answer yes to that honestly then you
need to sit down and have a serious talk with your Mom.  But if you are not sure- I would reconsider telling her.  Think about it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 14

Q:

How do you poop in a diaper? and Can you just walk around in just a diaper?


A:

Dear Paul,

If you want to poop in a diaper all you have to do is just go.  Because we are older we find it uncomfortable where a toddler can tolerate it for a while.  And yes you can walk around in a diaper. Don't walk for too long in a wet one though to avoid a rash (hurt real bad). Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bryan B. Aklin
Age: 38

Q:

I live in Salem Or. I wear both cloth and disposable diapers with plastic baby pants 24/7 I also use plastic sheeting and underpads. I'm looking for a real permanent AB mom.


A:

Dear Bryan,

A good Mom is hard to find.  But we do have a Mommy finder that is an excellent place to start.  You can Email some of the people- perhaps find a Mom .  At the very least maybe find a friend.  I wish you luck.
The link is :
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Shadow Fox
Age: 19

Q:

I am unsure how to voice my fantasy to abdl sites that I can find. How do I go about doing this? I am interested but I am very shy about the topic...


A:

Dear Shadow Fox,

I can't speak for other sites but I can speak for ours.  You have no reason to be shy.  We accept you for who you are and make no judgements. You can talk to us and ask questions about any topic- whether on the site or personally if it is of a  private matter. You can post stories, pictures and make suggestions. We consider ourselves like a family here.  We believe in and stand up for our members.  So if you want to be part of our family- you are very much wanted and will
be appreciated.  I hope to see more of you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

It's very wet morning here this morning in both the weather and my diaper. As you know I've abandoned my potty training and if I gained any ground it's gone this morning. Had 3 morning accidents. I even awoke during a soaking once, but not in time to catch it. The leak guards on the disposable didn't work 100% as I noticed the diapers a little wet between my legs and backside. It's not real wet but when I put my finger down there you can feel the wetness on the outside of the diaper.  Does this constitute as a diaper flooding? Another question I have is after my morning shower, should treat my diaper area with anything or is fine to just towel off, and get dressed since I only use diapers at night?    


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

If your diaper is that full of wetness- it is just a drop away from flooding out. That is one well saturated diaper! If is the mornings after your shower you are going to wear briefs/boxers it is not necessary to use a barrier cream. Perhaps still use powder for general comfort. The only exception would be if you have a current rash- use some balmex to continue the healing process and then go about your regular day.

-Hugs Sandra
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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 56

Q:

What do they call a woman who nurse's another's mother's child?   Roman Charity?


A:

Dear Michel,

Long ago before they had a way to preserve the milk, women who could not provide milk or enough milk hired other women who had also just given birth to help give nourishment to their baby.  They were often referred to as wet nurses. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Noah
Age: 15

Q:

I am a teen baby. I’m am unsure how to approach my parents with this kind of situation. My parents are very judging and I am afraid of being told to 'grow up' or 'stop acting ridiculous'. How should I deal with this problem? How should I obtain diapers?

Regards,
Noah


A:

Dear Noah,

There might not be anything that can be done about your parents.  You already said they are judgmental. What would it take to change their minds? Once you know that then you know what to work on. As for
getting diapers- here are a few tips: use your allowance, get a job, recycle cans/bottles, do odd jobs for neighbors/elderly (One kid I know made a killing mowing in summer, raking in fall, shoveling snow in winter at $25 a pop) offer to get groceries for shut-ins at nursing homes, deliver papers- be creative.  Have it delivered to your house or a trusted friend if you are too embarrassed to get it at the store. And there you go.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joe
Age: 17

Q:

Hey When I was 14 I started waking up with an urge to go to the bathroom. Eventually I didn't make it and peed in my underwear. I am 17 now and I still do. The weird thing is that it's just my underwear and not my bed. and not alot of pee either. anyone ever heard of this before.


A:

Dear Joe,

Have no fear Joe you are still normal.  You just have a slight night incontinence.  There could be a number of reasons.  You should mention it to your doctor the next time you see him.  He might tell you to cut out any caffeinated beverages before bed and try to eliminate stress. Now that would be a magical act there!  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jennifer
Age: Unknown

Q:

My son is 8 and he asked me if he could wear diapers. I said I would think about it. But a couple of days later I took him to the park and he pooped in his underwear. He said it was an accident but I suspect it wasn't. Should I let him wear again if he wants to?


A:

Dear Jennifer,

Most likely your son's accident was no accident as you suspected.  I do believe though that his wanting to wear the diaper is most likely one of comfort and going back to feelings of security and contentment. I would talk with him, find out why he wants to wear. Has there been any areas of his life causing him any stress?  When all has been resolved and he still wants to wear- make restrictions such as only at home on the weekends.  This way he is in an environment where you can control his interaction with others who might not understand.  I hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 56

Q:

How can I find a mommy with maternal infant bonding?


A:

Dear Michel,

The proper forum to post this would be in the mommy finder forum:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html  Good luck

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ben
Age: 33

Q:

Hello, I recently introduced my girlfriend to the ABDL scene and she wants to be my mommy. We are currently having problems trying to find information regarding how one is to take on the role of a mommy. Any assistance would be appreciated.

Thanks,
Ben


A:

Dear Ben,

There are no 'Mommy' manuals or anything. Whatever you and your girlfriend are comfortable with is what you should do.  If you want diaper changes and she's okay with that- great, but it's not mandatory.  Maybe you are into being fed baby food.  Which can turn into a real turn on for both if a yummy fruit flavor- need I say more! Make it up as you go.  What do you both like and dislike, make some compromises and remember to just make each other happy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 56

Q:

How do you fold a 36x 36 cloth diaper?  Do you know where I can find someone to nurse me?


A:

Dear Michel,

To fold a diaper fold one corner to the opposite corner making a triangle.To diaper put under derriere pull up the point toward stomach and the two tails overlap with the point and fasten tightly.To find a
possible 'Mommy' you need to go on our mommy finder and start your search.  Good luck. http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Stephen
Age: 48

Q:

Hi mommy this is my first time on this. My question to you is how do I start being a AB and a DL and a sissy? 2nd question to you Wanting to be a sissy means I have to crossdress as a women?


A:

Dear Stephen,

First of let me assure you no one will have you do anything you don't want.  Once you decided you were an AB/DL you were one.  You say you're a sissy too- great!  You only need to dress up if you want.  Alot of sissies dress up because they enjoy all the frilly lace and silk and ribbons and stuff. But no one says you have to do all that, just be yourself.  You can be in jeans and tees and still be fabulous! So enjoy
life.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kat
Age: 22

Q:

Is it cool to be a TB and DL?


A:

Dear Kat,

I think so.  Of course I am biased.  There are pros and cons to everything. Each person needs to evaluate his/her list as to their priorities.  Is it cool for them or not?  Only they know.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kat
Age: 22

Q:

Is it ok to poop your panties.


A:

Dear Kat,

Well it all depends under what  circumstances you did so.  If on purpose then it's okay.  If it just happened with no control on your part then you need to see a doctor.  If it was a planned occurrence I might
suggest diapers or inserts to save on shopping and laundry bills.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Noah
Age: 24

Q:

How can I retrain my butt muscles to relax so can go in my diapers  and  already a bedwetter. And seen my doctor already and mom known that I am bedwetter. Also have cp. ps. so tell me how do this safely


A:

Dear Noah,

The only way to safely train your muscles are when you feel the urge just go and you just go where you are (in your diaper). You do this often enough and it will start to happen on its own. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 18

Q:

Hi mommy I'm in the UK and I've been disabled for most of my life now as well as being in a wheelchair. So because of that I still live with my mum. I have always loved diapers, ever since I was little when I had to wear them because I was a bedwetter, Tena I think I wore. I don't want my mum to know or anyone else in the family to know I love diapers.

Now my stitch is this, my mum tells that one night next year she plans to go with church for a big sleepover thing so I decided that would be the day I buy my first diapers. I have everything planned already. My problem is for when I get them how can I wet easier because I find it hard sometimes, my you know what hurts when I have to go but when I can release I'm fine (especially when I take my pants off and put a towel over myself like a diaper. I just can't seem to wet. Please how I wet easier. And for when I do get my diapers how can I be able to poop in them and not think it's gross because I want to wet and load in my diapers.

Thanks

D


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Dear David,

You seem to need more fluid in your diet.  I would definitely start to  drink more water to hydrate my system.  If you want to poop and urinate in your diapers then by all means do so- its your right to do so- sorry mum.  Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wanting to know
Age: 49

Q:

Did it ever occur to you that maybe these people wanting to be adult baby's need help not encouraged to be a baby? Are you just as crazy as they are?  I think ALL of you need mental help. I suspect that if I don't get an answer back from you, then you must know that I'm right. PS. I AM  grown women. NONE of your above questions. Just wanting to know.


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Dear Wanting to Know,

Oh I have been waiting for you.  I am an educated grown woman with children.  Instead of being judgmental perhaps you should read some of my answers.  I never try to  sway anyone to one side or the
other- their mind is already made up.  If I am dealing with a person under 18 I always advise them to talk to their parent/guardian.  And for any medical problems I always say to see a doctor.  Anything I say is
approved by a doctor/ medical community. So I stand by what I say.  Perhaps you should check your facts and besides everyone is entitled to be heard and entitled to their opinion.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jake
Age: 14

Q:

Well I am a dl but am afraid to show it. I have been looking at sites on dl and reading blogs. And all and I want to get a diaper/pullup and see what is like. So I want to know a way that I can get diapers/pullups and not have my parents find out please help
Jake


A:

Dear Jake,

You have two options: either buy or order. Now if you decide to buy you can use whatever money you have saved up and go to a pharmacy and purchase a small pack (12 or so).  If you are concerned about being
recognized go to the next town and while purchasing joke about stupid baby brothers (like you were sent there to get them for a brother) Now if you choose to order, you would need the exact amount and get a money order.  Have it shipped to a safe location.Your house- if you know you get the mail- or a trusted friend/neighbor. Hope some of this helps.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra