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Question Asked By: Doug
Age: 40

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Is it wrong for me to play as if I am his mommie figure, or should I stay just a wife figure? He say's it is very cute when I give him baby talk while putting his diaper on before bed, since we sleep in the same bed. And when he forgets I don't like waking up wet and cold. I am not sure if he is an AB, but I can say I do see he gets some sexual gratification from this problem and I don't want to feed the problem wrong and have him start feeling more useless and inferior, he has very low self esteem because of this problem, should I play
it by ear? I feel I am walking on egg shells when I bring up the fact about diapers and adult babies? But then again I feel if I could get his real feelings out we would have a much more open and closer relationship in general, I know he will not go to talk to a shrink with me so I am all ears?


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Dear Doug,

For any relationship to work there needs to be communication.  Whether your husband is an AB as a choice or as a necessity doesn't really matter.  If he gets pleasure from it then its a good thing in the
end.  Talk with him and let him know wearing a diaper does not make him inferior- it's only fabric around his butt which can also be said about briefs and boxers. Just continue to love one another and play it by ear. Do the things that make you both happy.  That's the real pay-off after all- happiness.

-Hugs Sandra

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Age: 40

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I have a diaper rash on my scrotum and between my legs. I am not sure what the best way help it heal. Also I think it is related to the heat wave we have been having. It is red and itches and sometimes sore to walk. Should I use baby powder and Desitin or not? how often should Desitin or a cream be applied.


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Dear Robert,

I am so sorry you are hurting. Whether it is the heat or the chafing- you need help.  My advice is this- at each diaper change use 'Balmex' and corn starch powder.  The Balmex is a wonderful cream it will start
to clear your rash in less than 24 hours.  It can also be used for other skin irritations.  Use the corn starch powder- it helps absorb moisture and  will make walking a little easier.  Continue to use this even after the rash is gone- it's a great preventive. Try to stay cool!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: need mommy
Age: 22

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I am looking for a mommy in Wichita, Kansas or in surrounding areas. I have always been interested in diapers and wearing them. I just have not found a mommy that would. Do you have any advice or good websites that I could use to find one??? Thank you.


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Dear need mommy,

It can be difficult to find the right person.  Your personalities have to be in sync.  A good starting point is our mommy finders page.
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html I hope you find that special someone.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babykid
Age: 13

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I wear diaper sometimes. But I cannot buy diaper because I have no money. My parents found out that I wear diaper. They said that I am such a baby. But I love to wear diaper. So I cannot let my mom know. Also, what diaper such I wear? (L,XL OR XXL)? I am in Sabah. Please tell me your answer to me.


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Dear Babykid,

It is hard to hide wearing diapers while still at home. As far as buying the diapers I would suggest buying online and having them shipped.  To get money you could perhaps use any allowance you get. Another option is to do odd jobs for people and get paid.  I know one young man who went from house to house where he lived and offered to cut grass, walk dogs, clean up yards or even doing chores for the old and sick. Whatever the people needed- he did. He made some good money doing that.  As to the size of diaper- when you order it you can look at the sizes listed and see which measurement is closest to your body. I wish you all the luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 57

Q:

As you know I have cerebral palsy and I have been trying to find a girlfriend/mommy. I live with a care giver, A Zulu NUT, and he charges me $1,600 per month and he says that I am to old for a girlfriend. Now I am sad. I wanted to find a girl in Arizona that I cuddle with. :(


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Dear Michel,

Don't let anyone else take away your dreams and desires! I don't care who this person is- how do they know what the future may bring. There is someone special out there for you. And by the way you are
never too old.  My father just got remarried at the age of 73.  Don't give up hope and don't listen to what that idiot has to say. Keep looking.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Parker
Age: 15

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How do I tell my mom that I want to crossdress and wear panties. I think I would be able to do it before my dad gets home if she lets me. I kinda would like her to put me through petticoat punishment, if you could email me with some tips?


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Dear Parker,

Unfortunately our site does not deal with those issues.  We only cater to bedwetter's and AB/DL's.  I will say this why do you need to involve your parents at all. You are almost at legal age and can then live as you want. Unless you have very open-minded parents most likely they would not understand. I do wish you good fortune and the best of luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: I want to wear diapers
Age: 15

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I want to wear diapers/goodnites, but I have no money and my
parents wouldn't understand. Also I can't make any because my parents would be on top of me. How can I get a hold of diapers to wear without money?


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Dear I want to wear diapers,

Unfortunately there is no place that has diapers for free.  You can however think of ways to make money. Perhaps you have an allowance you can save up, do odd jobs for money or maybe even get a paper route.  I know one member who collects the redeemable cans and saves them up until he can redeem them for enough cash.  Be creative and you'll think of more ways. Then when you have enough you can either purchase at a local store or order them.  I wish you luck in your quest.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jeffnorris
Age: 39

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As I get older  I am having a problem with incontinence and I been wetting the bed. During the day I been wearing cloth diapers because I been wetting my pants and sometimes I barely make the bathroom. what should I do?


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Dear Jeff,

My first suggestion is to see a doctor. To rule out any medical problems.  As a man get older he has to think about his prostate health which can cause pressure on his bladder and cause frequent urination.
These are things you need to discuss with your physician.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Stan
Age: 14

Q:

How do I tell my mom I need to wear diapers?


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Dear Stan,

There are no magic words to say.  If your Mom is not an understanding, open-minded person she won't be accepting of this.  But if she is then she will at least sit and listen and you can explain to her why you need to wear them.I wish I could be more help but you need to decide if you want to share this information with your Mom.  Think real hard on your decision. There's no going back if you do it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kate
Age: 24

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My question is that my fiance is an ABDL.  I am trying to get involved with this fetish but have trouble and have mixed feelings about joining him myself as well as taking care of him.  What do you recommend I do to help us out?


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Dear Kate,

Bottom line- either you are 'with' it or not.You can't fake enthusiasm.  You can however still be supportive and loving.  I have a close personal friend who has been married for many years (his oldest is looking at colleges), his wife just couldn't bring herself to be in it.  So they compromised.  On the weekends she lets him go to a 'Mommy'. Yes it is another woman but if you understand the lifestyle then you know it's not about sex, it's about nurturing.  Some husbands bowl or play golf or maybe go drinking with their buddies- no- my friend has a baba and sucks his binkie while hugging his teddy.  So you need to decide- be a part of that part of his life or allow him the freedom to have that part of his life.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joey
Age: 5

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Mommy I am 5 year old. Mommy and Daddy make me wear diapers. I do not need diapers anymore. What should I do? I ask to use the potty but they will not let me. Please help.


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Dear Joey,

Sorry to say Joey but being an AB 5 year old you need to listen to your mommy and daddy. For whatever reason they have decided to keep you in diapers.  You could maybe talk to them about potty training time and diaper time. Maybe split the times so you can get a
break from the diaper once in a while. I wish you well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babytim
Age: 18 months

Q:

What should I do because of the wetting or being a naughty baby?


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Dear Babytim,

If you are wetting or being a naughty baby then you need a mommy to take care of you. A good place to start is : http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html. I wish you luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sarah
Age: 15

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I hate being a TB because one day during the day I had a big accident in my pants and it was at the park. So when we got mom, told me that I was going to be a TB. I don't want to. What do I do?


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Dear Sarah, You don't have to be a TB if you don't want to. It does seem that you have to wear protection but you don't have to live the TB lifestyle if you don't wish it. You can do some research and see what can help your particular condition and reduce the 'accidents'.
Give you a little better control over things. You'll feel so much better.  Having to wear protection doesn't make you a baby- it's how you conduct yourself that shows who you are.  Be proud!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cory
Age: 13

Q:

Can u send me diapers for free please?


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Dear Cory,

We would love to be able to send free diapers to those that need them.  Unfortunately we can't.  Alot of people think we are a big company with alot of money and resources.  We are not.  We are two people who run this site from our home. We are not rich and do not get paid to do this. As a matter of fact we spend our own money to keep the site going. So even if we wanted to send out diapers to anyone- we just don't have the cash to do it. So sadly your request is one that we
can't do.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CJ
Age: 12

Q:

Hi I like to be changed by someone else and cared like a baby. I
don't want my parents to find out. I don't have a way of transporation though. What should I do to take care of my problem.


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Dear CJ,

You didn't mention if you had found someone to change you. I am sorry to say that because of your age alot of the people who might be interested will not do it due to legal issues. When you turn 18 it will be alot easier.  As for the transportation part my suggestion would be to either save up for a cab or ride your bike- that is if they are local. And if they are not local you should not be seeing them at all without your parents knowing. I know it sounds disappointing but before you know it you'll be old enough. I wish you all the luck in the world.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: AMANDA
Age: 15

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I AM MAKING MY FIRST COMMUNION SOON AND WANT TO WEAR A DIAPER AND PLASTIC PANTS UNDER MY COMMUNION DRESS. SHOULD MY PLASTIC PANTS FIT LOOSE OR SNUG?


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Dear Amanda,

First off congratulations on your communion. I know the day will always be one of your cherished memories. So to make sure of that I will tell you that your plastic pants need to be snug. We want no leakage in case anything comes. So relax and enjoy your special day!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Charles
Age: 24

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People say when hiding diapers to keep them hidden away from your parents.  I like the adrenaline rush of storing my super mega pack diapers on the other side where my mom stores her maxi pads.  In the mornings Ill get up and walk around in a diaper so that my mother can see me once again in diapers.  I hope she will eventually see my stash.  what I need help on is I wanted to know how do I get my mom to accept the fact that I love to wear diapers in the house.  She caught me before years ago and said that the diapers had to be my confort zone..  I told her that I wear them for confort when I sleep at night or walk around.  I wonder if I would be accepted  by her today.  Years ago I would make it obvious that I was wearing diapers by using alot of baby powder or just walking around in just a diaper to distract her.  I begged my mom to by me some Huggies or Pampers one day and she said I'm not buying you diapers. She said if she saw me in a diapers again that this would becaome a family issue. I just don't care anymore. Im addicted to these baby diapers until I start to gain weight and loose intrest. The thing is too I don't want my sibblings or father knowing I still wear diapers. My father knew years ago that I wore diapers because he found the spot where I burried my supply of pampers when he was clearing some of the backyard. In a few days I hope that my mom finds the diapers or finds out that I'm wearing them so I can talk with her about my desires. Let me know what you think and provide me with some feedback.
Thanks you


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Dear Charles,

I have a question for you, why exactly do you feel the need to shock your Mom with your diapers? I understand that you want her acceptance but wouldn't it be a better tactic to sit her down and discuss it. You could break the ice by writing her a letter and explaining that the comfort issue is still there. Perhaps if you could tell her all the reasons you like to wear them, she might understand.  If she is unwilling to accept it though there isn't any magic phrase that will change her mind.  But from what you said in your letter she seemed okay with it in the past so the odds are in your favor.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Travis
Age: 16

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Hi I'm 16 yrs old and want to know how to tell my parents that I enjoy wearing diapers and want to be treated like a baby. I steal used diapers from the trash in stores and wear them because I don't want
to buy them.  I also want to know if there is anywhere that I can go to be treated like a baby, I live in Mayerthorpe, Alberta, Canada


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Dear Travis,

There are no magic words that will make your parents accept you wearing diapers.  If they are not open-minded and willing to listen as to why you want to wear them, the chances are slim that they will ever be understanding. So you need to evaluate how they are and base your decision about telling them on that.  I am concerned that you are wearing used diapers.  It can be a dangerous practice. If the previous wearer has any illness/condition that can be contagious, you are at risk of catching it.  My suggestion is to use your allowance money to purchase small bags of diapers.  Another source of income could be doing odd jobs for people, paper route, here in the US we have recycling of cans for cash- if you have such a program in Canada then use it to your advantage. It is much safer to wear new diapers.  We do have a 'Mommyfinder' roster of people who will treat you like a baby,
however you will most likely need to be 18 before they would see you (due to legal issues).  I hope some of this has helped you. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 34

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Dear Mommy, It's another wet morning, but I don't think I wet too much at night, and I didn't poop either isn't that great! I havn't made a poo poo for a few nights in a row! Since my diaper is pretty dry this morning I think I'm ready for big boy pants, but others are telling me I'm not ready.  I'm tired of hearing "You should wait honey!" or "Give it a couple of years." I promise I can hold it at night. I haven't pooped my pants for four nights in a row.  That proves I can sleep without messing my diaper at night.  Even though I leaked a little this morning I think my big boy pants wouldn't be too wet. I want to be like all my freinds who are wearing big boy pants.  I know I can be a big boy now.  I promise I will wake up dry every morning, I beleive I can do it.  Mommy, when do you think I can start wearing big boy pants? Pllleeeaasssee tell me I can start now! I promise I can wake up dry every morning!  Thank You


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Dear Embarrassed,

I see no reason why you couldn't try a dry run and wear them.  Pun intended!  If you have gone for 4 nights with no messing- give it a try.  The worst that could happen is you go. Then you would just wait a few
more weeks and try again. I wish you luck and let's all chant 'Big Boy Panta, Big Boy Pants'. Good luck!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Katy
Age: 10

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Hi mummy I was caught putting a diaper on in my bedroom the other night by my mum, Next thing she said is are you going to use that, if so as form now on your puishment is going to wear diapers 24/7 for the rest of your life. I will change when you are wet or messy and you will wear only diapers in the house. She say she is going to show me off to everyone I know and say how cute I am for wearing diapers just to embaress me. Is this ok or wrong for my mum to do this to me? I sort of like it and hate it because I do want to be a baby but not 24/7.


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Dear Katy,

What your Mom is doing is called 'diaper discipline'. Some adults feel that if they embarrass their children enough they will stop wetting or wanting to wear diapers.  They are wrong in my opinion. You love your child how is embarrassing them going to change their minds? It will only make them unhappy. I hope your mother changes her mind about doing that to you. Maybe you could talk to her about it and ask her not to do it, or do it only on weekends or some other arrangement.  I hope everything works out alright for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amanda
Age: 15

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I AM MAKING MY 1ST COMMUNION SOON AND OUR PARRISH REQUIRES THE GIRLS TO WEAR A CLOTH DIAPER AND PLASTIC PANTS UNDER THEIR COMMUNION DRESSES FOR PURITY.HOW DO I SOFTEN MY PLASTIC PANTS SO THEY WONT CRINKLE UNDER MY DRESS. PLEASE HELP


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Dear Amanda,

If you try any chemical and/or other process on your plastic pants they could weaken and develop holes. And you definitely don't want that.  They have different kinds of plastic pants.  You need to purchase one that is not a thick tough plastic. There are pants that are very soft and pliable but still excellent at keeping you dry.  I would suggest
purchasing one of those for your special day. Good luck and god bless you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 15

Q:

I recently stopped wearing diapers to bed and I have become attached to them so much, that i want to wear them again. But I don't know how to buy them secretly or to tell my mom.


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Dear Will,

I would discuss this with your Mom only if you know her to be an understanding and accepting person.  Most parents don't understand. As to where you can get diapers, you can go to your local drugstore or order them online.  There are many excellent companies out there. You could save up your money, get a money order and have them delivered. If not to your house then the house of a trusted friend or family member. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Justin
Age: 18

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Hello, I have a question. I'm sure that you've answered it before. Well, I have been trying to make myself wet the bed for a while now and have had NO luck at all. I have tried drinking a LOT of liquids before bed and fall asleep but I just wake up with a really full bladder. I am considering trying a sleep aid or something to make me sleep "like a rock." Any suggestions?


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Dear Justin,

If you really want to wet the bed you need to unlearn 'urine control'.  Your body has spent most of your life holding until you get to a bathroom.  You are now wanting it to ignore a lifetime of learning.  You
would need to retrain your brain to accept that it is okay to go at night.  The only drawback is if you retrain to wet at night it is possible that you would lose daytime control as well. I would say that 80% of those I have dealt with, who learn to wet at night have daytime accidents.  So before you continue think about it.  And if all you want is to occasionally wet then all you need to do is once in a while when you wake up with that full bladder just let it flow. You might be awake for the wetting but the end result is the same.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Eric
Age: 15

Q:

I heard Abeana abriform xplus is one of the thickest, and most absorbent and comfortable diapers out there. Is this true? I sure hope it is.


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Dear Eric,

Abena has an excellent line of products.  They are definitely in the top ten of diaper companies out there.  The trick to finding the best diaper for you is to find the one that suits your needs perfectly. You seem to have done that. Stay dry and happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ryan
Age: 8

Q:

Yes I was wondering if there are any "teen" diapers out there with the exact same design, feel, shape, and baby printing as Huggies, Pampers, and Luvs???


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Dear Ryan,

You didn't tell me your waist size but I have a few options for you.  There is a diaper company that has printing all over the diaper:
http://bambinodiapers.com/shop/ Their small starts at waist size 22".  Out on the market they have Goodnights that also have designs on them.  A third option is to buy whichever diaper you wish and purchase our diaper tapes. Diaper tapes have a design on them and you put them on your plain diaper across the top.  You get to wear the diaper and have the baby design.  We have designs from rubber ducks to trucks to baby bottles. http://tapes.homestead.com/index.html I hope this information will help you out.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: BC
Age: 25

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Hello, I have been with my Girlfriend for about 18 months, I have told her that there are adult diapers somewhere out in the shed and that I needed them for a bladder infection a few years ago.  What I haven't told her is that during those few weeks I grew quite fond of wearing diapers.  Anyhow I want to tell her or somehow casually get her interest in them. There's not more than 10 days goes by in our life that she doesn't say something about one of us wearing a diaper in a joking type manner.  She is Very soft hearted and has a motherly instinct.  So based on what I told you,  what should I do????? She has no Idea that I wear them when she is not around or wear them at all for that matter.  Thanks


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Dear BC,

You are fortunate to have such a wonderful person in your life. She does sound kind hearted.  You also mentioned that she jokes about wearing a diaper which sounds to me that perhaps she might be open to it. The next time she brings that subject up ask her would she want to go crazy and really try it.  She will either say 'what the hay let's try it' or she'll say 'heck no i was only kidding'. Depending on the response you'll have a fair idea of where her mind is on the subject.  It's one way to test the waters. I wish you luck and maybe those diapers will be able to come back into the house.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 9months

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I am wondering if you think it is weird that I eat about twenty jars of baby food at each meal.


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Dear Tim,

You did not say what your true age is but naturally you would need to eat quite a few jars to fill you up. In addition to the baby food I do hope you are also adding other foods. A few good examples would be
salads, vegetables, meats and fruits. Baby food is good but doesn't provide the full dietary requirement that an adult body needs to work properly.  So enjoy your baby food but don't forget your veggies!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 57

Q:

As you know I want to be breastfed. When I was a newborn the nurses stuck a feed tube down my nose.  Do you know what that is and does it hurt? It does not sound very bonding.


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Dear Michel,

From what you have just said you apparently had problems as a child.  The only way they could get food to you was through a feeding tube which is run through your nose down your throat and into your stomach.  It is not painful just annoying.  It can however interfere with the bonding process with your mother if she wasn't around. If she was around she could still bond with you in other ways. Breastfeeding is not essential for bonding. Many adoptive parents bond with their children without the ability to breastfeed.  In the end the only factor that really matters is the love.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joe
Age: 28

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My girlfriend say I am a sissy, she say i must stay as a baby in girl
baby clothes all the time. She has her sister take care of me. I stay in diapers all the time. She makes good money to pay from things. What do I do? I eat baby food?  I live as a baby?


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Dear Joe,

It seems to me you need to make some decisions. Is this relationship going where you want it to? Is this how you want to live?  If your answer is yes then you have no problems.  If the answer is no then you have a BIG problem and it's time for you and your girlfriend
to sit down and talk.  Tell her what it is you are looking for out of the relationship and ask her what it is she is looking for.  Are you both on the same page?  Maybe you both started out looking for the same things but got sidetracked along the way.  In either case you both need to have a tlak and examine where you both go from here with your relationship.  I wish you both luck.

-Hugs Sandra