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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dear Mommy, Nothing like relaxing on the bed in just a diaper, and T-shirt in the morning. My diaper definitley didn't make it through the night dry, but at least it doesn't smell poopy. Isn't that great? Well I'm going to keep this short as I should proabably sit on the potty before I
have another accident.  For those who don't know me I'm a little boy who wears a bulky night time disposable usually at night.  It is never dry in the morning because I have multiple wetting accidents, and yes I have even messed a few times. Big boys pants are things of the past for bed time, because I just can't get out of diapers. I also need them for naps as well. If you seen my sagging diaper now you would agree I cant go without them. Only if all adults knew how comfortable a night can be when you don't have to worry about going to the bathroom. I'm
sure mommies would probably disagree. Which brings me to my question. Why do mommies want to potty train us?  Why do they want us to wear big boy pants to bed?
 

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Dear Embarrassed,

As a parent part of your job is to prepare your child for adult life.  One of the first steps is toilet training.  To go to school- nowadays even
preschool-you need to be toilet trained.  School personnel don't want to have to bother with dirty diapers and poop. So little johnny/Susie is forced to be potty trained whether they are ready or not.  I do believe that children are ready for potty training at different ages. With my 3 the training 'took' at different ages.  But the bottom line is, it's just a step towards helping our children become part of mainstream society.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 55

Q:

When I was born I was three months premature and was 1 pound. After six months in NICU I was sent home. I almost died seven times, but was then five pounds. How do Nurses care for infants in the NICU? 
Because I have Cerebral Palsy, at times it is difficult for me to dress myself. I have looked at the adds for AB clothing and think that it might be better for me. I would like to find a mommy with lots of tlc to give.


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Dear Michel,

A NICU nurse's duties are varied according to the needs of each baby.  Some might need oxygen or IV fluids.  They are all monitored 24 hours. Some of the AB clothing would be alot easier for you to manage..  Easier openings and more manageable to get in and out of- excellent idea on your part.  On our main site we have a mommy finder perhaps you could start your search there for a match.  I wish you luck.  Take care of yourself.

-Hugs Sandra

Mommy finder:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 55

Q:

I need to be a newborn AB. I would like to find a CNA to baby me with a bottle and baby food. I need to find a mommie that I can bond with so I won't be soooo alone? Do you understand???


A:

Dear Michel,

I think all AB's would love to find that.  Will you get it?  That remains to be seen.  All you can do is put ads on the AB boards.  As human beings the one thing we all are searching for is for someone to love
and someone to love us back.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bryon
Age: 18

Q:

I don't know what to do about dating.  I've been medically incontinent for almost 2 years.  I've had only 2 girlfriends since the accident that led me into diapers and they both dumped me when they found out about my diapers.  I thought they'd think I was a weirdo, in their eyes, if I told them when we started to go out. So I thought I'd let them find out on their own later on,  but that didn't work. Any  suggestions?


A:

Dear Bryon,

Not all girls are as superficial as those girls were. You are still a young man and have years of dating ahead of you.  You are right in the fact that you don't need to tell the girl you're dating right away about your problem.  When you start to possibly become serious then mention it.  Some will leave but...some will stay, the ones who really care for you.  And those are the ones you want to concentrate your
efforts on.  They are out there.  It is only a matter time.  Stay strong.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Eddy
Age: Unknowen

Q:

Can wearing diapers trigger hemmorhoids?


A:

Dear Eddy,

Diaper use does not cause hemmorhoids.  They are an internal swelling that bulges out and can be quite painful.  Diaper material can be irritating but is not the cause for hemmorhoids.  If you feel the material of the brand you are using is too irritating, try others brands till you find a softer lining. If you try the online ordering sites they usually have sample packs you could try of all their products for a
moderate price. Hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 13

Q:

Dear Mommie,

Ok, could you please clear this up for me. Although I am a sissy in diapers for my own personal enjoyment, I have found that when I am in my disposable diaper and I am wetting on pourpose, I hold back, afraid my diaper will leak. Especially when I'm in public and have no place to change it. And this works as I will wait a while longer and continue wetting,no leaks.Then I got to thinking that baby diapers and toddlers as well were desinged probably for complete loss of pee all at once. Then why wouldn't adult diapers as well??Right.So I tried it. I waited and waited until I was so ready to pee I couldnt hold it any longer, then I flooded my disposable. Not stopping till I didn't have to wet anymore. And I was right. No leaks. I did wait awhile before I sat down, but when I did again no leaks. So is this true, diapers are all designed the same for a person or baby to loose all control? Then of course the normal person or mommy would change the diaper. Just curious.
                                   sissy kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

Diapers are designed for both 'kinds' of wetting.

They can take a complete bladder emptying but do very well absorbing the day long dribbler.  Whether you are a baby or an adult, different people pee different ways.  So it only made sense for the diaper companies to make a product that would be good for all 'pee'
types. How wonderful of you for noticing the difference. Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Josh
Age: 24

Q

I wanna know, can adult baby's get disability checks?  I've had this problem sence I've been at least 7 yrs old. I think it's like a mental
problem. I seem to injoy being babied.  


A:

Dear Josh,

The only way to receive disability is to be certified disabled by a doctor.  You would need to have either a medical or phychological disability. Even after your doctor says you are disabled you then have to be evaluated by the governments team of doctors at Social Security.  If you pass all the tests, then you will be declared disbled and entitled to a disability check.  Hope that clears up the process for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Josh
Age: 24

Q:

I was wondering if you may know if an adult baby can get on disability? And if so, how? I'd really like to find a way to live at an adult baby nursery the rest of my life. Would you know the best way to being able to find an AB sitter or mommy to change me, feed me, rock me to sleep etc? Thanks baby Joshy


A:

Dear Josh,

In order to receive disability you have to have a genuine disability.  It has to be either physical or mental. After your doctor classifies you that way you have to be examined by the governments doctors from
social security to confirm that diagnosis.  It is not an easy process by any means.  As far as finding a sitter, all you need to do is go to our find a mommy link and you'll be on your way.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Jim
Age: 45

Q:

I was wondering if you knew how they get the disposable diapers as thick as they do in some of the photos I've seen online. I am looking for something that is extremely thick and noticeable. I would like
to experience what it would be like to wear diapers that are noticeable under my clothing. So far the thickest diapers I've been able to wear are cloth with extra cloth diapers as stuffers. This however presents the problem that the diaper then has a tendency to slip down while walking. Is there a disposable diaper that is thicker in the back than the front, so as to appear more babyish?


A:

Dear Jim,

A common practice is to use  diaper inserts.  They are specifically made to boost a diapers absorbency.  If you can't get them at your local pharmacy what most AB's do is they purchase baby diapers and cut slits in them (for the urine to run through).  You can then position the diaper in whatever area you wish to 'bulk' up. Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Scottie
Age: 40

Q:

Why is it that there are not many girls that are adult babies out there? I have been a baby all my life and love it. I wear abenas abris and they are like a baby diaper. How can I get them for leaking. 

babyscottie


A:

Dear Scottie,

I think that there are just as many girl AB's as there are boy AB's.  The only difference is girls can get away with it better.  You see a young 20 something female in a babydoll dress---cute and sexy.  You see a 20 something male in a onesie- ewww he's sick. Discrimination is everywhere even in the AB world. As for getting more of the Abenas, just go to their website and see what they have to offer.  Stay sweet!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy,

Yesterday I decided to put on my night time diaper early yesterday, roughly around 5:00PM. Sometimes I get prepared for bed early just in case I fall asleep early. I did the same tonight, but have a feeling this diaper won't last until my night time bottle.  Any way my night time diaper is a bulky Abri X-Plus. Yesterday I needed some liners for my bottle so I put on my jeans over my diaper.  Before I left it looked pretty discreet so I left for the store.  Well now I'm not sure how discreet it was. I  think I got some looks which may have been because my jeans didn't hide the bulkiness.  Do you think people can tell I had a diaper on under my jeans or am I just paranoid?  Secondly, I notice love sucking on my bottle nipples.  I just want to suck on something when I see them.  It's a strange reaction like something left over from baby hood. Do you think this is something left over from child hood?  Well I'm going to have a bottle of warm milk, and go to bed.  Thanks.


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Dear Embarrassed,

I think that when we are trying to hide something we believe everyone can see it plain as day.  No one probably noticed but of course you start to doubt. And as for the sucking on the bottle nipple.  It is quite common and is believed to be a 'comfort' behavior. Hey they make pacifiers to satisfy the urge!  Why not get a pacifier (binky etc.) for use at home. Satisfy that baby side.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Roger
Age: 14

Q:

Is it ok for my mommy to breast feed me at age 14


A:

Dear Roger,

There are two sides to every issue.  14 is a little old to still be getting breast-fed but some claim breast milk is good.  You can of course always pump it into a bottle but that is another argument.  It is not an accepted practice. Then there is the side of the law.  It is illegal.
For a child of 14 to be breast-fed is considered in some states a form of sexual abuse. So until you are 18 you really don't have a choice.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 55

Q:

Dear Mommy,

You have been so helpful in helping me reach my goal of becoming totally diaper dependant! Thanks so much. Until recently, I was only interested in wearing diapers especially since it has become a real necessity! Last month, I spent a wonderful week at a nursery in Ohio where "Mommie" regressed me to a toddler age. I got so much into that role play that I ended up very quickly talking and behaving like a toddler without even thinking about it and really enjoying wearing baby clothing, sucking my pacifier and having three bottles a day; that was reinforced by the presence of a 25 year-old baby girl who regressed to being a permanent toddler who very seldom behaves like an adult. I am now into baby things for good and would like to know if that switch from being solely a DL to being an AB/DL is a normal evolution? I am still able to behave like an adult when necessary but increasingly tend to act like a baby. What can I do?      


A:

Dear Phil,

The bottom line is this---if you are happy then continue doing it!  Life can be so harsh.  If you can find something that gives you genuine pleasure and happiness you better stick with it.  Not all DL's explore the AB scene but as the saying goes- different strokes for different folks.  Some of the happiest people I know are grown (physically) wearing jammies and sucking on their babas hugging their teddy bears. What should you do?  I say go for it!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 35

Q:

Dear mommy,

It's kind of odd to come home from work to find a bulky diaper, powder, and vaseline waiting for you on your bed, but that's exactly what I come home to.  As soon as I come home the potty is off limits.  I decided to try this for a week, and from, my previous question you can see I was off to a rough start with my embarrassment by going out to the drug store with my jeans over my bulky diaper. Well if you remember I was talking about my bottle last time, and mentioned how my diaper may not be dry by the time I got my night time bottle.  Well not only did it not make it dry, but I had a messing accident as well.  I truly felt like I needed diapers after that accident.  However, since it was close to my bottle time I decided to forgo a changing until after I finished my bottle.  Sure it was a little smelly since in the summer I'm stripped down to just a diaper, but I figured it might be better to wait. How would a mommy handle this? Isn't it better to have a change after the bottle?  Another question in regards changing a messy diaper.  I got my changing pad out, and my baby wipes.  I laid down on the pad and undid my diaper.  I lower the front of diaper and start cleaning myself with the wipes starting by the genital area and working down. As I work my way cleaning down I move the diaper a little forward to get the rest of the area.  Thank god for the changing pad since a little bit of poop always finds it way on it.  After I clean the rest of myself I take the diaper to dump the contents in the toilet. However sometimes it doesn't come off so easy.  How do you dump the contents when the poop is smeared in the diaper?  It doesn't always come off so easy. Also is my changing procedure any good?  Thanks for the advice.


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Dear Embarrassed.

As a mother you do have situations like that come up.  If it was close to bath and/or bed time I would put off the change for a little while (20 minutes won't kill anybody) finish what I'm doing and then clean everything up.As for the diaper if it doesn't rinse off in the toilet I would put it to soak for a little while then try again.I see no problem with how you are cleaning yourself- it is a messy job- just be sure to
keep wiping from the clean part into the messy part until clean then once more allover for good measure. Happy diapering!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nigel
Age:21

Q:

Hi mommy. I'm a DL that has always wanted to become a bed wetter. I was reading an article in the Deekers diaper page about how to become incontinent. In the article there was an extreme method to become a bed wetter. It suggested that before you went to bed drink plenty of water and also take 50mg-100mg of benadryl. The article explained that the benadryl would keep you asleep and would relax your bladder so you would wet your bed/diaper, is this true and how safe is it?  Thanks hugs.


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Dear Nigel,

I am and have always been against any bedwetting method that causes harm.  According to that article it would work but taking any medication has its dangers and risks of side effects. I know of another method that is safe, uses no drugs and causes no harm physically or psychologically.  If interested please contact me personally at gypsy12143@yahoo.com or use this sites inbox.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Super Baby
Age: 16

Q:

You see I am 16 and my mom loves babying me. I tried therapists and other relatives and friends to not treat me like this.  Of course it did not work.  I am 4"11 and my mom is a single parent. She loves treating me like a baby.  Sometimes she will not hug me but have me stick my bum bum in the air and lt her pat it.  She baths me and changes me. Is this ok to do?  Is it normal to like this?  I love my diaper changes though.  She buys me the extra thick ones.  But I wish she would put me in a day care center.  Is that normal too.  Also do you know any good baby sites?


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Dear Superbaby,

It is very unusual for a 16 year old to be treated that way. When you say you tried therapists and friends what exactly did you mean?  If you want the behavior to stop you only need to contact the authorities.  But then you say you like the diaper changes.  I can see where you would be torn between what to do.  You need to make a decision which way you want it to go- with your mom or not. We have a good reference of baby sites on our main site that might help you.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

link to sites:

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Nav.html

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Question Asked By: Kem
Age: 56

Q:

Please let me say something before I ask my question.  I have worn diapers all my life and until very recently, when I stumbled onto the Deekers diaper page when I was looking for a cheaper place to buy attends, I really thought I was the only person still wearing diaper at my age or any age.  So my question is " How many other pre teen, teens, young adults and men my age are there out there? Lonely and do not know that they are not alone. And how can they be found and let them know? I think it is sad that they are all alone. Is there any way they
can be helped?


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Dear Kem,

There are many individuals out there who assume they are the only one.  Whenever you have a problem that you perceive to be embarrassing you want to try to hide it. Wearing diapers is considered one of those problems. I say that's wrong. Whether it's a brief, boxer, panty or diaper--it's all fabric around the tush just in different forms.  But still many keep it hidden. We try to lend support- that is one reason why this site exists. We try to get the word out that we are here- we reach some.  But I do agree with you- I wish we could be in contact with every diaper wearer and let them know that they are perfect the way they are and that we care and respect the person they are. And that above all else they are most definitely not alone!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ke
Age: 14

Q:

How do you change your one diaper?


A:

Dear Ke,

Everyone has their own method but the essentials are the same.  You need to wash, dry and powder and/or cream the area. Lay the diaper open on the bed (tip: most people powder the diaper, it's a little easier) Lay down on top of diaper.  Pull up the front half of diaper through legs and maneuver diaper around till it seems to be sitting in a comfy place.  Then begin to pull up each side and tape and/or pin. Pull as tight as you can before you secure. After securing both sides stand up and viola- you are diapered.  I have only done a rough outline here like I said.  It will take practice to get it perfect.  Keep trying and soon
you'll be able to diaper yourself no problem.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Derek
Age: 15

Q:

Ok, me and my girlfriend want to wear diapers and act like we are
babies, is this ok?


A:

Dear Derek,

In life you have to make many choices as you live it.  If you and your girlfriend wish to wear diapers and act like babies, that is your choice.  Is it okay? That is for you to answer. There will be some who will understand and some who won't. Personally I feel whatever makes you happy and as long as you are not hurting anyone or breaking any laws - you should be allowed to do. I wish you only good things and happiness.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James Rundle
Age: 16

Q:

Hiya, I was wanted to ask, how do I ask my parents that I wear nappies?  How do I get nappies without no money, and without them noticing the nappies, if I don't ask them?


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Dear James,

I don't know the mindset of your parents to tell you if they would even be accepting of the idea.  Are they open-minded? Are they understanding?  If so then they might be willing to listen to you.  As for getting nappies with no money.  A few suggestions: any allowance, do odd jobs for people: for example if you know any elderly offer to go to the grocery for them, do household chores like raking leaves, vacuuming, etc, offer a dog walking service, babysitting, paper route.  I knew one young man that in summer he took his home mower and went door to door and said he'd mow the lawn for a fee and in winter had a snow blower and offered to clear the walkway and driveway.  You would be surprised at the money he made. Just a few suggestions but the final decision as to whether to tell your parents is up to you. Think long and well before making a decision. I wish you well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 57

Q:

What kinds of baby foods are good for AB's to eat?


A:

Dear Michel,

Any food is acceptable.  While they do sell processed baby food in the stores I know of many mother's who make their own- myself included. To make your own baby food just cook whatever meal you wish and then cut it up fine. That's all there is to it. Bon appetit!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Keethee
Age: 53

Q:

I have been true AB/DL for many years but could not master wetting or messing at nighttime laying in bed. I can if I really force but I would like to naturally...drinking lots of water doesn't seem to help as it just cause stomach ache....when in bed get up and stand while messing then back to sleep....any training procedures you know of to give me total incontinence at night..??


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Dear Keethee,

I emphasize using a natural method that can be reversed if desired at a future time. I do know of a procedure.  It takes a little time but is effective. I hope it helps.
http://www.deeker.com/Articles/twelve_
month_diaper_training_program.pdf
Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Collin
Age: 14

Q:

What's the best way to tell if a girl won't care if you wear? And how to do it without getting hated. Also how to get a girlfriend to know with out dumping you?


A:

Dear Collin,

There are no magic words to say to someone to have them accept something they don't understand or like. You never really know how someone will react. My advice would be to only tell the people you really trust. I wouldn't say anything to just a girlfriend-unless I was engaged to be married why do they need to know that private information.  You will most likely date a lot of girls in your high school years, save that info for the one that is very special. I wish you
nothing but happiness.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Louis
Age: 26

Q:

Mommy,

I have been paralyzed with no feeling from my belly-button down since I was born. I've been in diapers all of my life, I can't tell when I am going to go, or when I go. I don't know when I need to be changed. How can I tell when to be changed?


A:

Dear Louis,

You have a common problem that most paraplegics have.  They get tired of someone else always changing them and want to do it for themselves.  But how do I know when I need it? You can do one of two methods or combine the two - whichever works best.  The first one is the change every 3-4 hours regardless. I know some people who do this and are satisfied.  They have no rashes due to the frequent washings and changes.  The other method is the feel test.  Ever so often you take your index finger and just put it inside the front or
rear of the diaper and feel for 'evidence'.  If there is wetness/mess then a change is warranted.  This is a less precise method but it works.  The ones who are most effective combine the two- scheduled changes and the occasional feel to make sure ( for instance if you drank a lot at a dinner for example).  You can choose whichever better suits your lifestyle. Stay dry and happy.

-Hugs Sandra