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Question Asked By: Poseidon
Age: Unknown

Q:

I want to wear diapers but I don't need them. What should I do? Should I tell my parents? E-mail me back ASAP


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Dear Poseidon,

I get this question all the time.  My answer is always the same.  I don't know your parents only you do.  If you believe they are understanding and you are close to the age of 18 then maybe you could mention it.  If they are not tolerant people I would keep quiet about the whole thing.  Only you know their temperament. Think carefully before you make your decision.  If you are close to being of age.  Why not just wait until you move out and then you can just live your life how you want.  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Alie
Age: 14

Q:

My mother doesn't like to baby, but my older does. What can I do to help change my mothers mind.


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Dear Alie,

Unfortunately if your mother is against it there is not really too much you can do right now.  You will just have to wait until you are older- 18.  At least you have a sibling that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon
Age: 35

Q:

Hey Mommy,

I just wanted to let you know that Amber and I have had some good talks about her wanting to be an adult baby and it ended up really good for both of us I think. She understood that I didn't like pooping in a  diaper and we talked about how I didn't really want her to be a baby all the time. We have set up a no baby time when Amber takes out her pacifier and takes off her onesie, she even takes off her diaper and slips into lingerie sometimes. It is a good compromise. For fun we also set up an occasional baby time for me when I wear not only a diaper but I have my own pacifier and bottle too. It's fun being babies together except that I hate formula. I have milk instead. We want to set up a nursery in our spare room but how would we explain it to our non AB
aware friends when they come over?


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Dear Jon,

You need to order a set of Stanley's crib plans.  A shameless plug I know.  He made it as four panels that fit around a twin (or larger if needed) bed.  The panels are not permanently attached.  So not only is
the whole thing easy to move, when friends come over remove the front panel and ---voila--- a daybed.  No one is the wiser.  I am so glad that your relationship is working out so well.  Keep up the good work.  Keep snuggling! The link to the crib plans is
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/CRIB.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Unknown
Age: Unknown

Q:

How do I get my wife to accept the fact that I like the feel of a diaper on me? I had left some out for her to find and she freaked out about it. My sister-in-law found out about it today and she was cool with it. Please help me try to get my wife to be cool with it. Thank you               


A:

Dear Anon,

I am sorry that your wife is not interested in your diapers like you are. Perhaps if you tried a slow introduction to the whole topic it might be better received.  There are no magic words that can change your wife's mind.  Don't force the issue but slowly educate.  And time will tell.  I wish you luck.

Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lilswazy
Age: 25

Q:

Hello,

I was wondering if there are any resources out there for DIY adult baby clothes and accessories? Onesie's, outfits, etc. ...are there any sewing patterns, or kits to buy? if so, would you be so kind as to direct
me to them? We are on a serious budget, and the exorbitant pricing at the online stores is sheer insanity. (oh, well; supply and demand, I guess....), also- my wife has (within the past year) recently accepted, learned to love, and subsequently introduced abdl-ness into our private lives; and while she is very supportive and tries as much as she can with me- she refuses to put me in, change my, or even address my diapers....stating that it's too creepy. I don't want to be examining this particular gift horse's teeth too closely- however it seems to me that this is kinda like putting on all the football pads, and leaving the ball at home. (that metaphor was deplorable, sorry) anyway's, is there anything I can do, shy of intense deprogramming, drugging and brainwashing her? (just kidding....mostly) if you could offer me (or my wife) any advice about this, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for your time and expertise.
lilswazy,
-Kansas city


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Dear Lilswazy,

I sew myself and have been searching for the patterns to these items.  (I happen to have a big baby in the house myself)  I have not as yet been able to acquire any.  I do agree with you though.  I understand that there is more fabric involved to make an adult onesie but why do they charge so much more?  I have known friends purchasing a simple sleeper for $400! Is the thread gold? As soon as I find any patterns I will have the links on the site.  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joe
Age: 21

Q:

Should I be in diapers at 21 years old?


A:

Dear Joe,

There is no right or wrong age for diapers.  If you need them you need them.  So 21 is as good an age as any other. 

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mandy Muhlenkamp
Age: 27

Q:

I was just wondering how to get poopy stains out of a white mattress. I have a special needs son and he has frequent accidents and he has a poop stained mattress and carpet and I was wondering how to get the stains out?


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Dear Mandy,

There are numerous products out on the market- all very expensive.  I would suggest this.  Dilute some detergent and bleach in a spray bottle and spray on the mattress and give a good scrub.  Perhaps rent one of those carpet cleaning machines for the carpet. Then purchase 2-3 mattress protectors that can be used under your child.  This way when one get soiled and is being washed you have another to use.  Also purchase 2 carpet runners to put by the side of the bed.  Again
when one is soiled and being washed (being compact just toss in the washer- it's wonderful) you have another to put down.  The underlying stain will still be there but at least your child will always be on clean linen.And the room will always look and smell fresh and clean.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lewis
Age: 17

Q:

On Mondays I come home from college early and have 2 hours approximate before my mum comes home. Anyway I did my usual when I have some spare time and put a nappy on and suck a dummy. Some
how I was resting my eyes but trying to stay awake and then before I knew it I was asleep. I woke up from noises down stairs and it was my mum. I lent over to hide and tidy the nappy I had dirtied earlier and the
nappies that were out the packet.  But it had all ready been done and the dirty nappy had been taken away. I'm definitely sure my mum did it but I can't even look at her in the eye from fear and embarrassment. Where do I go from now and how do I approach her about the situation?


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Dear Lewis,

Well if it was your Mom and she didn't say anything maybe she understood a little.  We both know if it was one of your brothers or sisters the entire house would know by now.  So your guess is most likely correct. She probably understands that it isn't easy being 17 in today's world and just gave you a little breathing room.  Where to go?  Maybe you could talk to her and just say "I love you Mom and thank you for all you do for me". Being a Mom myself those words are priceless.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 55

Q:

I have cerebral palsy and am in a wheelchair. A few years ago I had colon cancer and caught it in time.  I did some research writing milk
banks.  I found out that breast milk kills the bacteria in the cancer.  I do not want my cancer to come back. How do I go about finding other sources of breast milk?


A:

Dear Michel,

I am actually familiar with the article that refers to the breast milk and cancer connection.  Unfortunately the research was done over 6 years ago by an obscure lab and has never been followed up with any further testing. The only source that I know of to get breast milk is the milk banks. You are cancer free now. Let's pray it stays that way.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nick
Age: 28

Q:

I showed my sister in law that I wear diapers. But I don't now how to tell my wife. I think she would like flip out if she found out about it. My sis is cool with it and even tried it on with me. But she said I should talk to my wife about it. What do you think?               


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Dear Nick, I believe there should be no secrets in a marriage.  However I don't know your wife.  You said she would 'flip out'.  I don't know what you mean by that. She has to be somewhat understanding if she accepts the cross-dressing.  Perhaps if you could find a way to
break it to her in a slow and gentle way the impact won't be as bad.  Maybe have her understanding sister on hand for back-up.  Wish you luck!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Allen
Age: 22

Q:

I am 22 yrs old I have been wearing diapers all my life. My mom changes me secretively. I also have a fiance who changes me too and treats me like a baby. She doesn't know about my mom. She suspects it, but I tell her she's crazy for thinking such things. This has been a secret of my mom and mine forever. Is it wrong? That my mom still changes me? Should I tell my girlfriend the truth?


A:

Dear Allen,

You are in an unique position. In fairness to your fiance to be in a relationship you should be honest with her.  Just explain to her that it is hard for your mother to cut that bond with you. And for as long as it is alright with you why not have your mother change you- she is your mother.  If you are starting to feel uncomfortable and feel the need to sever that close a relationship then you do need to start to pull back from her.  But all these decisions are up to you and how you feel.  If you are okay with how things are then things stay the same. All we can ever hope for is some happiness in this life.  If we are lucky enough to find some- hang on to it!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amanda
Age: 12

Q:

Hiya Mommy,

I'm 12 and a TB and DL. I love to do poopy's in diaper as well as wees. I currently wear babies nappies occasionally. As I love poops, I can't do them in baby nappies and I was wondering how do I buy teen
diapers without my parents finding out. I was also wondering on occasions when I did do poopy's I love to sit in it. How long can I sit in it and be safe?


A:

Dear Amanda,

To answer the first part of your question.  If you wish to purchase diapers without your parents knowing you will need money.  Ways to get it. There is of course your allowance.  Might I also suggest asking to
do odd jobs for extra cash around the house. Babysitting, paper route and perhaps if there is any elderly living near by offer your services as a helper.  An example: pick up dry-cleaning for a few dollars, take mail to the post office, vacuum their house, water their plants , be a companion- you get the idea. Pick up some money along the way.  I know of one young man who earned a couple hundred dollars just walking dogs over the summer! 2 hours a day and he made like $450.For the second part of your question, I wouldn't sit in a dirty diaper for more than an hour and wash thoroughly and lotion after.  No rashes here! Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Aaron
Age: 16

Q:

Who can I get to come to my house and diaper me? I want to wear diapers, but I do not know how to tell my girlfriend.


A:

Dear Aaron,

What you are looking for is called a AB-mommy or an AB-babysitter. The only problem you have is that you are under the age of 18 and none of them will touch you due to legal issues. You will most likely have to wait. I would not mention this to anyone unless they are on a absolute need to know basis.  This sort of info can be used in a nasty way in the wrong hands. So be careful. Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tyler
Age: 15

Q:

I have been trying to become a bed wetter for a long time. How can I become a permanent bed wetter fast?


A:

Dear Tyler,

Why on earth do you want to be a permanent bedwetter? Anyone on this planet if given the chance to do their most favorite thing would get bored with it over time if that is all they had to do.  Think ahead 20 years- you are going to the store to get diapers for your
newborn baby ....and yourself? A pack of Huggies and Depends. Just wear for now when you want but don't make it a permanent condition.  Someday in the future you would regret it.  Live life and enjoy it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anthony
Age: 15

Q:

I feel like I want company wearing diapers, I talked to my grandma about it and she is the only one that knows about this. I want her to wear them with me and buy them for me if I give her the money. Do you think she will do any of this with me?


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Dear Anthony,

In a perfect world... It is nice that your grandma knows and is okay with it. But would she wear with you is another story.  You could talk to her about buying them for you- she might do that for you.  Have an open and honest conversation with her and see what happens. Since she already knows- the worst that could happen is she says 'no'.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Age: 13

Q:

I do not wet the bed. I just wear a make shift diaper. I do not know how to tell my mom I want to wear diapers. Help me.


A:

Dear Joseph,

I don't know your mom so I don't know what her frame of mind is.  Is she an accepting kind of person?  Only you know.  If you think that this is something she would understand then you could maybe start a conversation by saying I heard about a kid who wants to wear a diaper, what do you think mom? and see what her reaction is.  Then you'll know whether to go any further.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cory Gibbs
Age: 13

Q:

Mommy Ann, Will U CHANGE ME AFTER WHEN I'M DONE GOING POOP OR PEA IN MY DIAPER? I AM A BAD BABY AND A GAY BABY. WILL U PUNISH ME MOMMY? WILL U FEED ME MOMMY? WILL U WALK ME IN THE PARK IN MY STROLLER? WILL U PUT ME DOWN FOR A NAP Mommy Ann? from baby Cory will you love me!


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Dear Cory,

I think you have us mixed up with someone else.  There is no one here named Mommy Ann.  We are an information referral help site and provide no services.  I wish you luck in finding your mommy Ann. Recheck your Email address for her.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 55

Q:

Is there similac low iron in nursettes?


A:

Dear Michel,

When I went to their site, all that was offered was options on how to feed a lactose intolerant infant. They offered many different varieties of formula but none were low iron. We would probably do it better given the chance anyway!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Harold
Age: 13

Q:

I have a question. What is masturbation? When I hit puberty will I wet the bed? And I am not AB,TB,DL,a sissy or a cross dresser. I am just worried and don't know who else to ask.


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Dear Harold,

You sound okay to me. Well let's see- masturbation is the normal process where you learn about your body by touching it. Puberty is when your body matures- wetting has nothing to do with it. It is just that
some people have a problem with it and some don't. Just like some people need glasses and some don't. And being an AB, TB, Sissy and all the rest is way of life that makes you feel safe and loved.  If it's right for you then you'll know it.  And if it's not then that okay too.  Just never deny someone their way of life because you don't understand it.  I hope I helped you. Remember you are loved.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lydia
Age: 23

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I only wear a diaper for 24 hours per week, and have been for 5 years. During that time I do not change the diaper. I love the feeling of the pee and poop mixing together and both are spread evenly throughout the diaper. When I do this I wear goodnites, because I am only 100lbs, and I have never once got a rash or discomfort. Will I if I continue to do this for only 1 day per week?


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Dear Lydia,

What you have been doing has worked for you so far. Only because you are healthy and young.  It is not a good habit to get into because the day is going to come when you will be feeling just a little ill and your body chemistry will be off and you will end up with a real nasty rash.  And it hurts like somebody poured lit charcoal briquette down your diaper.

You really should change more often then just once in 24 hours. Even a dry diaper starts to breakdown and become uncomfortable.  Please save yourself some pain in the future- start getting into the habit of changing  more frequently.  Your derriere will thank you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kenny
Age: 13

Q:

I want to tell my mom that I wear diapers again. But what do I tell her?


A:

Dear Kenny,

I get this same question all the time.  My answer is the same all the time.  I do not know your mother.  Is she an accepting kind of person?  If she is, then she might be willing to listen to what you have to say.
If you know that this is something she is definitely against, then there is nothing anyone can say that will change her mind.  You might have to wait until you are older to be open about it. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joe
Age: 15

Q:

Hi, I like to pee in a diaper every once-and-a-while, and my parents don't know. I can't poop though, it's just way too hard. I love the warmth and squishiness that I feel when I do, and it makes my personal parts
feel good too. It reminds me of sex with my girlfriend. I only wear a diaper one or two times per week, and when I do I leave it on for 2 or 3 hours, and drink as much fluid as I possibly can for maximum  squishiness. Is peeing in a diaper a bad thing, my girlfriend doesn't care.


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Dear Joe,

You are following a good rule  by only being in a used diaper for a few hours before changing.  I do hope you are washing the area well and powdering and/or using lotion.  Sorry- it's the Mom side of me sneaking out. And by the way the 'good feeling' is a normal reaction in case you were wondering.  Drinking plenty of fluids is also an excellent idea. To answer your question- everyone has their own way of relaxing. If yours is to put on a diaper who am I to tell you not to? Think about it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: 12

Q:

I have been wetting for a year now. But I am not sure of something. This is what I do when I wake up wet.

1 Put sheets in dryer.
2 change clothes.
3 throw goodnites out.
4 wash my sheets.

Is there anything you suggest I do that I missed. Do I do everything I'm supposed to do? I was just wondering. Thanks.


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Dear John,

Everyone has their own routine. Your routine seems to cover pretty much everything. Maybe you could ask your parents to get you some mattress protectors.  If you had a few of those you could change those each morning and only have to do laundry maybe twice a week. Keep
up the good work.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Unknown
Age: 15

Q:

Hi, I have liked diapers ever since I can remember. But every time my mom found one she would say I was weird. A couple of weeks ago she found some in my room and said that a 15 yrs. old  doesn't need diapers. But now I have been peeing in them for about a month, and
I just want to tell her. But not my dad because we are already on terrible terms. Any advice on how to tell her? I want to so bad but...there is a possibility of back fire. Now I have a diaper bag and diapers in my room by my couch.  If she does find them I will just tell her. Any suggestions on how to break it to her?


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Dear Unknown,

It sounds like you already know that it will go bad. You say there might be 'backfire'. Only you know what that means.  If your parents are not open to the idea there are no magic words that are going to change
their minds- unfortunately. You might have to just wait until you are 18 and then be who you truly want to be. But if that is the case remember that there are people out there who care about you and want you just
as you are and those people would be US!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: KRIS
Age: 13

Q:

I NEED HELP. I NEED DIAPER. I DONT WET. HOW DO I TELL MOM?


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Dear Kris,

There are no magic words to say to a parent.  Only you know how your parents are.  Are they understanding and open minded? If you know they aren't- then chances are they will never listen to what you have to say.  If on the other hand they are progressive and free thinkers
they will at least listen to what you have to tell them.  In the end though only you can make that call. What kind of parents do you have? Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Aaron
Age: 16

Q:

How do I ask my 16 yr old girlfriend to put diapers on me without making her break up with me? She would do it, but I do not know how to ask her.


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Dear Aaron,

You seem certain that she would do it for you.  Why not ask her to do it as part of a fun role-playing game.With you as the baby and her the mommy. Then next time you can play cops and robbers. where you arrest her and take her downtown for questioning.  Just a
thought.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amber
Age: 34

Q:

Hi Mommy, Something happened yesterday that has me pretty upset. I went to a local lingerie shop that has a pretty good size fetish area and asked if they had any adult baby things. The woman I asked didn't understand me at first and when I explained she gave me a disapproving look and told me that infantilism was too close to pedophilia and they didn't carry anything. I decided to look at lingerie and I noticed the woman talking to another attendant. I overheard her saying something about diapers and the other girl giggled. I didn't mind the giggling, but the pedophilia statement made me very upset. I went to my car and cried. This saleswoman had the nerve to look at me disapprovingly when she helped another customer choose a whip that would "sting enough" when her boyfriend used it and even talked her into buying handcuffs and a ballgag. I like my diaper changed, the
other customer liked to be whipped, what's the difference?


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Dear Amber,

Unfortunately as we travel through life we cross paths with ignorant people.  Which is what happened to you. There are a lot of people out there who just don't understand what infantilism is all about.  All they
hear is 'infant' and 'adult' and their minds jump to pedophile. If they would take the time to get some information they would find that the two terms are as far apart from each other as the North and South poles. Don't let narrow minded people upset you. Be proud of who you are. If you are looking for items we have a great place to start your search :http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/TB_AB_DL_links.html
This link has all kinds of goodies for you from clothes to furniture.  So browse and enjoy.  Always remember you are loved.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 17

Q:

Should I put myself back into diapers? I like them. They are comfortable and make me feel secure. I used to wet but I stopped years ago. Do you think I should wear diapers again just for fun, like at night?


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Dear Andy,

If it makes you feel good and you are hurting no one, why not.  You said it makes you feel secure and comfortable.  With the crazy world we live in sounds like a winner to me. Just don't forget to powder!  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 18

Q:

Would you recommenced shaving hair that grows in the area where the diaper sits? And what is the best way from not becoming "excited"? Trying to keep it as clean as possible. Always, Andy


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Dear Andy,

To keep the diaper area as clean as possible I recommend just trimming real short.  If you shave you will have itching as it grows back which can get uncomfortable.  Just a close trim should do the trick. As far as not becoming excited  a friend of mine said he thinks of his grandmother and that pretty much does the job for him.  So use whatever mental picture you think would work for you. I hope these tips help you out.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Thomas
Age: 18

Q:

My name is Tom. I've been wetting nappies full time now for about 2 years. My partner has been really understanding about it and she encourages it. However some concerns have been raised that a nappy might affect a mans fertility. If so, how much?


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Dear Tom,

You need not worry.  Whether you wear a diaper, brief or boxer whatever fertility level you were born with you still have.The only way a diaper can affect your fertility level is if it is way too tight for an
extended period of time. I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Enjoy life!

-Hugs Sandra  

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Question Asked By: DaVID
Age: 48

Q:

I got your information from Mommy Jane. I am looking for a Mommy
in the state of Missouri. DO you have any connections. Thanks for your help.

David


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Dear David,

I am glad you found us.  Mommy Jane is a very good friend,  We have a starter base of some mommies that might be of some help to you.  Wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

Mommies Link: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Michel
Age: 55

Q:

Sandra, Thank you so much for understanding my question. You helped me a lot.


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Dear Michel,

I am so glad we were able to help you. This is why we are here. We like to think of our members as family. So don't be a stranger write again soon.  We would love to hear more from you!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 18

Q:

What is the best way to position the penis so that you are not erect? And should you shave your pubic hair for any reason? I know babies don't have hair down there. Please respond I'm kinda new at this.


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Dear Andy,

It is best to position the penis pointing down when putting on a diaper.  Unless you want a fountain in your face later in the day.  I do no recommend shaving the genital area.  It itches growing back.  Just a
very close trim will be just as good.  Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sindee
Age: 46

Q:

I'm in a new relationship with an AB/Sissy/CD and want to be a very good Mommie to him.  As this is all very new to me I've been looking for something to give me some suggestions on being a good mommie....Could  you please give me some advise and suggestions for
this?


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Dear Sindee,

All you have to do is follow your motherly instincts.  They might be big but they are all little babies inside.  They want the nurturing and the loving that you would give to an infant.  So the advice I would give to you is just love your big baby and you will be doing it right!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joan
Age: 54

Q:

Since I did not fill out the above. I guess I should explain. I want to give my husband a true experience of being diaper dependent. He presently enjoys wearing them both out of temporary necessity due to urinary incontinence, and his own personal fetish of using them.  I had read somewhere of a way to cause fecal incontinence using -------------- and not allowing him to have a bowel movement, diapering him and letting nature take its course. Will this work?? And if so, how long will it last. Joan Sa wife wanting her AB hubby to have a complete experience of diaper dependency


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Dear Joan,

I think it is wonderful that you want your husband to experience the full diaper experience but why use artificial means to accomplish it?  You probably noticed I deleted  the method you had outlined- I  am
100% against any enemas, laxatives, catheters or any other means of achieving loss of control.  As a nurse I have seen the damage- sometimes irreversible- done to people who used these items wrong or too much.  If you wish your husband to have a fecal experience, just
have him wear his diaper until he has a bowel movement.  Why introduce drugs and chemicals- like you said let nature take its course.  I just want you both to be happy and above all else healthy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 34

Q:

Mommy It's another wet morning for this little boy. I need a change, but before I do I want to thank you for all your advice.  I now use my onsie more often after you told me it prevents a T-shirt from riding up on me.  It does make bedtime much warmer when nights are
cooler. Any way I'm stripped down to just my wet diaper, but I feel pretty dry still.  Should I wait before my shower for another wetting or messing accident? I figure I can do some chores and get some breakfast.If it's a thirsty and hungry diaper shouldn't be used to it's potential.  How do real mommies handle somewhat dry diapers of a toddler in the morning? 


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Dear Embarrassed,

As always it is good to hear from you.  I am telling you those onesie's are great aren't they? As a general rule when my kids woke up in the morning, whether the diaper was wet or dry it came off.  The reason being they had spent the entire night in it.  Even if they had not used it, the diaper itself had begun to break down. I would also let my children run around a little- butt anatural. Their tussies were always in a diaper the skin needs 'air' time.  We would do potty, breakfast and then wash-up. And then on with our day. I am sure other Moms have their own routines but that is what worked in our house. You take care till next time.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tarapyle
Age: 35

Q:

I am still looking for someone to adopt me?


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Dear Tara,

If you are looking for an AB Mom/Dad we have a directory that is a good starting place to look.  I wish you luck.

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ashley
Age: 21

Q:

How do I get my own nappies?


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Dear Ashley,

Almost any store you go into nowadays will have some form of adult diapers.  From your general department store to your corner druggist/pharmacist.  If you are shy about purchasing in person there are many online companies.  Quite a few even offer sample packs so you can even try out their different products and see which one better suits your needs.  All you have to do is investigate and see what is available to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joshua
Age: 12

Q:

What can I do for my mom to put me back in diapers.


A:

Dear Joshua,

There are no magic words that you can say that will make your Mom put you in diapers.  If she is not interested in the diaper scene- she is just not going to go along with it.  Sorry.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 34

Q:

Hi Mommy.  It's getting close to bedtime and am way past a need for a change, but I'm holding off until after my bottle. Right now I'm just wet, but my tummy is starting to feel funny, but it doesn't matter since I'm not old enough to wear big boy pants.  I can't even wear big boy pants when I get home from work.  As soon as I get home my pants come off and a diaper goes on regardless if I have to go potty or not.  Today I was a little embarrassed.  I had a heavy wetting accident, but
noticed I was out of baby wipes. So I threw on my jeans, and shirt and when down to the drug store in my wet diaper. I hoped my shirt covered my diaper, because my jeans were riding down on me it seemed. I was also self conscious about if people could smell me.  But I finally picked up the wipes. Any way on to my question. With summer approaching should I continue to use petroleum jelly for protection or could this make thing warmer in my diaper area?  Well time for my bottle.  Thanks.

PS: I think I may now have a loaded chamber in my diaper.  That's one of the reason I didn't want to change yet.  I deal with it after my bottle. 


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

With summer coming it is a good idea to change up your routine just a little.  You can continue using petroleum jelly but use a thinner layer, just barely there.  And follow with a brisk shake of cornstarch powder.  The powder helps absorb the sweat that seems to just pour off of us as we step out the door! Another option is to switch to a light barrier cream- Desitin, Balmex etc. and follow again with the powder. Change a little more frequently in the summer, because even if you don't use the diaper the sweat is breaking down the diaper fibers. So change often, use powder and have a cool bottle!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Hi mommy it's me it's been a while.  I kind of have an issue this morning. I am currently in a wet and messy diaper.  This may not be too much of problem under normal circumstances, but I have guests over.  It wouldn't have been an issue if the diaper was just wet but this morning I had an impending urge to push.  I'm not sure how bad the damage is but until I untape the diaper I won't know for sure.  I can change out of my bulky night time diaper in my room and even clean myself up with my baby wipes.  The problem is when it comes to dumping the excess poopy down the toilet. I can't just walk out with a poopy diaper, that would shock my guests.  How should I handle this type of problem?  My night time sleep wear is my own little secret.

PS: With summer here I usually sleep in just my diaper. I know this won't prevent diaper rash, but is there a way to avoid diaper rash in the summer or should I accept the fact it's going to happen every summer?


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

For future events such as this perhaps you can do what Stanley does.  He has a unobtrusive diaper pail in his room.  Whether you use cloth or disposable- it can be invaluable. He uses disposables and when he changes no one has to see and being a diaper pail, no one smells
or has a clue as to its true function.  It is manufactured by First years.  He empties the bags of soiled diapers into the trash every few days and that's it.  And to prevent rashes during the summer- still use a barrier cream just put on a lighter coat and then follow up with cornstarch powder.  Also change more frequently.  The sweat tends to break down a diaper quicker and make it rougher and it will start to chafe.  Just a few tips.Stay cool and dry!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kevin
Age: 46

Q:

I wonder what are your thought's on spanking. I feel like wetting the bed should result in Mommy taking me over her knee for a spanking. How long should a spanking last? Are there any Mommy's in Utah? what reasons do you think a naughty boy should get a spanking for? I would truly be thankful for your answer.
Hug's, Kevy


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Dear Kevin,

I don't believe in spanking.  I raised my 3 kids without ever laying a hand on them.  And I am proud to say they are all law abiding, well adjusted and for the most part normal adults. Why do people think that
by hitting a child you make them learn something?  No, they listen and obey- yes- but did they learn anything, only to resent you. My son wet as a young man.  He didn't do it on purpose.  Why beat him for it? To be honest my children were more upset to know I was mad at them than any beating could of done.  We were that close. So in my house- no video games and no bike riding were the punishments. No spankings.
Others feel different and that's okay. I grew up in a house where I was abused and I refused to do the same to my kids. But that's just this one woman's opinion.

-Hugs Sandra

PS

Check our 'Mommy Finder' in the ABDL section of our
main site for Utah and see who's there.

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Hey mommy happy memorial day! Thank God for diapers. It's nice to wake up in the morning to dry sheets even though the front of my diaper is swelled up liked a balloon. Fortunately for me it's a bulky diaper for these nighttime accidents.  I have to admit I even feel dry on the inside even though my diaper is soaked.  You should pass along to your bedwetter's to keep their heads up, because some of us are still not even out of diapers yet due to night time wetting and messing accidents. 

Any way mommy this bring me to my question. If I poop in my diaper at night I don't always know until I wake up in the morning to a smelly diaper.  I don't always know when it occurred, but was wandering what should I do in this situation to avoid a rash due to prolonged exposure to poop? I also noticed sometimes it squeezes up into the pee pee area can I avoid this, and is this bad?  


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Dear Embarrassed,

Good to hear from you.  It is generally okay to be in a diaper overnight with poop since you are for the most part not moving and causing any irritation to any sensitive areas.  Poop is not as caustic as urine so can be tolerated for a longer period  of time.  It is okay if it squishes up into the pee pee area.  I would suggest though a full bath/shower in that case.  As far as any precautions- the same diapering method, good clean lotion/cream and powder for good measure. Just clean well and your derriere should be as happy as can be! Till we type again.  :)

-Hugs Sandra