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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dear Mommy. 

I'm working my way back to my inner childs age of 2.  I'm probably at the age of 4 right now. I wear a diaper at night for precautionary reasons since I can't always make the potty when I get up. Even though I'm stripped down to my wet diaper now I was dry, and clean when I awoke this morning.  Since I felt the impending urge I started for the potty, and peed before I got out of my room. Well in any case I figure at the age of 4 I can get away with a slimmer diaper, and decided to take a break from my bulky diapers. Since I like to sleep on my side it's a lot harder to do that in a diaper that has a lot of bulk between the legs. I'll need to return to them, but for now I decided I needed a break. When I turn 3, and start to have messing and wetting acidents at night I will need a good diaper. I use Abri diapers, but have seen you suggest Molicare to some people. Is molicare a white diaper? Is it bulky for night time accidents? What diaper would suggest for my inner child of 3? I usually like white bulky diapers. I'm a heavy wetter, and will soon be facing the accidents of a 3 year old at night. Time to get changed, and showered. Always a pleasure. :-)


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

It has always been said to be a better adult you need to be in touch with your inner child.  Who knew we would do that almost literally.  :)  There are plenty of good diapers but I do tend to recommend the Molicare- it is multi-colored and somewhat bulky. It is excellent for absorbancy.  Another diaper to consider is Uniquebriefs (Eurobriefs). They are not bulky at all.  They hold a lot of liquid and have been tested by us to last for 12 hours without falling apart. So in your case either one would probably be a good choice. So stay dry and keep getting young!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 11

Q:

Mommy please help! I bought my first cloth diaper on ebay. It has baby print all over it and that's the reason why I bought it. I have never worn a cloth diaper before in my entire life. When I wore it I was scared to wet in it because I'm so used to my disposable diapers. So when I did finaly pee it soaked right through to my barbie night gown. Are cloth diapers intended to only use with plastic panties? Are some better then others? How do I clean them to keep from staining? And I guess you can only go once as they soak so fast? please help me.

                        Kendra Potty Pants


A:

Dear Kendra,

As a first timer it can be difficult to know what to do.  Cloth diapers are intended for use with plastic pants. The only exception is if you have an 'all-in-one' diaper.  That is a cloth diaper with a built in plastic liner. But usually the average cloth diaper needs the use of a plastic panty.  To care for cloth diapers- you need to remove any solid waste
immediately and if not washing right away leave to soak in soapy water with a few drops of bleach in it. Wash in hot water and if using your own washer- rinse twice. I wish you all the best.  Stay dry!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kermit
Age: 32

Q:

Not sure what all those initials were. I have an involved fantasy, so
no providers can really help, and it has vanilla aspects, so no real
domina can help me.  The only thing I can think is to see a hypnodomme who can have me live it out in my mind under hypnosis. Unfortunately, none of the websites I find are any help.  They want to sell pre-recorded CD's.  I'd appreciate any help you can give me.


A:

Dear Kermit,

I am sorry but we can't be of any help to you either. This site caters to bedwetters and ABDL's (adult babies and diaper lovers) You need a domina site as you said.  Good luck in your search.

-Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 24

Q:

Yes, I was wondering if my baby wears a adult onesie would it help the diaper from sagging?


A:

Dear Andy,

That is one trick all us Mom's use to keep our babies diapers on. It will work for an adult baby too! Stay dry and happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michael
Age: 16

Q:

Hi it's Michael agin. I am new to TBDL, I was wornding if you could tell me were I could find a car seat. I am 170lb 5'10". I have a crib.


A:

Dear Michael,

We are not aware of any car seats that size. One sugesstion is to try booster seats.  A friend of ours who is skinny actually went to the store and tried sitting in a few booster seats to find one that was comfortable. We are not even sure if it is possible to make an ABDL carseat since carseats are federally regulated.  But it is a thought huh?

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michael
Age: 16

Q:

I love to wear diapers and wet the bed. I sleep in a baby crib at night, and sometimes wear diapers in the day time. I know there is
nothing wrong with me mentaly. I just like acting like a baby. I go a
little far sometimes. One time I drank baby milk. Is there anything
wrong with acting like a baby at the age of 16?


A:

Dear Michael,

There is nothing wrong with you.  This world is not an easy place to live in these days and if you can find something that makes you happy I say go for it! It is like I have said before- you hurt no one and you're
happy.  It sounds like a win-win situation to me. Stay happy! And by the way if you like baby milk-drink as much as you want.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babynick
Age: 19

Q:

I would love to find a mommy near Cheyenne Wyoming.


A:

Dear Babynick,

We have on our main site some excellent resources for finding people. Check them out and see if you can find that special person you click with.

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 18

Q:

Hi mommy, I just turned 18 on Feb. 3rd and I am a big DL fan but can't buy diapers. But thats not the reason why I am writing this. I tried drinking tons of water at night so I can try wetting myself but it's not working, I also am using this water playing cd thing but it doesnt work. So I was wondering is there any type of website that can give me free bedwetting spells on the net because I really do want to start going so I can have a reason to buy diapers. Well I better get going. Bye mommy, your adorable baby boy J.C


A:

Dear Jack,

There are many ways to make yourself start to wet. The only caution I would make is to be sure that this is what you want. That being said  a very good site is

http://www.deeker.com/Articles/twelve_month_
diaper_training_program.pdf

I hope it works for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amber
Age: 34

Q:

It has been a while since I wrote. Jon is getting more used to using his diapers but he still has problems making poopy in them. I understand, it was a little hard for me to do that too at first. Anyway, I found a place in my city that sells adult cloth diapers and I tried some. Dealing with the pins was scary at first but the diapers are very comfortable. I like cloth but I still like my crinkly plastic disposables. I also found some really cute plastic panties with lace ruffles on the butt. This place even had adult size pacifiers! I think I am really becoming an adult baby. I like baby type clothes and always want my new paci in my mouth. Am I ok? I even want to start drinking from a baby bottle. What kind of bottle would be best for me and is formula ok? Also, what is the best way to wash adult cloth diapers?


A:

Dear Amber,

I am glad to hear everything is going well for you and Jon.  There is nothing wrong with you- you just want the entire baby experience. That store you found sounds great.  If pins are of concern ask if they have
snap or velcro diapers. As for bottles- whichever style works for you is good. One word of caution about formula- it is made for the nutritional needs of an infant not an adult.  Never use the iron-fortified formula- it has too much iron in it for an adult and can cause health problems. To wash diapers- remove any solid waste and soak in a mixture of soapy water with a little bleach until ready to launder. If using your own washer I would suggest rinsing twice. If you want real baby smelling diapers 'Dreft' is a good detergent to use (well it is formulated for babies after all) Stay dry and happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Rick
Age: 27

Q:

Me and my wife are DL's and wear diapers. We have a 1 year old
son and we were thinking about not potty training him and home schooling him. What should we do?


A:

Dear Rick,

I think you should potty-train your son.  You and your wife made the choice to be ABDL- your son has not.  He still has to live in this world and I think it would be an injustice to not make him as prepared as he
could be. He will see from the example that you and your wife show the benefits of a ABDL lifestyle and if he so shooses he will join you when he of age.  But to isolate him now could cause problems for him later. Think over all your options. It is very obvious you love him and will consider all the ups and downs.  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 16

Q:

I like to poo my pants and I love nappies. How can I tell my mum?


A:

Dear Paul,

I do not know your mother so I can't tell you how to tell her.  Only you know if she is an open minded person.  You are the best judge as to if you should even mention it. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John 
Age: 13

Q:

Why do teens hide their daipers?


A:

Dear John,

There are some teens who do not have understanding parents.  Their parents don't want to have a teen in diapers even if there is medical reason for the wetting. So if you are a teen with parents who are supportive- be thankful.  There are alot of kids who would love to be in your place.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dan
Age: 22

Q:

What is the best way to get started? I have kept it a secret that I  want to wear them. As far as conversation what should I say? What are the most descreet and less noticable? What are the best for absorbency?


A:

Dear Dan,

I could not give you all the info you seek in one letter.  There is just too much.To get started you only need to make the decision that this is what you want. Next you choose a diaper.  There are many good products.  We like to recommend Molicare and Uniquebriefs (Eurobrief).  They are both excellent for absorbancy and long wear.  I would suggest you perhaps try sample packs- alot of the on-line companies offer a sample pack.  This way you can try and see which one is suited to your needs.A good place to start meeting people is on sites like ours.  We have a directory of members that can be a useful tool in finding someone with similar likes and dislikes.  I wish you luck in
all you do.  Stay dry.

-Hugs Sandra

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Nav.html
**this link will give you the page with the member
listings and also the link to find a diaper company

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Question Asked By: Derek
Age: 15

Q:

How do I tell my mom I want to wear diapers?


A:

Dear Derek,

I get this question in my  Email several times every month.  I also get the my mother wants to put me in therapy Email too. I have a question Why do you want to tell your mother?

Unless you have a very progressive parent they most likely will not understand.  Only you know the kind you have.  Is your mother open to new things?  If you even have to think about it I would not mention the word diaper. Wait until you are 18 and she has no legal rights. One of our dear teen members was put under house arrest and twice weekly psych sessions after her father flipped.  She sneaks messages out once in awhile. Just think carefully before mentioning anything.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age13

Q:

I want to wear diapers but don't want to tell my mom, how should
I tell her when I don't have a need to wear them? Also I would trust telling my gram better then telling my mom would it be alright to tell my gam and have her tell me mom and see if it can be a secret between us three or would it be better to tell my mom myself?


A:

Dear Jordan,

I can't tell you what to do because I don't know the people involved.  Only you know the answers to your questions.  Is your Gram more open minded than your mom? Would she be more understanding?  Could she talk your Mom into going along with you wearing diapers? You need to think very carefully.  I wish I had a
magic answer for you. Only you know who might be understanding.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon
Age: 35

Q:

Mommy I have a few problems I hope you can help me with. First, I
finally messed in my diaper for Amber. Even though she changed me right away I didn't like the way it felt. Amber was so happy I "Made Poopy" and I feel bad that I didn't like it. Should I try getting used to messing my diaper like I got used to wetting them? Also as you know, my Amber wants to be an adult baby. She sucks A pacifier nearly all the time and I give her a bottle when she asks me. I love Amber and I
want her to be happy but I don't think I like the idea of her being a full time adult baby. I love her in her diapers and playing baby is fun sometimes but I want to kiss her without pulling out her pacifier first. What should I do?


A:

Dear Jon,

I think you need to talk to Amber.  A couple needs to have open communication.  Tell her you are not a big fan of pooping in your diaper.  There are a lot of others who feel the same as you- it can get messy and doesn't feel right. And for your other problem there is nothing wrong with being AB but perhaps you could talk to her and tell her how you feel.  Maybe the two of you can make a 'No Baby' time each week.  For example say every Sunday evening you both are adults. For your relationship to thrive you also need the adult time together. Bottom line is you need to sit and talk and work out what will work for the two of you.  Compromise might be needed.  In the end though you both care about each other and I know you'll be alright.  Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Clint
Age: 18

Q:

I'm new to this and like to find someone round the area that takes care of people like me like changing and babying. So how would I find them?


A:

Dear Clint,

You never mentioned where it is you are from.  But it doesn't matter because we have a directory of 'mommies and daddies' who can help you -that is a title used by some who change and baby the AB's. Another title could be a babysitter. Use our directory as a starting
place- contact some people and see if the chemistry clicks. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

here's the link: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Cody
Age: 15

Q:

Dear Ask Mommy,

I am having trouble finding a girlfriend, ((one that's ok with my diapers)) what should I look for? like if she talks a lot of taking care of baby's ect. Also I want to make diaper friends but I don't know where to look! Also how do I tell if Im gay or straight?


A:

Dear Cody,

To find a girlfriend is not easy whether you wear diapers or not. The things to look for are always the same- caring, considerate and understanding.  To find one who will understand might take some time.We have on our site a 'friend finder'.  It is a directory of our members.  First it is a place to find some AB friends and secondly maybe a girlfriend.  As to how to tell if you are gay or straight- only you know which attracts you.  Are the girls who you want to be with or do you find the guys more appealing. Consider your feelings and see which one is for you. And no matter what anyone says whether you are gay or not whatever you choose is perfect for you.  Be proud of who you are and remember you are loved.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Floyd J Godleske
Age: 44

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I would like to know if I am a baby? I use diapers, bib, baby bottles, baby food, baby toys, I sleep in a crib, use a high chair. Sometimes I use a adult diaper and have troubles with my diapers. I do not know how tight to get them, they sometimes leak on my crib. even my adult
one do and I like baby clothing.


A:

Dear Floyd,

You are an AB- adult baby. Actually you are fortunate in that you have a lot of the furniture in adult size. There are a few AB's who would love to have access to getting those items. About your diaper troubles- use a mattress protector to help cut down on laundry.  We also have many links to various diaper sites.  I would suggest ordering sample packs and trying a few out and see which one works for you.  I hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

diaper links: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Diaper_links.html

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dear mommy,

I'm still having morning accidents. I'm waking up dry but still unable to make potty.:-( I want to big boy. How can I be a big boy if I still need
diapers? That's pretty much my 4yr old inner child of speaking.  He want's everybody to think he's upset about not wearing big boy pants, because he's afraid about what others may think. My inner child is a little insecure. As I said last time he's going on three. I'm going to try the molicare diapers you mentioned after I finish my current pack of diapers.  Thanks for the info. My question today is about my onsie. I think they call it a lap style onsie. I noticed the neck style is different.
Is there some reason for it? Well time to change out of this wet diaper. I
do enjoy diaper changes.:)


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Glad to hear you are enjoying your changes.  :) I think you will be happy with the Molicare.  As to your onesie the neck style depends on the manufacturer. Some put on an adult neck and others are true to the
baby style and copy it. You can try different companies and see who has the neck you desire.  Happy diapering!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dear mommy,

its a very soggy morning today. After 2 big wetting accidents this morning my diaper is sagging pretty good. The good news is I didn't flood it.  For those who are new to this sight I am a regular.  Mommy is very supportive of us accident prone toddlers, and babies. Most of the people here are unpotty trained at heart.  I'm a little boy with an inner child of 4 going on 3. I have had both wetting and messing accidents before. I wear a disposable diaper at night.  The diaper never stays dry which is why I still need them.  This bring me to my question today. Mommy my diaper may have kept my sheets dry, but I feel very wet. Shouldn't it feel some what dry on the inside? Should we still feel some wetness? If the diaper is protecting are sheets is it really doing what it was designed to do? Secondly, I have a question on diaper rash. I noticed the front of my diaper is often soaked.  You said that we can get diaper rash any where on our skin. Does that include little boys pee pees or is that a rare case if its possible at all? Well I need changed. Thanks for the support.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

The diaper is suppose to keep everyone and thing dry up to a point and then the child is suppose to feel the wetness to let him/her know not to wet any more.  At least that is the basic theory behind how they
work. So everything is fine until little John/Jane crosses the line and does one drop too much.  Sounds silly doesn't it?  And yes anywhere your urine touches can get a rash. (that includes the pee pee- ouch) So
always be careful and wash and dry  and use creams PLEASE.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 13

Q:

My mom knows that I want to wear diapers but won't buy them
unless I tell her why I want to wear them. What do you tell DL what to tell
their parent why they want to wear diapers?


A:

Dear Jordan,

It is difficult to get parents to understand being a DL.  Parents almost never understand.  On the risk of ending up in therapy I would keep quiet.  Buy your diaper with allowance money- do odd jobs like chores for elderly people etc- and hide them until you are old enough.  I usually say to be honest with your parents but one of our members ended up being put in 'therapy' with a shrink and her life was made hell. Try to remain happy and above it all.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Stephen Roberts
Age: 19

Q:

Hi Mummy, im 19 and have liked to dress up as a baby with  everything involved bottles, nappies, bibs, etc for approximate 3 years. I do it
when ever I can so it's not a 24hr thing though I would like it to be. I  really like it but don't have anyone to help me with it or be trust worthy or understanding enough about it to talk to etc. I love it and find that it is a comfort for me. I was bullied all my school life. 

My Question is:
What could be the reasons behind why I like to do this sort of thing?
possible life causes etc. I have looked everywhere on the net but can't find what I'm looking for. Please help me mummy. I want to understand why?

Thank you
Steve


A:

Dear Steve,

There are a lot of theories. One theory is looking for comfort. Another is stress relief.  My favorite is simple really looking for love just love. The one time in our lives when we were loved for just being- no games, no having to impress or roles to play was when we were infants.  To receive love we only had to BE- and we were instantly adored and loved.  Who wouldn't want that? As adults we spend all our time searching for that in vain. So wear your diapers and know you
are miles ahead of the rest of them

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By:Kendra
Age: 10

Q:

Dearest mommy,

I love all your advice it is so useful. The baby powder I am using is
parents choice brand and I have also used Johnson & Johnson's. The
problem I am having in both brands is the powder clumps up after I have wet my diaper. Does this happen with all brands of baby powder, or is there a better product I need to be using?
                           thank you,
                             sissy potty pants kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

What you are talking about is very common.  You have two choices. And by the way you are doing nothing wrong. The first choice is to purchase a powder puff and apply your powder that way. Your powder is just accumulating in one area and then clumping when you pee.  A puff will spread it out more evenly.  The second option is to spread the powder on the diaper before putting it on.  Sprinkle and then spread it out with your fingers. Hey it is not playing with your diapers.  :) Well maybe a little.  Try that and see how it works. Stay happy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jay
Age: 18

Q:

I was wondering how I could find sources for abdl products or diapers that are more like a babies diapers. I choose to wear diapers as a lifestyle and have always been into bedwetting on accident and on purpose, and if I had it my way I would go to get my own place where I could have a change table and all of that type of stuff. But I was wondering if I could get some more info on purchasing products or
tips to satisfy me, well thank you and p.s. I was wondering about some
info on abdl mommies or nannies.xoxoxo


A:

Dear Jay,

Our site caters to all of that.  We have a links page to AB products.  We have a 'Mommy' finder.  And if you want a more babyish looking looking diaper we even sell diaper tapes-tapes with baby print that go across the front of your diaper like the baby diapers.Our
link follows:

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Nav.html

Look around and use the tools that are there.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Scott
Age: 27

Q:

I am new to being an AB but have always been interested in diapers for as long as I can remember. The problem is that the more stressed I get the more I want to be a baby. I am ADHD living with friends who do not know or if the do they haven't said anything. And I don't have an apartment and can not afford one. I am trying to go to school so that I can get a better job but I have no med's and need them. I have no health ins. so the worse things get the more stress I have. I need help but don't know where to go. My family knows that I have used diapers before and made me feel insecure. For years I have sleeped with a stuffed leopard that I named Leppy. I got him from a councilor when I was in 6th grade and since have never slept without him. I need advice.


A:

Dear Scott,

You are in a tough place.  Can your family help at all?  As far as perhaps paying for school and freeing up your money to perhaps finding a small apartment or room where you can rent alone?  Or maybe they have a finished basement that they can convert and rent to
you as an apartment? Also you should look for a clinic that is on a sliding fee scale based on income with it's own pharmacy- so you would be able to get your med's. Contact your local hospital for adult ADHD support groups and get some numbers and other info there.  These are just a few ideas. Unfortunately the health care system has too many gaps and many fall through. We need to make sure you are taken care of Scott.  Let us know how you are doing. Be strong.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Scott
Age: 27

Q:

What can my family legally do if they found out that I am AB?


A:

Dear Scott,

It is not illegal to be an AB.  You are breaking no laws and hurting no one.  The only objection is usually from parents of underage kids who are either oblivious to what is going on in their child's life or are so judgmental they are close minded to any new ideas.

In the quick questions you said you were over 18 so your family shouldn't have any legal rights over you. The only way they could was if for some reason they were granted custodianship or you were declared incompetent.  If that is the case then you might have a problem. You would need to get that reversed. I hope I shed some light on the subject for ya. Stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wyatt
Age: Unknown

Q:

Is it wrong to want to bring my baba and biki to work with me so if I'm doing an errand I can have baba and binki time?


A:

Dear Wyatt,

If you are on the go and a little refreshment in a bottle or the need to suck on your biki is what you need to get through the day by all means GO FOR IT! Actually it's sounds like an ideal situation you're sent on an errand and you can take a little 'me' time while doing it.Just be careful around the other employees. Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaper Boy
Age: 15

Q:

Hi mummie,

I'm a TB/sissy. I wear diapers at night and I wear females pads/towels in the day and pretend to have a period. Do you know any other people who do the same thing as me?
Thanx


A:

Dear Diaper boy,

I have heard of dressing like a girl.  In fact one of my dearest friends is a sissy and loves to entertain us with a fashion show of her latest outfits.  But I must say to actually pretend to have a period is a first for me. But hey as always if it makes you happy keep smiling.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Carl
Age: 15

Q:

I love wearing diapers,ever since my parents put me back in them when I was 8 years old for wetting the bed. I'm 15 now and they still make me wear diapers. They insist that I'm a baby and need to be treated as such. My sister is 16 and doesn't have to wear diapers and she wets the bed. My question is I don't want to stop wearing
diapers,but I want my parents to stop treating me as a baby. Do you have any suggestions?


A:

Dear Carl,

I would talk to your parents and tell them you understand you still have to wear the diapers (we don't want them to stop that hee hee) but that you would appreciate being treated a little more like an adult.  Point out any chores you do regularly in the house like taking out the garbage, walking the dog and so on.  If you get good grades bring that up.  Say to them how you do your chores responsibly and do good in school and all you want is to not be treated like a baby. Just be treated a little more fairly like your sister.  See if that works.  It will at least open a talk between you and your parents and maybe get some things worked out.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra