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Question Asked By: Linzi
Age: 40

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I have been wearing nappies for a long time. Both cloth and  disposables and I have never had nappy rash. I have tried leaving wet and pooped nappy on and still have not gotten it. I would like to know what it is like. And when I am out with nappy on I have to stop to wee and pooh why can I not do it when walk? Hope you can help.

Linzi


A:

Dear Linzi,

Consider yourself lucky to not have gotten a rash.  A diaper rash is actually a chemical burn from the acid in urine.  It can be very painful.  I am not quite sure why it is you can't wee or pooh when out. All we can do is what we can to be happy.  I wish you all the best cuddles in the world!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ikes
Age: 62

Q:

Should sissy's and AB be spanked for wetting their diapers?


A:

Dear Ikes,

I personally never even spanked my children. However-if two consenting adults are both okay with that particular scenario I see no problem with it. Everyone has their own individual likes and dislikes.
Who am I to say what is proper and what isn't? So I will repeat as long as both parties are consenting- go for it baby!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Boy what a mistake I made today. I ran out of diapers today, and had some on reorder from the internet.  I use Abri X-plus diapers for night time wetting/messing accidents.  I decided to order the medium disposable diaper instead of the large ones.  My waist is 39-40, and they fit 43-44.  Now I'm kinda concerned about the size.  I will find out the fit tonight when I get changed for bed. Any way wasn't sure they where going to arrive today, so I needed to shop for a diaper at the local drug store.  I bought refastenable underwear, and thought they where diapers.  Since it's embarrassing buying your diapers from the store I wasn't going to return them. I figured I would eat the cost.  I found depends overnights, and bought them at another local store.  After I arrived home my other diapers where waiting for me.  No questions were asked about the package.  I reloaded my diaper drawer, and am now stuck with the depends diapers. Now I usually don't wear diapers during the day, but I figured since it's a slim diaper, even though it says it's for overnight use, I was wandering should I start to use them during the day since I now have an over abundance of diapers? Being diapered both day night my be interesting experiment? My 2-4 yr old inner child might actually enjoy it.  What do you think? Should I be
concerned?

PS: It's so tough for us.  I heard some laughter while I was looking in
the diaper aisle at the store.  Why can't big boys, and girls just accept us?


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

I suppose you could try it as the great experiment a sort of 'toilet vacation'. Okay bad pun. It would be interesting to try.  I know a few people who once they made the decision to wear 24/7 life just became
easier. The decision was made and adjustments put in place and life went on. Unfortunately there will always be someone who will snicker or giggle when you are in the diaper aisle- that is until they end up
there themselves years later. Let me know how your 'toilet vacation' goes. Stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: 48

Q:

I would like to ask if you can tell me why that I started liking to wear diapers. I am 48 and never did even think about wearing diapers until 3 years ago when I was put on some pill for a medical problem I have.  Well the side affect from the pill's is incontinence. After being in diapers 24/7 for about 4 months I got to where I liked to wear them but now after 3 years in diapers full time I LOVE to wear and pee my diaper and mess them too. Is it common for people that have to wear diapers for incontinence to get to where they LOVE to wear and use diapers? Or am I Just weird? Thanks for your time John.


A:

Dear John,

You are not weird or strange.  You just happen to like to wear diapers.  My personal opinion is that wearing diapers reminds you of a time when you were loved simply for being - as an infant. Who wouldn't want that unconditional love? Why that medication caused your incontinence and the following feelings we will never really know.  But you are hurting no one and it makes you happy- so what's the harm? Sounds all good to me.  Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wally
Age: 45

Q:

Well, mommy, it's sort of a 2 part question, I' am a sgwm, 45, very
clean, live in Sarasota Florida would like to relocate to Orlando Florida area and wanting to live with a lady who understands my thick diapered
desires. I am wanting to be a mommy's boy I can pay a monthly
(reasonable) rental fee and will be a good mommy's helper around the house as long as she treats me like a toddler boy, ok, please, lil Wally, once I find a job, please be understanding, thank-you, Wally


A:

Dear Wally,

You didn't really ask a question so I am not quite sure what it is you want.  If you are looking for a mommy we have a 'mommy finder' on our main site.  You can use that to help start your search.  I wish you
all the luck.

-Hugs Sandra

That link is :
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Jordan
Age: 22

Q:

(Hi my name is Jordan and I am 5'3" 128 lbs)

I have enjoyed diapers since I stopped wearing them when I was 7 years old.  I have been trying for 6 months and have regressed very little if none at all.  I need to be diaper trained by someone that know's what they are doing and is a professional. 

I wet the bed until I was 7 years old and I enjoyed not needing to wake up in the night to go to the bathroom it was great all but my daddy.  He made fun of me when I did wet the bed.  He made me
cry almost every day.

One night I woke up in the middle of the night with a very painfully urge to go and I almost didn't make it.  Ever since then haven't wet my
bed and can't sleep like I did.

Once I get up in the middle of the night I have a very very hard time
falling asleep.  I sometimes I would stay up the rest of the night  because I couldn't fall back asleep.  I would always fall asleep in the
middle of my 2ND period class in school from not getting the sleep I needed at night.

I couldn't then, and still can't now; get the sleep that I once got as
a young child when I slept thru the bed wetting.

Further more my doctor said I needed to take a sleeping aid  "Lunestia" to help me sleep more soundly at night, but all that did was help me  fall asleep.  It didn't help me to fall back asleep if I got woken up 4 hours later.

It makes me very upset sometimes to the point of crying because I am over tired all the time, I get sick to my stomach and often a very bad headache.

I have been drinking baby formula when I am trying to fall asleep from my bottle because I have found that it helps me relax better then the lunesta did,  but I still have the same problem.  I can't stay asleep
once I get up to use the potty.

I am getting to the point to where I don't want to sleep,  because I
can't stay asleep without having the urge to go.  I would like to know
if there is a place to get help.  I am not sure if what I am doing to my
body is safe.  I try and try but nothing happens.

I need help, guidance, and someone that will help me understand how to become totally dependent on diapers 24/7.

I am not doing any drugs or drinking anything with alcohol "yucky!!!" I am not taking the "Lunesta" any more because it messes up my sleep wake cycle more then it already is, along with dramatic hormonal changes. I would feel like I was going thru puberty all over
again. "Very Emotional"

My doctor told me last March when I went for my physical that I was in better condition then any of his patients that he saw that whole week.

I have no mental disorder other then my family thinks very little of me and they always make fun of me because I look like I never get any
sleep, and because I can't hold a job longer then 2 month's at at a time. 
I have jest recently just started sleeping for 4 hours then get up to
go potty then stay up for 2 and then repeat.  It will not stop.

Tell me how to wet and mess my diapers 24/7 because I can't take it any more. and that is what I want for the rest of my life. Final answer.

Can I hurt my body if I keep trying to hard?

Can I hurt my body if I am not getting the proper amount of sleep?

Is there a place I can go to learn to wet the bed again?

Is to much water bad for my body?

Am I the only one that want's to wet my bed?

Am I the only one that wants to loose total control of my pee and poop?

I am scared and don't know what to do or where to turn.  I need a mommy  that will show me what to do to reach my goal and help me sleep better.

I hate the pain and cramps when I have to go at night. I just want pee or poop well I sleep and not know that I needed to go.

I don't want to get up run to the potty, because when I get back to bed I am freezing.

I just want to sleep with the notion that I can go when I need to  without a care in the world!!!

Please help, Jordan


A:

Dear Jordan,

You didn't mention if you had told your doctor about your wetting at night. I think if you were on medication for the wetting overnight and sleep medication- you could possible be able to sleep the entire night through.  Problem solved- a whole night's rest. No tiredness, no cramping and you'll be able to go on with the rest of your life. You could still look for a 'mommy' but it wouldn't be an emergency situation. If you were well rested I think you would be able to keep a job for longer than a few months. How can you concentrate on anything if you are exhausted? Try talking to your doctor and see what he says.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amber
Age: 34

Q:

Dear Mommy,

Well, Jon is wearing diapers now. He only wears them during playtime and sleeps in them. He's having some trouble wetting and pooping in his diaper though. I get so much comfort when Jon changes me and I want to return the feeling and change his diaper. It was hard for me the first few times I messed in my diaper so I kind of know how he feels. How can I make it easier for him and reassure him that it's ok to use his diaper? I love him so much. I have another question about me. I am a little bit of an exhibitionist, would I get in trouble being in just my diaper and a tee shirt in public? Or how about if my diaper shows under a mini skirt or I have my pacifier in my mouth?


A:

Dear Amber,

I am glad it is going so well for you.  Just keep reassuring him- he'll get the message.  Depending on where you live really determines how tolerant the locals will be.  There might or might not be a law on the books but if you are in one of the 'bible belt' states you walking down main street in a diaper, tee shirt and sucking on a pacifier would not be looked on favorably.  On the other hand do that in certain parts of LA and you might start a parade. Unless you know how tolerant the people are where you are I would keep the exhibitionism to my personal space- backyard etc. Hope the diapering continues to go well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joey
Age: 12

Q:

How do I get diapers without telling my mom? Or how do I tell my mom to get them for me?


A:

Dear Joey,

Your first choice is to tell your Mom or not to tell your Mom.  Only you know now accepting she is.  Will she be okay with you wearing diapers and help you? Or will she be totally against it and wonder what it is wrong with you? Which one sounds like her most likely response to you- just think on it for a while before telling her.

To purchase your own diapers requires money.  You can use allowance, money saved etc.  If you have a job a portion of your paycheck can be put towards it.  If you are younger a few of our inventive member have done such things as paper routes, walked dogs (for those too busy) and my personal favorite run errands for the elderly. Offer to go to the store and get groceries, pick up dry cleaning, do light house cleaning- not only do they pay but an added benefit-
you have a new friend. I know one young man who started doing errands for one gentleman and ended up with several people in the same retirement complex and making quite a profit. Use your imagination. After you have the funds use a store you don't normally go to and purchase your diapers. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kenny
Age: 24

Q:

I have very strong bladder mussels so I can't wet the bed at night no matter how much I drink. Do you have any suggestions for me? I really want to. Thank you

Kenny


A:

Dear Kenny,

I firmly believe in not using any artificial means to achieve wetting.  As a nurse I saw too many methods gone wrong and the unfortunate patients that I ended up caring for. Simply put you need to retrain your mind. Before you do this I have to warn you.  When you achieve nighttime wetting there is a possibility of daytime wetting also- you are retraining your brain.  Just as a toddler needs to be potty-trained there is a method to this also. If you would be interested please Email me directly at gypsy12143@yahoo.com and I'll explain the entire process. Stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Mommy it's one of your little boys again.  I truly need a mommies help.  As a young toddler, at heart, I am having trouble making this decision. Even though I am regular here I will give you my background in case others are having a similar issue.  I am a young boy (at heart), that still has wetting, and messing accidents at night. I use disposable diapers (Abri X-Plus) mainly at night, even though today I wearing one during the day. I have already asked this question a couple times, and have taken your advice, and measured my waistline where my pants normally rest to determine my diaper size. I am at the upper edge of the diaper size roughly 2-3 inches away from the maximum fit. I have tried the large, and now the medium.  The medium plastic comes roughly to my belly button.  The crotch feels a little tight at times.  When my pee pee has to be positioned up I can fold the plastic down to cover the head of my pee pee (This is done to avoid a wet bed in case some of you are unaware of this tip). The large comes past my belly button, and is much roomier in the crotch.  When I fold down the plastic as mentioned above it doesn't cover my pee pee like the mediums. I
haven't pooped in the mediums yet, but figure the diaper would hold  maybe it would just might be a little messier.  Both diapers are thick in
the crotch area, which may cause the mediums to feel tight down there. Not sure.  The mediums backside has a little bit of extra room in case of a messing accidents, but I really can't judge that since I haven't
had that type of accident yet. I know you don't want it to tight in the
that area because you need a pocket for pooping  I'm concerned these
diapers are too small.  When a babies weight is so close to the next level of diaper for real, do mommies go with the bigger ones? Should I
graduate more permanently towards the next level of diaper since my waist is a few inches away from the next level?  I really don't know how to tell if the diaper isn't right for me, or if it's just right.  I have a hard time judging.  I tried to give you allot of information here to give you a mental picture.  Not sure if you need more information on the fit.
What should I do?  Please help!:-(      


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

With an infant I would go into the next bigger size. You do need the extra 'wiggle' room.  It does also make clean-up a lot easier. Imagine a big mess getting squished all up in a already small space or a big mess
basically staying put because there is plenty of room for it. Try using the large for a while and see how that works out for you.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I was contemplating my inner child, and dry diaper this morning, and felt I needed to get this in the open.  Like most of you toddlers at heart, I try to figure out the root of my diaper necessity.  I've read countless thoughts on this subject, and it just comes down to allot of psycho babble.  My earliest recollection of this need goes back to the age of 4 or possibly 5.  I remember finding an old cloth diaper left over from my baby days. While my mother was on the telephone I put it on, and wet it. Trying to hide it I threw it under the bed.  Well it must not have been hidden well, because my mother found it. She scolded me, and threatened to take me to the doctors.  I was deathly afraid of the doctor at that time. Heck any kid is probably afraid of some strange guy in a white lab coat sticking thermometers in a place where the sun doesn't shine.:-) That has been burned into my memory.  Any way I now see my mom was wrong.  Don't get me wrong I love my mom, but we all make mistakes. Changing roles I probably would have asked, "do you want to be in diapers again?"  Most likely the answer would have been yes.  However, the stipulation would have been 24/7 with chance of parole at the parents discretion.  However, since I was potty trained not sure how that would have worked.  Plus parents get tired of changing diapers, and since I am the youngest member of my family, I'm sure my mom thought she was done with them.  Instead it festered in me until a dream in my teenage years reawaken this need.  At this point I had my own resources to fulfill this need. After thinking about this there is something to be said about potty training.  From a little boys development, diapers provide a sensual need as well as a actual need. Because our body's are different from girls we probably seen potty tracing in different light.  If you remove the sensual feelings to soon the mind might not be ready to cope with the loss.  The sensual
feelings are probably also associated with other nurturing feelings. The mind probably suppresses these needs until finally a stressful time  reawakens them.  That's why boys shouldn't be rushed into potty training. I often wander if that's what happened to me. If a boy wants to wear diapers a while longer I say let them.  Now fast forward to the present. My theory has been we need to re-experience those needs
mentioned above until we are ready to let go. This means using diapers
24/7 with a undetermined parole date. It also means full usage.  I have no problem using my diapers in the manner they where meant to be used (wetting and messing).  For some that may be a problem. However 24/7 may not be realistic.  We do have jobs. What is realistic is wearing them every night 7 days a weeks.  If you live alone, and don't expect to go out in public then right when you get home.  Further more you need to lose control at night.  That will come in due time from using the diaper.  The body usually will adapt.  Once your need to wear them for real accidents at night your on your way to recovery. However this can't stop or you'll break the chain. I don't know how long you would need to do this, but for me I expect at least a year, and possibly longer.  Now this is only a theory, and is not based on scientific fact.  The only way to determine if it works is to try it. I personally want to test my theory, but due to other issues have not been able to give it a go. Face it were all small children inside trying to recapture a lost feeling. If you are like me your probably around 2-3.  I've examined my inner child. Since I wet, and mess I'm not at the bedwetter stage.  Since I like to drink formula from a bottle and where a onesie at times I'm probably closer to two.  I should wear a diaper 24/7 with my inner child being this young, but due to social obligations I try to just wear a diaper every night.  This doesn't always work, and at times I break the chain.
I'll continue to unpotty train at night (naturally of course with some help from hypnotic CD's).  By the way CD's don't really work on some people, but it helps reinforce the desire.  Where the mind goes the body will follow (mental imaging works). If I'm forced into it that way then great.  You can always potty train again later. A warning though,
diapers are not always fun, and come with some problems we have to put up with, but that's a part of growing up. It's my goal to test this theory, and I try to stick to it.  For me though a few things first need to happen to put my full effort into it.  Right now I just wear them at night
while I unpotty train myself.  Once again this is just for baby boys.  Not
sure if this helps anyone  not.  Just remember, if your wetting or
messing even on purpose, these are still as real an accident as any,
and you need a diaper even though society is telling you, you don't.  Sorry for the long post mommy.  Thought it might help explain some things.  I do have a question for you. I told you I use Vaseline and baby
powder on my diaper area. I got some baby lotion, but am not sure how this is used. This has me so confused.  Do I need to use all three on my diaper area?  Do I use all 3 of them together when I'm being changed?  Im lost on what to use and when.  Maybe you explain the usage and time of use?  Thanks.  


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Dear Embarrassed,

My son did take longer to train than his sisters but there was never any pressure - when the child indicated they were ready then that's when training was started.  I agree with you in that I have always said diapers bring you back to a time when things were simpler and you were loved unconditionally.  And yes it is a stronger pull for boys because of the sensual need you were referring to. It would be an interesting theory to test. Now about all the lotions and creams- they are trying to sell you more product.  In the diaper area use a cream/lotion of your choice and a corn starch powder. On the rest of the baby's body use the lotions, creams and oils. In the summer use the powder on the baby's body to prevent heat rash.  Baby oil is good as an all over moisturizer when used just after a bath. You don't have to use every product on the market- the companies are just giving you choices.  Hope this info helps. Take care till next time.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 20

Q:

Yes I was wondering. I want to start wearing diapers, the disposable kind. I am wondering should I wear plastic pants or rubber pants or maybe both to stop leakage? Since I will flood the diapers for a few
times at first.


A:

Dear Andy,

Which ever brand you choose to use it is a good idea to test it's limits.  I would suggest that you put on the diaper and use it as normal and see what happens. If it can absorb your normal flow- great.  If you do develop a leak then you have some options. You can get some plastic pants or you could use some 'diaper stuffer'. All they are is long pads of just the absorbent material used in the diaper- you put 2 or 3
in your diaper to help absorb. I know quite a few heavy wetter's who swear by them.  In any case try the disposables when you get them home.  See how they perform and take it from there. Hope all goes well for you.  Good luck!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tyler
Age: 14

Q:

Hi,

I am now 14. I remember liking and wanting to wear a diaper ever since I was 5 or 6. I remember once when I was 3 or 4 and I had been out of diapers for sometime I had done something "wrong", I can't quite
remember what it was but however as punishment my mum (mom) was going to put me in diapers (nappies). I protested, squirmed and made it too hard.

Then a few years later (when I rarely did anything wrong) I was
thinking of doing something bad so I can wear diapers. Every time I thought about diapers I got a... "nice" feeling in my stomach.

When I was 7 - 9 I quite often got these feelings. But usually they
were at school when I had made a mistake in my work (not on purpose) but similar to doing something "bad".

When I was about 13 I saw a huggies ad on TV (huggies is similar to
pampers). I thought it would be.. "cool" to check it out so I did.

At first.. I didn't feel anything.. then I got the same feeling as I do  when I do something wrong. Then I thought my parents wouldn't really
want me going onto this.. However the feeling was no longer in my stomach it was lower.. (my private area) I don't know what prompted it but I started rubbing it.. it felt awesome.

I did this for a few times, sometimes all I would have to do is look at
diapers and it would happen. After awhile I was happy with just "looking" at diapers.

For about a year I didn't really know what I was doing or what it was
called. Then I don't know how it came up.. but my mum told me about people who masturbate. This was a few months ago. I have tried to stop but I can't. The urge is too great. Recently I have tried.. just "looking" at diapers then I do not purposely do it and I will slowly stop that.. then read stories about people who are DL's. I really do want to wear diapers.. but I also really don't.

Here is my question: Am I on the right track to stop thinking about
them and for diapers to get out of my head? And should I ask my parents for help or tell them that I have this problem? Or.. if I can fix the problem my-self should I still tell them?


==My Parents==

I have regular brain surgery. I have a medical condition called "Hydrocefilas". My parents love me dearly because of this (they probably would regardless).

We are usually quite open about everything, I often talk to either of
them about girls I like (a.k.a want to go out with). The first time I told them I liked a girl they said they would accept me if I am gay but they are glad I'm straight.

I am straight.

Being a DL is similar to being gay.

So do you think my parents would accept me?*

*the information is semi vague... I think they would accept me but be
slightly disappointed. If you think you may know this answer please say.


A:

Dear Tyler,

From what you have said you have a better than average chance of acceptance from your parents. However parents seem to find it hard to accept their children being DL's or diaper lovers. I can't tell you what to
do but if you do enjoy diapers why do you need to stop? You are hurting no one and you enjoy it.  If you still feel though that it is something you want to stop then you might need to see a therapist. In the end the decisions are yours to make.  They are hard ones but consider all your options. But above all else be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 11

Q:

Dear Mommy,

First Kendra would like to thank you very much for your advice it
is very helpful mommy. I have heard of people wearing two diapers at the same time. So I tried it. The first time with two disposable diapers at the same time the first diaper leaked but the second diaper stayed dry??? the next time I wore a cloth like pullup and a disposable over that and the same results happened?? What am I doing wrong or are others wearing just for thickness?? Thank you mommy,
                             Sissy Potty Girl Kendra

A:

Dear Kendra,

When you wear two diapers together the one thing everyone is forgetting to mention is to cut slits. The inner diaper needs to have slits cut all the way through from front to back about an inch long per cut
spaced around the diaper or just poke holes.  The idea is to allow the wetness to pass through the lining of the first diaper and then have the lining of the second diaper absorb any residual flow.This way if you
are a heavy wetter you have the absorbency of 2 diapers to 'catch' everything and lessen your chances of a leak.  Hope that cleared up any confusion you might of had.  Stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bobbie
Age: 55

Q:

Hi there mommy,

I have worn diapers 24/7 for 55 years. I have spinal bifada occultta. I
have no idea when or where I will pee or poop. You all are all so lucky
you can make potty when you want to. I wish I could do that. I have
pooped when I have been in wal-mart right in the middle of the check out. Or my diapers will leak and there I stand not only in a puddle but my pants are soaked as well. Kids can be very cruel and I can tell you that from my past right up to today. I wear both cloth and disposables and no I don't hide them anymore. If someone sees them they see them. I'm tired of trying to hide them.


A:

Dear Bobbie,

I am sorry you have had it so hard all of these years. It is true people can be cruel concerning what they don't understand.  You do need to do what you must to live your life. I happen to agree with you why should you hide the fact that you have to wear diapers. All they are is fabric around the posterior- which is a definition that also applies to underwear or briefs. It is all the same so why is one more accepted than another? Be proud of who you are and remember you have people who care about you. Stay strong.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Morten
Age: 50

Q:

I want to ask you where to buy the best plastic pant. ( strong and soft and long lasting).


A:

Dear Morten,

There are many excellent products on the market. Depending on what features you are looking for will determine which one is the best fit for you.  On our main site we have a good base of places to start.  I
would suggest asking for sample packs from the various companies and see which one fits you best.  Good luck. The link is:

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Diaper_links.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Mommy I think this forum is great for people exploring their diaper days again. There's something liberating about being dressed in only a diaper and T-shirt.  I have not seen counselor yet, but wish to talk about and explore these feelings.  At least I wouldn't have a problem telling them I wear diapers. So far only this group knows I wear them, but I feel safe behind a fake identity.  Any way, for people who don't know me I'm a baby boy who wears disposable diapers at night for nightly accidents wetting, and messing myself.  I have started unpotty training myself again at night only. (I always start then miss a day and start back at the beginning).  today is a rare occasions where I needed to wear a diaper during the day.  It's still dry for the time being. :) By the way still hard to tell if the medium diapers are a good fit.  Maybe I'm just not use to the diaper bulkiness between my legs.  Mommy if I'm successful in unpotty training at night is it possible that I'll be like a real baby during diaper changes.  Should I cover my pee pee when changing to avoid accidental wettings without a diaper on?  What should I use to cover it? Is there a certain method for covering boys figuring are are anatomy is different from girls? I'm not sure if this is even possible. Please let me know if it's possible, and the tool & best methods. Thanks


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Dear Embarrassed,

I look forward to hearing from you always.  When changing there are a few things to use as a cover if needed- anything from a washcloth to a handtowel will do if you feel it necessary. Boys don't always go when being changed. I am glad that you have found freedom in being diapered - it can be a very liberating experience. If you can't be comfortable and relaxed at home then what is the point? Continue to be happy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Collin Berend
Age: 14

Q:

Hey I need help. I have tried everything to get my mom to let me wear diapers but now she took them for good. I sneak out and buy them. She said that only when she understands my sister understands. But she does not diaper me, and I need a girlfriend that's in the same thing as me. What do I do please help me man. My rest of my family does not understand because they don't know. Only my mom and my sister understand. I mean not my mom, she thinks it's unhealthy.


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Dear Collin,

What you need to do is approach your Mom with facts. Do some research and gather some information. Copy as much information as you can about 'infantilism'. Explain to her it is something you like to do.  Maybe if can sit her down and explain it to her she might listen.  If not- you might have to wait until you are old enough to be on your own. I won't lie to you. Do the research, gather the info and take a shot and see what happens.  I wish you luck- we are all cheering for ya!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kirk
Age: 42

Q:

I have a therapist, she says Im a sex addict and I should stop? Am I a sex addict or can I continue to poop in a diaper?


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Dear Kirk,

Pooping in your diapers has nothing to do with your addiction.  You need to talk more with your therapist about what your options are.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra