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Question Asked By: Tommy
Age: 16

Q:

Hello I have a problem that I want to wear diapers and try it out and see if i like it but I can't really tell my mom because I have never
really wet the bed that she knows of please tell what I could do?


A:

Dear Tommy,

If all you are ofter is to try diapers to see if you like them, I would suggest buying some.  There are different ways to get the money- allowance, job, do odd errands for neighbors, etc.  Purchase a small pack and see if you like them. If there is a time when your parents are away from the house-work, out with friends, church activity- that would be a good time to try them. Of course if you are wetting then you do have a reason to be trying them and that is something you should talk to your Mom about. Hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: DL
Age: 20

Q:

Hi mummy I'm a guy when I was younger I found my mums sanitary towels and I steal some to try on, it felt good I even masterbate with it, it was good also. Now I buy own and still doing this, sometime I buy baby diapers and do the same with it but I pee in it after it am I normal or weird?


A:

Dear dl,

Actually what you are describing is more common than you would think. Some males get very aroused around anything that is female (the feminine products) and also diapers can have the same effect. As to why-who knows. You are hurting no one and as long as you are happy- why stop. So no you are not weird just diaper excited.  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Andy
Age: Unknowen

Q:

I am about to start wearing diapers,  I am wondering what is the best way to lose bladder control so I will wet my diaper. And how can I lossen the mucles in my butt so it will be easyer to make a mess in my diaper.


A:

Dear Babyandy,

I am against any artificial means that forces you to wet/poop.  Working in the medical field I have seen too many projects gone wrong.  The best way to pee- drink alot of fluids and wait. The same applies to pooping.  If you loosen your muscles to poop- what makes you think you can get that control back later? Flash forward- you at the store picking up diapers for your new baby and for you except this time you NEED them to poop in. Just wear your diapers and use them instead of going to the bathroom- that's all.  No magic trick- it's simple.  Stay well and happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dave
Age: 38

Q:

I have always been interested because I was once dressed in a pretty  nightie and panties by a girl who was looking after me. I want my woman to diaper me and dress me in a pretty dress and put me
to bed like a little baby girl but I am afraid she will laugh at me if I ask her. What should I do?


A:

Dear Dave,

You have taken the first step. In order to get what you are after you will need to make posts on AB/DL sites.  We have a friendfinder page and a mommyfinder page.  These can be stating points. A added bonus is while looking for that special someone you will find some new friends with similar interests.  Sounds like a win-win situation to me!  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

Friendfinder: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Directory.html
Mommyfinder: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 23

Q:

Sorry for asking again, as per my last question "what is the best technique for washing wet and soiled cloth diapers," I specifically
meant washing them by hand?


A:

Dear Will,

It is definitely okay to ask questions until you understand. Since you are going to be hand washing you have 2 options 1) wash the diaper when removed or 2) soak in a very dilute water/detergent/bleach mix until you can wash. A mixture of say a gallon of water to 3 tablespoon of soap and 1 tablespoon of bleach. When you are ready to wash , rinse and in a fresh tub of hot soapy water scrub the diapers. There are a few
methods here as well- you can use your hands and just rub the material back and forth agaisnt itself (it's hard to explain but try it) or you can place the diaper on against a board and use a soft scrubbing brush and scrub gently to clean the area.  When done. Rinse thorughly several times.  Use of fabric softener is optional. Then line dry or put in dryer-your choice.  Hope I answered all areas this time.  :) Hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 23

Q:

I live in an apartment complex with only two washing machines,
so aside from the embarassment of carrying an obviously soiled garment down to the basement, there are times when I need to
wash my cloth diapers and just can't.  What is the best method for
washing cloth diapers, keeping in mind that pre-soaking will really stink up my apartment?


A:

Dear Will

In your previous question I had answered you on how to wash your diapers by hand.  May I suggest to you that you purchase a covered diaper pail. Babyfirst puts out an excellent one- it costs under $15 and is sold at Walmart(US).  It will hold the cleaning liquid and any odors in.  It is also excellent for holding disposables till trash day. A double duty item.  Just a little tip. Stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Will
Age: 20

Q:

I enjoy using my diapers for both intended purposes when the
need to be discrete is minimal and I feel that clean-up won't be too
bad; this however, leads to a lot of wasted diapers since I sometimes have to take off an unused or slightly used diaper to have a bowel movement in the toilet.  Can you offer any tips for cleaning up big messes so that I can avoid wasting diapers?  Also, I've tried and I don't believe there is such a thing as a "refastenable tape."


A:

Dear will,

The only good way to clean up a big mess is to shower or at least step in a tub and use a hand-held sprayer and hose off. It's hard to reach the terrain in back otherwise and cleanliness is essential. Unfortunately what you are asking about is everyone's problem. Unless you are wearing a product with velcro, pins or snaps you are out of luck. I know a friend who actually duct tapes his diapers- hey they get
expensive and if you can get a few more hours out of them do so. If you are slender you might be able to slip them down to use the toilet and slip them back up but then you have to ask how secure are they on you to begin with? There are diapers with some good velcro-ish style tapes you just need to sample and find one that fits your lifestyle.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Red: 38

Q:

My wife and I, was talking on the phone one day and she said I should put a diaper on u so I double dared her to. So she said she would and, said I would be a cute baby so. I go along with that so what do u think of that?


A:

Dear Red,

I personally think it's great.  As a couple you are always looking for ways to spice things up.  No better way than playing roles! Actually when you think about it- it could be alot of fun! Enjoy each others company and stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By : Cody
Age: 14

Q:

I know already that there are many other people who have an
interest in diapers. I am now trying to move on in my life from them. I
had snuck diapers occasionally from time to time untill I outgrew them
last year. I know I still like them, but I feel I need to move on or  something that I don't want to happen will. But to move on, I have to be
able to be unaffected anymore by diapers. It was an emotional attachment I had to them, as from the time I was 8 to the time I was 13 I was bullied relentlessly by schoolmates. My mother knew about that, what she didn't know was that I had started wearing diapers as an emotional release. I was always too afraid to ask her as I don't know what she would do. If you would like more information, please email
me and I'll get back to you.


A:

Dear Cody,

You are right there are many people who wear diapers and many reasons why they wear them.  I am glad that for you the reasons seem to have lessened. There can sometimes be situations in life that can be hard to deal with. We all have to find ways to handle it.  In your case the diapers seemed to have helped. Like I said I am glad that you are moving forward. I wish you well.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 33

Q:

Good morning mommy.

It's one of your little boys agian. I hate diaper changes on a cold
mornings, but the smell and sagginess of the diaper tells me I need to
get out of this wet diaper. I just hope it's not a loaded gun if you know
what I mean.:-) So far it just smells wet. Any way got a two part
question.  The first ones quick. Last night I slept in my diaper with my
onsie over it.  When changing should I remove remove the onsie entirely or should I just unsnap the crotch and remove the diaper?  How do most mommies handle this type of change?  I figure the snap crotch is to make it easier to change without removing my clothes, right?  Secondly, when unpotty training why is it our bodies may have accidents durring the day when we only use the diapers at night for wetting and messing accidents?  Most kids that have bed wetting problems don't have this problem, why do we?  Well got to get changed.  I just hope I don't have a loaded diaper, wish me luck!:-) Hugs and Kisses!     


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

I hope all went well with your change.  :)  The onesies serve 2 purposes. The snaps in the crotch are to make it easier to change the diaper but the other function of onesies is to keep the child's stomach
covered all warm and snuggly.  If you have ever seen a baby their t-shirts are always riding up- so someone decided to put snaps in the crotch so the tummy can stay warm in the cooler months. To change with a onesie- I would unsnap and push up the fabric above the waist line (just in case there is any mess) and clean and change as normal then resnap.  As for the daytime accidents- that  can be due to many reasons.  One I think is as adults we have years of conditioning
ingrained into us a child doesn't.  Also a child that is bedwetting at night is wetting usually for only a few reasons.  As adults we are choosing to do this and that is a horse of another color-we are just bucking agaisnt the whole psyche. Our minds get over and cooperate eventually.  We end up happy but our upbringing likes to get in the way.

-Hugs and kisses back to ya!
Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 33

Q:

Happy Holidays Mommy!

Mommy it looks like my diaper days are far from over.  I am stripped down to yet another wet, and smelly diaper.  From the looks of my disposable it looks like it was hit by the hoover dam.  At least the dam held! :-)  Any way before this little boy get's changed and showered this morning I wanted to ask you two things.  Ones more of a curious question than anything else.  It's a hypothetical question.  Your more open to the AB idea than most people.  Heck we hide our need for diapers from the outside world, and yes it is a need.  I'll leave the second part for another post.  Here's the question.  Im not sure how old you son is, since you have mentione him to me, but what if he told you he wanted to wear diapers agian?  Realistically how would you react if he is old enough not to need them?  How would his father react?  Just curious really!  Secondly, seeing how I wet multiple times during the  night, you can understand that I'm in a wet diaper until morning.  When I get up I you usually strip off the diaper and shower.  After my shower I can use my big boy pants.  Is it important to treat my diaper area after the shower?  If so how? Well time to get changed, and out of this wet diaper. Thanks.  


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

I am open about alot of things. I love my son and if he came to me and said he wanted to date palm trees- okay I would be concerned but I would still love him.  He is 21 by the way and his father is very judgmental and did not understand his wetting when he was younger.  If my son said he wanted to wear diapers it would not bother me in the least.  I mean for goodness sakes, come on, what is the big deal- it is only fabric! And as for the second part of your question- treat your diaper area after a shower the same as after a diaper change- dry and use a powder or cream/lotion.  It might be out of a diaper for a while
but it still needs the care and protection. Actually even if you don't wear a diaper it wouldn't hurt to lotion your posterior once in a while- your skin would love it.  Be happy.

-Megahugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon
Age: 35

Q:

Hi Mommy,

I have a question. Lately I have been curious about diapers myself. I've been wondering about how to tell Amber. Should I just ask her if I could try one of her diapers on? I feel wierd about it and wonder how she will take it. Is it strange to be curious? I guess since Amber checks this site this may be the way I break it to her. Wish me luck.


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Dear Jon,

I see no reason why you shouldn't try wearing for yourself. Try it you might like it. It just might add another dimension to your relationship and further deepen it.  And Amber if your reading this- let him try some of your diapers.  It looks like a win-win situation from here.  Good luck to you both.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ron
Age: 35

Q:

I am looking for an adult baby mommy in bullhead city. Do you know of  anyone out here or can you help me find a club that meets? I would love to find someone to take care of me please help me Ron.


A:

Dear Ron,

We can't find you a mommy.  That is a matter of personal chemistry between 2 people.  However on our main site we do have a mommy finder.  It is a directory of mommies, daddies and babysitters broken down by state. It is an excellent place to start your search. We also have a friend finder set up the same way- another place to perhaps make that connection.  I wish you luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

Here are the links

mommyfinder:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

friendfinder:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Directory.html

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 33

Good morning Mommy!

It's yet another droopy diaper morning.  I was wandering what
constitutes a heavy wetter. I'm a little boy who wets routinely. Most wetting accidents that I have at night ussually fills the front side, and a little of the back of the diaper.  What's the characteristics of a heavy wetter? If you wet multiple times during the night can you be considered a heavy wetter?  The reason I'm asking is, becuase I'm trying to define my inner child.  Also if I wear diapers only at night, and have wetting accidents, and some messing accidents, how old do you think that makes my inner child? You think he's too old to be in diapers? Well I need to get changed, and showered.  I hope Santa brings me my diapers for Christmas!:-) Ho! Ho! Ho! Thanks, Emabarassed.


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Dear Embarrassed,

A heavy wetter is usually one that fills their diaper to capacity routinely.  Not necessarily overflowing but pretty much saturated. This can be accomplished in multiple tries or in one marathon pee. According to your description if you were an actual child you would probably be in the age range of 2-4. It is really depends on the child. One of my children potty-trained by 19 months and another regressed and wasn't properly trained till past 3. So let your inner toddler be the
age they want to be. Stay happy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 24

Q:

Yes, I was wondering what is the best way to put on a disposable diaper by myself.


A:

Dear Andy,

You need to lay down and lift up your hips. Proceed to put the diaper under your hips pulling the back up until it is underneath your buttocks.  You can then lay back down. At this point I would apply whatever items you use whether it be lotion/powder or cream. You then proceed to bring all the sides together and join together tightly. Pull extra tightly because when you stand up there will be a relaxing of the muscles and the diaper will give and have room. I hope thishelps. Happy diapering!

-Hugs sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 24

Q:

I am wondering if it is safe for an adult baby to eat baby food constently. I mean for every meal for a term of time. Like 3 months. He will also have regular food every now and then.


A:

Dear Andy,

An adult can eat baby food but the nutrients in it are not enough.  An adult would need to supplement with adult food, vitamins and/or liquid nutritional drinks.  You can make an adult meal and 'process' it somewhat to make it babyish. You like Steak with a baked potato- okay shred the meat with gravy and mash the potato.  That's a baby-like meal but the adult is getting the proper nutrients. Just a thought. Stay
well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarassed
Age: 33

Q:

Good morming mommy!

I going to make this quick since as usual I have a soggy diaper on
this morning.  Mommy I'm a baby boy who wets and messes at night as I have told you before.  I always wake up wet, not necesarily messy. Since I wear my diapers for my night time accidents only, and where big boy pants during the day should I be concerned about diaper rash?  I never got it yet, but now that I'm back in diapers for the long hual can I continue to avoid it?  What should I look for physically, and what are the symptoms?  I use protection. I have Balmex just in case it shows up, and use vaseline on my posterior during my diaper change.  Any words of wisdom would help?


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Dear Embarrassed,

That is an excellent question. If you wear diapers you are always at risk to get a rash.  The only way to prevent one is to keep your posterior as clean as possible.  Clean well between changes- you said you use vaseline, that's good. The first signs of a rash are redness of the skin and discomfort in the area- attend to it immediately.  Once the symptoms start within hours you will have a blood-red painful sore.
If you see the redness use the Balmex and stop the rash in its tracks. Diaper rash is technically a chemical burn- you want no part of it. So continue what you are doing and stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Julia
Age: 34

Q:

I have an 8 year old son and I caught him in his room wearing a diaper and he actually pooped in it. I asked him if he wanted to wear
diapers and he said yes. I don't know what to make of this. Should I
let him wear diapers or not?


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Dear Julia,

It can ge quite unsettling to see your 8 year old in a diaper and then for him to say he likes to wear it. Should you let him wear them? Well why not? Let's examine this for a moment.  He gets some form of comfort from them- most likely a leftover feeling of love and warmth from when he was a baby. He's not hurting anyone wearing a diaper. They are not hazardous to his health in any way. I am not seeing any negatives here. Talk with your son and find out what it is he likes about the diapers.  But in the meantime let him be happy especially since he's not harming himself or anyone else. Stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Age: 26

Q:

This is my first time ever talking to anyone about this but here goes.  I was just wondering if you have any advice on how about going to tell your wife that you are into diapers and wetting when she has no clue?  What is the best way with out her being Mad or think you are just sick and wrong.  I have felt like this for quite sometime and can not get rid of the feeling.  However I love my wife and do not want to lose her.  Please write me back.  Thanks.


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Dear Unknown,

There are no magic words to say to make her understand.  Only you know your wife.  Is she  an understanding person? Does she have an open mind? Then she might be able to accept this if you sit her down and explain it all to her and how you feel about it.  But if you know her to be judgmental and close-minded then there is nothing I can tell you to make her see it from your perspective. You need to think long and hard about whether this is something you are willing to share with her.  If she loves you, she should at least be willing to sit and listen. I know of some member's wives who are not into 'it' but allow their husbands to have 'diaper time' on the weekends or some other arrangement. Perhaps if she objects you could discuss a scenario like that- just a
thought.  In any case think on what I said. Think over your options and I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 11

Q:

Dear mommy,

  Since I diaper myself should I use baby lotion before my baby powder or baby oil before my powder? Both oil and lotion are hard to apply because then it is hard to tape my diaper and the tapes wont stick, but I like all the baby smells. And do you think when I wet my training panties I should be spanked or have time out in the corner with my wet panties pulled down?
                         
Thank You Mommy,
                                  Sissy Kendra


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Dear Kendra,

Simple fix for the tape issue.  When i was changing my babies diapers I always had a little washcloth handy. When you finish oiling/lotioning (is that a word?) and powdering I wipe my hands on the washcloth before taping the diaper closed.  Problem solved!  As for
wetting the training pants I never punished for wetting training pants because they were training pants- you were in them to learn so mistakes were expected.  But if someone were to punish I would only
do a few minutes in the corner and not in a wet diaper (don't need diaper rash).  Be happy!

-Hugs Sandra