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Question Asked By: Michael
Age: 22

Q:

I grew up bedwetting so I wore diapers but I grew out of it. I now wear diapers for fun and as my toilet. I have a girlfriend who accepts me for wearing diapers. But she thinks it's gross that I pee and poop in them. She thinks excreting our wastes is nasty and should be done privately. But I don't want to use the toilet as I enjoy using my
diapers. So I end up going around her and she'll get mad and she wishes that I quit. What should I do?


A:

Dear Michael,

You have some serious thinking to do.  You need to evaluate how important your girlfriend is in your life and then you and her need to have a conversation. Perhaps the two of you could reach a compromise of some sort. Perhaps weekend wearing only- just a
thought. If it really bothers her you need to find out why.  Open the 'floor' and really discuss it.  I hope you both can come to a meeting of the minds and work out a solution that works for both of you.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amber
Age: 33

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I am Jon's girlfriend and I want to say thank you for helping me and my boyfriend with your advice. Jon is changing me like a pro but he still has a little trouble when I'm messy. My diaper rash cleared up finally and I'm happy I don't have to use Desitin on my bottom
anymore. I'm having problems with my diaper chafing around my legs
though and I still have times when it hurts when I walk. Jon has noticed
that when he takes my diaper off there are red marks where the elastics go around my legs. Will baby powder help? Also I'm wondering are there any diaper pails that work for adult diapers? We are using a garbage pail and my bedroom can get pretty stinky. Finally, will wearing diapers all the time cause infections in my feminine area.


A:

Dear Amber,

I am glad the rash is clearing. The chafing can be a problem.  You can try using a light application of Balmex- it is more like a lotion unlike Desitin which is a balm. Also powder can help somewhat with the
chafing.  it is always a god idea to give your 'derriere' some air time and not be in the diaper 24/7. Do try to air things out (so to speak) for a
little while to keep things healthy.  I do know of an excellent diaper pail by Safety first it is a fairly good size and can hold adult diapers.  Might I also suggest perhaps one of those stick on air fresheners or as a friend of mine uses scented garbage bags (which he uses in the diaper pail I mentioned). I hope these suggestions help.  Stay happy and rash free!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steven
Age: 14

Q:

I want to order free sample diapers online, but am afraid my parents will get them before I, how could I increase my chances of getting them before they can, should I just not order them? I'm afraid they will find them and think I'm a freak or something.

PS: I get home from school at 3 PM or so if that helps.


A:

Dear Steven,

There are many excellent diaper companies that have sample packs that they will mail to you.  However none of them are free.  They all have a fee. The prices range from $2 US on up per diaper. So a sample pack of 6 diapers could be $12. They do run specials from time
to time but you would have to be on the lookout . You also can't always guarantee when they will deliver the package.  The only sure way is to have it delivered to another address- a trusted friend or relative. You
should go online and investigate some more and see what you can find.  I hope you find something that fits your needs.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Trey
Age: 13

Q:

Can you help me I have a problem? I want my parents to put me back into diapers 24/7. They don't know I like them though I use them at night because I wet the bed. If you could please help me to find ways to tell them.


A:

Dear Trey,

I am assuming that your parents know about your wetting and are alright with it.  It is difficult for parents to understand that you might actually like to wear the diapers. Only you know what their mind is
like.  Are they the kind of people who are open minded?  If they are then maybe they might understand. But if you know they are not- then you know they will not be open to this idea.  And there will be no words
that could make them understand. As much as you would like for them to accept it they might not. So think very carefully and very long and hard before you say anything. It can be hard to want something and not get it. Sometimes getting a little is better than getting nothing.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: 30

Q:

Hey I have a new girlfriend who likes to wear diapers. She asked me to change her. I want to do it right so how do I clean her private parts? I want to clean her good so I can keep doing it.


A:

Dear John,

It is wonderful that you and your girlfriend wish to share your 'baby-ism' together. It is always important to keep the diaper area clean especially for a female. To avoid infections it is important when cleaning to wipe from front to back. NEVER back to front. If there is any fecal matter and you wipe from the back to the front it could cause a potentially serious infection in the urinary and/or gynecological tracts. So remember always FRONT TO BACK- wipe FRONT TO BACK. I hope you and your girlfriend stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babygirl
Age: 30

Q:

Hi I'm Babygirl. I love wearing diapers but it started at a punishment.
I had to wear the diaper all day. No dress, just a diaper. I pee and poop in it. But I had to wear it. If I changed it I would have to wear it for 5 days. I got shackies and handcuffs behind my back and I had to stand in the corner, but I loved it. Now I ask to be punished. I love to be standing in the corner in a diaper. I go outside in my diapers and they make fun of it. Am I sick? What do do. Help.


A:

Dear Babygirl,

What you are describing is called 'diaper discipline'. Some parents believe that to put their child back to being a baby they can reset them like how you can reset a machine. Well as you can see in your case you ended up liking the diapers themselves. You are not weird or strange at all.  What parents who use this form of punishment fail to realize is that they are touching on a person's 'most loved' zone.  In our
lives there is only one time when we are guaranteed unconditional love and acceptance- as an infant.  You 'baby' a person you are putting them right back into that comfort zone. Hey would you want to leave? So
parents who use this method usually end up with AB adult children. Even though your punishment had some unusual aspects to it-it still gave you a sense of routine.  Don't be ashamed of what you like.  There is nothing wrong with it.  It would be no different than you liking to wear a certain designer or liking your hair a certain way. It is a lifestyle choice and nothing more. So be happy in who you are and hold your
head up high. You rock!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Babyboy
Age: 7 1/2

Q:

About a year ago my sister a night when the babysitter was there before mom got home my sitter said it would be nice to play house so the babysitter said it was ok. So my sitter said in house who the baby my sister said that I was so I went with it just for play and my sister got out a diaper from the one my mom got her for her dolls which I thought that they cannot fit me and might have to use tape.  But it fit like a glove. It felt like a nice but nosier and they told me that when I have go potty it. I would be in the diaper and they would change me. I thought this is nice. And after the third diaper in the living room where they change my diaper. I was wearing a bib, a bonnet on my head and had a pacifier on the bib, drinking the baby bottle that had milk in it and the diaper was full of poop and pee when they were removing the diaper mom came out in to the living room and said "do my baby need more diapers". My sister and I was scared to reply and kept the bottle in my mouth while the talked my sister said yes my brother need more baby diapers and food so the babysitter said he wet him self so they thought to dress me as and baby me like a baby to get me to not mind wearing diapers and mom said well since baby didn't say anything now he will be a baby that will be treaded as a baby and I will decide when he will be a big boy. In the mean time the crib need to be put up the baby sitter said I have a baby high chair for your baby, she then return clean me and and put a diaper on me and got a fresh bottle. Mom said do you have any baby milk the babysitter said yes and it been 9 months and still sleep in the baby crib and treated as a baby but my sitter it here know, please tell me is it ok for the spot where mom gets her milk from for baby at my age is ok since the babysitter is the one how is giving me milk for the past 3 months because I like being the baby and the attention like they say to other little baby. Is it ok if mom says it ok. My sister is 12 years old.


A:

Dear Babyboy,

You seem to be living every AB's fantasy. If everyone is an adult and all are agreeable as to what is happening then yes it is quite alright. So diaper on and let the diaper pins tinkle!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 32

Q:

Good morning mommy.

Well winter is here, and I have to admit a warm diaper(disposable) on these cold mornings are a nice comfort, that we babies(baby boy) can only experience.  Even though it's wet it still feels nice, and warm while it hugs my body.  The only reason I'm still in a wet diaper is because I haven't pooped yet this morning, and I figured I would give it a little more time so I don't waste 2 diapers.  I would hate to get re-diapered this morning and then all of sudden have a messing accident, and then have to get re-diapered again,especially in a cold room.  Does that make sense? 

Even though it's cold outside I still need to go out and pick up some
formula today so I can have a nice warm bottle before bed, or my nap. 
Any way that's beside the point right now.  Here's a few other  questions.  What should I use baby oil for?  Is it used on the diapered area? What's it's use, and application?  Secondly, some night's I'm a fussy baby.  What's a good method to help put a baby boy like me to sleep?  Last question.  I use petroleum jelly to prevent diaper rash.  Since this is a barrier against wetness, and it comes into contact
with the absorbent material from my body, is it possible that it will create a barrier on the absorbent material, and cause  leaking?  Well I guess it's time to changed, bathed, and re-diapered.  It's going to be cold after my diaper comes off, but it has to done. Best wishes embarrassed.
     

A:

Dear Embarrassed,

There is nothing better than being all snug and curled up in bed is there? Baby oil is a general all over skin moisturizer. The best way to use it is right after a hot bath to rub it all over- you get all soft and smell like a newborn baby. It can be used in the diaper area. To put babies to sleep- the old standard warm milk and a hot bath in lavender. That herb has a soothing and calming affect and can put you to sleep. Petroleum jelly can cause a problem with diaper material.  It is an excellent barrier if thoroughly rubbed in so as to not interfere with the lining of the diaper you are wearing. I hope I have shed some light on the subjects. Nice to hear from you as always. Stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cris
Age: 19

Q:

My new boy friend agreed to start treating me like a baby on the
weekends that he comes to visit me at school. I was wondering what the best AB websites are to buy supplies and what kind of laxatives will help with bowel loss. Also what are the best brands of baby food and formula mix baby wipes and pacifiers.

thank you cris


A:

Dear Cris,

A lot of what you are asking is really a matter of taste and is really up to you.  There are A lot of really good companies out there and your best bet is to sample what they have and see what you like.  As far as laxative use being a nurse I never endorse using it.  Many have used it only to regret it later having lost total control.  If you wish to 'poop'
don't worry your body will accommodate you all you have to do is wait. As for the sites out there like I said there are many good ones, you will need to look around. I will give you a starting point but the rest is up to you .  Good luck.

http://www.diaperconnection.com/?BedWettingABDL

http://deeker.com/links.html#adult

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 44

Q:

Dear mommy,

Most people in our society do not accept us (the diaper community) but I have noticed quite a bit of the community growing larger. Especially with teens. My feeling is that diapers of course are really a part of everyone's life at some point. They are nothing to be ashamed of they are just another garment. Difference being you use diapers (or some do) to use the bathroom. Big deal. Not one person who has accidentally seen my diaper sticking out of my clothes (or my panties for that matter) has ever approached me and said anything negative. At most I hear comments like "look he's wearing a diaper" or just giggles and laughs. Which actually excites me, but that's just me. Do you think
people in general are becoming more acceptable to us. Or is there just
more important things to worry about in our cruel world?? I love this
page and visit every single day.

                     sissy potty girl Kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

You do bring up a good point. I think it a combination of both. For one thing with wars and bombings and so on so you see a guy in a diaper how amusing and that is the end of it. Also America is aging.  The baby boom generation is getting older.  Use to be the majority of Americans were young and the minority were old. Now its the majority are old and the minority are young.  Medicine is getting better and we are living longer. Living long enough to have to wear diapers. So the tide is shifting so to speak.  All of a sudden you see all these commercials for wetness protection. In the past no one talked about how grandma/pa had little accidents.  I think people are becoming more
tolerant. Now if they would only make a better product like they do for infants we'd be set!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Mommy I'm scared, but I got to go out  in my nighttime diaper.  It is a very bulky disposable, and I'm worried my loose jeans won't hide the bulk, especially my back side. I was feeling tired so I had to put it on in case I fell asleep.  Now I need to go out. Can't take it off now since that's a waste of money. Diapers are not cheap. Plus I'm not a big boy, so big boy pants are out of the question. :-( I usually just slide my jeans over my diaper. Always avoided going out with a bulky diaper on.  I would be totally embarrassed if someone notices my diaper.  What can I do in this situation? 

I also have a question about these diapers.  My size is on the lower
half of the diaper size.  They always feel a little roomy in the crotch and the backside some what. They seem to fit around the waste without a problem. I notice the back side pad goes past my butt crack by about an inch. I figure there needs to be some room to make it easier to poop. Does this sound right?

Secondly when putting a diaper on is there a proper way to fluff a
disposable. I mean their all prepackaged and folded. Should I do
something before diapering myself? Well I better go.  I don't want to have an accident in public.  Wish me luck.

Embarrassed


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Your diapers should fit snug without being tight. There should not be too much over hang.  A little is okay for maneuvering around but you shouldn't have a lot of room there. There really isn't any procedure
to putting on a diaper. Just remember to either powder or cream as a moisture barrier (we want no rashes here).  Just fit it as snug as you can to your body. I hope all went well for you. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gerry
Age: 24

Q:

First I hope that you can read my english because I can't write perfect, I'm from Belgium and I wonder my of it exists also in sint-niklaas (9100) is here also a place to meet I girl? special for ab/dl?


A:

Dear Gerry,

There are definitely girls out there for you.  The only problem is finding them.  We have started a penpal list perhaps you could end up hearing about someone in your area who is AB/DL. You never know.  I wish you luck. In the meantime see if there are any sites near you that might have a penpal base. Our friend finder is :
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Directory.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Todd
Age: 21

Q:

Hi I was wondering where I could find a mommy to talk to just
online?


A:

Dear Todd,

On our main site we have a mommy finder.  You can contact a few and see which one is right for you.  The site is:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html
I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 34

Q:

I would like to say good morning, but the little boy in me is sad, because it's another wet morning.  He just can't get out of wearing diapers at night no matter how hard he tries.  I guess I shouldn't rush him, what do you think? :-) Last time I wrote I was asking about how do you know when your diaper is too big.  I wish the diaper companies would mark them like baby diapers with the weight.  Your answer was a little vague so I will provide a little more information.  I wear a disposable large Abri form x-plus diaper.  The large is I think a 39 inch waist to 52 inch waist. I think I'm a 38, but am not sure if I'm measuring right.  How do I measure my waist correctly? Should the measuring tape come over my belly button since the diaper covers my belly button?  Where do I exactly measure? Is it ok to for it to be a little on the big side?  Do mothers ever buy diapers that may be a little big?  How do they handle it?  Is there any consequences to wearing a big diaper?  Please help so I can buy the right diaper for the little boy inside me who still needs to wear them.  Well time to change out of this wet diaper.  Thanks.     


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Actually what you are describing is a very common problem. There are a lot of things we wish the diaper companies would do like the baby diaper companies-sigh. Back on topic-for the waist you need to measure around your waist (roughly where the tops of your pants would be) And for the question of roominess- some babies like to use stuffers or inserts and need the room so that is a matter of preference.
But make sure there is not too much room or you could end up swimming! But I do agree with you it would be nice if the companies also provided a more accurate scale of sizing on the diapers. Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amber
Age: 33

Q:

Dear Mommy,

Thanks for the advice, the Balmex is working and I found a great
diaper pail at Babys R Us called the Diaper Champ. Something
embarrassing happened at the drugstore last night. I went in for a
new tube of Balmex and a few things when I felt a trickle down my leg. I didn't know what to do. I felt like everyone in the store could tell I
had a leaky diaper. I didn't bring my diaper bag with me because I
couldn't carry it with the shopping basket while carting my oxygen tank
around. I ended up picking up a few store ads to cover my car seat while I rode home in a squishy diaper. Do they make plastic panties that fit over adult diapers to protect against leaks?


A:

Dear Amber,

They have all sorts of products that would be a help to you.  They do have adult size plastic pants up to size 54" waist. You could even purchase chair size wetness protectors for that surprise leak and the list goes on. I am so glad that the Balmex is working for you. Be well.
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Diaper_links.html  This is the link from our main site to some of the major on-line retailers. Check them out.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anne
Age: 38

Q:

My husband seems to have a thing for diapers. I found photos on his laptop and in the basement I found a bag of depends cloth diapers and plastic pants his size. Do you think he is seeing someone who is into this or what? I want to come out and ask him but he has been
hiding it from me for at least 3 years. I have looked at some sites on
the net and not sure what to do. I don't want to upset him but this upsets me. I would love to play with him but I don't want him to feel like I spy on him. We have a good life. What would be a good way for me to start this? Thank You    

Anne


A:

Dear Anne,

It is commendable that you wish to share your husband's  desires with him. He has most likely been trying to think of a way to bring it up to you. One possible approach could be this.  They have a lot of shows coming out with episodes dealing with this topic.  You could talk to him and say something like "I saw a talk show today and they were talking about people who wear diapers.  They call themselves AB's. It seems interesting.  What do you think?" It might be a way to put it out there for discussion in a non-threatening way. Above all else let him know you
love him and only want to share your life with him. We all can use some love.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Diaper Dreamer
Age: 20

Q:

I am very good at wetting my pants but I have have trouble
pooping my pants.  What is the best way to poop your pants without laxatives and enemas?


A:

Dear Diaper dreamer,

The only natural way to poop your pants is to just poop your pants.  Wear your diapers and use them instead of going to the bathroom. I never recommend using any artificial means to have yourself go
(laxatives, enemas etc.). They can have lasting damaging effects. Be happy and stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby
Age: 18

Q:

I need to know where I can find a mommy close by that will take care of my special needs. This is a very secretive fetish of mine and I don't want friends or family to find out. I live in Philadelphia pa 19149 I
don't have a credit card and cannot find a mommy website please help I can't take being alone anymore. Thank you


A:

Dear Baby,

You are not alone. You should never feel alone there are many of us out here who love the same things as you. On our main site we have a mommy finder and a directory- all sorted by area. Check them out- you just might find your next best friend! Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

Mommy link  http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

Friend link
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/AB_DL_Directory.html

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 13

Q:

I wear diapers 24/7 I have all my life. I have had diaper rash for the
last 8 months are their any homemade remedies for it? I have a problem
with my excretion system where by the time I know I have to go I'm
going. After I go in my diaper sometimes it can take up to 7 hours before I can get my mommy, sister or my nanny to change me. When I poop my pants after a while the poop gets around to my front side. The poop gets into my pubic hair. Should I start shaving my pubic hair? Do most TB, DL, and AB shave their pubic hair?


A:

Dear Chris,

First off- to cure your rash problem- at 13 you should be able to change and clean yourself.  This way you don't have to wait on anyone.  If the situation is that you are unable to do so then you need to tell
your parents that you need to be changed more often! The only way to clear up the rash is frequent changes and thorough cleaning. Use of a good cream (Balmex, Desitin, A&D) and corn starch powder. And even a
little 'air' time- leave your derriere bare to let the skin recover a bit. Now the next point- should you shave your pubic area. For most it is a matter of preference. For those that do they find the clean up a lot easier. A word though- do not shave the area just trim down real close.  The reason being if you shave the hair will itch growing back in- a little
embarrassing trying to explain the wiggling in your seat. I hope I have given you some help. Stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mason
Age: 7

Q:

Do girls pee and poop like boys?


A:

Dear Mason,

All human beings- girls and boys, go poop and pee. The only difference is girls sit down all the time in the bathroom and boys sit down only some of the time.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 13

Q:

When I poop my pants after a while the poop gets around to my front side. The poop gets into my pubic hair. Should I start shaving my pubic hair? Do most TB, DL, and AB shave their pubic hair?


A:

Dear Chris,

It is a matter of preference whether to shave your pubic area or not.  For those that do they find it easier to clean up. Be sure to just trim close and not shave all the way to avoid itching when the hair starts to grow back.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kerrie
Age: 25

Q:

I am a mother of 3 children and live with my boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend are both AB's but we also take turns looking after each other and sometimes we role-play together as two babies.

These things only happen at night when all children are asleep or
during the day only when they are staying with members of our family's

We are very happy together and feel very lucky that we have found each other. We are comfortable with both our roles as either the babies or the caretaker. my question is...

If we are happy and our baby-life has no impact on anybody else (which it doesn't) is it ok that we continue with this, nearly every night,
but some nights we go out like adult couples, we have a separate sex
life, and also loves to just fall asleep together as our adult selves too,
everything in moderation, this is ok? we are sure it is but just would
like to be reassured. is there such thing as too much baby time? or is
what I have described above sounding realistic?

We have both been AB's for a long time separately but have been together as AB/caretaker for quite a while too, its something we both see as part of our lives.

Our children have very happy lives and we have good
relationships with them, my boyfriend has a good job and I am a full time mum.


A:

Dear Kerrie,

You need to face facts- you have the best of both worlds! Of course it's alright. I think it's fantastic that you found someone to share your life and your AB side.  Like you said- you don't involve the children
and you harm on one. Is it too much? How much is too much? When you have had enough- then you rest and then start again. You are doing okay.  Live your life and stay happy! We're all smiling for ya!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dry mornings are a thing of the past mommy. At least my diaper protects my sheets for the most part. However sometimes I'm not so lucky. :-( I'll try to make this quick since I better get changed! I'm a little embarrassed to ask this question, but it may help other baby boys,and new mothers caring for them.  First off I wear a thick night time disposable diaper. When I was putting on my diaper last night, to put it mildly, my pee pee had to be positioned pointing towards the top of the diaper. Sometimes that happens to boys. This could cause all kinds of problems if we fall asleep this way, and have a night time accident. Waking up to wet sheets in the the winter is never any fun, especially if your wearing your diaper and it's the middle of the night. Since my disposable comes past my belly button I fold the extra plastic down, and tuck into the diaper to act like a splash guard. I have heard that it will act as a leak guard in case a boy wets while he is sleeping with his pee pee pointing towards the top of the diaper. Do you think this a true statement, or did somebody make it up? Hope you can answer this, it could prove helpful tip to some of us.           


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

It is true that the top of the diaper folded over can act like a splash guard. However it all depends on where the pee pee is pointing. To put it delicately if the shooting end is pointed under the flap then the splash guard will be effective but if pointed just a little too far the other way- well you might as well as tucked him outside the diaper because you have a fountain. And it true this can happen with newborns- my infant son was notorious for keeping 'straight' for his Dad. All you can do is try to coax it sideways a little to keep leaking to a minimum.  Hope some of this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jonathan T
Age: 12

Q:

I was wondering any advice on how to get my mom to force me into diapers?


A:

Dear Jonathan,

As much as you would love to be in diapers if your Mom is not willing to do it there is nothing you can say that would change her mind.  This is something your Mom would want to do and if it is not, I don't really see how you can talk her into it. You could try to talk to her and see where her mind is.  If she is not there- you might have to wait until you are over 18 and can make your own choices.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Col
Age: 13

Q:

Are there any home remedies for diaper rash?


A:

Dear Col,

The best remedy is prevention. You need to change often and clean and dry thoroughly. Once a rash has happened however you need to sooth the skin. If you can't get any sort of rash cream- leaving the skin
bare to get some oxygen, using a soothing lotion such as a Vaseline or a baby oil to calm the burning sensation. But most important keep clean and dry and open to the air as much as possible to heal.  When in
diapers or underwear use cornstarch powder to keep things dry and chaffing to a minimum.  Hope these tips help. Feel better quick.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Col
Age: 13

Q:

Are cloth diapers ( with plastic pants ) or disposable diapers more likely  to cause diaper rash?


A:

Dear Col,

Neither cloth nor disposables are more likely to cause diaper rash.  The reason someone gets a rash is because they 1) had the diaper on for too long 2) didn't wash thoroughly the last diaper change 3)
neglected to use some sort of skin protection- such as powder or a lotion/cream. You can use both styles of diapers and be rash free.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris L.
Age: 13

Q:

Dear Mommy,

    Me and my (boy)friend are looking for a babysitter and want to
know were to find one.


A:

Dear Chris,

On our main site we have a directory set up by area. Hope you can find someone nearby.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

The link is :
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 10

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I was wondering if I am diapering myself right. I open up my diaper and lay on top of it. I then bring my knees up and adjust my diaper so it is even. I pull the front of the diaper up between my legs still adjusting so it is the right length in front and back. Here is the tricky part. I tuck my small wee wee so it is pointing down between my legs then pull the front of the diaper up snug and tight and tape one side at a time. The problem is when I am laying down in bed at night my diaper is usually
already a little wet. I tend to lay on my side some where during the night and when I wet some more I find in the morning I have leaked. I wear an excellent nighttime diaper that absorbs well, should I re-adjust my wee wee before bedtime??? Or maybe plastic panties??? Do only sissies and boy's have this problem and not girls? Thank you for your advice.

          sissy potty diaper girl,
                         Kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

This is a very common problem.  You are not alone. You can try to snug the diaper up as tight as you can but there can still be some leakage. Another tactic is to try using a diaper stuffer/extender. These are long pads of absorbent material made specifically to boost the absorbency of a diaper. Also try using a mattress protector and of course the old tried and true plastic pants. You might wet overnight but with all of these safeguards your nightwear and bedding should be dry. I wish you luck.  Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: M.G
Age: 36

Q:

My Daughter Is 11 and she is contently wetting her pants. What should I do?


A:

Dear M.G.,

The first thing I would do is to take her to a doctor to make sure there is no medical reason for the wetting. Then I would take it from there- either treating a condition or finding out why she is wetting.  In either case she would need understanding and above all else for you to listen and be there for her. Always remember to love her and be accepting. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Josh
Age: 14

Q:

Hello, I am Josh and I am 14. I wet the bed until I was 8, and had to wear goodnights during that time. I kind of liked the goodnights, but it was so embarrassing to be around anybody in them. I eventually grew out of it. Now I'm 14 and this entire last week I have woken up wet! One night I even woke up messy. I feel like such a baby! I've tried everything: alarms, fluid reduction, and medicine.  Nothing will work.  The doctor says I will "Grow out of it".  Are diapers my only option left? I feel so embarrassed about all this. I am going to feel like such a little kid being back in diapers if I have to be...is there any other options?  Thanks
Josh


A:

Dear Josh,

I am glad you have seen a doctor. This happened to my son. To explain it all simply- he had a growth spurt and his bladder didn't.  He did eventually grow out of it but it can be embarrassing like you said.  It does sound like you have tried everything. You need to sit down with your doctor and ask him if there is any other treatment that is available to you. But I will tell you this even though it might seem like an eternity all this will pass.  My son has few memories of that time only because we didn't make a big deal out of it.  We just dealt with it.  Talk to your
doctor and see what he can do for you.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 54

Q:

Dear Mommy,

It's good to get back to you after a while. You may remember that after trying for many years to become a bed wetter, and after getting close to being totally discouraged, I got in touch with you and you gave me some words of wisdom and some very useful clues that triggered it: I finally reached my long awaited goal a few months ago and began wetting myself at night on a regular basis; it has now become part of my life and I really enjoy it. The only side effect was that I started to wet myself unintentionally during the day also and I had to take a decision as to whether I should try to get trained again or not. I did not like the daytime wetting first but eventually decided that I could not stop my night time incontinence so I'm now a full time wetter and get used to it, although it's a total adjustment to my previous life. I just want to thank you again for your invaluable help in assisting me in achieving this. Without you, it would have been impossible. Wish I could thank you in person. Love and hugs.


A:

Dear Phil,

Life can be so unpredictable. We learn to grab happiness wherever we can. I consider myself fortunate to have been able to help you achieve a little bit of that in your life. I always say it and it is meant- you are valued here. Remember always you are loved!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lewis
Age: 17

Q:

I don't let my problem get in the way of my life but accept it
and enjoy it. It started from a trauma when I was young that caused bed
wetting, the wetting got worse and worse and eventually after two or
three years soiling introduced itself and daytime bladder control
stopped. I wear disposables at night because of my soiling and wetting accidents. It's easy to throw a poopy nappy away than wash one. During the day I wear a cloth diaper and another disposable to school. I'm lucky that no ones makes fun of me at school. I actually have a lot of friends. My biggest problem though is when I wake up after a bad night. By saying this I mean a big soiling accident and wetting. How can a use a disposable that stops all or most leaks and doesn't squish poop up out the top of the nappy? I would also like to know any techniques with my love life. I have a girlfriend and sometimes during foreplay or sex when protection is absent I wet, what can help to prevent this? I find it most embarrassing.


A:

Dear Lewis,

It is commendable how you have accepted and adapted to your challenges. At night I would say to wear a plastic pants over what you already wear- just for an added level of protection. I would also talk to my physician about any ideas he might have, especially concerning the matters dealing with sex.  I do not know the details of your condition and would be wrong to make any suggestion. There are solutions out there. You only need to ask abd the answers await.  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra