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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Mommy, this morning for the first time I really noticed my smelly diaper.  I had 2 wetting accidents this morning.  Probably 1 around 4:00AM, and another at 6:00AM. When I unbuttoned my Onesie's crotch to see how bad the wetting accident was, the pee smell was completely noticeable.  Even as I am writing this I can notice a hint of odor, and I still have my Onesie on, as well as my cover.  I guess I never really noticed it before until today. Do real mothers have this problem with real babies, or do they use something to mask the pee
smell? I know it will smell at times.  The only thing I use is Balmex,
and baby powder when I'm getting diapered. Is there another diaper
product I need to buy at the store?  Do real mommies have tricks on how to reduce the smell?  In all honesty it doesn't bother me,
but I'm curious if mommies have a way to counter it?  Well should
probably change my diaper.  

P.S. Since I didn't post this immediately I needed to add 1 more
question.  That morning I had another accident before I was able to change myself. This time I felt the warmth spill out over the side of the
diaper, and trickle out down my leg. I started to cry a little when this
occurred. I was standing at the time getting prepared to be changed.  I
noticed my pee pee was off to the side a little, and pointed down. I
thought the leg gathers were suppose to protect that from occurring? Do you think the diaper was flooded or was my pee coming out
faster than the diaper could absorb?   Hope all is well!  Thanks!


A:

Cear Embarrassed,

Unfortunately there is nothing that masks urine odor. I will say this, if you haven't had plenty of fluids your urine can be more concentrated and smell more pungent. With all this heat have you hydrated yourself
enough? That could be what the problem is.  As for the tinkle accident most diapers have the bulk of their absorbent material in the middle.  If your 'pee-pee' was pointing to the side it could be that it just missed the bulk of that material.  And sadly a lot of diapers can't handle a big 'downpour' of urine but can absorb a steady stream.Hope this helps. And we are doing fine. Thanks for asking. I hope everything is well with you. Till next time take care of yourself.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Hayley
Age: Unknown

Is it ok to breast feed a 13 year old girl?


A:

Dear Hayley,

It is not okay to breast feed a 13 year old girl. If you are over 18 it is illegal and considered child molestation.  If you are under 18 you have no business getting involved in such activities at such a young age. So either way it is not acceptable and possibly criminal.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Andy
Age: 1

Q:

I been a bad baby boy. My mommy want to know if it is safe to
give me a oatmeal enema. She also want to know if it is safe to make me sit in a diaper that has oatmeal put in the back for about 5 to 10
hours.


A:

Dear Baby Andy,

I would suggest you only use over-the-counter enemas. It is so easy to mix the wrong amounts and end up causing a problem. As for sitting in oatmeal, some people enjoy that and it's okay. But to make sure you don't have any bad reactions I would limit the time to no more than an hour.  Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dawn
Age: 38

Q:

Hello I am a 38 yr old and I was wandering what, if anything baby food will do to my body if I stop am made to eat baby food at different meals and what will formula have on my body? I do wear diapers all the time now due to my wife catching me in them and I do leak. Thank you Jeff (dawn) Yeagley


A:

Dear Dawn,

You can eat baby food without a problem as long as you supplement with adult food.  The nutrition in baby food is formulated for a child and not an adult. So be sure you are still eating regular adult meals and portions.  Formula is another story.  You can use formula but be sure to use one with NO iron. The iron content is again formulated for a baby and is too high for an adult and could cause problems.  It is better to avoid it. I hope these tips help.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Good morning mommy. Thanks for all the answers to my stream of endless questions.  I always try to use your advice to help fill in the gaps of baby care for myself.  Since my diaper is soaked this morning I'll try to keep this short. My first question is in regards to being diapered before bed. I wear a disposable as you probably know by now.  I use Johnson & Johnson baby powder, but am wandering if I am using it right. I usually sprinkle it on the diaper padding, lay down on it, and pull it between my legs. I then I tape it on. I have been wandering, how do I use it like A real baby? Should I lay down on the diaper, and sprinkle it over my diaper area, or use it just on the diaper? Please advise.  One last question.  I'm a heavy wetter. I have been thinking of getting a diaper booster.  I think that's what they call it. I usually leak if I fully wet my diaper a 2nd or 3rd time at night.  Should I buy a diaper booster, or is this normal?  Well better get changed before I need to go again. Even though I'm awake, and wet, I'll go again if I'm still in my night time diaper. I figure might as well use it again instead of the potty if I still have to go in the morning. Right?  Thanks for all you advice.  Hugs Embarrassed. 

PS: guess it wasn't short after all.   


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Powdering is a matter of personal preference.  Some sprinkle on diaper and others use a powder puff to apply after laying on diaper.As used on a baby the diaper is usually placed under the child and then the
powder applied. (My personal choice is to powder puff it on- it goes where you want and is evenly distributed) Diaper soakers or boosters are a godsend. By all means use them. They do sell them but you can
also use infant diapers as a boost. For some reason adult diapers are not as well made as baby diapers are. Infant diapers hold a lot more and have the gathers so to enhance your diapers absorbency some take a baby diaper and cut slits down the back (so urine can flow through) and place on top of their own diaper.  The result your diaper and a baby diaper absorbing all you 'put out'.  It works quite well. Hope this tip helps. Take care of yourself.Till we meet again. :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dear Mommy, because I still both have pee pee, and poop poop accidents at night I go to bed in a diaper. I'm not yet fully unpotty trained at night, but since I consciously pee, and poop in a diaper I feel as if I'm around the age of 2. Does that sound right to you? At this age I need some real mommy advice. Even though I don't have an AB mommy, imagine that I do. Since I'm still a baby I can't make these decisions by myself.  Here's the questions I would have her ask.  What is the best time to put my baby boy down for bed? After I diaper him in his disposable, how should I dress him for bed in the summer? (Assume I have everything a baby has at that age. (ex. clothes, diapers, pacifiers, bottles etc.)) Same question for fall, spring, and winter. Is there anything else I should do when I put him down for bed? I will use these as guidelines at bed time so I can re-experience what it is to be 2. I look forward to the advice you would give. I would say wish me a dry night, but I know it won't be. What else would you expect from a 2 yr old? Thank You. Hugs and Kisses Embarrassed.     


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

My children had a bedtime of 7:30- 8:00 PM. They had to get 12 hours or they were no good.  As for bedtime wear- the usual.  Light cotton or just a diaper during the warm months and those wonderful footed sleepers for the winter. The usual routine was a bottle and a
bedtime story and then lights out- except for the nightlight. There are always things in the closet or under the bed when you're little. And last but not least you always got a hug and kiss from Mommy and Daddy with "I love you". 

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Andy
Age: 22

Q:

Yes mommy I was wondering where can I find the adult baby
radio?


A:

Dear Baby Andy,

We did have an adult baby radio station. Unfortunately we had to close it down.  We had asked for the members to help with the cost of running things on this site and we received very little response back. We had to go over our budgets and see what we could afford to keep and the radio station was on the 'to go' list. Both Stanley and I are on
disability and don't have a lot of cash to deal with. As it is, it is a sacrifice for us just to keep the site going.  But we swore it would remain a free site and it has. It is just unfortunate that some things
have to be cut along the way.  Perhaps in the future we could bring it back- we'll have to see.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon
Age: 35

Q:

A little while ago my girlfriend Amber told me that she would like to wear diapers. Amber has had medical problems since she was young and she told me that she needed diapers when she was a girl. She told me that she hated them at first but after a while she found it comforting when her mom changed her. I am ok with her wearing diapers (she looks cute in them) but she would like me to change her and I am having trouble with the idea. During one of our visits to our home medical supplier (Amber is on oxygen) someone helped Amber
find diapers that would fit her. She wants to wear them all the time. How can I get used to changing my girlfriend's diapers? Also, how often will she need to be changed and will we have to worry about diaper rash?


A:

Dear Jon,

I am glad that Anber has found someone who cares for her enough to ask these questions.It is wonderful that you are being supportive of her. If you are uncomfortable changing her though you should let her
know.  Perhaps you could compromise in some way: she clean herself and you secure the fresh clean diaper or some other similar arrangement. She would need to get changed whenever she used the diaper or every 5-6 hours or so.  It is really an issue of comfort with a
dry diaper. If she uses the diaper and does not change she will get a rash. A rash can be quite painful and should be avoided.  I wish the two of you good things in the future.  Take care of yourselves.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Deeker
Age: 17

Q:

I wear diapers for fun but want to stop please give me some advice!


A:

Dear Deeker,

If you don't have a physical need to wear diapers all you should have to do is simply not put them on.  You will most likely have the urge to  but if you keep yourself busy and occupied during the craving the desire should start to lessen and eventually go away. But on the other side of the argument if your body/psyche is craving wearing them why deny the urge? It hurts no one. But if your mind is set on stopping, try what I said. I hope it all works out for you. Good
luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wifeeee
Age: 28

Q:

Hi, My husband is a DL he doesn't like disposables and his cloth diaper and plastic pants leak.  What can we do to stop this, he won't consider taping them on. I have already suggested that?  He has
them quite tight as it is?


A:

Dear Wifeee,

Your husband doesn't want to wear disposables but would he be open to wearing a 'diaper booster'?  It is basically a pad of diaper material that is inserted inside the diaper to absorb more fluid. They are
thrown away after use.  If he won't wear the disposable kind then purchase some infant diapers at the store and fold them in thirds, then in half and sew the edges.  Insert as many as are needed to help
boost the amount of liquid his diapers can handle. The next issue is his waterproof pants.  Are the gathers at the leg tight without being restrictive?  The elastic on these things can give out after repeated
washings.  Perhaps change them ever so often. I hope these tips help you.  Good luck and stay dry.  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Josh

Q:

How do I tell my parents that I want Babish things? I have sent thing to their e-mail but they don't like it.


A:

Dear Josh,

You didn't say how old you are but the reality is if your parents are not open to the idea you might have to keep it to yourself.  You said you sent them things from the internet and they didn't like it. Then most probably they are not open to the whole idea. You might have to wait until you are 18 to fully experience a babyish lifestyle. You can continue to test them ever so often by sending things and see if they change their minds but they most likely won't. It is hard for some people to understand and accept. Don't hold it agaisnt them- they just can't appreciate how comfortable you can feel hugging a big stuffed
bear. Stay happy and be strong.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 44

Q:

hi mommy,

Sissy kendra had an important question: why do you think I have had these feelings of wanting to be a little girl who is punished for wetting her new panties and put back into diapers and re-pottytrained? I have had these feelings since as long as I can remember and
when I go out in public with a diaper on under normal clothing except
for panties usually over my diaper I make sure a little of both are
showing in the back. I also enjoy being spanked a lot. By no means am I ashamed of my lifestyle, but was wondering where you might think it all began. thank you! sissy kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

There could be a number of reasons why you like being a sissy baby. One of my dearest friends is alot like you, he says being a baby makes him feel loved and secure. He enjoys being a sissy because he likes all the girl clothes.  He said as a man or a boy you are limited in what you wear.  He use to envy his sisters when he was younger- he wanted to play dress-up too. Now he can enjoy both- being a baby and dressing up. He is in fact fabulous looking in his baby dolls and rhumba panties.  He even has black patent leather shoes! So it could just be a desire to play dress-up, as to the reason why you enjoy it.  In the end though it doesn't matter why as long as you are happy doing
it.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kendra
Age: 11

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I was hopeing you or others might be able to tell me if it is just me or does this happen to everyone who is put back in diapers. At first I would only wet my diaper on pourpose when I felt the urge to go. Now im finding I just wet. It just happens. The scary part is when im not in my diaper I have wet my panties a couple of time before I can reach the big girls potty. This causes embarassing wet spots of course. Diapers are play for me and I wont ever give them up. That is not an option. Should I just stay in diapers 24/7?? Does this seemingly reverse effect happen to others eventually?? please help.
                             sissy kendra


A:

Dear Kendra,

It does happen sometimes that if you become too 'comfortable' in your diapers your body decides it wants them all the time.  You can either start wearing diapers 24/7 or cut back your diaper time and readjust your 'bodysense'. Let your body realize you are not wearing all the time.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Craig
Age: 20

Q:

I am a very small person, and now live with a wonderful lady.  She is 35 and she is Bi, but likes women more than men.  We have been living together for a bout a year.  I have had several night time bedwetting accident over the past several months.  I was not wearing diapers at the time. She was a little upset and said I should wear diapers at night time.  I agreed and the next time we went to the store she bought me some diapers.

Over the past few mounths she has gotten more and more like a mother. She and a friend of hers have made me baby type clothes and I wear diapers almos all the time now.  She has friends over to the house all the time for parties and meetings.  She will dress me up in all the baby clothes and diapers.  She will change me if I get wet and even tells her friends to excuse her while she changes me.  Is this OK.  I really love her and know she loves me. I am feeling more like her baby know. I just need to know if this situation is good, bad, or what? Thank you in advance for your responce.
Craig 


A:

Dear Craig,

You have found what most of the AB world is looking for- a loving mommy.  If you are okay with the arrangement and your friend is okay with it-GO FOR IT! Life is too short.  If you find some happiness you
need to grab it.  She gets her baby and you get your mommy.  I wish you both the best of luck! By the way do I need to mention that it is okay and there is nothing wrong with it? :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jayson
Age: 28

Q:

I am curious as to why it is when parents have problems with a
bedwetting child (mine included) they resort to beating or spanking the child.  Where is it written that bedwetting is such a horrible thing in the
annuals of societal norms that kids should be beat for it?


A:

Dear Jayson,

You have come across one of the reasons why this site exists.  For the kids who have no one else to turn to. Parents are human and make mistakes. But for the life of me I will never understand why they resort to abuse either.  I raised 3 children.  My son was a wetter. We handled in a calm, loving manner and in his case it was able to be resolved. I think some adults like to have control over all aspects of their childrens lives and almost feel betrayed when they don't.  Oh we could write a book on this stuff.  But in the end all punishment, yelling, hitting it doesn't work.  It only alienates you from your child and ruins the
relationship. When will parents learn?

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mike
Age: 27

Q:

I am not potty trained. I love to poop and pee in my diapers and rub my poopy diaper in my face is it bad to do this?


A:

Dear Mike,

I always say this- If you enjoy it and it hurts no one else then go for it. If you enjoy rubbing your poopy diapers in your face and that is your desire, no one else can tell you to stop. So stay happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: JOHN
Age: 31

Q:

I like to wet.


A:

Dear John,

I am glad that you found our site.  I hope we can be of help to you. You didn't really ask a question, if you have one please write back.  We'll be happy to answer to the best of our ability. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anna
Age: 19

Q:

Is it wrong that I like to wear diapers and like seeing other girls in
diapers? It really turns me on when I see one.


A:

Dear Anna,

There is nothing wrong with liking to wear diapers. You hurt no one and it brings you enjoyment. It is possible for adults to find seeing someone else in a diaper a 'turn on'. There is nothing wrong with that either, as long as two consenting adults are involved.
So stay happy and diapered.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Corey
Age: 18

Q:

Hiya, what is the best postion to feed with only a nappy on in public? plz relpy ta xxx


A:

Dear Corey,

Whether you are eating or drinking for better digestion the best way to feed is sitting up.  Or at the very least at an incline- if you think of an infant in his mother's arms he is sitting up slightly. Hope that helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon

Q:

Dear Mommy,

Thanks for the advice, I am now more used to changing my Amber's
diapers now. We have had a problem come up though. last night I must have not cleaned her good enough (I know you warned me) and my
girlfriend has her first diaper rash. Right now her poor bottom is
covered in desitin but she says it still hurts when she walks or sits
down. She told me she understands why babies cry. What can we do?


A:

Dear Jon,

Babies do cry for a reason.  It really does hurt. Well since the damage has been done- so to speak. Balmex can clear up the burn in 24 hours (diaper rash is actually an acid burn from the acid in urine). Amber should also have some 'air' time- where she has her skin bare to the air.  Powder might help ease some of the dissomfort of walking.  Other than that only time can heal. Please for next time be sure to clean and rinse thoroughly! It is just too painful to have to suffer through.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Shawn

Q:

How can i find referrals for a good mommy who can care for a AB who is disabled mildly since birth (cerebral palsy)? I have been and
will be diapered my whole life. want to be babied much more thanks
shawn


A:

Dear Shawn,

We have on our main site a good mommy finder section. It is a good place to start looking.  Post to whomever seems promising. Hey you never know when the magic might happen and you connect to the right one. Here is that link: http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chad
Age: 15

Q:

Is it ok to wear diapers because of stress?


A:

Dear Chad,

It is okay to wear diapers because of stress.  It is even okay to wear then because you like them.  All they are is fabric around your derriere- which is also the definition for briefs, boxers and thongs! So wear and enjoy.

-Hugs Sandra