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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 8months

Q:

I was wondering if it is wrong to sleep in a infant size crib or  should I sleep in a twin size bed


A:

Dear Tim,

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.  In fact Stanley has a crib around his twin size mattress! He sells the plans to make it on the site- I know shameless plug. If you are a full size adult it can be hard to fit into a regular size crib. So Stanley took a regular twin mattress and figured out how to build a crib frame around it. It even has a bumper guard and
everything. So if you can- have the twin size crib. The best of both worlds.

-Hugs Sandra

here is the link to the crib plans:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/CRIB.html

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 54

Q:

Dear Mommy, Thank you for your words of encouragement. I eventually started to reach nighttime incontinence as I wake up wet without any recall of waking up most of the time; You mentioned that provided not too much time elapsed, I could regain continence if need be. How long could I keep on being incontinent before trying to regain control? I do not seem to be ready to be continent again. According to your warnings, I also lose increasingly control of my bladder during the day to the point where I need to wear a diaper. How, if possible, could I retrain my bladder daytime only? Thank you again for helping me to reach my goal. I don't think I'll try to reverse that situation.
Love, Phil


A:

Dear Phil,

There is no set time frame for any of this. It is all dependant on your body. You can retrain your bladder to be continent during the day by going to the bathroom every hour.  Again you need to get the mind
and body in harmony with each other. T,,he body needs to know-oh so go at night but alert you during the day-- I got it. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brianblaser
Age: 41

Q:

hi,do you  know where I can find a mommy in southern California. thanks


A:

Dear Brian,

On our main site we have a mommy finder.  It is a good starting point.  Of course you would need to contact some of these people and see which one is a good match with you.
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html
I wish you luck in finding someone!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dennis
Age: 57

Q:

where can I find an adult baby sitter in Kansas (SouthCentral
Area) or other places in Kansas???   Are there other adult babies in
south central Kansas???   Dennis


A:

Dear Dennis,

On our main site we have a mommy finder page.  It is a great place to begin a search. When you meet the perfect mommy the chemistry will be right and you will know!  Good luck.  Here is the link :
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Hi Mommy, thanks for all of your help so far.  I tried again to give up my diapers again, but I am writing this in a very smelly, and wet diaper.  It seems I am almost destined to never see big boy pants again at night.:( In this age it's next to impossible to be cured of this urge.  The littlest thing like a diaper commercial, or going past the diaper aisle in the
supermarket will almost always turn me into a little boy.  So here I am again, a little boy who slept in his onesie, and diaper last night. Maybe I
just need to accept that diapers are a part of my life again, and be told
it's alright. However. I think my religion would say otherwise, but
yet here I am.  What would my priest say? Sorry, I just wish I had the
answers.  It may be what I have said before.  Maybe I need to be returned to diapers at night, every night, for a few years before I can wear big boy pants again. I want to do that, but can't stick with it.  It may
solve all my problems, or it may not. Any way you can comment on
that if you want. I just had to write that down.  As I said I'm examining my feelings to get a better insight into this urge, plus it helps to tell
it to someone. You, and everybody else who visits this sight are the
only ones to know, unless my parents know, and don't say anything. Any way down to a question.  If my doctor finds out I wear diapers will
they check for diaper rash every time I visit?  Is there anything else they need to examine because I wear diapers? Will this increase the number of appointments?  Any way thanks for listening and answering questions. By the way I was able to clean myself of my poopy diaper while I laid on my changing mat. I know I asked the question last month, but I guess I didn't need it. Well got to go so I can change my diaper.  Thanks again for all your great help.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

Because you wear a diaper what the doctor would do is a urology work up. They will check to see that your kidneys and 'plumbing' work. You can have a problem that won't show up on any tests- they understand that. Like my son had a weak bladder- you can't strength
test a bladder muscle. But they check for major problems.  It is possible to get a prescription for diapers.  A friend of mine gets that and his insurance covers it- so he gets diapers shipped every month. Anyway the doctor won't check for rashes unless you say you have one.  It shouldn't increase your need for appointments to see him at all.  Good to hear you were successful in changing the 'poop'. I am always here to
listen and answer what I can.  You take care of yourself.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Baby Boy G
Age: 3

Q:

Hi Mommy! Do you know how I can find a place in south western Pennsylvania (Pittsburgh area) where I can play outdoors wearing only cloth diapers and Tee shirts? I have multiple disabilities and have used mostly cloth diapers for fifty five years, 24/7.


A:

Dear Baby Boy G,

I would imagine your best bet would be to see if you could find an AB babysitter/mom in that area who has either knowledge of a play area or has grounds/property where you could do exactly that. We
have a Mommy finder on our main site that would be an excellent starting point for your search.  I wish you luck and hopefully soon you'll be enjoying the great outdoors!

-Hugs Sandra

The link is : http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Young Teen
Age: 15

Q:

I am young teen and I am 15 years old I love diapers, I want to wear them but I don't know what size I am (I am 125 pounds and want baby disposable diapers) I only get so much money and can't afford all the sizes. I NEED HELP!!!


A:

Dear Young Teen,

As far as getting some money you can save up allowance money.  You can get a part time job.  Perhaps do odd jobs for people- walk dogs, do chores for elderly persons etc,or run errands to name a few. As to the size of what to purchase that all depends on  what you are looking for.  At 125 pounds you are probably looking at the Goodnites as the only size that would fit without going into adult protection. Hope some of these suggestions help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tyler
Age: 22

Q:

Which kind of adult diapers fit and look the most like the old huggies
and pampers plastic disposable diapers?  Do huggies and pampers make diapers for adults?

I live with my fiance.  She knows I have a leaking problem.  I wear
diapers only when she is gone and not all the time. I don't think she knows that I like to wear them.  She told me that if the time came she would change my diapers; she wouldn't leave me b/c I have to wear diapers.  I would like her to diaper me but don't want to ask. Should I start wetting the bed; of course not by causing medical problems but when I have to pee just let it go?  Then she will think I need diapers and will then diaper me and change me?


A:

Dear Tyler,

You are one of the lucky ones to have a girlfriend that is at least understanding.  Are you sure you want to mess all that up with the covert ops routine? Just let things flow naturally (bad pun) and when the time is right she'll diaper you- she already said she'd do it. As for the diapers- for absorbency and construction Unique briefs are most like Pampers.  If you are going for all-over baby design we are right
now test-wearing a product Classy comfort adult size all over baby design.  We have always sold diaper tapes to put across the front of your adult diapers for that baby feel but these have the print over the
entire surface.  Check our product reviews for our final report. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 54

A:

Hello Mommy, I would like to sincerely thank you for your words of encouragement as I am now nearly there as far as bed wetting is concerned, i-e. about 5 days a week without waking up, or at least nothing I can remember of. I only put on anti-rash ointment when I feel some irritation on my posterior. Would you recommend I use it every night before going to bed? Should I use it also in the crotch area? Do you have any suggestion to diminish/relieve the effect of heat at night? I don't have A/C and temperatures can get pretty high now. Should I drop wearing plastic pants although more often than not, they turn out to be very helpful as I am a heavy wetter? Can I just put on my disposable brief without any more protection? Would snap-on pants be better against heat as they allow for air to circulate more easily? Again, thank you so much for your help in reaching my goal. By the way, it is now part of my life and I could not envision it without wearing diapers at night. big hugs, Phil


A:

Dear Phil,

I am happy to hear you are nearly there! Summer heat can be brutal and comfort is important.  Whatever works for you is fine. If only the disposables are good for you then do that. Use the cream in the crotch
area as well. Use lots of corn starch powder to keep all the skin areas happy.  If at all possible perhaps use a fan and the snap-on pants to get good air flow going.  Hopefully these tips should help.  I am so glad to have heard from you again.  Keep me posted.

-Big Hugs Back Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Good morning mommy. It's another gorgeous summer morning.  So far the summer nights, and mornings have been comfortable for wearing diapers here. I slept in my onesie last night, but am now stripped down to just my wet diaper.  Hope everybody else's diapered summer is going well. Still have allot of questions for you. I am trying to become incontinent at night, but in this quest could I end up having day time accidents? I agree with you when it comes to unpotty training.  I will never use chemical or injury to induce it.  If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be. I have to admit I use the hypnosis CD's, but don't believe they work.  One more question.  I'm having a medical exam where they use a drug that puts me in twighlight.  Last time I had this done I thought I remembered blurting out I wear diapers. (Funny after all the hiding we do it still come out.) After the exam I noticed the nurse going over to another nurse and whispering something to her.  They both laughed.  You can probably guess how embarrassed I felt.  The doctor also told me not to worry I didn't give out any secrets.  What do they know? Even though I will never know what I said I worry of what I could say this time. What if I blurt out something that has the doctor asking me some embarrassing questions about my diapers?  I would
have to come clean with him right?  Don't want him thinking there is a
medical problem right?  I'm a little scared this time around.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

With your doctor you have what is called a 'doctor-patient privilege'.  He can not by law say anything that has gone on between you and him.  If you were to slip and say anything during that test it would probably be in your interest to explain to him what it is all about. If he doesn't see it your way then it's time to find a new doctor- remember he can't tell anyone what you've said to him or you can cause him legal repercussions.  As for those nurses- maybe they heard something or maybe not.  We do tend to be sensitive about people talking about us don't we?  And so what if they did hear something- you"ll never see
them again.  You'll be okay. Don't worry about the people on the street.  Their opinion counts for nothing- well that is what I keep telling myself. I know it can get hard at times.  But try to keep your chin up and remember you are special! Remember someone out here cares about you!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Little Pee Boy
Age: Adult

Q:

I pee my diaper. I'm so embarrassed.  I'm a poor little boy. Waaah. Will you tease me and laugh at me?


A:

Dear Little Peeboy,

What you need is a Mommy.  I raised three kids and baby-sat many others and have retired from the baby-sitting game.  I am now everyone's 'Nana'.  I help other AB's and their mommies out by answering questions as best as I can. I hope you get some responses soon from the posts you put in those sections.  I wish you luck. Until then you be a good boy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Someone Else
Age: 11 going on 1

Q:

Thank you for answering I am not sure I did sit my mom down and now she knows that I am not an infant.


A:

Dear Someone else,

I am glad that we were able to help you.  If you ever have any other questions or need help/advise know we are always here. Stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nigel
Age: 21

Q:

hi mommy. you recently answered a question for me, my question was how to wet at nite. you gave me an excellent answer thank you! in your answer you told me I would have to retrain my mind if I get to the stage where I am wetting at nite is it easily reversed? and how do you reverse it? thank you


A:

Dear Nigel,

Glad I could help. Yes you can reverse it. I always opt for the non-permanent methods. Besides the doing harm to oneself part who wants to go get nappies for the baby and yourself. It can be priceless at times to have the option of not having to do so.

Again to reverse the training you would have to retrain the brain/body connection. Go to the bathroom right before bed and restrict fluids.  If possible get a 'Wetting Alarm'. Which is an alarm that is placed
under you and it detects moisture. You go to bed undiapered and at the first hint of wetness the alarm sounds waking you so you go to the bathroom.  After repeatedly being woken up your body will get the idea
to wake up before wetting and will be retrained back to being continent. I hope that helps. You take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: C-MAC
Age: 13

Q:

I just told one of my neighbors that I wear goodnights and pull-ups for fun. She said that that was awkward but is now going into our  treehouse and putting them on with us. What should I do?


A:

Dear C-Mac.

You didn't say how old your neighbor is or why it is you felt the need to tell her about you wearing Goodnites. I sense that you feel a little uncomfortable with her coming over to the treehouse. If you are unsure about it or are in the least bit uncomfortable you need to tell her that she can't come over. You didn't say if your parents know about you being a TB but if this becomes a problem you might need to get them involved.  If it alright with you her coming over then fine. But no one should ever put you in a situation where you are not comfortable.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 54

Q:

Dear Mommy,

After trying for almost 3 years to become a bedwetter through wearing diapers every night, I recently reached my goal and now wet every single night without waking up. Thanks again for your kind words of encouragement and tips. The problem is that a few days ago, I found myself unable to reach the toilets during the day and wet myself with no way to stop the flow. I thought it was just a one-time accident but it happened again the following days and ever since that first accident, I now wet myself during the day and need to wear diapers, which was not my intent. You warned me that it could be a side effect of bedwetting but I would like to regain some sort of control. How could I achieve that? Please help. Thank you.


Q:

Dear Phil,

Sorry to say this is one of the side effects of night time training sometimes. The only way to counteract the effects is to use the bathroom frequently and limit fluids during the day. If you try to retrain to stop wetting then the night-time wetting could stop also. So you need to determine how inconvenient is the daytime wetting?  Is it something you can live with? Or do you need it to stop?  You can train yourself to stop wetting just like you trained yourself to wet. Think about it and let me know what you decide,

-Hugs Sandra

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Question asked By: Phil
Age: 54

Q:

Hi Mommy: How long is it reasonable to stay in a wet diaper? I occasionally -especially over week-ends- wake up late and do not change myself right away. Could that be a problem for the skin? Would you recommend that I clean myself right away? Thank you again for your great forum and your kindness and patience. Hugs, Phil


A:

Dear Phil,

For your skin health it is best to change as soon as you can.  Obviously if you are asleep you can't change any quicker than in the morning when you wake up but as soon as you can is a good idea.  Diaper rash can be quite painful. Also remember to give your posterior
'air' time and leave the diaper off to let the skin breath for a while. Keep your skin happy and you'll be happy.  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 8m0nths

Q:

I am wondering if you can give me advice about eating and drinking
formula and baby food?I am currently eating about ten to twenty jars of
baby food at each meal and would like to know if drinking formula will
hurt my body?


A:

Dear Tim,

While it is okay to eat baby food it is in fact made for babies and doesn't have the right nutritional values for adults. You should be eating some regular foods as well. You didn't mention if you were
supplementing with regular adult foods.  If not please take an adult formula vitamin to insure you are getting the basics.

Formula is another story. You may use it if you wish but be forewarned it is made as the sole food source for newborn infants. If you do use formula NEVER use the iron enriched varieties. The iron content is too high for an adult and in fact could make you ill. So
be careful when choosing.

You can use the baby food products in moderation with no problem. You just have to remember that they are made for an infant and their metabolism and body needs- not the needs of a full grown adult. So eat and drink wisely and be happy babies (in spirit at least).

-Hugs Sandra

Baby formula

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Dear mommy it's me again.  I really want to wear big boy pants, but still have pee pee and poo poo accidents at night. Do you think I'm old enough to wear big boy pants soon? Any way I wanted to ask you a question. I have only 5 pair of plastic pants 2 are white, one is blue with baby print on it, while the other one is pink with baby print on it.  Even though I'm boy should I still use the pink plastic panties? Since I'm a boy it's a little embarrassing wearing the pink ones.  Should a little boy like me be concerned?  Well wish me s dry night, even though I already know I'll be waking up to a wet, and maybe messy diaper.


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

In my opinion it doesn't really matter what your plastic pants look like as long as they do their job. You know you are a boy so who cares if they are pink or green or blue. And I will wish you a dry night and
you take care of yourself.  Till I hear from you again I am sending you a big hug!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mitch
Age: 19

Q:

For me what kind of baby diapers do you suggest? How can I find a mom to change my diaper and feed me a baby bottle?


A:

Dear Mitch,

There are so many good products out there. My suggestion would be to go to a online diaper site and order one of their sample packs.  in this pack they would have a variety of what that company had to
offer. Wear each one and decide which one suits your needs.  As to finding a mommy that is a very personal thing and the two individuals have to 'click'. That is a search you have to do to find the person who is a good match for you.  On our main site we have a mommy finder section which is a good place to start your search. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

the site is:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Nigel
Age: 21

Q:

Hi mommy. I've recently asked you a couple of questions on
becoming a nitetime wetter. Your answers have been great. I haven't used your advice yet. I wanted to find all the facts out first. If I manage to reach my goal as a nitetime wetter will it affect my continence through the day? Thanks for your help and if you think any thing that has been missed out please tell me in your answer to my question thanks.


A:

Dear Nigel,

Unfortunately there is a risk of daytime wetting once you allow yourself to nighttime wet.  It doesn't always happen but can. The message you send your brain- that it's okay to go- gets learned too well and your body assumes its okay anytime.  So be very certain that you
wish to lose that control and be aware of all the possible side effects. I wish you good luck. I know you'll make the decision that right for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Rebecca
Age: 18

Q:

How will I find a partner?


A:

Dear Rebecca,

You were not clear on what kind of partner you were referring to. If you are looking for an AB mommy/daddy we have on our main site a mommy finder section.  If you are referring to a personal partner we do have a penpal section where perhaps you could find a special friend meant just for you. It may take some time but if you stick with it you may find someone that is right for you.  I wish you luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

The link to the mommy finder's is:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 24

Q:

How do I ask my girlfriend if I can be her daddy?


A:

Dear Jack,

I am of course assuming that both of you are AB. Since you both are AB and if your relationship is going well I would just be honest with her.  Say to her that you would like to take your relationship to another level and would she consent to you being her daddy. Don't play any games just be honest.  To sweeten the deal tell her that she can be your 'Momma' any time she wants. I hope it all works out for you.
Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joe
Age: 18

Q:

Dear Mommy,

I am just getting into the diapers, I have been looking at pics of
people in them for months, and want to try it myself, I was wondering what size I need to get (I am 215lbs and I know I have to go into adult wear). Also I feel embarrassed if I walk into like a Walgreens and look at the adult diapers; I want to buy them, but I feel embarrassed if I go up to the register. Please help me

Joe


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Dear Joe,

Whatever brand you choose will have the size/weight chart on the box/bag and you can find the right one for you.  Don't be embarrassed it is nobody's business why you are there.  If you feel that you must say something- you could say "I am glad you guys had these.  This is the brand my Grandfather likes."

There is another option.  You could try mail order. There are many good companies out there.  Try ordering a sample pack and see which product is good for you. With mail order there is no embarrassment because you never come in contact with anyone. We have on our main
site a whole page of links to diaper sites and resources. The link is:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Diaper_links.html

I wish you luck in your search.  If I can be of any other help don't hesitate to write.  Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Mommy thanks for all your help lately. I guess I have become one of your regulars here.  I just hope many have benefited from my questions. I've learned to lose all modesty when it comes to talking about my diapers.  I guess when you start wearing them again you need to learn, that as little boys and girls, modesty is a thing of the past.  If you wear them I'm pretty sure you know what I mean, and if you have mommy/daddy I can only imagine that your modesty is gone. Wouldn't you agree?  OK now to some additional questions. First, is regards to wetting accidents.  Not sure if you will know the answer to this question.  Sometimes when my pee pee gets a little warm(stiff) I
will position it so that it's pointing up towards my belly button.  Is it possible to have an accident like this, and how bad will it leak if I don't wake up in time?  Would my plastic panties protect against this
type of leak? Is it normal for real mommy's to put plastic panties over
a disposable, especially in this summer heat? Secondly, I have been
thinking of talking to a counselor about stress, and all.  Should I bring
up the fact that I wear diapers? Is that a good idea? Well need to go
buy some diapers for tonight.  Thanks again for all your help!        


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

It is good to hear from yo again. If you are pointed upwards there is a chance that you will spring a leak out the top of your diaper.  Whenever I diapered my son I would try to point him down- in most diapers the majority of the padding is there.  Even with the 'boy'
diapers the padding in front only goes up so far. I didn't use plastic pants over the disposables, your skin is receiving no air and can be prone to rashes. If you feel you need to talk to a counselor then by all
means do so. We all have stress in our lives and if we can ease some of it even a little then we are ahead of the game. Should you mention the diapers? I would only mention it if and when you feel comfortable to do so. That is your call.  I hope things continue going well for you.  Till I hear from you again take care of yourself!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: A Dipwe Girl
Age: 15

Q:

me again, I was the one you asked if was ok for nurse to and to
change me treat me like a baby and my mom to treat me. I have other questions.  1St is ok for my school  nurse and my mom to change me
and to treat me like a baby and put me in baby clothes and put me
down for a nap if I cry etc ok my email again is hannahlovespink@gmail.com please ASAP!!!!!!!!!


A:

Dear Dipwegirl,

It is very unusual for someone your age to have both your mom and the school nurse changing you. You should be able to change yourself.  But if it is okay with you and you are comfortable with it then I see no
reason why not. As long as you like being treated like a baby and put in the baby clothes and put down for naps then you should continue to do so.  Little things in life can make you happy and if that is what makes
your day then keep going for it. Now if you are uncomfortable with any of these things you need to speak up and tell your Mom you would like to change yourself and wear clothes appropriate for your age. Only you know what you want- let them know what it is. Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 15

Q:

How can I wet my bed again?


A:

Dear Paul,

It is not up to me to say whether you can or can't wet your bed.  Only you know that answer. If you want to and are wearing protection then do whatever you decide to do.  You need to make up your mind for yourself if this is the path you want to take. We are here for you
always.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jo
Age: 18

Q:

I was wondering what size diaper that I would need, I have wanted to wear diapers for a while now, and want to know what I should buy, I am 6ft 5in, and 215lbs, I was going to go to like a local store like Walgreens and I know that I would have to get an adult type, I wanted to know what I should get... thank you


A:

Dear Jo,

There are all types and styles of diapers out there. Many of them are excellent. You would need to find the one that best suits your needs- it is a trial and error process. You can purchase the small packs and try them to see which one works for you.  As to size the size/weight chart is printed right on the box/bag. Another option would be to order from the mail.  Many of the mail order companies have sample packs so you can try out their products.  We have a links page to some very good companies:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Diaper_links.html  Try one of these and I know one of them should work out. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Frank
Age: 8months

Q:

How can I sleep well both during the day and also at night.


A:

Dear Frank,

To get a good sleep you need to be in a restful state of mind. A nice warm bottle :) and maybe a tummy rub. What works for Stanley is his twin size crib. (plans are sold on our main site} A good night time story
wouldn't hurt either. I hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tommy
Age: 16

Q:

I have met a lady friend of a friend of my mom's. My mom's lady friend took me to meet her alone with out my mom's knowing. One thing led to another and we pretended to be baby and mommy for a
day. We both want to be close to each other again. This lady is in her
50's, can she feed me like a baby, what will her milk taste like.


A:

Dear Tommy,

It is inappropriate for her to be a 'Mommy' to you due to the fact that you are under the age of 21.  She could get in trouble.  Having said that since she is older and not having just had a baby she is unlikely to be able to give milk. My thoughts on the matter is perhaps the two of you could develop a more nurturing relationship and when you do turn 18-21 then you could proceed on to other areas. Start as friends and let
the affection and love grow.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nigel
Age: 21

Q:

Hi mommy. As you know I want become a night time wetter do you
know how long it will take?


A:

Dear Nigel,

Make sure this is what you want. The nighttime wetting can spill over into daytime accidents as well.  But if you are sure and follow the set plan- only your body knows.  It can take a few days to a few weeks. There is no definite time frame involved with this.  I know the hardest part is the waiting time. But like the old cliche says- Good things come to those who wait.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Hi mommy this little boy is all set for bed wearing my diapee, and onesie.  Before I go night, night I have a question for you.  I notice when I'm out of my diapers during the day I have allot of BM's.  As soon as I feel the urge I go to the restroom at work.  Could this turn into real incontinence, or by going when I feel the need just fine?  If I become incontinent at night could this effect me in the day time?  I'm working on incontinence at night.  One more quick question.  When applying Balmex should I apply it it to my pee pee or should I leave that area alone?  Currently I am applying it to there, but not sure if it's necessary?  By the way I'm going through a lot of Balmex.  Should I expect this?  Guess I had a few more questions.  Ok time to go night night.  It's great not having to worry about the potty.  Maybe someday I'll be a big boy, and will be able to hold it at night.  Good night mommy. 

A:

Dear Embarrassed,

By not having control at night it is possible for that to 'spill' over into daytime.  As soon as you feel the urge, go to the restroom. You can use the Balmex all over the genital area. The amount you use is only
determined by the amount you need to feel comfortable. If you need to buy 55 gallon drums of it then go for it!  :)  Just joking with you. Just be sure you are not overusing it. You can use cornstarch powder as a
absorbent barrier and save the Balmex for when you see any redness or feel sore. Stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kyle
Age: 21

Q:

I have two questions. First I love to wear diapers and want my girlfriend to be my mommy, how do I ask her if she is interested and second how do I find a nanny for hire in my area?


A:

Dear Kyle,

Only you know if your girlfriend is open to the idea of being a mommy.  Have you ever discussed it with her? You don't say in your question if she is aware of you even wearing diapers. You know her temperament and how open she is to new ideas.  If you think she would
be agreeable then mention it. As for the nanny situation, on our main site we have a listing of 'mommies' that is a good place to start your search. When your two personalities click then you'll know you've found the one for you.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

the link to that page is:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

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Question Asked By: Nigel
Age: 21

Q:

hi mommy. im trying to become a nite time wetter when I go to
bed diapered I get excited and find it very hard to drop off. Do you know of any quicker ways I can fall asleep? also you told me to drink lots of fluid before I go to sleep is 2 pints of water enough to wake me through the nite?


A:

Dear Nigel,

I believe 2 pints is plenty of fluid at nighttime. There are many techniques for getting to sleep. Drinking warm milk before bed, warm tea or hot cocoa. Some take a soothing bath.I know of a few who listen
to calming music.  Stanley went all the way and actually bought one of those child sleep boxes.  It makes a variety of sounds: heartbeat, rain, waves etc. He finds it very calming to fall asleep to.  He also makes sure the light is very dim, if not pitch black in the room. Just create a very quiet environment and soon you'll drift off to dream land. Hope these ideas help.

-Hugs Sandra