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Question Asked By: Someone else
Age: 11 going on 1

Q:

Hi My mom found I out I wet myself. I went to the doctors he
told my mom to get me diapers. He said that for my size he would tell her to get huggies, pampers, etc. I cried at the thought of being back in diapers. He then put me on a table and diapered me with a BABY DIAPER. My mom then put me in the backseat(my bro in the front)and drove us to BabysRus. My brother who is now 16 started to laugh. My mom got me Huggies and a changing table, huggies, a crib, etc. when I got back into the car my mom lifted me out and put a car seat in she then placed me in it (I should of used a car seat a long time ago for my size) Now I don't want to get into my whole life story but here is something else. One time she let my brother babysit me for the entire weekend (last weekend). He invited some friends over. He forgot to diaper me or change me I started to cry. He put me into my crib and put a bottle in my mouth. I heard him say "sisters..what a baby she is almost 12 and still wears diapers" I started to cry even more. His girlfriend came over and picked me up "Here is the problem you need to change her diapers" she said. I will do it. She brought out the changing table and brought it into my nursery  room. "hey girl.."she said. "do you still wet the bed" she asked. "yes" I said. "same"she said. she pulled out a corner of disposable huggies diapers. we both grinned. she then changed me. She broke up with my brother that night. he cried all night. When my mom got home I showed her the note that his gf left. it read. Hello I would love to babysit your baby girl because Skyler (bro) did not change her diaper and she has a diaper rash now thanks. Should I let my mom do this to me? Should I get out of huggies? Should my bro be more supportive? ASAP


A:

Dear Someone else,

Well according to what the doctor said you really do have a problem and need the diapers.  The question is "do you want all the baby stuff that is going along with it?"  That is a question that you need to answer
for yourself.  If you do then continue as usual and have your bro's old girlfriend babysit (she understands)  If you don't want all the baby gear I
would sit down with your Mom and say I wet but I am not an infant I really don't need to be treated like one.  If the two of you can discuss things and come to a mutual decision then everyone is happy.  I wish you luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Briana
Age: Unknowen

Q:

I am having trouble figuring out wether this is right. Am I wrong for wanting to wear diapers?


A:

Dear Briana,

I have only one rule on that- If it feels right to you then it is right.  You are hurting no one and if it makes you happy then go for it!  I wish you luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jerry  Scott
Age: 44

Q:

I looking for a AB mommy here in Colorado. Please help me find a AB MOMMY or give me some idea that will help find a AB mommy?


A:

Dear Jerry,

It can be difficult to find a Mommy.  It will a process of trial and error.  On our main site we do have a mommy finder page set up by state.You can start there. Sometimes you can start with an over the phone mom and then lead up to a full time mom.  Well I hope you find the perfect match for you. That link is
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jerry Scott
Age: 44

Q:

Thank you for your nice letter back on my question. Here is a other question. So many people think this is a new idea that I came up with but it is not. How can we as a adult baby show the world that we are ok?


A:

Dear Jerry,

Sadly no one group can convince any section of society anything.  There are alot of misconceptions out there about being an AB.  All we can do is as an individual show those around us that we are just regular everyday people like everyone else. Only by example can we rule
out all that bad misinformation.  Maybe one day we'll all live in harmony (hey I can dream can't I).

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Hello again mommy.  I have a little more freedom for 2 weeks to wear my diapers more often. With this time I decided to explore my baby side a little more.  Now when I get home it's right into my new day time diapers(not to will about the green color, but my nigh times are white).  I bought the Abri Form Super (day time), and Abri Form X Plus (night time). The day times are thinner, but still thick in the crotch area. Makes me waddle a bit.  So now anytime I'm home for these two weeks it's right to the changing area for a fresh diaper.  That's not all I decided nurse on some low iron formula. I nurse on my Playtex bottle at bed time.  I'll take break every so often so the iron won't effect me to much.  I found that the stage 2 fast flow nipples are the best.  There's a little more roundness to them I would guess to make them more like the actual breast.  I find it easier to suck on.  Any way got some questions about my diapers.  I was wandering if the size is too big for this little baby.  To give you an idea of the size I will go through a diaper change for you.  I lay down so the back edge of the diaper is around the navel area of the lower back.  I pull the front through my legs so the front edge goes an inch or so past the navel area. Then I tape it on. When I stand up I either wear the front over my belly button or fold it down showing the navel.  There's a good amount of room in the back, and front.  There's enough room in the front for my pee pee to move during the night.  I'm not sure if a diaper should allow the pee pee to move or not. In any case it's pretty comfortable. It doesn't fall off that's for sure.  Do you think it's too big? Also how can control sweating in my diapers or do all babies sweat in their disposable diapers?        


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

I am glad you have found the time to 'baby' yourself! The size of your diaper sounds good.  You want to feel comfortable not constricted- a little movement is okay.  All babies will perspire in their diapers.  This is why I always say to use either creams or powders- whether you wet or sweat the diaper will start to break down eventually.  One of the best ways to keep dry is to use corn starch powder.  A friend of mine swears by it.  In fact whenever he sits there is a poof of powder!  :)  Just enjoy your days and stay
happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: STEPH
Age: 21

Q:

I love to mess my diapers but I cant go in public because people will smell how can I poop and not smell?


A:

Dear Steph,

Unfortunately that is one thing I don't have an answer for.  'Poop' is a waste product from your body- so its all the leftover stuff your body can't use. One possible option would be to change some of your eating
habits to less smelly foods but as to what they would be I am not sure. Even a baby who only drinks milk has stinky poop. The only way to poop in public would be to mask the odor in some way.  Sorry I couldn't be of more help. Good luck to you.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 54

Q:

Dear Mommy, Thank you so much for your kind answer and your words of encouragement. After giving it serious thoughts over the last years, I really decided I wanted yo lose bladder control over nighttime for good with the risk of not regaining control again and with all the consequences it might imply socially speaking. Do you think it is normal that I have not lost that control yet after a serious attempt over the past 2 1/2 years I've been wearing a diaper to bed? Are some people just unable to lose bladder control? I have tried at times to just drop that habit of wearing diapers but it only lasted a few days at most before coming back even stronger. This is the reason why I decided to become incontinent for good. In case of success, could it be contained to bedwetting only or could it affect also daytime bladder control?
Thank you again for your kindness. Believe me, it is greatly  appreciated.

Love,
Phil


A:

Dear Phil,

It might take a while to lose the control like you want.  If you lose control it could include daytime as well- you would be losing control of your bladder muscle completely. It does seem that your desire to wet is strong- so just keep drinking plenty fluids and wet on purpose at night and eventually you will retrain your brain that it is okay to use the diaper at night.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wally
Age: 40's

Q:

I am an AB/DL Toddler looking for a Mommy/daddy to help train
me to be a toddler boy, I live in northern, Illinois, I like thick  Pampers, outfits, w/snap crotch's, all of it, I am sincere, quiet, compassionate, friendly, I JUST WANT A MOMMY TO TRAIN ME TO BE HER LIL BOY, I CAN Relocate, and help with diaper expenses, can you help me FIND a
mommy? WALLY
815-985-4429


A:

Dear Wally,

We have a Mommy finder on our main site that can get you started.  I can't find you a mommy- it's all about chemistry between you and her.  You would need to get to know each other and then if the two of you think it would work you could try working out an arrangement. You only need to have some faith, patience and determination and I now you'll find the mommy perfect for you. Here's that link :
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html
Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 33

Q:

Mommy I have another question.  I had a couple of accidents this morning.  I went pee pee and pooped in my diaper.  Unfortunately I tried hard not to move around too much, but I think the clean-up will still be pretty messy.  Since I change myself it makes clean up a little hard.  Since I messed myself the changing pad will be necessary. My question follows after I untapped the diaper.  While I lay on the diaper I wipe some of the outer areas with a baby wipe. After that I'm little lost as to what to do next. Should I slide the diaper out from under me or try to wipe more of my poop off? After I slide out from under me should I continue to wipe myself while still laying on the changing pad?  I need some changing tips for messy diapers if you have any.  Well better change my diaper and cleaned up.  Wish I didn't have to wait 30 days to see the answers, but will use answers for future messes.  Also should I feel bad for messing myself?


A:

Dear Embarrassed,

It can get to be a little tricky.  It all depends on how limber you are.  If you are in good shape, I know some members who are able to lift their hips and pull out the diaper and wipe with the wipes till clean. That can be quite a feat even with abs of steel.  Most members use wipes to get rid of most of the offending matter- like you said you already do- and then walk to shower cupping the diaper under you (so no droppage
along way) step into shower and wash your troubles down the drain. It is a better clean-up for you and not a big mess to clean up in the room. And for the second part of your question- if something brings you joy and hurts no one how can it be wrong? Enjoy your life Embarrassed- you deserve to!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: PHIL
Age: 54

Q:

Dear Mommy,

Thank you again for your great forum, it is so good to be heard, understood and not judged by nice persons like you! I tried to understand my irresistible desire to wear diapers and plastic pants and wet since I was pretty young -around 10 - and came to the same conclusion as Baby "Embarrassed": I was potty trained by one of my
grandmothers when I was under 3 as my mother had to work and could not take care of me.Somehow, wearing diapers gives me that safety feeling I must have lost when I was a toddler... Also, I really want to become a permanent bedwetter as I told you before and I read that it was much easier to achieve through wetting during daytime. What do you think? If so, once totally incontinent day and night, could I then regain control during the day or would that be impossible? Although incontinence has many adverse consequences as you often mention in your answers, I feel ready to face them to become that bedwetter I've been trying to be for so long. Thank you again for helping our AB/DL community.
Love, Phil 


A:

Dear Phil,

Your bladder is a muscle and if trained to lose control can be trained to regain control again. Provided too much time has not elapsed and no injury has been done- it really shouldn't be a problem.  It might take a while but should be 'doable'. Yes I do always point out the downfalls of being incontinent. There are some who don't think ahead and do things
they regret later.  As an adult you are of course entitled to do what you wish- I only want to make sure it is what you really want.  All we want is for our members to be happy.  And by the way thank you for the kind words.  Both Stanley and I do care about our community- if we don't look out for each other who will? Take care and good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tom
Age: 13

Q:

I am a TB in secret and I need a nanny to change me do you know
of any TB sitters, Nanny's or nurses's.


A:

Dear Tom,

On our main site we have a listing of people who might be able to help you out.  but I will be honest with you- you are only 13 and some legal issues might be in place that might interfere with you getting a in-person nanny.  You could perhaps talk to some of these people ands ask if they can talk to you over the phone.  That might be an option.  I can't recommend one personally since I don't know where you live and it is more of a two people matching each other kind of thing.  I wish
you luck.  Here is the link:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Mommys.html

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: ANDREI
Age: 14

Q:

NO ONE KNOWS MY DL PROBLEM I DONT NO WEATHER TO TELL
SOME ONE OR TO I DONT USE THEM OFTEN SOME TIMES I BUY SOME ONES BUT I HAVE JUST USED THEM 4 TIMES I WOULD LIKE SOME ONE TO CHANG ME LIKE A BABY WITH POWDER AND ALL THE STUFF ONE TIME MY GIRL FRIEND SAW ME AND SHE CHANGED ME WHAT
SHOULD I DO ? PLEAS TELL ME MOMY NR U GIRL ?


A:

Dear Andrei,

I can't tell you whether to tell anyone or not, only you can answer that question.  I don't know the people around you and their personalities.  If they are open minded then maybe it's a possibility but if they are not I wouldn't risk it. It can be difficult to find someone to change you like you want. Your girlfriend was willing maybe she would do it for you again. You need to be certain this is something you want to do.  It will take time and persistence but in the end you will get what you want.  Good luck.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: DIANA
Age: 23

Q:

Is there such a supplement to physically regress age please?


A:

Dear Diana,

Sorry but I am not aware of any medication that would regress you physically. Are you sure you would really want that though?  It is nice to live the AB life but to be able to be an adult when you need to be (for
legal issues, bill paying and such) would be nice too. Just a thought. Let me know if you find out anymore information about any medications out there. Good luck to you.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 54

Q:

Dear Mommy, I've been asking you many questions lately, sorry about that. What is your position regarding the use of plastic pants? I recently spent a few nights in a hospital and told nurses up front that I had bedwetting accidents. They put me in diapers but absolutely banned the use of plastic pants I had brought with me. They said it was of nearly no use and could be bad as there was no air circulation. I personally feel much safer wearing a pair of waterproof pants and what happened in the hospital was that I wet the bed pretty badly. What do you think? Also, as I increasingly lean towards wearing diaper during the day, would you recommend wearing plastic pants? Is rubber better than PVC according to your experience? I could not thank you enough for being there to help us with "our" needs for help.

big hugs, Phil 


A:

Dear Phil,

The hospital is an unusual circumstance.  It is true the skin can not breathe in plastic. In a hospital setting the beds are made up with protection for such accidents.  The nurses know that they can't always
check on all the patients as often as they really should so they leave the patients without the pants just in case they can't get back to them in time. It's the nature of a hospital to have emergencies arise.  As to the second part of your question like I said your skin can't breathe under all that plastic/PVC- it doesn't matter which. Whichever one better suits your needs is fine. But in a personal setting you can change more often and leave your skin out to 'air' so to speak.  So if using plastic pants
make sure you do give your posterior some plastic/PVC free time to stay healthy!
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andy
Age: 23

Q:

My mommy wants to put oatmeal down my diaper. she is wondering if it is safe to put it down the back of my diaper.
she also want to know if it is safe to put oatmeal in the diaper, she
wants to leave it in there for a long period of time. is it safe to do
that too


A:

Dear Andy,

What your Mommy wants to do is called 'diaper stuffing'.  Oatmeal is okay to use as long as it is mixed with a safe base like water or milk- so it is not too abrasive or rough.  Even if it is mixed though it can't be in the diaper for too long because then it becomes an irritant and can cause a rash or worse. I wouldn't use it for more than half an hour to be on the safe side.  Hope this helps. Diaper safely!
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: ???
Age: 16

Q:

I don't actually wet the bed but I enjoy wearing toddler training pants and wetting them. I don't know what to do though please help
me!!


A:

Dear ???

You have come to the right place.  You sound a little confused. My only comment is this- If you like to do it and it hurts no one then what is the problem? There will be people who won't understand why you like
it.  We understand.  It is about feeling safe and feeling good.  No big mystery. If you feel that you need to talk to someone about this- we have over 600 people here who will listen.  Both Stanley and I are
great listeners. I have a medical background so if you have any medical questions I can answer those.  Don't be afraid to ask.  No question is silly. We will answer any question as best we can.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: JoAnne
Age: 39

Q:

I hope you can help me.  My 13 year old son just informed me that he likes to wear diapers although he uses my incontinence pads instead of real diapers.  I don't know how to handle this.  I am very worried about him as I'm not sure if he should talk to someone or
not.  His father and I split-up 4 years ago and he had to grow up real
fast.  Could this be the reason he likes to wear diapers?  Please help
as I don't want to say or do the wrong thing and hurt him in anyway
either psychologically or emotionally.  Thank you!  signed JoAnne


A:

Dear Joanne,

It sounds like your son is just looking for a little more reassurance in his life at the moment. It is very possible that your break up has something to do with his desire to wear diapers.  You didn't mention if he was actually wetting or just wanting to wear the diapers.  Either way it is a good idea to take him to a doctor and make sure there are no medical problems there.  If there are none just sit down with him and
have an informed intelligent conversation about why he wants this. Once his needs and desires are met he'll feel alot better and will be able to get on with the rest of his life happily.

-Hugs Sandra 

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 14

Q:

I like to wear and use diapers but how do I tell my parents I is very hard to hide them so I really need to think about how many I have and were to put them to not get caught. if have gotten my parents to by them for me but I have to tell them that I want to do a science project with them. which gets them a little suspicions. I just want to be able to wear them when ever I want without having to be very careful on not getting caught.


A:

Dear Chris,

It is every kids fantasy to have mom and dad magically agree to buy them diapers and all be fine.  I don't know your parents.  So I can't tell you if they would be okay knowing you want to wear diapers.  Only you
can answer that question.  If they are open-minded then maybe if they are not understanding people I wouldn't mention it at all. It can be difficult to know what to do.  Unfortunately this is one situation where only you have the answer. I wish you luck. Check our message board we have tips on getting diapers and where to hide them.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Phil
Age: 54

Q:

Dear Mommy, It is going to be 3 years now I have been trying to become a bedwetter through wearing a diaper to bed every night, but most often wake up every time I feel the need to go. I am a little desperate now that it may never work and feel real frustrated. The only times it worked out without waking up was when I had used a sleeping pill. Would you recommend I use sleeping aids every night for a while so it may help and give my body the right message? Hope you can help as I cannot quit wearing diapers although I tried many times. It is becoming a real need to wet naturally at night. Thank you again for your kindness and help.


A:

Dear Phil,

You have missed one vital step in retraining your body to let go (so to speak).  Your body will of course continue to wake you up when it feels the urge.  You need to let your body know that it's okay to 'go'
where it is.  When you wake up- just relieve yourself in the diaper you have on and go back to sleep. Your body will get the message that there is no need to wake you up- you're only going to stay put! The mind and body need to be on the same page- if your mind knows that you don't need to get up to use the bathroom then there is no need for the mind to tell the body to get up. And then viola a damp morning! I
wish you luck in your endeavor.

- Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tim
Age: 8 months

Q:

I was wondering if it is wrong to wear more then one diaper or if I
could wear about ten or twelve diapers and if that might cause some hip problems


A:

Dear Tim,

Well I know of quite a few members who use extra diapers for extra absorbency and/or the feel and look.  If you can still walk comfortably with that many diapers it shouldn't be a problem.  If the bulk is pushing your leg joints out of position constantly then you could possibly develop some difficulty down the road. Just monitor yourself carefully for any joint pain or soreness.  We care about you and want nothing to happen to you. Stay sweet as all infants are!  :)
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nigel
Age: 20

Q:

Hi mommy I'm an ABDL who likes wetting at nite time. Is there any way I can make myself incontinent only at night?


A:

Dear Nigel,

Usually if you are incontinent it's for the full 24 hours.  But if you are interested in only wetting the bed at night you can train yourself to go at night. I never recommend any method that uses any mediation or physical use of anything that can do permanent harm. My method may take some time but can be reversed if you want at a later time.

Go to bed pampered (diapered). When you feel the urge to go- here's what you do. Now here is the key-don't get up and use the bathroom, stay in the bed and use the diaper. Then go back to sleep. Your body and mind have to be in sync with each other.  Once your mind realizes that even if it wakes you up, you are still just going to stay right where you are -your mind will eventually say 'oh why should I bother'. And there you go- a wet night.  It will take time to train yourself but it is possible. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nigel
Age: 20

Q:

Hi mommy. I'm AB DL. I like to wet at night-time (knowingly). Is there any way I can become incontinent during the night so I wake up wet? Does leaving your hand in a bowl of water while you sleep make you wet naturally?


A:

Dear Nigel,

Leaving your hand in a bowl of water can sometimes help.  I believe my answer to your previous question should give you some good ideas on where to start. Just drink alot before going to bed- don't use the bathroom and follow the guidelines I told you in the other question and before long you'll be floating away. (no pun intended) Hopefully before long your mind and body will be on the same page- so to speak.
Be happy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jon
Age: 27

Q:

How do I change a poopy diaper the right way? because I don't know how. I just started wearing diaper and I don't know how to change them. please help me thank you


A:

Dear Jon,

The best way is to change in the bathtub. Use wipes to remove most of the 'poop' then shower away the rest. For the full AB experience lay on the bed and hike up your hips and again wipe away most of the 'poop' with baby wipes.  If you are agile you can finish the job there but if not you should go to the shower and finish the job.  Cleanliness is vital to skin health. Nothing is worse than to end up with a sore posterior. Remember to always powder or lotion the skin after
changing to keep it in good shape.  So stay clean, fresh and powdered! Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra