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Question Asked By: Nicole
Age: 15

Q:

Im 15 is this normal im really sad am I going to be like this for the rest of my life should I be concerned I weigh 248 and so I cant fit in diapers and some times my med's don't work please write me back im concerned im turning 16 in December what is wrong with me


A:

Dear Nicole,

You never mentioned what your medical problem was.  I am assuming the med's are for the wetting?  I happen to have that problem- I have a brain tumor that resulted in my complete loss of control I am managed by med's. Your doctor should be able to work with you to find the right dosage that works all the time.  And they do
have diapers your size.  A friend of mine is over 300 lbs. and gets prescription diapers delivered by the case to his door.  He also gets other supplies.  Again talk to your doctor and see what is available to you.  As to is it normal?  Any medical problem is never normal but you don't have to let it ruin your life. You can have a fun happy life in a diaper. Keep your chin up and know that you have friends here who think you're special.  Talk to your doctor about what I said and let me know what he says.  Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Breezy
Age: 14

Q:

Hello my name is Breezy and I need some HELP I have been wetting for about 4 months but no one knows I use my brothers
goodnight diapers at night I need to know how to tell my mom that I NEED diapers and I don't know how to do this I feel really bad about this and I'm scared.
                                  

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Dear Breezy,

Well Bedwetting runs in families, as you now know. Since you already have a brother that wets I would just be honest and tell your mom what is happening. Have her take you to a doctor to make sure there is no medical reasons other than a weak bladder (as was the
case with my son). You will most likely outgrow this with time. Your mom of course won't be happy about having 2 kids in goodnites but at least she doesn't have to change you.  Tell her you will take care of changing yourself and all things related.  Perhaps that will help her accept the situation better maybe? Hope all goes well for you.  Let me know how it goes.
-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: 14

Q:

I'm 14, I've always been a bedwetter, and I wear cloth diapers
and plastic or rubber pants to bed. The problem is that I'm going to be staying with my Aunt and cousins for two weeks while my Mom and bro (no Dad) go to Europe. My cousins know I'm a bedwetter,
but they've never seen me in diapers. My Aunt knows that I've had a
couple of accidents during the day, and she's insisting that I wear
diapers the whole time that I stay at her house. My Mom says that it's her call. I don't have pants that can fit over my diapers, and I'm afraid
that I'll be in just diapers and plastic or rubber pants the whole time. My cousins already tease me and call me names, and I'm afraid they'll have friends over and I'll be a laughingstock. I already feel ashamed to be in diapers at night. I hardly ever wet during the day, and I don't think i should have to wear diapers at my Aunt's. Can you say something that I can tell her to convince her? Thanks! John


A:

Dear John,

You are in a tough situation.  Your aunt is nervous and isn't quite sure how to handle the situation.  I know you said you use cloth but have you ever considered using disposables?  The reason I mention
them is because if you are slim enough you might be able to fit into a 'Goodnites'.  They absorb well and are not too bulky.  So even if your aunt makes you wear them during the day - no bulk. There are other
products out there that are good also.

Maybe you could ask your Mom to talk to your Aunt on your behalf or at least ask if you can talk to her. Tell her that you don't have daytime accidents.  And that you will do your very best to stay dry while at her house. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cindy
Age: 42

Q:

I wet also at other times like long car rides if I fall asleep and nap times also doctor visits ect...  I am still also a thumb sucker and have never ever slept in a bed that was not a crib .Please  please help me if you can. I really do not have at this point much hope of help left . Thank you even for just reading my letter. Cindy


A:

Dear Cindy,

I would love to help you if I can but you don't say what it is you need help with. Do you need help in trying to stay dry?  Or are you trying to find a better way to manage your wetting? Please write back and be a little more specific on what exactly it is you would like some advise on.  Take care till I hear from you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Debbie
Age: 12

Q:

I only wet once a month at least but my mom insist I wear Cloth Diapers Day and night when I go into the car even if the trips are
short. She says she will do all the changing I asked if I could and said
that I am to young to,she has her mind set She says I can't do anything to hide the diapers either. Last week we went onto a plane and my mom told me not to wear my pants so I was in a diaper and
shirt. My mom asked the attendant if I could go with her to change
me. The flight attendant said no so I was in a wet diaper. The flight
attendant saw that it was leaking so she changed me. I was so embarrassed. Should my mom do this? I fill loved but then babied.


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Dear Debbie,

At 12 you are old enough to change yourself. I know of many who are younger who can handle it using pull-ups. I am surprised that the airline even involved themselves in your diapering issue- the attendants are usually too busy but it is in the end your mother's
responsibility.  I would sit down and talk to your Mom and let her know that you would like to change yourself from now on but of course you still want the 'cuddle' time!  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jbug121
Age: 22

Q:

what  do  I  do  I  am  afraid  to  buy  the diapers  and keep  them  at  my  home  because  of  my  house  mates and  I  am  afraid  to  wear  them  because  they  make  noise


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Dear Jbug,

When you buy your supplies you need to keep them either at a secret locale or a locked location or at a trusted friend's house.  As to the sound of the diapers there are ways to minimize the sound.  You
could wear a tight fitting pair of briefs over them to cut down on the sound.  One of our members swears by the 'wear your keys dangling on a chain off of your belt' method. All you hear are the keys.  Of course they have products on the market that use more of a fabric type material and make no sound.  You would need to experiment.  Hope these tips help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: BRENT
Age: 35

Q:

IS IT COMMON FOR SOMEONE WHO WET THE BED AS A KIDS TO
START WETTING THE BED AGAIN AS AN ADULT? ALSO COULD ANXITY MEDICINES OR HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE MEDS HAVE ANY THING TO DO WITH IT?


A:

Dear Brent,

It is possible to start wetting again in later life if you wet as a child. it all depends on the cause of your initial wetting.  This is a matter you should perhaps discuss with your doctor. He can also tell you about the specific medications you use.  I know there are certain prescriptions that can trigger wetting but again if you are taking one of them only your doctor can answer that. I guess my best advice would be to sit down and have a talk with your physician. I hope
everything turns out alright for you.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Theresa Gaines
Age: 15 years old

Q:

What can I do to stop wetting the bed. Sometimes I don't wet the bed. but it happens a lot.


A:

Dear Theresa,

The first thing is to see a doctor to find out what the problem is. In the meantime- limit what you drink before bed. Go to the bathroom right before bedtime and see if that helps.  Also in the evenings don't
drink any drinks containing caffeine- sodas, coffee, tea, ice tea- it is a diuretic and makes you go. Hope these tips help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: RJack
Age: 57

Q:

I have permanent incontinence due to nerve damage. I am scheduled for a knee joint replacement, with a 2 week stay in a rehab nursing home (after surgery & 3 day hospital stay). I also have a possible job/career opportunity at the same rehab place. If I apply & am accepted for the position; then when I have my surgery (& stay in the rehab center), my co-workers -nurses & other staff; will know of my incontinence, since the nurses will be changing my diapers (this is very routine for them, to put diapers on patients). I will then have co-workers who will have put diapers on me. I really want the job there, but am reluctant to have co-workers, who will be diapering
me, during my rehab stay there. Should I take the job? I really want it, but will be embarrassed, due to the circumstances?


A:

Dear Rjack,

Having worked in the medical profession myself I can promise you- you will just be another patient that they know a little better than most.  You have a medical condition that requires you to wear the
diapers. If any of the staff that takes care of you should meet you again all that would happen is they would say "Hello, Nice to see you again." If you want the job I would go for it.  Don't let this get in your
way.  It would be a shame to let the opportunity of a lifetime slip by because you might feel self-conscious.  When like you said the staff deals with these situations all the time.  Why would your stay be more significant than another patients? Think it over. I wish you luck - on your surgery and on your job search.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: BRENT
Age: 35

Q:

Hello this is Brent again. I Have been to my family doctor and a
Urologist who's till trying to figure out why I'm wetting but he don't think it's the med's I'm taking. It could be OAB, stress not sure. Or some thing else have you heard of others who wet as kids wetting again as adults. I feel alone here.


A:

Dear Brent,

Actually we have a few young wetter's who started wetting again as they got older. In some cases the cause was known in others it wasn't.  It is good that you have seen a doctor.  If you have good medical coverage you might want to ask if you can get a prescription for diapers. There are medical companies that will deliver to your home the diapers that your doctor requests. Don't ever feel that you are alone. There are others who have gone through the same things
as you. Remember we are here for you if you ever need to talk, vent or ask a question.  :)  Let me know how you are doing.  I wish you all the best.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Alice
Age: 49

Q:

I am a mother of a bed wetting child. I have used diapers as a punishment for my son James. I know this is not the kind of questions you deal with but I would feel stupid asking a doctor and I don't want to embarrass my son. The punishment is not working because he enjoys it. What other punishment should I use. Grounding or time outs don't work.


A:

Dear Alice,

My son was a bedwetter. I took him to a doctor who said he had an immature bladder.  In other words he couldn't help wetting- his bladder was too weak. Perhaps this is the case with your son and he can't control his wetting. Which would explain why the punishment is not working.  My question is why are you punishing him?  If it is a problem he can't control no amount of punishing is going to get him to stop. Which brings me to him wearing the diapers- of course he's
going to like wearing them.  While wearing them he doesn't have to worry about wetting accidents- he can just go whenever he pleases. With my son we didn't make a big deal out of it and he did stop. Maybe just dealing with the problem- like wearing protection at
night, cutting back on fluids close to bedtime etc.- will give your son a sense of calm and he can then settle down enough to stop wetting. Unless you know whether the wetting is caused by a medical condition or not punishing will not work. Try working with your son to end his wetting instead of being an adversary and together you can perhaps end it. Stay positive and keep loving him.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: A Diaper Girl
Age: 15

Q:

I  been wetting for long time so my mom put me in pampers because the doctor told her to and I LOVE THE FEELING. So I have a changing table and etc. One day I was at the doctors with my mom
and I was waiting  for my mom to come in the room so I poop and pee and they laid me down and changed me? Is it ok to have a nurse change you and at school I have to go to the nurse every hour to get changed and the other question is, is it ok for every one to treat me like a baby because I have to wear them?


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Dear Diapergirl,

I would think in your case it is okay that the nurse changes you. Like I had said before if you are comfortable with it there is no problem. It is not right for everyone else to treat you like a baby just
because you wear diapers. You have a small problem- it's no different than if you had to wear glasses or had to get braces. You just remember you are special and unique and loved.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: A Girl In Diapers
Age: 15

Q:

Dear Mom,

I have a few questions. 1) I wear diapers because I wet the bed and sometimes have. 2) Mom treats me like a baby. she will say time to change your diaper. So if I am sitting on the couch or a chair she would pick me up and sit me on the floor and make me lay down and change me wipe etc.. so is that ok?? 3) Is ok for the school nurse to treat me like a BABY and change me in  her office?? And the doctor to the same??


A:

Dear A girl in diapers,

My first question to you is at age 15 why aren't you changing yourself?  You are old enough. It is okay for your Mom to change you if that is what you want but why is the school nurse getting involved?  Do you also have daytime accidents? I know of other teen members who do keep their diaper supply at the nurses office to prevent embarrassment but still change themselves when they go there.  Ask your Mom about learning how to do that. You are getting older and everyone will not always be around to do it for you so it is best
you learn it for yourself. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Confused
Age: 15

Q:

I am 15 years old and am still wetting the bed. When I take my medicine I don't wet the bed but I ran out so I am wetting the bed almost every night. I try really hard not to wet the bed but when I
wake up my sheets are wet. It is really embarrassing because my
brothers tease me and I'm afraid they will tell their friends. I don't want to wet the bed but it's hard not to. I don't know what is causing it. The doctors say nothing is wrong with me. I want to be able to have a family and not wet the bed. When will my problem stop? Is there anything I can do?


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Dear Confused,

You did not say what your medical condition is but you obviously have one since the doctor put you on medication. You will wet without your medication.  The one sure way to stop wetting is to take your medicine. As to when you will stop that all depends on what your ailment is.  It could be something you will grow out of or it could be something permanent.  You need to speak with your doctor about that.  In the meantime get some more of your medicine, keep taking it and stay dry. And you can have a family even if you wet and take medicine- I take med's for that and I'm a Grandmother. Also talk to your parents about having your brothers stop teasing you.  It isn't your fault when you have a wet night. You take care and keep
smiling.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andrew
Age: 13

Q:

How do I tell my friend that I wet the bed?


A:

Dear Andrew,

That is a hard question. Most people don't understand bedwetting.  They all think it is something you can stop anytime you want.  So if they know you wet the bed they make fun of you.  They did that with my son. So my advice to you is this- I would try to keep this information to myself. This is a personal matter and should really be kept personal.  If you really want to tell your friend just be sure that he is a best friend and can keep your secret.I hope it all turns out okay for you.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lottie
Age: 21

Q:

What is the best diaper?


A:

Dear Lottie,

There are so many products out there.  The best way to find the one that is best for you is through trial and error. A lot of the online companies offer sample packs where you can try each of their products.  As for specific brands we like Molicare and Uniquebriefs. I
wish you luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: A.J.
Age: 12

Q:

How can I tell my mom that I'm wetting the bed. And in the mornings my sheets are wet. I wear medium Tena diapers.


A:

Dear AJ,

I can't tell you how to tell your Mom because I don't know her.  Only you know if this is information she can handle.  Is she an accepting type of person?  Does she have an open mind about things? If she doesn't she will most likely not be happy about the news. So you need to decide if you want to tell her or not. I wish
you luck and hope all turns out okay.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Len
Age: 37

Q:

First of all sorry to call you mom. I don't have a mother I can go to she was killed by a car as she was crossing the street 13 years ago this September. Question, what can a person do if their doctor lied to them, mine did. I am diapered 24/7 due to a very large tumor near my bladder, and when I'm full it gets bigger. And there's times where I can't make it to the restroom.

So I use. pampers size6, luvs size6, huggies pull ups size4t5t, comforts pull ups size4t5t. I also use the huggies clean team i.e. body wash. and shampoo. due to skin problems. I also use luvs wipes, j&j baby powder, huggies baby lotion. I can't use adult diapers there to big and they leak real bad. The adult body wash makes me itch. Now I can finally go swimming again. I tried the
new pampers splashers swim pants size 6, and behold they work and fit fine. I think I pee more then a baby. I change at least 6 to 8 times a
day. Back to my doctor, I had a test done last month and I had to
drink this liquid milk that cost $90.00 dollars a bottle. I had to drink
three of them in a thirty minute period. Then is was test time. I had
to go in to a big round tube. the one that looks inside your body. I forgot the name of it sorry. A few hours later my doctor called and said they didn't find anything. So he lied to me. I know my body and I know there's something not right. Maybe he lied to me because
I'm on medicare you think? I can't take it anymore. I am tired. Death
is looking real good right about now. Do you know what it's like to cut
out diaper and pull-up coupons out of the Sunday paper? Then use them at the store. e.g. wal-mart. clerk says buying for your sister or
brother. I'll say something like that. Please help. Please e-mail me at.
babypoobear69@yahoo.com Thank you for your time. God bless Len.

p.s. just to remind you I am not a TB. AB so on and so on. I'm just a very young man with a very big problem. IM only 37 years old. thanks again. god bless. len.


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Dear len,

First of I would like to say how sorry I am that you lost your mother.  My mother passed away 8 years ago and it's not always easy.

You have come up against a common problem. A majority of people who get tested show no definite or concrete reason or signs as to why they wet. For instance if you have a weak bladder muscle- no x-ray or cat scan will show that. Maybe your doctor is playing it
straight and just can't find the cause using conventional tests. But I will say this if you are unhappy with your doctor find another one.  You should have complete trust in your medical care provider.

Wearing a diaper can be a chore to say the least. But it is nothing to talk about 'death' over. I do know what it is to cut out coupons for diapers- for me and my infant twins. I was a young mother of 3 when I was diagnosed with my tumor. I didn't die and I survived. In the long run I would rather wear a diaper than to have missed seeing my children grow up. I know how hard it can be but stay strong.  Life is worth it! The surprises you get along the way can be priceless.  As
for the store clerks tell them you have a pet capuchian monkey at home- have some fun with them. They get all excited asking about your monkey- you leave chuckling to yourself. Try to enjoy each day. I wish you luck and good fortune.  Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brent
Age: 35

Q:

If I got a prescription for adult diapers how or where would I get it
filled, please tell me how this works. thank you


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Dear Brent,

If you can get a prescription , that would be wonderful. Because then your medical plan could possibly pay for all or a portion of the cost of the diapers.

You have two options: you could just go to your local pharmacy/drug store and they would fill the Rx with usually their brand. Or you could contact a diaper delivery site and arrange to have them delivered to your door. There are so many wonderful companies to chose from, so check some out.  Perhaps ask for a
sample pack from them and see which diapers are covered by your particular medical plan.  I wish you luck in your hunting.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Noah
Age: 22

Q:

In my past when I was a litte boy uses to have acciedents all
time. My doctor said because my cp I having wetting problem and wasn't to happy hear. Just talk to my doctor and he told it's come back. Later my bladder control has become ramdom. it's good one moment and bad the next and ramdon accedent like pooping and peeing. Do you think start wear diapers for my safty?        


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Dear Noah,

I would wear the diapers. It is like you said- some days are good and others not so good. You can be left unaware and oh no---it is better to have all your bases covered (so to speak).  There is no harm in wearing diapers 24/7. Just be sure to give your skin
'breathing' time and be sure to change when you do go. Good luck and stay safe.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Josh
Age: 14

Q:

I have been wetting my bed and pants for one month quite frequently now.  SOMEHOW I have managed to keep it a secret. I
had even a number 2 accident a couple times. I want to know if you think I HAVE to wear diapers. Diapers are for babies and I dont want to be a baby, I am 14. Is there anything I can do? Repottytrain? Or are diapers the only option?


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Dear Josh,

Diapers are not only for babies.  There are alot of reasons why people could wear diapers. Of course babies wear, I use to work as a nurse and I saw elderly people in nursing homes wearing diapers.  But have you thought of this? How about an athlete with a broken leg? He can't walk to the bathroom can he. Anyone with an illness that keeps them immobilized might have to wear one.  They still have to wear one. I would have to wear one- if there weren't medication for me.  I have a serious illness. A diaper doesn't make you less or more of what you are.  This could be nothing more than just a phase you are going through. But even if it isn't they have great products that look a lot like underwear that no one else would have to know. Think about all that I have said.  Consider going to your parents and having a doctor check you out and remember we are always here for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: A Girl That Has To
Age: 15

Q:

I have to wear diapers according to the doctor because I might have accidents because I have a weak bladder because I broke my leg during a volleyball and I injured my bladder and so I have to wear diapers forever because it got hurt BAD. So anyways ummm I am also in a weelchair because of my leg but I will be off in six weeks because I got in on yesturday. Anyways I don't want the kids at school knowing I wear diapers. How do I make it look like I don't wear when I really do? Plus sometimes kids see me since I have to go to the nures to get changed.


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Dear A girl that has to,

They do sell diaper products that look like underwear. Perhaps you could use one of those that is a little less obvious.  As far as going to the nurse- you could just say the nurse has to help you because of your injury, not because of diaper use. But in all honesty
you had an accident they can't give you a break for that. People can sometimes be cruel I hope none of those people call themselves your friends. Stay strong and mend quickly and you'll be back up on your feet soon. Then you can get back to spiking the ball!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jim Gulyas
Age: 39

Q:

I have been wetting my bed for about three years now.  I take a lot of medications for my medical condition, and I am just about to turn forty years old.  Is this normal behavior?

     Also,  one possible solution to my problem is that I wear diapers
24/7, and, to be honest with you, I love my diapers. Another question that I have for you is: I tend to poop in my diapers, as well as wetting them, is this acceptable behavior for someone my age? 


A:

Dear Jim,

While you don't say what your medical condition is- if you want to wear diapers and pee and poop em- why the heck not. You are a grown man.  You are hurting no one and lets face it-we are not getting any younger  (I am 4-, I am not telling you my REAL age) Now as far as your bed wetting goes you can wear a diaper to bed or use a mattress protector and do a whole lot of laundry. It basicly comes down to personal choice.  If you are comfortable with it then do it.  I know I am at the stage of my life where I don't compromise anymore. (well there are money restraints) You deserve to have things how you want them so be happyin you life.  It's about time don't you think?

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Julie
Age: 16

Q:

Next year I'll go off to college. I know my parents can pay extra and get me my own room, but I've also hear rumors that if you tell them you're a bedwetter that they will get you a roomate that is also one. Do you know if there's any truth to this? I honestly don't think bed wetting is real common in college students.


A:

Dear Julie,

I know college's can be accomadating but that is one rumor I can't verify for you.  Now I am not the holy grail on university housing so it may be a possibility.  I would check with the college that you are interested in itself.  I know the college I went to did not have that particular choice.  ahhh in a perfect world huh? I do wish you luck in your hunt though.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brent
Age: 35

Q:

Hello;

This is Brent again, my doctors thinks I have something called
"Spillover incontinence", but he's still trying to determine why my bladder dosen't empty completly like it should. What do you know about this kind of incon. is it common? Should I continue wearing
diapers at night because my wetting seems to be getting worse. I
average 2 diapers a night instead of 1 to 2.


A:

Dear Brent,

I am not a doctor. I worked as a nurse in hospitals, nursing homes and did some private duty.  But as I understand it- you have a weak bladder.  For whatever reason- I assume that is what the docotr is trying to figure out now- the bladder muscle is weak and just can't hold the urine in so it 'spills' out. Depending on the cause it may get better or yes it may get worse. I would invest in a mattress protecter. Perhaps a better diaper product at night (molicare, uniquebriefs) or even medication. Discuss these with your doctor next time you see him. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Smokey
Age: 21

Q:

I was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and repressed memory syndrome, and I was dry until I was almost 19.
Suddenly I start having these horrible nightmares about someone hurting me very badly as a child. I believe my abuser was herself some sort of ab/sadist. I guess I have two questions. 1. What is it about urine accidents that drives people crazy to the point where they want to strike back with humiliation (or far worse) and 2. I'm at the point where I only have accidents during nightmares, which are mroe frequent when I'm really stressed out or scared about something. Are the nightmares the reason I'm wetting, sorta having the pee scared out of me. Or is it the stress causing two individual and not related problems.


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Dear Smokey,

Knowing a little of your background story I would think it's a little of both. I am by no stretch of the magination a  shrink but common sense tells me you have alot to process and deal with.  Your mind and body are just trying the best it can to cope. I would assume that when the nightmares are too intense your body just can't wake itself up- maybe because it's too busy trying to fight the nightmare.  Like I said I could be all wrong I am no professional. We are always at our lowest point when we are at stress. Where are you suppose to get all this storehouse of power to fight the nightmare and the wetting from? Try to cope with each day as it comes. Remember we are here for you if you need to talk. You take care of yourself.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Randolph or Kako
Age: 14

Q:

I was wondering can wetting the bed cause incontinence?


A:

Dear Randolph,

The definition for incontinence is loss of urinary and/or bowel control.  So technically if someone is bedwetting they are incontinent. This does not include one time accidents like needing to go and someone is in the bathroom and you can't hold it kind of thing. But if a person is routinely wetting they should see a doctor to rule out a medical problem. Hope thisinformation helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Randolph or Kako
Age: 14

Q:

I was wondering when will i stop wetting the bed i'm tired of being yelled at for wetting the bed.


A:

Dear Randolph,

I can't answer that question for you.  I don't know why you are wetting.  With my son he had an immature bladder and stopped when he was 12-13. Only a doctor can tell you when.  In the mean time you could try getting a mattress protector to protect the bed.  Try limiting fluids a few hours before bed to decrease the chances of a wet night. Talk to your parents.  I know it will be hard but ask them to take you to a doctor to find out why you are still wetting.  Maybe he might
have an idea to help the situation.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra