ASK A MOM ARCHIVE
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Question Asked By: Jack
Age: 17

Q:

My mommy lets my big sister change my diaper. Is that normal.


A:

Hello Jack,

     There are no real rights or wrongs. If you and your sister are comfortable with her changing you then it’s fine. If you feel uncomfortable with her changing you then you should be able to ask her to stop. You are old enough to be changing yourself. In the end the call is really yours. Are you ok with it is the bottom line.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Matt
Age: 14

Q:

Hello, my name is Matthew, and I love to wear diapers everywhere but my parents don't think I need them. What should I do? Please help me


A:

Hello Matt,

     If you have a problem with wetting then you should still be able to wear them. Just express that you feel more comfortable wearing protection. That you are scared of an accident and don’t feel confident enough to go without them yet. Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: John Doe
Age: Unknowen


Q:

   Tell me the best diaper but the cheapest?


A:

   Hello John Doe,

   The best diaper for the cheapest price would be Molicare for about $1.20 per diaper and holds about 4 cups in the XL size. The next diaper up is Eurobriefs for about $2.00 per diaper and holds about 3 liters in the XL size. Hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wendy
Age: 13


Q:

    My mum has offered to put me back in diapers which I do wear quite often but am having strange sad mix feeling about wearing again. I used to wet the bed occasionally when younger but now more often that lately mum had a word with my auntie and they both agreed I should try wearing diapers again. But am have mix feelings wearing especially when we go out am worried someone will know I am wearing diapers and occasionally plastic pants. Should I just tell my mum I don't need diapers any more? But I know I would miss the love and attention mum gives me when I am being changed as if am some sort of baby. How can wearing diapers change a person’s personality? But never mind I just have to get
used to wearing them.


A:

    Hello Wendy,

    If you really need to wear them you should. There are ways to get around people knowing you are wearing diapers. What would be more embarrassing would be you not wearing and have an accident. If your having mixed feelings about wearing you should talk to your mom and maybe she can help you work something out. Ask your mom to take you to your doctor and see if your doctor has some suggestions that can help. Good luck, Hope this helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brandon
Age: 21


Q:

    I don’t wet accidentally that often but I still choose to wear diapers because I like how they feel. No one knows this so my question is how can I tell my girlfriend that I wear diapers?


A:

    Hello Brandon,

    Unless you are very serious about a relationship with her, it might be best not to mention it. At least until you are in the relationship for awhile first. A lot of people are not very accepting of people who need to wear diapers. From what we understand it’s best to wait awhile before mentioning it and let the relationship build first. Hope this helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bob
Age: Unknown


Q:

    Hi I like diapers but I’m afraid to tell my mom. I wear them at night because I got them from my friend. please help, thank you.


A:

   Hello Bob,

   Well based on the fact that you are afraid to tell your mom I am willing to bet your under 18. So with that in mind, gather some information and present it to your mom and explain to her you have a problem and that you want help. Ask to see your doctor if you have a wetting problem at night. He should have some suggestions on management of your wetting. It’s ok to be afraid. Everyone is when it comes to telling someone about their wetting problem. Hope this helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kelly
Age: 28


Q:

    I wet very heavily at night. I wear depends overnite plus a cloth diaper for extra protection. Is there a diaper that can do the job of two diapers?


A:

     Hello Kelly,
    
     Yes, but you can only buy it online. It’s Eurobriefs. They run about $2.00 each and the XL size can hold 3 liters of urine before needing a change and lasts about 12-14 hours before it starts to break down. You can order a free sample from the site but they want $3.50 for shipping and handling. Here is the site address:

http://secure.uniquebrief.com/index.htm

     A package of 11 is about $44.00. But with how much it can hold it’s worth the money. I hope that helps.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jasoni
Age: 24


Q:

   What can cause IBS in a person's life?


A:

Hello Jasoni,

That is a question only your doctor can answer. I assume you are already seeing one- if so ask him what might have contributed to that condition if you have it. Sometimes environment and heredity come into play. It is a treatable condition. I wish you all the luck.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michael Anderson
Age: 14


Q:

Where can I find adult diapers?


A:

    Hello Michael,

    Most drug stores carry a wide range of adult diapers. You can also search the internet. There are quite a few good companies that will send you diapers through the mail. Aalso if you are under a doctors care you might be eligible to receive diapers through any medical insurance your parents might have. Good luck in your search.

  -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Karla
Age: 15


Q:

Is it true sometimes it can take until late teens for a girl to gain day and night control?


A:

Hello Karla,

     It doesn't apply to any one sex over the other. If you have a weak or immature bladder it can take awhile to mature and work well. Hope that helps.

   -Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mike
Age: 13

Q:

I wear boxer briefs right now and want to switch to briefs. When should I ask my mom and also I want a boys Speedo jammer. When should I ask from her for that.


A:

Hello Mike,

Your question is a little confusing.  You say you wear goodnites and cloth diapers and wish to switch to briefs.  I am assuming you mean regular briefs. If you wish to switch to regular briefs and Speedos you would need to show that you can go for an extended period of time with no wetting.  As a parent I am sure your Mom would encourage you in your efforts to become dry.  I would talk to her about helping you get to that goal.  Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jim
Age: 41

Q:

I have a condistion known as Nerofibromatious (NF) Type one this has cause tumors in my bladder. Doctors will not operate because of fear the tumors may grow back 2 time large if they cut them out. that is one of the risk of this desiese (sorry I am a bad speller. this is also known as the elephant mans desiese is there anyone else like me who has lost bladder control due to this (NF)?


A:

Dear Jim,  I am so sorry to hear about your condition. There are situations such as yours where surgery would only make matters worse.  I have no personal knowledge of any of our members having that particular disease but perhaps they have just been shy in disclosing that fact.  Please post on our EZboard and perhaps you will gain a penpal and/or friend. In any event you know you have our full support and only wish you the best.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cody
Age: 14

Q:

Can some tell my dad that I need some dipers or goodnites any protection he won't listen to me please help me.


A:

Dear Cody, Yours is not an unusual situation. Since your family is aware of the wetting it would make sense  to tell your Dad that you need some help in the form of'Goodnites' or some other product.  Ask if he can take you to a doctor to see if there are any other ideas he could come up with.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cody Moon
Age: 14

Q:

Somone help me I need some info about bed wetting.


A:

Dear Cody,  There are many informative sites about bedwetting. You can print out the information for your family to read.  I would also suggest you have your parents take you to a doctor to determine the origin of your wetting.  Parents seem to accept better a doctor's opinion.  Hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Derrick
Age: 29

Q:

I realize I'm a little old to be asking a mom, but thanks for being here. I actually have a couple of qustions: Is it more common to wear a (wet) diaper until shower time in the morning or take it off right away? (For me that would be about 20 min on week days). Second: assuming leaking was not going to occur, how unusual is it to 're-wet' after wakeing ( as in purposely)?  I ask both from a ( mild) dispute with my live in girlfriend, who occationally ( gently) teases me about both behaviors. Haveing no one else to ask the 'normalizing' question to, I'm asking it here. Thanks


A:

Dear Derrick,  First off- consider yourself lucky to have a girlfriend that is accepting of the situation.  Secondly- there is no right or wrong way in wearing your diaper.  If you are comfortable wearing until you shower then so be it (better than not wearing and having a 'leak' on the floor).  Alot of people I know need to 'go' as soon as they waken or soon after.  So that is not unusual at all.  As many people as there are in this world- there are just as many ways to wear a diaper.  If you are comfortable and happy then you are doing it right-for you!  Don't change a thing (except the wet diaper).   :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Rebecca Busher
Age: 14

Q:

When I first started wetting the bed my mom found out and got me pampers.  Every day and night it got worse.  My mom went back to the store and got me a lot of pampers diapers, and baby wipes, baby cream, and baby powder.  I told her she went over bored.  At least I was home schooled. Every night she would lay me on the ground and change me.  She would forget I was 14 and say how cute I was like I was a baby.  So when the next morning I would wake up feeling wet.  My mom took off my clothes and gave me a BUBBLE BATH.  I know this sounds strange but its TRUE!!!  Then she would change me into my diaper and since I am small for my age she picked me up and patted me on the butt.  I felt so embassased.  My mom freaks out when I wet myself.  I don't know what to do and its driving me crazy she made me cry once and she put me to a nap at 12:00 noon.  Please help ASAP!!!!!


A:

Dear Rebecca,  You don't mention if you have ever been to the doctor.  Since you have been wetting your entire life I would have your Momtake you to see a doctor to find the cause.  Perhaps he could help your Mom adjust a little better to your wetting.  I would try talking to her and say you appreciate her concern but perhaps since you are older she could let you change your self. Is there any other family member that you could talk to that you trust?  Perhaps have them talk to your Mom. I hope all goes well.  Good Luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: DIAPER GIRL
Age: 12

Q:

IS IT OK WHEN YOUR MOM CAN'T CHANGE YOU.  AND A BABY DOCTOR CAN AND PUT YOU TO SLEEP AND MAKE YOU WEAR A BIB?


A:

Dear Diapergirl,  You don't mention why your Mom doesn't change you.  It is okay if someone else changes you and it's okay with you.  Since you are 12 perhaps you could try changing yourself. As far as wearing a bib- you should wear one only if you want to. There is no law thats says if you wear a diaper you have to use a bib. I hope all things go well for you.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: BRETT
Age: 18/19

Q:

I have recently have started to wet the bed again I have been dry for 5 years what should I use to manage the problem and where can I get it from because I live in queensland, australia?


A:

Dear Brett, Your wetting could be due to stress.  You mentioned you wet in the past I would see a doctor to make sure there is no medical problems.  A physician could give you some ideas to help from incontinence products to medications.  As for over the counter remedies.  Most drug/health stores have an entire section with 'adult diapers' or 'protective liners'.  Either should work for you.  If you don't have access to a drug/health store you can go online to any 'adult diaper' site and order products sent directly to your home.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tiff
Age: 14

Q:

When I was 9 years old I first wet the bed.  My mom found out later and I begged her not to get me diapers.  She said she would have to.  She got me some pampers diapers, baby wipes, and baby cream, and baby powder.  I got really upset.  Well my mom wanted to treat this as well as I did and I went to the doctors and the said my bladder is so weak they think it would be a mirical if I got off diapers.  Up and till now my mom changes me.  But if I go to school in a diaper the school nurse changes me on a table in the bathroom.  I get so embaresserd my mom is thinking I should get thicker diapers. The doctor said that is the best idea. So when I go to school. It looks like I have a huge butt. Luckily know one knows.  Not even my friends. What should I do because I hate diapers alot and my mom changes me what should I do?


A:

Dear Tiff,  You are now 14 ask your Mom if you can start changing yourself.  It will take some time to get the hang of it but you know you can do it.  As for the product used- there are many diapers that are absorbant with out being bulky.  For ease of changing try Pampers pull-ups- easy to put on and take off and relatively thin and not bulky.  Thera are many products you could try- experiment. Tell your Mom that you are getting older and that you need to learn to do this for yourself. I hope everything turns our okay for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: PAMPER GIRL
Age: 15

Q:

Hi I first started wetting the bed when I was 5 and still do up to 15. Well my mom got me pampers supplies. Then my mom started diapering me. I have a disability of walking and doing things on my own. That is why I am home schooled. Also I am a midget the size of 4ft. and 8in. So my mom got me to the doctors about my problem. They said because of my disability I have a small bladder that it would be impossible to get out of diapers. So my mom got me a changing table.  It is so embarrassing. I was on the road once and I wet myself so bad it leaked on the car. My mom pulled into a restaurant and picked me up and ran inside. She said very loud, "Where is the bathroom, my baby girl has a pee pee in her panties! I was so shocked. My mom rushed me in and changed me. My pants were soaked so I walked out of the restaurant in a pink shirt and a thick pampers diaper and shoes. It even got worse she had to do a pit stop to the store downtown where I live and I had to come with her and I was in a diaper and a shirt and shoes. Everyone saw me. Old ladies started saying how cute I was and thought I was a real baby and told me there is a baby clothes store down the street. Is this normal for my mom to do this to me?


A:

Dear Pampergirl,

Unless you are physically unable to change yourself there is no reason for your Mom to still be changing you. You said you were 15- perhaps it is time to try to do it for yourself. Of course if you are unable to change yourself then of course your Mom should continue doing it. As well as if it is okay with you for her to still be doing it.  If it makes you uncomfortable in any way she should stop.  Whatever the situation- as long as you are both content with the arrangement then its alright.  Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: BABYGIRL
Age: 12

Q:

I am a 5 foot girl. And I have a problem with wetting the bed.  I have a disease that the doctors told me that makes me wet the bed constantly. When I was 11 years old the doctor told my mom to go into the hospital for a week so they could find a cure for me. When I first started going their they diapered me and washed me to find any problems. Sometimes they need my help with parents with new born kids how to wash change and the best way to feed a baby. So a baby nurse used me as an example. Also they said it could help them with my cure.  But they asked parents to come up and they would wash me to see if they do it the right way. About 20-30 parents came to either get help or to see how it felt how cute it was to wash and change their new born. Finally the doctors found a cure. It was bed wetting therapy. My mom would make me drink lots of water to make me wet so many times it would help me stop wetting. But it did not work. Well I got so used to it I told my mom to put me in a day care called Baby heaven day care center for you pampered cutie. I love it there. But is it normal. My mom is thinking I should get home school so I can go there more often. I agreed and now they give me naps and changes. Is this normal. I even try to speak baby to my mom and she loves it as she treats me like a
baby. Is this normal for me to like being cared like this. write back
ASAP!!!!!


A:

Dear Babygirl,

Your situation is unique. My general rule of thumb is this- if it makes you happy and you're not hurting anyone and its legal- go for it!  As unusual as your life may be if you are happy who am I to rain on your parade.  Be happy- life is too short! Happy diapering.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: BabyGirl
Age: 15

Q:

Hi I am kind of small for my age because my dad is a midget of 4ft.8 and I am the same way. Well I am home schooled and I live with my mom. One day at age 10 and I wet my pants. I told my mom and she took me to the doctors. I am too small so my bladder is weak. Also the doctor says I can't change myself so my mom does it for me. So my mom went to the store with me. And I got this package called (My little babies diaper kit). It had Huggies Ultra. Well my mom works for a company called Huggies inc. That is why I am wearing Huggies ultra. She got a changing table and baby clothes for me. When I got home she said she has to give me a bath because I am way to small to reach the shower. She washed me and took out the mat and changed me. She picked me up and gave me my dinner and she picked me up and put me for my nap. I hated it a lot. I told my mom this was a bad idea. One day my mom had to go to work so she brought me to Kinder Care baby center. They were nice. Then I went back home. The next morning my moms friends were coming over and my mom gave me a bubble bath and put me in my diaper.  She put on a pink Barney T-shirt and socks. SHE FORGOT MY PANTS AND I TOLD HER I NEED THEM. SHE SAID NO YOU LOOK FINE. The door bell rang and her friends were there I was so embarrassed. Now I am 15 and I do this everyday. Is this normal? What should I do? If I can't get my bladder controlled because I am a midget how will my mom stop doing this? She made me cry and stomp my feet like a baby. She even carries me around town. And if I have no siblings aunts or uncles and my grandparents are dead and my father is living in California what should I do? 


A:

Dear Babygirl,

I think you need to have a talk with your Mom.  Let her know exactly how you feel.  Tell her what things you do like and the things you don't like.  Maybe come to a compromise on what she should do.  Remind her that even though you are small of body- you are in fact a teenager and deserve that level of respect.  Perhaps you can even have the doctor/family member talk to her about cutting back on some of the things she does.  Hope all goes well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sweetie Pie
Age: 16

Q:

When I was little I had a genetic disease that I could not control my arms. Then my bladder got weak so I went to the doctor he said it was a bladder failure. My mom started diapering me. She chases me around and when she catches me since I am 4"11 she picked me up and said, sweetie pie you got to get your diapy wipy changed. I get so embarrassed. She bubble baths me and feeds me. For Halloween I wanted to be a witch she said, ITS FAR TO SCARY FOR YOU, I told her at my high school there is a Halloween dance. SHE DRESSED ME AS A BABY BECAUSE I HAD ALL THE BABY STUFF AND SHE WENT AS THE MOMMY. oh was I embarrassed.  After that I told her that Could she tone down the baby stuff and she said, HONEY I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP SO IF YOU CAN'T APPRECIATE THAT YOUR PUNISHMNT WILL BE TO SPEND YOUR SUMMER VACATION AT THE CHILDRENS BABY CENTER, SHE SAID THEY WOULD TREAT ME AS A BABY AND I WILL HAVE NAP TIME. I told my dad and the rest of my family and they said IM SO SORRY BUT A BABY NURSERY WOULD BE GOOD FOR YOU. I CRIED RIGHT WHEN I GOT INSIDE AND THE PEOPLE AT THE DAY CARE PICKED ME UP AND PUT ME IN THE CRIB. I STILL CRIED AND THEY DECIDED TO CHANGE MY DIAPER SINCE IT WAS WET AND THEY DRESSED ME IN A SHIRT AND A DAIPER WITH NO PANTS AND TOOK ME TO THE PARK WITH THE OTHER KIDS. ALL THE ADULTS THOUGHT I WAS A BABY AND THE GAVE ME PATTS OF MY BUTT. THEY EVEN CHANGED ME IN FRONT OF THEM. I TOLD MY DOCTOR BUT WHEN I GOT THIER I WET MYSELF AND THE DOCTOR CHANGED ME AND SAID, OH SWEETIE PIE NOW YOU HAVE A FRESH CLEAN DIAPY FOR YOU BUM BUM NOW THERE IS NOTHING I Can do for your mommies doings. Hey I am holding a baby story time here if you would like to attend. Is this normal? Should my family do this to me? And should my doctor treat me like a baby? Should I go to a day care? Now after a while I am getting used to be treated like a baby and I even refused to walk just crawl. And everyone allows me to do so. Should this be normal for me?


A:

Dear Sweetie pie,

Even though you have a illness there is no reason for you to be treated that way against your wishes.  At 16 you should have some say in your care.  If there is no one you can confide in or to go stay with- one option would be to make plans for when you are of legal age.  At 18 you could move out and into an assisted living facility- if you qualify.  Of course that is a way off.  Perhaps if there is a family member or clergy you could talk to about your situation maybe they could help.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Trae
Age: 16

Q:

How do you tell your mom that you still wet the bed and not make her mad? I have to use my cousin’s goodnights.


A:

Dear Trae,

You are not alone.  There are many young men who wet the bed.  The best idea I have heard is to gather info from various sites and make a print out and give it to your Mom. But first you need to analyze if she is ready- you know your Mom, is this something she could understand?  Explain to her that you want to see a doctor to find out a possible cause and possible treatment.  If you go to her with all the facts about it she will be more likely to listen to what you are saying.  Explain how you feel- even say you are nervous.  I bet she'll understand.  I do wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra
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