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Question Asked By: David Myers

Q:
      I have been wearing diapers recently because I have lost my control over peeing myself how can I buy more diapers when I have very little money and my mom doesn't buy them for me?


A:
       Hello David,

                  If you do have a problem, you can go see your doctor and try to get a prescription. But because you are under 18, you will have to have your mom take you. There really isn't anything else to suggest. Hope that helps.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Andrew

Q:
       I still wet my bed and pants I hate being diapered by mom& dad should they still be doing the diapering on me or let me do. they make me lay down on my bed and lift my legs for me and slip the diaper on me is that fair


A:
        Hello Andrew,

                    We think you should as your parents to let you do it. Maybe let you do it and have them check to see if you did it right. And if not, show you where you made the mistake and help you to learn how to do it yourself. You are at the age where you can do it on your own. Since you are still wetting at your age, we think if you haven't already, that you should see a doctor about the wetting. Hope that helps.

    -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ian

Q:
          Hi, I've got a bed wetting problem that I've had for about a year and have had not much luck with Dr's. The first gave me some pills an antidepressant that didn't help and the next ran heaps of tests from blood to an ultrasound but found nothing. I've sort of managed to deal with it at night, emotionally that is but in the lat few weeks its happened in the day a couple of times, once on the train. Basically my question is have you any suggestions what's wrong with me and am I going to end up needing protection 24/7. Up until a year ago I had never wet the bed or had any problems along those lines.


A:
           Hello Ian,

                   There are many things that can do this. Too much caffeine, an small injury, stress in your life, nightmares, lost muscle tone in your bladder. The loss of muscle tone will not show up on most tests. If you have had any blows to the stomach area or falls lately, that could cause it. The next time you go to the doctor, we recommend you asking about the muscle tone loss as a possibility. We cannot tell if you will get worse or not. Do use protection of course till it can be found out what the cause is. Hope this helps you.

    -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jason

Q:
           I have started wetting the bed again. and I have a gf that I have been with for the past two years. in the beginning of our relationship I wet the be and I started wearing diapers. but then I stopped but now I have started again and she told me she don't want me to wear diapers. I have wet the bed at least one time a week. I would like to wear diapers again but she don't want me to. so do I just buy them and tell her she has to live with it or what else can I do? I have already gone to the doctors and they said there is nothing wrong. please help


A:
          Hello Jason,

                     It's really your choice. You have to decide really, do you want to take the chance of wearing the diapers and having the chance of your girlfriend leaving, or do you want to deal with the wet bed and keep the girlfriend. It's really your choice. We can't make the choice for you. We hope all goes well though for you.

     -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jim

Q:
         Sarah, My cousin is going to Orlando with us in about three weeks and he always wears some kind of diapers when he goes. Now my mom says I should too which is ridiculous because I only wet the bed maybe one time a month and he does it all the time. She even wants me to wear cloth ones and stupid plastic pants because she does not believe in the throwaway ones like he wears. He said I should write you about how to get my mother to stop. Also what do I do if I get used to them and start wetting the bed again.


A:
        Hello Jim,

              If the trip is long, we can understand that. Sounds like she doesn't want any accidents during the trip or maybe to reduce the stops for potty breaks. If she is bent on doing it, maybe ask to use the disposables because they are much easier to hide under most clothing. We really don't have a way to MAKE her not diaper you. She is your parent and if she makes you wear them there isn't too much we can do. But we can help make it less obvious to others that you are in diapers.

            Can try wearing swear pants or baggy shorts if you have them. Can wear a sweater or jacket around your waist to it covers you butt area. Can wear keys or something that will clang or jingle as you walk to help cover any crinkling the diaper will make. Underpants over the diaper really help to reduce the noise the diaper makes. We do hope this helps you. Please write us back if there is any other questions we can help with. Take care and good luck.

       -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Art

Q:
       I wrote to you several months ago about my bedwetting. Your suggestion to see a specialist has already been done. Per my doctors suggestion, my choice as to use cloth diapers and plastic pants. I find it much cheaper in the long run. Take care and keep up the good work.


A:
        Hello Art,

               We are happy all worked out for you. We are glad you found something that worked and thank you for your reply back.

     -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sarah

Q:
         My daughter was born incontinent due to a birth defect. Due to recent advances in medicine, she consented to and had surgery and is now capable of being continent. We were toilet training her, but lately she has just stopped. At first I thought it was a relapse, but now I suspect it's on purpose at least some of the times. If she wants to wear diapers that's fine, but she will do so continent if I have anything to say about it (and I think I do). The accidents (real and otherwise) are no big deal, but she lies and says she doesn't need a change or that it wasn't on purpose. I have to check her diapers now which I never had to before. I've always changed her. Now I am forced to spank her for lying. What should I do? I hate spanking my daughter. Sincerely, Forced to Spank


A:
            Hello Sarah,

                   It could be she is too old now, assuming she is 15, and is much harder to potty train at this stage. It could be something else, maybe take her back to the doctor for a check up on this. Can maybe set up psychotherapy sessions for your daughter, could be a mental problem. Either she likes you taking care of her, or something else. We think if she is doing it on purpose, it's to get your attention. Try not spanking for awhile. Every time she wet's, just change it like it's nothing. Don't give her the attention of you punishing her. If it's on purpose, she should get tired of not getting the attention she is after. Just a idea. But try going back to her doctor to find out if there is anything else wrong, and look into the therapist to cover the mental area. Hope that helps.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: James

Q:
 
    I wet the bed and my parents think I do it on purpose and say to stop it but I keep doing it. But they don't believe me and I think I need diapers and I don't want my friends too no what do I do?

A:

      Hello James,
      
      We think you should have your parents take you to the doctors to make sure your wetting isn't a symptom of another medical problem. Sit down and talk to your mom and try to explain how you feel and just asking her for help. We hope it works out for you. Of course if you are still having problems write us back and we will try to help more. But at this time going to the doctors seems like the best advice. Take care.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jim S

Q:

     Hey Sara, I got the keys like you said and my cousin is getting me some baggy shorts but I don't think it is going to work so I hope you have some other ideas. My mom nixed the disposables and she says I have to wear the diapers the whole trip even in the hotel. Why would she say that? Also, I’m scared to death I am going to start wetting the bed again when I wear them. This trip is supposed to be fun but I think it is going to be awful. Please answer this quick because we have to go on Monday.

A:

    Hello Jim,

    We really don't understand why your mom feels this way. Aside from wearing the keys to hide the sound of the diaper, and the baggy shorts to help hide the fact that you are wearing diapers we really can't think of anything else to hide them. Cloth isn't exactly the best diaper to wear if you don't want others to notice. I wish we could help more. Please keep us updated on how the trip went. Take care.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jason

Q:

     I wrote you a letter about a month ago and you helped. I went on a camping trip with my girlfriend and a few people from her work. She told me that I needed to do something about me peeing the bed. So I told her I would do something about it and I bought diapers. We drank all weekend and on Friday and Saturday I wore a diaper to bed. I did wake up wet but at least it wasn't all over the tent. now it's been a couple of weeks and I haven't peed the bed unless I drank the night before. my girlfriend told me it will be ok if I wear a diaper the nights I drink. so over all it's better. but for a couple of nights now I had a dream that I was drinking and at the end of the night she put me into a diaper. is this normal or is there something wrong with me? I have had other dreams that I wore a diaper all day and she would be changing me and all the above. Do I need help or do I just act like it never happened thanks for the help before Jason

A:

     Hello Jason,

     First off you are very lucky to have such a understanding girlfriend. Your dreams are not all that unusual. If what you are doing right now is working for you and your girlfriend is working then continue doing it. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. As far as your dreams until you are more into your relationship we think you might not want to share that dream. But in the end when you tell her is up to you. When you think she is ready. Hope this helps.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Marlene

Q:

   what are the laws on back child support?

A:

    Hello Marlene,

    Well if you can prove to a lawyer that the parent has not paid and the parent is supposed to be paying, the courts can make your parents job take the child support out of their check, which forces them to have to pay. And in some cases if the parent refuses they can be sent to jail. Depends on the courts if I am not mistaken. But to be sure we recommend you calling a local lawyer and asking for information. Hope this helps.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jeff

Q:

    hello I have been wearing diapers for about 4 months now during days and nights and have been to the doctor and uroligist the cause for the wetting was due to high level of stress I got the stress down for a while was just using pullups just in case for a two weeks and was fine until I hade to attend a family dinner for my wife's family a week ago and there I had a accident need less to say it was my first day with out protection since then I have been wetting during the day again why did I not wet while using a pullup but when I hade no protection and is this going to be a ongoing thing it seems I don't feel safe with out a diaper on I would rather be in a diaper then wet my pants thanks

A:

    Hello Jeff,

    It seems you have a hard time telling when you are going to have and accident. We think to help reduce the stress of worrying about if you are going to have a accident you might try wearing a pull up. Most times no one would even notice. Wearing a pull up is just like wearing underwear. We hope this helps.

    -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: clement Leo

Q:

    hello I wear diapers and Comco adult vinyl pants 24-7 they get hot to wear do what can I use to protect me from diaper rash I use baby powder and there still hot what can I do plastic pants wearer thank you

A:

   Hello Clement,

   The good side of plastic pants is they keep leaks from happening. The downside is if you are active they teen to be on the hot side. We recommend using disposables instead. If you need something for heavy wetting we recommend the Eurobriefs. They are great and hold a lot and rarely leak. The address for a free sample is https://eurobrief.securesites.com/free.htm  Hope this helps.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Scott

Q:

   I have three young children 10, 7, and 20 months. We will be taking a long trip (25+ hour drive). I have been a bedwetter most of my life, so wearing protection is no big deal for me. My wife is also supportive and will buy my diapers and etc...However, I mentioned that since my 7 year old frequently needs to use the restroom perhaps it would be appropriate for him to wear a pull-up or goodnight during the long drive. She is opposed to this idea...any suggestions?

A:

   Hello Scott,

   We don't recommend putting your son in a pull up. We just recommend you planning many stops along the way. Can also put a waterproof pad on the seat. But we think putting your son in a pull up or goodnite might cause some psychological damage. It may confuse him by making him wear protection. Just plan for many stops even if he has to go a little. Hope your trip goes well.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jeff

Q:

  recently I went to wearing a pullup during the day and they don't seem to work as well as a diaper I find myself having to change them more but here is the problem I have to take my pants off to change a pullup but when I was using a diaper I just hade to pull them down a little to change it should I just use a diaper until I can stop having daytime accidents thanks

A:

   Hello Jeff,

   It's really your choice. We think wearing the diaper would be better with your case at this time. If you are also wetting more, then the diaper would be the better choice. If it's really and issue, then taking the pants off might not be that bad of an idea. But in the end the choice of product is up to you. Hope this helps.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: mike

Q:
 
   ok I don't know where to start first off if been wetting my bed all my life I used to use diapers but I don't any more since I told my mom I stopped but I still do my 10 year old sis already told her friends I wet the bed and she threatened to tell my mom but when she said that I threatened her with my bat so I don't think she will tell anyone but since I don't have any money to buy diapers and I don't want to tell my mom so what should I do?

A:

   Hello Mike,

   If you need protection, you are going to have to tell your mom that you are still having accidents. Ask your mom to take you to the doctor to have you checked out if you haven't already. Just explain to your mom that you were afraid to tell her that you were still having accidents, but you will tell her when you have them from now on. She might be more willing to help you if you are willing to be honest. Hope this helps.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gary

Q:

         hi my name is Gary and I have been wetting day and night and and I am embarrassed. should I tell my mom

A:

     Hello Gary,

     We think you should tell your mom. The wetting could be a symptom of a more serious problem. We suggest you ask your mom to take you to your doctor to have it checked out. It is scary to do, but you really should tell your mom about the problem. And explain to your mom that you didn't tell her sooner because you were afraid. Be honest. Hope that helps you.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Q:

    I will be going on vacation in late Dec. to Vegas for some long awaited R&R. I need to know how to tell the hotel staff that I am a bedwetter and to properly protect the mattress that I will be sleeping on. I do wear diapers and plastic pants at night, but often time they leak thru. Thanks

A:

     Hello Art,

     The hotel is not responsible for providing bed wetting protection. You need to bring your own protection for the bed. Hope that helps.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gary

Q:

     I wear diapers day and night and it leaks out I think I put them on a wrong way what should I do

A:
        Hello Gary  

        Follow the directions on the package is all we can say. If it's still leaking look into buying a more absorbent diaper. There really is no way to tell you if you are doing it right or not. But try when putting on the lower tabs to pull them up tord your belly button when attaching them instead of just straight across. Hope that helps.

     -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kim

Q:

I am a mother of 4. My middle child was potty trained and broke of bed wetting at night. she did real well for a few months now for the past 2 years we wet ourselves while sleeping,watching TV,playing outside. only at home not at school.I am to my wits end. I am tired of yelling,correcting. what else can I do.

A:

Hello Kim,

     Instead of punishing the child, try to get to the bottom it. Try taking your middle child to the doctor to have her medically checked out. Also try not to make a big deal out of it. Not making a big deal helps reduce the stress of the situation and helps make the problem resolve sooner. Try looking into a bed wetting alarm program. On the links page here on the site for bed wetting alarms. Also try reducing the chilled fluids about 4 hours before bed, and make sure the child uses the bathroom just before getting into bed. Maybe even try setting an alarm clock to go off about half way through the night.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Art

Q:

Thanks for your response regarding my question on how to notify a hotel/motel about putting mattress protection on the bed prior to my arrival. I e-mailed several hotels in Vegas about my bedwetting problem. They all answered that it is no big deal, and as long as I let them know when I would be there, they would take care of it. Also they said it was a very common problem with both adults and they wished more people would notify them in advance. Hope this helps.

A:

Hello Art,

     Thank you for that information Art. We will keep that in mind. You really learn something everyday. Thanks again.

     -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Richard

Q:

I am 49 years old and still have a bedwetting problem. Caused by neurogenic bladder from auto accident 25 years ago. How do I tell my new girlfriend that I am a bedwetter?

A:

Hello Richard,

     We think in your case, you have a reason to be bed wetting that she can understand. Just be honest with her and explain to her. Don't wait to tell her after you have kids, and a house and all that. Be honest in the beginning. You figure you don't want her to find out by waking up in a wet bed with you. 

     -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dida

Q:

hi I want to know how to put a diaper on

A:

Hello Dida,

     Most packages have instructions on the bag on how to put it on. Or go online and put in the search engine "instructions on how to change a diaper".

     -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jae

Q:

What are the symptoms of a kidney or bladder infection?

A:

Hello Jae,

     Frequent urination, painful peeing, sharp pains in the right side area near the waist area tord the back. If you think you have one, see your doctor as soon as possible. If it's left to itself, you can become incontinent. Can also get very sick and die from the infection.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gordon

Q:

       hi, I wear harmony power  for my bedwetting problem they are a good diaper but when I get up in the morning even if I am dry, my bottoms all clammy & sticky is there a way to prevent this? thanks.

A:

      Hello Gordon,

      If you are not already, you might want to try using corn starch baby powder. It seems to work the best. That's the best thing we can think of suggesting. Hope that helps you.

     -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Rodrigo

Q:

        Sometimes I hate my diapers. But I need and I feel shame, that typical uneasiness. I have a baby-sitter and she changes me. Now, she's from bad to worse. Sometimes she put me in dresses and frilly panties when I'm a misbehaving boy. So, I stay quiet. What to do??? (My mommy have knowledge)

A:

     Hello Rodrigo,

     We suggest you tell your teacher about this if it's something you want to be stopped. Or tell your school therapist. But keep in mind, that if this is going on, that you might be taken away from your parents by children's services. You don't mention your father, maybe tell him about what's going on and how you feel. Dresses and panties are not the way to punish a child. Hope that helps.

    -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gary Coffey

Q:

     can they fix nerves yet I have been in diapers all my life im tired of them I wish I was normal

A:

     Hello Gary,

     We wish we could tell you. With so many advances in medicine recently, only your doctor would be able to tell you that. We don't know if they can do that yet. Sorry we could not be of more help to you.

    -Pam and Sandra

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Q:

          Hi: It is most embarrassing and discouraging to be wetting the bed at my age. Even my 3 year old brother is getting dry. My parents already took me to the Dr. The medicine doesn't work. Now I got to have a bedwetting chart, embarrassing. Even my 3 year old brother doesn't have to have a bedwetting chart anymore. Last week some of my friends were over and saw my chart and I think they figured out what it was for. My mom says if I can't get dry soon I will need some sort of diapers. What am I going to do?

A:

      Hello Wes,

      Maybe ask your mom to ask the doctor to try another medication. The best protection we have seen on the market for a person your age is Goodnites. They are pretty thin and look like regular underpants. Maybe give those a try. As far as the chat, maybe ask your mom if you can put it behind a calendar or something to help hide it when friends are over. We really hope that helps.

    -Pam and Sandra
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