ASK A MOM ARCHIVE
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QUESTION ASKED BY: Jamie

Q:

      I would like to ask if you maybe help me with a problem? I have a very weak bladder and my mom keeps me in diapers all the time. I tried just about everything to stop from wetting myself but the doctors say that it will take an operation to make my bladder muscles stronger. Do you know what they mean by this? thanks for your help.


A:

    Dear Jamie:

The surgery can make the muscles stronger to make your bladder stronger. This does not always work. But it can. We don’t too much about it, so that is the best we can tell you. We hope this helps.

   -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Amber

Q:

    im 15 and i am still wetting the bed. This made my mom really mad at night she tells me to take of my close and lay down while she puts the Attends on me. and a month ago i started haveing accidents (both peeing and pooping) without realizing it. now im in diapers full time. Is this normal?
I WEAR DIAPERS BOTH DAY AND NIGHT


A:

    Dear Amber:

    No it is not normal. But if you have a weak bladder or a weak anal sphincter it is possible that you would be doing both and not realizing it. We think you should see your doctor as soon as possible. They would be able to tell you more.

  -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Mike

Q:

     I piss my diaper when im going to work what can i do to stop the problems


A:

      Dear Mike:

      Try to use the bathroom just before you leave. Also try to limit your liquids. If the problem continues, we think you should see your doctor.

  -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: tim

Q:

I am wondering if it is odd for me to like wearing the diapers
I WEAR DIAPERS DURING THE NIGHT

A:

    Dear Tim:

    No. Everyone has something that gives them comfort. If diapers works for you then so be it.

  -Pam and Sandra.

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QUESTION ASKED BY: justin

Q:

       Hello, my question is what is the best way to make a makeshift diaper?

A:

     Dear Justin:

       You can use a towel. Mostly you will need plastic pants with all the ideas we could suggest. It would be easier to just buy a diaper. If you want cheap, if there is a thrift shop near by, sometimes people donate diapers there. You can check there. Sometimes they have like 20 for $2.00 or around there.

  -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: sean

Q:
 
      i need to wear diapers every day and night.because it makes me feel secure and not so stressed.i do all my toilet in diapers and sometimes don't realise. my girlfriend sometimes has to tell me that i need changing. is this so wrong?


A:

       Dear Sean:

       If you are not feeling when you are wetting or messing we suggest you see your doctor. It is not healthy to sit in a wet or messy diaper. It can cause diaper rashes and other problems. Your girlfriend seems to be looking out for you. Hope this helps.

    -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Micheal

Q:

    Sometimes I leak at night and it gets on the mattress, my mattress is stained and has a bad smelll I want to know how to get it out? Thanks


A:

      Dear Micheal:

       Febreze works well for getting the smell out of fabric. It runs for about 3-5 dollars for a bottle of it. The stains can be removed with different cleaning supplies. Bleach works but turns the item white. In the future, you may want to buy a mattress protector for about 10.00 at k-mart, wal-mart or target.

   -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: BILL

Q:

      I am a TBIx3 + stroke i have too wear diapers 24/7 and i need a mommy any help probably not living by self


A:

      Dear Bill:

     This is not a bed wetting question. I refer you to the “Ask Mommy” section of the site. This area is for questions about bed wetting. Thank You.

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QUESTION ASKED BY: jake

Q:

      how should i tell my mom to buy me some protection

A:

      Dear Jake:

       Well we are going to assume, that your mom knows you wear the diapers. You didn’t say if she knows you wet the bed or not. So, we think you should discuss the option of buying protection with your mom. We really don’t have enough information about your situation to give you any better advice. Sorry.

  -Pam and sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Matt

Q:

      HOW DO I TELL MY MOM I WET THE BED

A:

      Dear Matt:

      We feel the best thing is to just come right out with it to your mom. We also think you should ask to see your doctor. It may just be something you will grow out of. Hope this helps.

  -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: john

Q:

       hello my question is do u know anyone as old as me that wets himself as frequent as me? because I am starting to think im the only one I would like to meet some one who would take care of me. Do you know someone I live close to Chicago.


A:

       Dear John:

       Yes we do know people that wet themselves quite often. Some almost every hour. But we can’t mention any names. Sorry. But you are not alone. We do not know anyone in the Chicago area that would take care of you other than maybe a visiting nurse. Your doctor could set that up for you. Hope this helps you out some.

   -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Brenda

Q:

     I wear diapers at night i have noticed that my diaper leaks sometimes and gets my bed wet and my mom had to wash the sheets when she goes to change, What can i do to prevent the diaper from leaking?


A:

       Dear Brenda:

       Well you can buy in most pharmacy’s disposable bed sheets. They are square and are waterproof. They soak up what leaks out the diaper. If you want a more absorbent diaper, we recommend trying molicare super. They hold quite a lot of urine. Hope this helps you out.

    -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Filipe

Q:
   
         I have two questions: It started in 2 of August. I started to wet my bed. how do I tell my parents I have wet my bed? And how do I tell my girlfriend that I wet my bed???




A:

       Dear Filipe:

      As far as your parents, we recommend you tell your parents about your bed wetting and ask them to make a appointment to see your doctor. Your doctor can run tests to see what might be causing it and maybe can help you to stop wetting. Your girlfriend may not need to know. We suggest just waiting till you see your doctor first before you tell your girlfriend.

     -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: AL

Q:

        Hello, my mom told me if I move back home she would diaper me day and night. you see i wet the bed up to the age of 16. i moved out at 19 and have lost my job. I need a home and mom ( step mom ) says I need diapers at my age is this ok or not. I have wet the bed at age 23 and 24 but only 2 times.


A:

       Dear AL:

        No we do not feel that diapers are needed at any age just because you wet the bed. Diaper are a tool, not a punishment. Diapers are just used to keep the bed and clothing dry. If you want to use diapers, that’s your choice. But you should not have to be forced to wear them if you don’t want to. Hope we answered your question.

  -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Michael

Q:

       How do I tell my mom I like wearing diapers because they feel so good. Since I wet my bed at night and pants during the day I want to wear diapers all the time and plastic pants.


A:


         Dear Michael:

         Our best suggestion is to try using Goodnites. They are the best product for a person your age. And they would keep your bed and clothes dry. Hope this helps you.

     -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: Damon

Q:

      hi mom. I saw that you told someone that at goodnights.com you can get a free sample. I would like to get a free sample but my mom wont let my wear diapers every time I wet my mom spanks me and treats me like a baby. so if they mail the sample to me will it say goodnights on the box. because I would like to hide it from my mom so she wont spank me.


A:

     Dear Damon:

     The package will say goodnites yes. There is nothing we can do about that. It’s the only way to get a feel sample from them. Sorry.

   -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: bob

Q:

     hello my name is bob and I am 16, I wear diapers only when my parents are not home. im worried that im weird because I have this desire to wear them... I wanna be a baby again but I also wanna grow up. I don’t know what to do please get back to me ASAP!!!!


A:

      Dear Bob:

       First off bob, you are on the wrong thing. Your question should be posted on the “Ask Mommy” part of this site. This area is only for bed wetters. We really can’t answer your question here. Sorry.

    -Pam and Sandra

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QUESTION ASKED BY: joey

Q:

        hi I am 25 years old and this may sound strange but how do you become a bed wetter. I would like to be one.


A:

     Dear Joey

        That question is not weird or strange. However, we don’t encourage people to become bed wetters. We try to help people stop wetting, or find ways to cope with it. Hope you understand.

   -Pam and Sandra

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Q:

     hello i used to wet the bed when i was 18 but i stopped and have only recently started again maybe 2 or 3 times a week i am embarassed to talk to any one about my problem i have thought about wearing protection at night but as i say i am really embaressed about this and dont no what to do please help.


A:

      Hello Gordon:

       We recommend you seeing your doctor, they know about these things. Or seeing a Urologist. The doctor can tell you what's causing it. And maybe it can be prevented or atleast find a method to handle it. Hope this helps you out.

-Pam and Sandra

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Q:

    Please help me. I'm 14 and still wetting the bed and wearing diapers. I want to stop, but i just can't. Because of this problem, i can't go on any overnight trips with my school, i can't sleep over a friends house, and i can't have a friend sleep over here cause i'm afraid of them findnig out. PLEASE WRITE BACK AS SOON AS U CAN. Thank you.


A:

    Hello Josh:

      We think you should ask your mom to take you to your doctor. As far as protection goes. Diapers are ok, but we recommend using goodnites or a pull up type diaper. You might try when friends come over, to put your protection that you use in your dresser instead of leaving it in the open. Put your regular underpants on top of them. Please let us know how you made out at the doctors.

-Pam and Sandra

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Q:

     ok my waist is 27 inches and all the diapers i find in my area are way to big. I have yet to try baby diapers but will they work on me? I am very small and skinny and have a small waist. If so what brand would you reccomend


A:

     Hello Dave:

      You can try, CVS, Ecckerd, wal-mart, K-mart are just a few stores that carry them. You can try thoes in extra small to small diapers for adults. You can also contact HDIS, and buy a sample pack from them that has several brands in your size. Hope this helps you.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Q:

    my mom makes me wear diapers because i have accidents, she is the one who does all the diapering but the diapers she uses are very un comfy what are some good brands to try


A:

     Hello Kyle:

       Wings, Eurobriefs, Attends, Molicare. That's just 4 of many. You can go online and search "Diapers" and check out the many sites. Or you can go to the diaper links on this site and look through em. There are so many brands out there. Hope this helps.

  -Pam and Sandra
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Q:
     hello i used to wet the bed when i was 18 but i stopped and have only recently started again maybe 2 or 3 times a week i am embarassed to talk to any one about my problem i have thought about wearing protection at night but as i say i am really embaressed about this and dont no what to do please help.


A:

      Hello Gordon:

       We recommend you seeing your doctor, they know about these things. Or seeing a Urologist. The doctor can tell you what's causing it. And maybe it can be prevented or atleast find a method to handle it. Hope this helps you out.

-Pam and Sandra

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Q:
    Please help me. I'm 14 and still wetting the bed and wearing diapers. I want to stop, but i just can't. Because of this problem, i can't go on any overnight trips with my school, i can't sleep over a friends house, and i can't have a friend sleep over here cause i'm afraid of them findnig out. PLEASE WRITE BACK AS SOON AS U CAN. Thank you.


A:

    Hello Josh:

      We think you should ask your mom to take you to your doctor. As far as protection goes. Diapers are ok, but we recommend using goodnites or a pull up type diaper. You might try when friends come over, to put your protection that you use in your dresser instead of leaving it in the open. Put your regular underpants on top of them. Please let us know how you made out at the doctors.

-Pam and Sandra

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Q:
     ok my waist is 27 inches and all the diapers i find in my area are way to big. I have yet to try baby diapers but will they work on me? I am very small and skinny and have a small waist. If so what brand would you reccomend


A:

     Hello Dave:

      You can try, CVS, Ecckerd, wal-mart, K-mart are just a few stores that carry them. You can try thoes in extra small to small diapers for adults. You can also contact HDIS, and buy a sample pack from them that has several brands in your size. Hope this helps you.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Q:
    my mom makes me wear diapers because i have accidents, she is the one who does all the diapering but the diapers she uses are very un comfy what are some good brands to try


A:
     Hello Kyle:
       Wings, Eurobriefs, Attends, Molicare. That's just 4 of many. You can go online and search "Diapers" and check out the many sites. Or you can go to the diaper links on this site and look through em. There are so many brands out there. Hope this helps.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Q:

       Hi. Just a short note leting you know that I have been a bedwetter nearly my whole life. I have tried all the meds curently on the market, but due to the side effects and cost, I am unable to use them. I currently use cloth diapers and plastic pants for protection. I am married to a wonderful woman who is very understanding and supportive.


A:

      Hello Art:

    Glad to hear you are happy. Sorry there was nothing your doctor could do for you. Maybe you can see a specialist. Just an idea. Hope all goes ok for ya.

   -Pam and Sandra

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      Hello I have not wet my bed since i was really little, for the last year i have been wetting my bed every night. I would like to know how i could tell my mom. I had taken a few goodnites from my aunt that has a son that is mentally disabled. I would keep doing this but i am afraid that my mom would catch me and think that i love diapers or something like that. what can do to ask.


A:

     Hello Logan:

     If you are afraid to talk to her, you can sit down and write a letter explaining to her your problem and how you have been handling it, as well as how you would like to. You can include saying you were sorry you didn't tell her sooner but you were embarressed to discuss it. That should help break the ice. Then ask her to make a appointment with your doctor. If you are uncomfertable talking to the doc about it, ask your mom if she could speak to him/her for you. Explain that you would like to stop and that you want her help.

   -Pam and Sandra

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      Hi i have never realy been a bedwetter but in the last few mounths i have been wetting the bed my girlfriend is not happy about this we went to to doctor and i was so nurvios i wet my pants in the doctors offic and have been having a few day time accidents i have been wearing a adult pull ups during the day but thay seem to be wet more then thay are dry and seem to leak a little so i have moved to a diaper the diaper at night is not bad but its during the day there noise and thick and hard to hide the fact i'm in a diaper i would like to get out of diapers thanks


A:

    Hello Jeff:

    Well till you can get out of diapers, you might try eurobriefs. They are thick, yet quiet and hard to see. We know a bed wetter that uses them, and you can't hardly tell. You can also try buying clothes one size bigger. And try hanging your keys off one of your belt loops, that helps hide the sound. You can get a free sample in your size of eurobriefs for $3.50 at:

https://eurobrief.securesites.com/free.htm

     Stress and many others things in a persons life can cause the wetting problem. Try asking your doctor to see a bladder doctor. There is help out there. This is also a medication called DDAVP. It's made for people who wet alot. You can try asking your doctor to try you on it. It might help you. Hope that helps you.

  -Pam and Sandra

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       I have allready submited one question but i would like to ask another. the other night my girlfriend had some of her girlfriends over need less to say i was seen by some of the girls in a diaper and it was wet i was so embarased i just stood there what should i do cause the girls all live around here should i talk to them and tell them why i was in a diaper or just let it die down. what should i say to them


A:

    Hello Jeff:

     I would let it die down. There is no reason they need to know unless you want them do. Maybe you have heard the saying "out of sight, out of mind". If the topic does not come up, they will forget about the whole incident I would bet. Try not to let it bother you. And ask your girlfriend to maybe next time company is comming over, to warn you so you can be dressed and ready for thier visit. Hope this helps.

  -Pam and Sandra

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    Hello again i took your advice and went and seen my doctor, after a few tests urine etc...it has came back that there is nothing wrong but i am still wetting the bed more often now allmost every night and i dont no what to do. i really hate this wakeing up in the morning with wet pants. what do i do?


A:

     Hello Gordon:

     Well, if you are wetting the bed at night, we suggest wearing diapers at night. We think you should see a specialist. And maybe ask your doc to prescribe you DDAVP for your bed wetting. We have heard good things about it. Could be due to stress. Hope this helps you.

  -Pam and Sandra

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     Where can you buy waterproof bed sheets??? I need queen size sheets. Do you know a store that might carry them??


A:

     Hello Vikki:

     Can try K-Mart, Walmart or you can look online for them. For
twin size, they run about $15.00. If that give you a range of price. Hope that helps you.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: michael

Q:
        "mom can i wear diapers full time I love them"


A:
       Of course. Your choice. Make sure that you use the proper care. Diaper rash hurts. Make sure you use diaper cream if you are going to wear all the time.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: michael

Q:
       my mom makes me wear girls minnie the mouse pull-ups to bed how can i tell my mom i am a boy?


A:
       We think you need to be direct. Tell your mom how you feel. Tell her you want to wear the boys pull-ups.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Alycia

Q:
         I was potty trained a couple of monthes before my first b-day .... and every couple of years i have acedents during the day 1 or 2 times a month ... well my parents are divorced and i live with my dad and my step mom , but i call her momma...... and just recent ly my real mom said she didnt want to see me no more... well ive noticed that iv been kinda wetting the bed every night ... and my momma started diapering me at night ,but shes not telling my dad because i dont want him to know because im afraid he will be disapoited... but my step sisers know because i trust them and they help change me if my mommas not ther. they are very potective of me and allways treat me like a lil kid and i allways liked it , and now that im being diapered ,even though its only at night im startin g to get used to it and to day i fel asleep watching tv right after lunch and i had a coke with lunch and i had a accedent when i fel asleep ... and my step sis saw and i got a spanking.....i need some kind of advice PLEASE... :(


A:
            First we think you should talk to your mama about seeing the doctor. The doctor may be able to give you a medication for the day time wetting. Talk to the doctor about your night time accidents. We feel the step sister should not be punishing you. If you do infact need to be punished it should be your mama. But we feel punishing bed wetting is bad. We feel the incident with your mom not wanting to see you could be causing you stress and that could be making you wet the bed. Good Luck.
  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Angel

Q:
          hi i just need someone to tell me what can i do i have always worn diapers because i was born with mielomeningosele and now that im 16 i feel like a baby because i dont know when im peeing and i cant stop it or i cant feel it coming the same with poop i wanna know if there is a way i can potty train or something that will make me continent. something else is that i dont know what to think with my girlfriend because she found out that i wear diapers about a year ago and now i feel kind of weird because every time i wet or poo (even if its a little) she tells me: baby i think you need a diaper change and she also started cheking on my diaper and this makes me feel weird i mean loved but also like a baby besides since she started checking on my diapers about 7 months go and telling me that i need a diaper change she normally just grabs my hand and gets a diaper and changes me and i dont know if she likes pampering me or if she just loves me very much and cares alot about me or if she enjoys it because she is always happy after she changes me. about 2 months ago i started thinking she did it for pitty and everytime i ask her she tells me that just loves me very much but anyway i think she felts kind of weird having a boyfriend in diapers thats why i wanna stop wearing them but i dont know how please i need advise i just want the best for her. thanks bye


A:
             First off we feel that maybe you can talk to the doctor about ways to help you become dry. Secondly your one of the few that has a girlfriend that accepts you the way you are. She seems very caring. She must love and care about you to be so involved as to change you. There are so many people out there that have a similar condition and need diapers and can't find any partner that will be with them with their condition. Don't look this gift in the face. Be thankfull. Just try to think of wearing diapers as you are wearing underwear. Take care and good luck.

  -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jack

Q:
        Hello i need you help am 17 i wet the bed about 3 times a week. i buy goodnites on my own since i drive. how should i tell my mom, I am afraid she might be mad at me


A:
         If you have a doctor, talk to the doctor about your situation. Maybe have the doctor in the room while you talk to your mom about it. If you don't have a doctor the best thing you can do is just tell your mom if you really feel she needs to know. Sounds like you are doing a ok job taking care of the situation by yourself. Just make sure you keep in contact with a doctor about your wetting. We see no reason here why your mom should need to know at this point. You are almost an adult. If you feel she really needs to know, then maybe write her a letter and give her some time before you talk to her in person. She might need time alone to think about what you just told her. Hope this helps you.
   -Pam and Sandra

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Question Asked By: amos

Q:
       why i wet during the day and night


A:
       Without knowing more about your condition we cannot tell you why you wet. You need to see a doctor and get some tests done to find out. That's all we can suggest.

  -Pam and Sandra
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