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Question Asked By: Ben
Age: 28

Q:

I met a girl when I was 16 that was great. My problem turned into a turn on for her and myself. At this time I didn't have problems during the day, but I have always wet the bed. My ex got me into the AB/DL scene and my parents found baby diapers and baby food while snooping in my room during these years. My parents and I now get along again but they don't know that I need to wear during the day sometimes. I'm afraid that if they find out I'm wearing a diaper they will associate it with the AB/DL things I did. I hide my day time incontinence from everyone besides my wife, and I don't want to have to answer questions about what happened with my ex. If it ever comes up, what's a good plan of action?


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Dear Ben,

In my opinion you are a grown man and frankly it is none of their business. However to keep peace you could just always say "I was young and experimenting". And that things that happened with the ex don't matter anymore. The only things that matter are what you and your wife share. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kennedy
Age:  16

Q:

I'm heading off to college soon, but I don't wanna get made fun of for wetting the bed or anything since I'm staying in a dorm with another person. Is there any way I can get a room with another bed wetter or something?


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Dear Kennedy,

The housing on each campus is different as to their rules and regulations. Contact your housing department and ask if they have the option of sharing with another bed wetter. You can also ask if they have single occupant rooms. Another option is to rent a studio or room near to school. And of course there is always staying at home if you are close enough. There is also in many places the option to take courses online or through the mail. There are many choices to be made. Think over which fits your life and budget. Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nick
Age: 13

Q:

Hi, I'm 13 and wet the bed and during the day...It is embarrassing and want it to stop!! I have been to a doctor and they say I am fine but I have it daily everyday and night. Should I turn to diapers? I have already asked my dad and he says they are too expensive. I am afraid to ask my mom because knowing her, she'd probably say "You don't need them" or "You'll be fine". How can I convince them to? If I wear diapers to school and wet them, how do I keep people from noticing? Please help because my parents REFUSE to buy me diapers and I hate wetting myself 24/7.


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Dear Nick,

You need to have both of your parents on the same page. Ask if you can talk to both of them at the same time. Explain that you are wetting and do need help. Ask your parents to set up a appointment with your doctor to find out if your wetting has something to do with a medical problem.

     If it's not a medical problem that can be repaired with surgery or medication and your family can't afford the diapers, many doctors can write a prescription for a set amount of diapers per month. Now if your insurance will cover them or not there is no way to know until the pharmacy submits it. Worse case, they won't. Can't hurt to try.

     That diapers or perhaps pull-ups such as Goodnites that fit teens up to 125 pounds (if you can fit them) can be a good choice for you. Also if both your parents are in agreement, they can have it arranged that the school nurse can have your diaper?pull-ups supply in her office. That way there is no way for anyone to find diapers in your locker or back pack etc. Talk to your parents. Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dave
Age: 45

Q:

My son is almost 19 yrs wets the bed nighty and has 3-or 4 daytime wetting as well. The doctors can find nothing wrong medically or mentally. The problem is he will not wear protection or leave the plastic sheet on the bed. He shares the room with his two younger brothers 14 & 17 and this is driving them away. They complain about the smell, he does not shower regularly. I'm coming to the end of my rope and do not know what to do. He's my son and I love him very much and do not want to throw him out but I also can't allow this to go on any longer. Please any advice would be helpful.


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Dear Dave,

What's going on with your son seems to be something deep rooted. I think this is something a therapist should be able to help with. Something's going on. Perhaps you can tell your son that if he can't be responsible and wear protection, leave the plastic sheet on the bed and shower regularly that he needs to find somewhere else to live as it's not fair to your two other sons who share the room. Perhaps this can supply the nudge for him to do the right thing. Of course you love your son, but he's now a adult and has to be responsible and handle his wetting in a responsible manner. Good luck.

    -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CJ
Age: 15

Q:

How can I reduce the urination in my diaper?


A:

Dear CJ,

Drink less liquids before going to bed. Use the bathroom right before you get into bed. Stop drinking caffeine drinks such as soda, tea, coffee or chocolate. If you can't avoid caffeine products, try to make sure you at least stop drinking/eating them 4-6 hours before bed. You could also talk to your doctor about medication that can help reduce how much urine you produce. Good luck.

     -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jessie
Age: 18

Q:

I'm starting college soon and I'm going to be staying in a dorm with another person. This is embarrassing enough for me having my best friend know, I don't want someone I don't know spreading it around.. Can you tell me how I can get a single dorm or one with another bedwetter?


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Dear Jessie,

Many collages today ask on their forms if your a bed wetter so they can pair you with someone else with the same problem. Or you can ask if they have a private room, but most times it's a extra cost. Just go to housing and be honest about your problem and most times they are more than happy to help. The only other option is to check the local paper for rooms for rent. Many people who live around collages rent out rooms, perhaps this can work for you if the collage can't help. I hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Justin
Age: 45

Q:

Since me and her mother are day and night time wetter's should we be worried about our daughters wetting or should we take her to a doctor? She's 13.


A:

Dear Justin,

If you and your wife are both wetter's, there is a 77% chance of your daughter having a wetting problem too. Most kids grow out of it around 16 or 17. Looking at when you stopped wetting would most likely be the same for your daughter. But I highly recommend making a appointment with your daughters doctor so she can get checked out just in case. In the meantime, I would suggest protection such as Goodnites to help her not lose sleep till her wetting passes. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Isabella
Age: 15

Q:

I have been to the Dr's and had a lot of tests done, I have tried 2 different bedwetting alarms neither of which woke me up. I have tried both DDAVP and Tofranil. DDAVP didn't work and Tofranil had too many side effects. I'm wet almost every night. I have a school excursion coming up at the end of May and as much as I want to go I'm scared that my friends will find out about my bedwetting. It's 5 days and 4 nights and I'm not sure if it's worth it. The cabins will have 6 to each one. What should I do about my bedwetting problem?


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Dear Isabella,

Sorry I could not reply before your trip. With you not being able to get the alarm to work for you or the medication, the only option left is wearing protection. I recommend wearing Goodnites. Take one into the bathroom with you and wear a night gown so no one will see it. Goodnites are very quiet. Take a plastic bag with you to put the dirty Goodnites in so no one sees one in the trash by accident. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Stephen
Age: 55

Q:

I have learned to accept my lot in life but it's hard to tell a potential date/mate about my condition without them running away.....Will any woman accept a man that has to wear diapers and plastic pants?


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Dear Stephen,

There are many woman out there who don't care if you wear protection to bed. Many are happy their mate wears protection as they don't want to be peed on. At first, I would suggest keeping your wetting problem secret and let the woman get to know you first. When it comes time when she wishes to sleep over, then sit her down and explain to her that at night you have accidents and wear protection. Doing it this way, she gets to know the real you first and will most likely accept the diapers at that point. Telling girlfriends/boyfriends right off before they get to know you seems to turn out badly. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jane Doe
Age: Unknown

Q:

I want to wear a diaper so bad but my mom said no. Sometimes I wet my self and wish I was wearing a diaper to go to the bathroom in what do I do?


A:

Dear Jane,

Sadly with the present economy, diapers are expensive and people don't have the money. So I can understand your mom not wanting to spend money on diapers. But if you wish to wear diapers, I recommend doing odd jobs or recycling cans and bottles for the money and getting diapers yourself. Perhaps if you ask your mom if you pay for the diapers yourself if she would be ok with it? Hope that helps.

     -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: 15

Q:

I started wetting when I was about 5 and hid it for a good while but I came home from school one day and my mom had all my clothes put away and replaced with diapers. She told me that since I could not control myself I would be put back in diapers till I learned. I have not been out and I'm now 15. But the worse part is that she remolded my room back to a adult nursery and took me out of school and everywhere we go I have to be right by her. She has even changed me in the women's restroom. I beg her to let me back in big boy clothes but she just laughs and says while you still wet your still in diapers. CAN ANYONE HELP ME TO STOP WETTING. I wet the bed because I cannot feel when I need to use the bathroom. I also go number 2 and it's very embarrassing.


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Dear John,

First I would recommend asking your mom to take you to the doctor as soon as possible to get some tests done. Your doctor can prescribe some medications to help the wetting or a bed wetting alarm to wake you up before a accident. Since your also have number two accidents, you might have some nerve damage. It seems like your mom is taking it way too far and it's not ok to be treating you as a baby for bed wetting. Yes, asking you to wear protection is alright for her to request of you. But treating you like a baby for having accidents is not. Tell her you will wear protection till the wetting stops, but that if she continues to baby you, that you will report it to your school therapist, teacher or police officer as babying you for wetting is considered child abuse. So if she does not stop babying you for the bed wetting, please report it. You do not deserve such treatment. I hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joey
Age: 14

Q:

I wet the my bed every night for like the last two years and so has my sister. We would really like to know what the best way to manage this problem is. Such as maybe wearing diapers all day or something.


A:

Dear Joey,

First thing I would ask your mom to take you both to see your doctor and get some tests ran to find out what the cause of your wetting may be. The doctor might prescribe medication or a bed wetting alarm. If you feel protection would be best, I would recommend asking for Goodnites as they are silent and not as noticeable as diapers are. However if you find that you wet too much and the Goodnites leak, then yes a diaper would be a better choice. I hope this helps you both.

    -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bill
Age: 16

Q:

How do I ask my mom if I can wear diapers for wetting. I dream about them and then end up wetting. My parents do not know that I wet and I think they will be angry.


A:

Dear Bill,

With your accidents it's very common to have such dreams. Many people dream of peeing in a toilet or a stream and wake up wetting the bed. I suggest asking your mom to take you to the doctor to have some tests ran first. Explain to the doctor that when you dream, your having accidents. Ask the doctor if he can suggest to your mom Goodnites till the wetting clears up. Hope this helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amy
Age: 22

Q:

So here I am at 22 still wetting the bed and peeing a lot during the day due to my inflammed bladder. And unknown during the night time. I have numerous tests and nothing has been found, yet it is still happening. I have a couple of questions. 1. Mom thinks I will grow out of it, what do I tell her? 2. I wear off and on to my college classes but its kinda emabarrasing. Maybe I'm self concious. What do I do? I am so confused? Thank you mom.


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First of all Hello Amy. 1. Mom says you will outgrow it. Inflamed bladder is nothing to play with. It's something that won't go away without a lot treatment with medications and checkups. 2. It's a part of like to be embarrassed to wear any kind of protection out in public so it's not just you being self conscious. Something that will cover up the diaper that way it doesn't even look like it's there will help. Wearing baggy clothing helps. Also, wearing snug underwear over the protection you wear will help greatly reduce and sounds coming from the protection such as crinkling of plastic backed items.

     -Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 41

Q:

My bladder has never developed/matured fully like an adult bladder. I have been to my doctor and tests run. The doctor ordered a CT and couldn't find the problem. I was born with a disability where my waist size is that of a toddler. I have no problems fitting into Luvs size 6 disposable diapers.I wear Luvs diapers all day and night. To prevent any leakage, I put the diaper on snug. Why does the diaper seem to feel loose? Is it because of the Velcro tapes instead of the old plastic vintage diaper tapes?


A:

It's because with the new Velcro tabs on baby diapers you can't get it as tight as the vintage tape without tearing the tapes off. It's a bomber.

     -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: PHIL
Age: 59

Q:

I have been a diabetic since the age of 12 (I'm 59 now) and a bedwetter ever since then, with occasional improvements, until I was diagnosed with an overactive bladder due to a diabetes neuropathy. I am a permanent full time wetter now with no medical treatment because of serious side effects. I am increasingly using cloth diapers for night time but have been recently warned that they could cause severe damage to my skin, compared to disposable briefs that have a protective built-in sheet. Is that correct and what do you suggest I do? I've tried protection creams but stopped using them as they seem to cause my plastic pants to stiffen in the frontal area and around the legs pretty quickly. Also, what is your suggestion as to the best mattress/ bed protection? The same stiffening affects the mattress plastic protection very quickly. Thanks a lot for your kind help.


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Hello Phil. First the things I do with my babies is I go between cloth and disposable switching so the skin doesn't get use to and start it's redness and stuff that like that. Second I would recommend a plastic cover that is good and holds liquid and won't pull it through. For the plastic sheet, go with one that has a cloth topper on it the thicker the cloth topper the better. The topper prevents the cream from getting down to the plastic of the plastic sheet. Here is a page with several: http://www.walmart.com/search/searchng.do?search_
query=mattress+protector&ic=16_0&Find=Find&search_
constraint=0

      -Mommy Ruby

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Question Asked By: Tory
Age: 16

Q:

My name is Tory and I have an uncontrollable wetting problem I have had this problem since I was 5. I wet because I cannot feel when it happens. I was able to hide it for about a month or so but my mom found all my soiled underwear and has been asking me about my bedwetting. But when she found the under garments she took me to a pediatrician and they examined me and said there was nothing wrong and said I would grow out of it. Well I'm now 16 and still can't control it.  My mom put me diapers right after the doctor visit and she put me in a special class with special ed kids and I have to be changed there. Please help and give support.


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Hello Tory I'm sorry to hear about what happened. I know mom put you in the class for a reason. It's to protect you from others in regular classes because they can be bad/mean to you in the condition your in. Sadly kids tend to tease and make fun of kids who are different. And with you being in diapers, it would make you a target for teasing in regular classrooms. That's why they have special ed classrooms for kids who have problems that would otherwise make them a target for teasing in regular classrooms. It's just for your protection from teasing and bullies. I'm always here in to listen anytime of the day if this statement didn't help you any. As are those on the site's message board.

     -Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 41

Q:

I have to go to the doctors next week. Should I let the nurse change my diaper? ...or do it myself? I know I am old enough. The female nurse is a personal friend of mine. I wear Luvs 6 diapers 24/7, because of my immature bladder. I have to drink a lot of fluids to keep my kidneys functioning.


A:

Hello david,

     I would let the nurse change your diaper.

    -Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 41

Q:

When I'm inside my house, I just wear a t-shirt and diaper. When I have company I wear loose clothing so nobody knows that I am wearing a diaper. Sometimes I do not wipe and powder myself, because it would give me away that I am wearing a diaper. Is this a mistake to where I can develop diaper rash? After I take a bath, I use baby lotion, to help keep my skin soft and moist. I use baby lotion only at night. Should I use baby lotion in the morning too?


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Hello David,

To help your skin use lotion after every change morning, noon and night and powder 2 times a day.

     -Ruby

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 41

Q:

It is sometimes hard to cope with my disability in public. I basically stay at home indoors. I am afraid to step outside with my diaper on. In some instances I do. Is it natural to feel that way? I am glad I found this site by Google search. In your opinion. What is the best toddler disposable diaper? I wore Pampers during my younger years. Now I wear Luvs. Luvs are bigger than Pampers. I feel embarrassed when I go to Walmart to purchase Luvs diapers as they are for me. Thank you Mom for the support and someone to talk to! David


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Hello David,

In my opinion the best toddler diapers are Goodnites, Pull ups, and Under Jams. It's normal to feel like this, a lot of my babies feel like this in public so don't feel so bad If you have any other problem I'm here.

-Ruby