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Question Asked By: Judy
Age: 29

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Hi we have been married almost a year now and I knew all about his enuresis before we were married and right now I have him sleeping on a separate twin bed with a plastic cover over the mattress and I put a depends overnight with a baby diaper that has been slitted for a liner. This seems to help but half of the time he will leak and get his bedding wet. I am wondering if maybe putting him in cloth diapers and plastic panties would be a better way of keeping his bed dry?


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Dear Judy,

It is a shame that his wetting has forced him out of being able to sleep with you. I do believe that one of the main problems is that you use Depends. It is a great product for light wetting, but if you are a large volume or frequent wetter, it is not enough. I would recommend either Unique briefs or Dry 24/7, they both have a tremendous capacity to hold liquid. http://www.dry247.com/ - this is for Dry 24/7, http://www.uniquebrief.com/index.htm this is for Uniquebriefs/eurobriefs. Either one should do a better job for you. Still use the diaper insert if you desire. My hopes are you enjoy drier nights.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Judy
Age: 29

Q:

Hi we have been married almost a year now and I knew all about his enuresis before we were married and right now I have him sleeping on a separate twin bed with a plastic cover over the mattress and I put a depends overnight with a baby diaper that has been slitted for a liner. This seems to help but half of the time he will leak and get his bedding wet. I am wondering if maybe putting him in cloth diapers and plastic panties would be a better way of keeping his bed dry?


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Dear Judy,

It is a shame that his wetting has forced him out of being able to sleep with you. I do believe that one of the main problems is that you use Depends. It is a great product for light wetting, but if you are a large volume or frequent wetter, it is not enough. I would recommend either Unique briefs or Dry 24/7, they both have a tremendous capacity to hold liquid. http://www.dry247.com/ - this is for Dry 24/7, http://www.uniquebrief.com/index.htm this is for Uniquebriefs/eurobriefs. Either one should do a better job for you. Still use the diaper insert if you desire. My hopes are you enjoy drier nights.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ryan
Age: 23

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How do I change my own diaper when I get up in the morning with powder, wipes and everything?


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Dear Ryan,

The diaper packages have directions on them but can sometimes be confusing. So when you wake up this is what you do. Remove the old/soiled diaper and then using the wipes clean yourself thoroughly. Be sure to get all areas. Dry if necessary. Some like to use lotion, if you do apply a thin layer of lotion and rub in well. If you don't like lotion it is okay to skip that step. Next would be powder. I recommend corn starch powder - it doesn't cake up and keeps you dry and not all sweaty/moist (great for the summer) Apply the powder liberally by either sprinkling directly from bottle or using a powder puff (both are fine). Then put on a fresh diaper and continue on with your day. I hope this cleared up any questions. Happy diapering!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jeremy
Age: 12

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Since I wear diapers I feel weird going to school, like as if everyone is watching? How do I deal with the feeling of going to school and not really feeling normal?


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Dear Jeremy,

We all feel as if everyone is staring but the reality is no one is looking. We are just self conscious. If you want to make sure no one is looking make sure your diapers make no noise and aren't bulky. They have excellent products today that are slim, so no bulk, and to make so there are no noises wear regular briefs over the diaper and it'll keep the sound down. Just a note to you, you are not weird. Be proud of who you are. You are unique, so that makes you rare and valuable!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kent
Age: 58

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My question is I try to make it the the bathroom but so many times do not make it. So should I just wet my diapers and then change or should I continue to trying to get the the bathroom in time.
I started wetting about 11 years ago, it all started due to a bladder infection. At first I only needed to wear a pad during the day and diapers at night no I need to wear pull-ups during the day and thick diapers and plastic pants at night. I am lucky my wife is so understanding.  She shaves me on a weekly basic.


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Dear Kent,

You should continue trying to get to the bathroom. If you just go in your diaper, what little control you have now will be lost and then you will be totally diaper dependant. Continue to maintain whatever control you have for as long as you can. You are fortunate that you have an understanding wife. Be happy and stay well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Cadyn
Age: 12

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Is it ok that I am 12 and wear diapers? Can I talk to someone like you about my problem. No one in my family besides me has ever wet. Because just recently I have no control over my bladder anymore. I used to.


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Dear Cadyn,

Of course you can talk to us here. You are the same age as my son was when he started to wet the bed. Our doctor said it was immature bladder. In other words, my son had a growth spurt and his bladder didn't keep up. So he had a 12 year old body and a 7 year old bladder. It did eventually catch up but I know how hard it can be in the meantime. If you ever have any questions or if you need to talk, like I said we are here for you. You can e-mail me anytime at Gypsy12143@yahoo.com.  Remember you are special and perfect just the way you are!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Allen
Age: 18

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I'm a 18 year old male been to I think every kind of doctor there is. My real problem is my parents they not at all supportive they do not accept the fact that I can't control my problem. They insists on changing my diapers as I live under their roof, my father hits me with the belt on the bare butt in front my siblings. I have tried talking to them but no good. I tried to have the school talk them they will not listen. I have day and bed wetting and sometimes my mess, when I have accidents at school I go to the nurses office. They keep a supply for me for the most they give me the privacy I need to change myself. The exception to this is if I've had a messing accidents they say that they have to help me. I'm ok with that but at home I'm told as long I wet and mess myself like a baby that's the way they will treat me. At 18 it's embarrassing to your mother change you. I've beg and pleaded with father that if he feels that strongly about quote spanking my bare bottom then please do in private the my my sibling are done is share the bedroom with my 3 brothers and have been asked to wait outside the room when punishment is administered why am I different? I've asked and been told it's because I'm a baby I'm in special ed class at school and moving out is not a option at this time. Please any advice with not thanks for at least a place to let it out. Every doctor I been has a different option. Some say it's to do ADHD some say it's diabetes some say overactive bladder. ALLEN 18


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Dear Allen,

You are in a tough place huh? It seems you need to get your parents to listen to you. Perhaps if you tell them that you are older now and that it's time you start to assume some of the responsibilities for your changing they might agree. Offer to change yourself and say to them after I change you can check and make sure I have done a good job. They can them start to increase their confidence in your skills. Also at school if you have a counselor/advisor try talking to them again also and explain all you want is some dignity. The fact is your 18 years old. They do not have the right to force you to wear diapers, to make you let them change you and they have no right to hit you, period. They can be arrested if they hit you and you press charges with the police. If they make you let them change you, or hit you again call the police and tell them what happened. Tell them you wish to press charges. Things would be different if you were under 18, but even then, it would be child abuse to force you to let them change you, and to spank you. It's one thing to ask you to wear diapers for any accidents, it's quite another to spank you and treat you like a baby for having accidents. The thing is, you are 18 and they do not have a right to hit you, or make you wear anything you don't want to wear. You are not a baby. And being in special education classes, or having ADHD does not make it alright to make you let them change you, it does not mean it's ok to spank or hit you. And it doesn't matter how many disorders you have, wetting the bed and day time accidents does not make you a baby, or give them a right to treat you like a baby. And of course as you already know, we are here for you. If you need to vent, rant and rave or anything- we'll listen. We care about all of our members- including you. So take care and keep smiling. You shine when you smile!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Bob
Age: 13

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I used to wear Goodnites at night but now I take some nasal spray my doctor prescribed. The nasal spray makes me dizzy so I want to wear goodnites again. How do I tell my mom?


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Dear Bob,

I would just be honest with my mom. Let her know that the side effects of the med's are too much for you to handle and can you go back to wearing diapers. Your mom loves you and will only want the best for you. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sarah
Age: 9

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Why do I pee so often and how do I stop leaks? Do I need two Pampers as once????????? I just pee or poop any where and I'm never dry, like right now I am wet and I need someone to put a diaper on me but who? Dad, sister, mom, who out of those. And I went to the doctor they don't know either. And at school my diaper leaks in two minutes of wetting and my nurse changes me and it's soooooooooooo embarrassing I NEED HELP AND FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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Dear Sarah,

It can be real rough wetting and pooping 24/7. The next time you see your doctor, even though he's not certain what is going on, ask him about medications that might help with the wetting. There are quite a few on the market. Now as to some suggestions about your diaper, you said you always leak when you go. Sounds like you might be a gusher, like me. What that means is diapers are meant to absorb small amounts over time, if you gush a big amount it just can't absorb it all quick enough and so it leaks. So what you could try are boosters or diaper stuffers. They are rectangles of the diaper material that you insert in your diaper for added 'suck' power. You can purchase these from a medical supply store or make some yourself. To make your own you can either use baby cloth diapers folded in thirds ( and use as many as you need) or use a second diaper with slits cut all the way through. You put either insert in the middle of your diaper before diapering and voila, your diaper now has 2-3 times more absorbency. Try these ideas and see if they work for you. I wish you luck.

     -Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Blacke
Age: 11

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My question is how do I tell my mom I want to use diapers. I'm scared and nervous to tell her anything. I need to use diapers in my opinion. I need cause I wet about 6 times a week night and I'm losing control in the day. Not making big wets but little ones. What should I do? I bed wet for I don't know, but I have not been to the doctors for it. I have a plastic sheet over my bed to help maintain my wetting problem. I have stolen my little brothers diapers to use over night (he doesn't bed wet) and like the feeling of diapers


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Dear Blacke,

Since you are having break-through wetting during the day, my suggestion is to approach your mom with that. Tell her you don't understand what is going on. Suggest her taking you to a doctor to rule out any condition. My son was about your age when he started to wet, the doctor told us that he had a growth spurt but his bladder didn't. He had a 11 year old body but a 7 year old bladder that couldn't keep up. So there could be a simple reason for the wetting like it was for my son. If you just let your mom know you are concerned I am sure she will help you out. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Blacke
Age: 11

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I want to know how to tell my mom I want diapers. I have one brother and one sister that tease me just for bedwetting. I haven't been to a doctor and think I need to go but don't have the nerve to ask. I don't know why I bed wet. I have been doing it for eleven years. I need help. I want to see a doctor but don't got the nerve to ask.


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Dear Blacke,

I am sorry to say there are no magic words to get your mother to diaper you. If you know your mom to have an open mind- get your info together and ask to talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Ask to see a doctor to make sure there are no medical problems. Only mention it to her if you think she might be open to listening. If and when you talk to her, you can mention how your brother and sister have been teasing you and ask her to tell them to stop. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ryan Draper
Age: 18

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Should my friends and girlfriends change my wet and dirty diapers with latex gloves when we go to the movies together? I think that my bed wetting is because of my disability


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Dear Ryan,

You say you have a disability. Are you unable to change yourself? If you can't then it is alright for your friends to help you out. However if you are able to do it yourself you should try to, just to maintain your independence. Other than that just enjoy your time with your friends.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 55

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In 50+ yrs of dealing with I've been examined by countless urologists, shrinks, internal medicine Drs, everyone tells something different. I had just every test out, tried all the med's, the problem has gotten worse. Now I have daytime accidents as well and now bowel as well as bladder. This is for me very embarrassing. The examine some time just trying to tell the doctor what's going on. Any advice? Thank you for letting vent if nothing else.


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Dear James,

Sometimes the doctors just don't know. I have been dealing with that myself for years. It seems you have had every test under the sun. Most likely what is going on is you have multiple problems and they are trying to put it all on one. Doctors sometimes have tunnel vision. A urologist only sees the urology side- perhaps if he considered the nerve control aspect of the bladder it might get him answers and so on. My heart goes out to you. It is okay to vent- we have good ears here. We listen with compassionate hearts. I hope you know we care about you and what's important to you. Try to stay strong and know someone is on your side.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 55

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I am going into hospital for a major operation soon and I just have no idea on how to tell the nurse that I have problems with bedwetting. To be honest I am petrified - any suggestions on how I should approach the topic with them? I had a serious accident which left me with multiple injuries. One of these was the fact that I have damaged my nerves and have only limited feelings to the LHS of my body - waist down. I know I now have a weak bladder and although I can cope during the day I have real problems at nigh in as much that I don't even know I have wet myself until the morning. I currently wear terry diapers as disposables give me an awful rash.


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Dear David,

After working many years as a nurse, believe me we have seen everything. A nurse will definitely understand your need for diapers. With your history they might even be expecting it. Don't be nervous about speaking to your health care team. They are there to help you and need to know all pertinent facts. So let them know about your diapers, remember to tell them you need terry because the disposables irritates you, and all will be well. Good luck on your surgery.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: David
Age: 55

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Hi Sandra. Thanks for your reply and thought I would drop you a line to update. I had my pre op appointment this morning as I am due into hospital next Monday. I found your reply so helpful when talking to the nurse this morning and found it easier to discuss my bedwetting problem. The nurse was most understanding and explained to me that I am not the first nor will I be the last to have bedwetting issues at my age and that they are able to provide terry nappies and pants knowing that I cannot wear disposables. She did explain to me that for the first 3 to 4 days after surgery that I would probably have to wear a nappy in the day as well as at night and that the ward nurses would probably change me. Thanks again for easing my mind over this matter. David


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Dear David,

I am so glad I was able to help ease your mind. You have enough to be concentrating on --like healing and returning back to your normal routine. Good luck with your surgery and god bless.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ginny
Age: 16

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I have been wetting for about one month. I am 16 and a girl and wear no protection. About a month ago, I was raped by a friend and I've been having horrible painful nightmares. I wake up screaming, and usually wet. My boyfriend, who stays in the house with my family (he was homeless and we took him in) has begun to sleep with me, and hold me and try to make me feel safe. This sometimes works and sometimes doesn't. When I'm screaming in pain and fear, he wakes me up and holds me until I calm down and come back to reality (usually about ten minutes), then feels me or asks if I'm wet, and helps me stand up. While I get changed, he changes my sheets. He stresses that he doesn't care and he loves me, and it's just piss. He tells me it's not my fault and he loves me no matter what. He says he just doesn't want me to have to wake up sometimes twice (once at night, once in the morning) cold and sticky. He says he doesn't care if I pee on him, or on myself, because I can't control it, that its just the dreams, so he wants me to wear some 'protection'. He doesn't mean diapers, just Goodnites. He says he'll buy them and no one has to know and it'll just be our secret so I don't wake up freezing, but it makes me feel like such a... Idk like a baby. Should I take him up on this offer? He says if I wet during the night, I won't even have to wake up, he can just pull it off while I sleep so I won't get cold and replace it. He is 18, and has seen me naked. I have no problem with sharing this with him. But should I agree to the protection? PS. I am seeing a therapist about the rape and dreams.
Thanks, Ginny.


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Dear Cinny,

I am so sorry about the ordeal you had to endure. Unfortunately they can sometimes leave painful reminders behind as you well know. I am glad that you are in therapy. Your boyfriend is a gem, he cares for you and is there for you. I would take him up on his offer. Try the goodnites or Underjams (buy the briefs only, boxers leak) for a trial period and see how it feels. You are dealing with enough, adding lack of sleep to the mix is too much. He does have a point, if he is willing to change you if you wet at least you can stay asleep and get the rest you need. I hope that with time and therapy things will get better for you. I wish only good things for you. Remember you are not alone, there are people who care about you...us.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Scott
Age: 13

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Where can I get a free sample of Goodnites/Underjams? And if not how much do they cost. MONEY IS NO OPTION.


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Dear Scott,

If you write directly to Goodnites they do send you a free sample and sometimes a bonus coupon. All you have to do is give them your size when you fill out the sample request page. This is the link to order a free sample: http://www.goodnites.com/na/Bedwetting-Products/Offers/Free-Samples.aspx Hope you like them.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Smokey
Age: 21

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Hey Ma, good news, my accidents are beginning to clear up beautifully. I still occasionally wake up screaming (PTSD), and have an accident, but it's pretty rare. Now my problem seems to be giving diapers up. It feels kinda weird to sleep without them, and by sleep, I mean toss and turn because I can't sleep. IT's weird, I hate diapers with a passion, but now I can't sleep without them. A friend of mine who helped me through these rough years, got me a teddy bear which seems to help, but I really want to move on. Any tips for getting some z's diaper free?


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Dear Smokey,

I am so glad that things are getting better for you. I know it has been a tough uphill climb but you've made it this far! It can be hard to give up the diapers cold-tukey. Why not try weaning yourself off of them. Like wear to bed for 2 nights then no diaper the third, 2 nights on then 1 night off for 2-3 weeks then make it 1 night on and 2 nights off for 2-3 weeks and then try to go diaper less. If another time frame fits better try that but slowly wear less and less. It should work. Good luck. And congrats on your progress with the PTSD so far.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Tony
Age: 16

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This very embarrassing. My name is tony I'm a 16 year old male who still wets the bed nightly and I wet and mess myself most days. I have been to all kinds of doctors. None can find anything wrong. They keep saying I will grow out of it. My mother is very understanding, but treats me like a baby. At home she changes me and worst she insist on taking my temperature rectally and gives enemas or suppositories to make me have a bowel movement, and not have a accident in my pants. My father is not at all understanding. He teases me and punishes me with the belt. Bare naked sometimes in front of my brothers and sisters. I have called the police and child protective services, they all have done no good. I need help. How can I stop wetting and messing myself. This is a friends email as I don't have one. I look forward to reading your reply in the near future. Tony age 16. PS my friend knows he's 18 and is also a bedwetter but both his folks are understanding and don't punish him for it they tried talking to mine but.


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Dear Tony,

First of all you have nothing to be embarrassed about. My son had the same problem. He was wetting and there was nothing that showed up on medical tests. But the doctor said he would grow out of it and he did. Mainly because he was not harassed. Stress can cause the wetting to continue. And the enemas and things don't help either. You said you contacted the police and child protective and they did nothing.... that is surprising but not unheard of. Bottom line is you need to be out of that environment.

      I never tell any minors to go contrary to what their parents are saying, but in this case they are part of the problem. I believe your entire family needs some form of therapy or at the very least and least a mediator.

     Stanley did come up with a radical plan. It is very bold and some what risky. Call 1-800-SUICIDE, tell them you are being abused and that you want to end your life to stop the abuse. They will send a police car, most likely to come pick you up. You need to tell the officers that you are suicidal and that you are serious. They will put you in the hospital for a 72 hour (3 day) hold. Once at the hospital you will be assigned a doctor and a social worker. Tell the social worker in detail what is going on at home. As hard as it might be, you need to tell them about the babying, the enema's, the rectal thermometer, being stripped naked and beat in front of your brothers and sisters....everything. They can then get you help.

     They will most likely want to place you with another family member if possible. The risky part of the plan is you could end up in foster care if another family member can't be found for you to stay with. So think very carefully before trying this. It is a very bold move like I said. While at the hospital also see if your wetting improves any without all the products your mother had you using. My heart goes out to you. Remember you have someone on your side. We will be here for you and wait to hear how things go for you. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kennedy
Age: 15

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Would Pampers size 7 fit me? I'm 15 weigh about 110 and have a waist of about 26-30. I don't like using pullups or adult diapers. I prefer baby diapers. But I will wear training pants if I cannot get/fit into pampers size 7. By training pants I mean Goodnites (I won't wear anything but Pampers/Goodnites, don't like too many other products. So will they fit me? also I need a way to get them without my mom or anyone knowing. Money and hiding them as well as purchasing them won't be a problem, I just need a ride there from my mom. I'm 15 and can't drive, I live too far out from any store to bike ride there, and there are no taxi's here where I live. So how do I get my mommy to take me to a Walgreens or Target or somewhere for me to get diapers without her knowing? I've never been dry at night and have come close to accidents during the day.


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Dear Kennedy,

It seems to me that only option is to have it delivered. You can order online even from your local pharmacy/department store. You would need to have an address that is good for you. Do you get home before everyone else to intercept the mail? If not do you have a trusted friend or relative that could accept the package for you? Of course you could also try seeing if you can go to the store with a friend and their parents when they go (at least they won't ask to see what's in the bag) I wish you luck..

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 14

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How can I stop wetting the bed and wetting myself in the day, because I have taken meds before and has not worked. I wet the bad and in the day because I can not control my bladder.


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Dear Paul,

I don't think I can help you. From your responses it seems you have already been to a doctor, since you mentioned medication. If the medication the doctor prescribed didn't help there really isn't too much else. Unless there is a organic problem (a problem that can be fixed with surgery) I am afraid everyone's hands are tied. You can perhaps lessen the frequency of the wetting using the meds and techniques like cutting out caffeine, using the bathroom more. Talk to your doctor about other alternatives. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Vinny
Age: 15

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I am 15 and a sophomore in high school. I live in Missouri. I heard from another site like this that schools are required by law to have diapers. I also heard that, if you go to be changed by the nurse, they can't legally tell anyone. Is this true? If I am wet at school, can I go to the nurses office and get changed? Will they not tell anyone? Is it an actual law? I really don't know why I wet. I've just always had that problem. My parents thought it stopped years ago but I've still been hiding it with diapers.


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Dear Vinny,

You are partially right. If a person has a medical reason to be in diapers, by law the school nurse has to provide a safe environment for them to change. The person has to provide their own diapers. So a teen in high school can have their diaper supply at the nurses office but it is only for them. And if and when they need to change they can go to the nurse and change there. If they are disabled and unable to change themselves then she will do it. And privacy laws do apply. To get all this started you need at the very least a doctor's note. If you mean could your parents find out if you got a diaper from the nurses office, yes, and that's only if your mom or dad dropped off a pack as you can only use your own diapers from home. Most schools keep a log of how often a student in diapers is changed. If you don't wear diapers and come into the nurses office for a diaper, the nurse would most likely call home to let your mom or dad know you had an accident. However the rules are different from school to school as well as different from state to state. You would have to ask the school nurse at your school to know for sure. But the only person the nurse would be able to tell about your diapers or accidents would be your legal guardian such as your mom and dad or who ever your staying with. Hope this info helps.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Anonymous
Age: 13

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For starters, I'm 13 years old and my grandma won this thing online that was like free diapers for a year and she changed the mailing address to my house for me, knowing of my issue. The only problem is, I'm used to wearing Goodnights pull-ups, not some generic brand, youth strap-on diapers. I have to admit, they are comfy and hold a lot more waste, but they are noisier and are harder to change (when poop in is the subject). Anyway's, they make me feel like a baby and I just want to outgrow this problem as soon as possible without feeling childish. I tried telling my mom I hate them, but all she cares about is the fact that they're free. So, every morning my mom comes in my room, pinches the front of my diaper to check it it's wet, then asks me to change if I am wet or soiled. (usually 1 to 2 times a week, I'm dry and 6 to 7 times a week I'm poop free) Anyway's, how do I get out of diapers? Is their any quick remedies that will at least stop my pooping accidents? I've tried fresh honey and not drinking before bed, but neither has worked. Please help me!


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Dear Anon,

You need to speak with your doctor. See what options are open to you. Perhaps there are bladder/bowel exercises or medications that can help the situation. Also ask your doctor if the possibility exists of you having a growth spurt and the muscles of your bladder getting stronger. It can be hard being a wetter and wearing in public. For the free diapers try this, diaper as usual but put a pair of underwear over the diaper- the tight fit of the underwear will keep the plastic rustling of the diaper in check- almost no noise!. Also add to that list of things to do before bed- use the potty right before you lay down, and yes no liquid after 6 PM and also no caffeine (like cola, tea etc) Hope this helps. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kyler
Age: 13

Q:

I have been a bed wetter all my life. I have always woke up with a soiled diaper. (Always #1, sometimes #2) I have been doing better because I have had about 3 dry nights this week. I am worried though because I went to me grandmas home this thanksgiving and I wet when I was awake. It was like 8 in the morning and I was laying in bed watching TV completely awake. Then, out of no where I peed a lot. Luckily I hadn't changed out of my diaper when it happened but it was still scary. Then on the drive home, I had to poop and we were going to stop when it came out. Why can't I control myself anymore? We went to the stop and my mom took me to the gas station. (She was helping me change only because I was really messy. I unbuttoned my shorts and she pulled them down. She took some toilet paper off the thing and wiped me down a little bit. I slipped of my boxers and she wiped me off. She told me to put on a diaper so I did. (I wasn't happy) Unfortunately, my shorts had some poop on them so I had no pants to cover my diaper. I had to walk out to the car in my diaper! Luckily, no one was in the store besides the worker who acknowledged my diaper wearing by asking if we needed shorts, jokingly. My mother and I just ignored him and walked out the door. I was SO embarrassed. I got into the car and sat in my booster seat. (I'm 13 but I'm only 4 ft. 5 in.) I buckled in and we drove off. I felt like a little kid, sitting in my booster seat (Which I hated) in a diaper, it was just so embarrassing. I had dozed off (It's a three day trip)and woke up dry, thankfully. Though, still not wearing shorts and in my diaper I had to use the restroom. Without telling my mom, because it came out instantly. I had diarrhea and pee. I was wearing the messiest diaper in my life. Embarrassed I didn't tell her anything. We got home (I sat in it for 9 hours) I had help changing. Why am I peeing and pooping myself in the morning now?! I'm sooo scared!


A:

Dear Tyler,

Have you ever been to a doctor about this? It sounds like you have poor muscle control. If that is the case over time the muscle could get weaker and that would explain why you are having the daytime accidents now. Check with your doctor. There are medications and other treatment options that might work for you. But know this, you are one of the lucky ones. You have an understanding mom who is willing to help you. There are a lot of kids who don't have that. Just one word of advice perhaps you should travel with a complete change of clothes just in case. Get a old back pack and put in some wipes, some diapers and 2 or 3 shirts, pants/shorts and socks and keep the bag in the trunk of your parents car so in case this happens again you won't have to walk through another store in just a diaper and shirt. Good luck and know you are not alone.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: John
Age: 12

Q:

Hi there! I am 12 years old and I have just started wetting the bed. It has never been a problem, and last time I wet I was 5. Do you happen to know what's going on with me?


A:

Dear John,

There could be a hundred different reasons for you starting to wet. Only going to a doctor would answer that question. I will say this though, what you are describing sounds just like what happened to my son. He was about the same age and just started to wet at night. The doctor said he had a growth spurt and his bladder didn't. In other words, his body did a big growth jump from a 9 year old body to a 12 year old body, but his bladder didn't. So his 9 year old bladder now had to handle the urine output of the bigger 12 year old body. It is too much and some will spill out- and that was the wetting, the overflow. It is something you most likely will grow out of. My son did in fact out grow the wetting. Talk to your parents. I wish you well, good luck.

-Hugs Sandra