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Question Asked By: Lucas
Age: 19

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I have been wetting the bed for just about 6 months. I have told my parents the situation and they decided to put me in diapers. Just to save the hassle of washing sheets everyday I agreed. I want to make sure that the decision is right, or good for me, will it help or cause me to not worry because of the diaper and eventually losing control completely, resulting in permanent diapering.


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Dear Lucas,

Even if you are wearing a diaper as long as you still use the bathroom when you can and rely on the diapers for the occasional accident, you should do just fine. It will help ease your mind to know that if you have that accident that you have no need to worry. Is it the right decision for you? After trying this for a few weeks you will know for sure. And remember even if you are diapered, as long as you are still using the toilet when you can you shouldn't become diaper dependant. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Robert
Age: 41

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I want to try double diapering during the day how do you do it and will it give more protection?


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Dear Robert,

Doubling your diaper does give you more absorbency however the down side is it also gives you bulk. But if you are not concerned with the bulkiness doubling will give then it might be an option for you to try. You will need your regular diaper laid out, now for cloth you would take another diaper folded in thirds and placed in the middle of the first diaper and then proceed to diaper as usual. Now in the case of disposable diapers again lay it out and place a second diaper, that has been specially prepared, in the middle of the first one. To prepare the disposable diaper you will need to trim off the tab portion of the diaper and any areas with elastic leaving only the main section intact, then proceed to cut slits through the diaper to allow for drainage. This way when the top laying diaper is saturated  the liquids can drain through to the lower laying diaper. And as before diaper as usual. I hope doubling works out well for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CZ
Age: 18

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Dear How can I explain to my mother that I'm 18 and still wear diapers And I would like to be changed and keep it secret. I need advice on a way to explain this or how I could explain it to someone like a friends mother or girlfriend to get changed. I wet because I wet the bed and my diapers in the daytime and do not have a lot of control over it, I'm using Pampers and Luvs size 6 and pull ups and I sometimes leak them and I live with my parents and siblings in the united states.


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Dear CZ,

There is never any easy way to tell someone about wearing diapers especially if you know they will not be understanding. You are 18 so you can relay the info as just that- information as a courtesy. We have an excellent resource section for finding mommies and/or friends. Perhaps you can find someone through that. At the very least you will find a potential friend. I wish you luck in your search.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Steven
Age: Unknown

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How can I tell my parents or get control? I am not sure why this is happening. It happened a week ago for no reason. Only three dry nights. I have three siblings that would tease me to no end if they found out.


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Dear Steven,

Only you know if your parents would be open to hearing about this. You could approach them by saying that you just started wetting. They will most likely take you to a doctor. Which wouldn't be a bad idea-just to be sure there is no medical reason for the wetting. With your parents on your side, your siblings would get in trouble for teasing you. Just a suggestion- I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Louis
Age: 13

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I'm wetting day and night. It's really worrying me. I can't help it. I'm not doing it on purpose. I cut it close at school and even then I can't make it. How do I tell my parents I need protection and what if they don't believe me. Plz I need your help. I don't know why this has started I never wetted before


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Dear Louis,

Be honest with your parents. Tell them what you told me- you really don't know why you are having problems. They might take you to a doctor but that is a good thing- make sure there is nothing wrong. There could be many reasons for wetting, even stress can cause it. Talk to your parents and be honest. They love you and will take care of you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Erica
Age: 17

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Hi, So my boyfriend has been wearing for awhile. He wears pampers size 6. The thing is that they are a little tight on him but he will wear them anyway. He and I would like to know what would be best for him. Should he look into adult sizes or should he try something else? So if you could please reply to this message and help him and I with more information that would be great!
Thank you
Sincerely
Erica


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Dear Erica,

The Pampers size 6 is pretty much the largest in baby diapers out there besides the new Pampers size 7. I suggest you try adult diapers. There are many good brands. Some of the online diaper companies offer sample packs for only a few dollars. They are a good way to try different brands and see which features fit your lifestyle. The two brands we recommend most are the Uniquebriefs and Dry 24/7. Try them and see what you like.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Megan
Age: 14

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Hi my brother is 16 and still wets his bed a lot. I actually never knew but he told me last week. I feel so bad for him, you can tell he's depressed about it. How can I help him out with this?


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Dear Megan,

I have to commend you for wanting to help your brother. The first thing you can do is to not tease him. He is probably feeling embarrassed as it is. Try to be supportive and understanding. If he has a dry night and you are aware of it- tell him you are happy for him. But the most important thing is to keep this info within your family. Tell no one about him. Just be there for him.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 16

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I am 16 and still wetting the bed about 4 times a week. When I wet I flood. I sleep on plastic sheets and have plastic pillow covers. I usually wake up soaked from, literally, knees to shoulders. I feel like such a loser for this. I don't drink after 8 and I pee before bed. I even set an alarm for 2 in the morning but I still wet. I don't want to wear diapers and I don't want to take med's. I have seen doctors but they didn't help. How can I deal with this better and how can I feel better about it? Also my 14 year old sis recently found out I wet and she teases so much. How can I get her to stop? I think I wet the bed because I sleep so heavily and make so much urine at night.


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Dear Chris

You have the same problem as my son.  He was a heavy sleeper and would wet at night without waking up. He had an immature bladder and did eventually grow out of it. You are doing some things to stop already, try these- stop drinking fluids at 6 (2 hours earlier) make sure what you do drink is caffeine-free. Pee before bed and set your alarm for 1 and go to the bathroom then. You could also consider a bedwetting alarm. It is a device that is put on your bed and once moisture hits it, an alarm goes off and wakes you to go to the bathroom. On our main site we have a listing of companies that sell them. the link is  http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Bed_Wetter_Alarm_Links.html. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 18

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Are there any better diapers I could try that will hold and fit me better. And how can I stop wet dreams, wetting my diapers? I wet because I am still having wet dreams at 18 and am a heavy sleeper. I wear baby diapers and usually fill or wet a little in them and sometimes the diaper leaks because the tapes break, I use Pampers, Luvs , pull ups, and have tried Goodnites and I am a size 6 or 4t-5t with pull ups, I live in United States with my mom and dad and I'm only allergic to two types of medicine, I also wear because I find diapers comfortable when they are dry and have my girl friend who supports me and sometimes changes me.


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Dear Chris,

It sounds like you have things in good shape. I do have two suggestions for you 1) you can continue wearing the size 6 but reinforce the tapes- a friend of mine uses duct tape over the tape area- break now I dare ya!- he says it works great for him. 2) you could try adult diapers-we have many good companies listed on our absorbent products page. Whichever way you go I hope things work our for you. I am sorry but I can't help with the wet dreams- only your hormones can handle that. Be well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 18

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Dear mom, I would like to tell my mother that I wear but I feel sort of embarrassed and hope that I will be treated like I am normal. I do wonder how I could keep it away from other people. What would be the best way to tell her? I am thinking it would be easier for me to accidentally let her catch me in one or show her that I wear instead off telling her but am nervous to get a reaction.  Could you give me a suggestion on what to do? Should I tell her I wet them or wear for comfort? I am 18 and told my girlfriend online and she is helping me on this subject but I could use more advise. It seams so difficult  for me and I am not sure why I want to tell her but I think it would be good to get this secret off my chest. If you could let me know soon it would help me figure this out easier thanks - Chris


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Dear Chris,

Should you tell your Mom? That is a question only your conscience can answer. it is admirable that you want to be honest with your Mom. But only you know her, will she understand and be accepting of you wearing a diaper? If you don't think so, why harm the relationship you have with her. If on the other hand you know her to be open-minded then sit her down and just be honest and explain why you wear. I am glad that you have your girlfriend in your corner, at least you are not alone. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Audia
Age: 25

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I was wondering if there was a cure or something to stop the wetting for good?



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Dear Audia,

You said you have been to the doctor and they have no clue as to why you have your problem. Unfortunately without a diagnosis as to what the problem is, you won't know if there is a cure. Wetting can be caused by illness and even stress. In my son's case, he had a growth spurt and his bladder didn't keep up. So he had a 11 year old body and a 7 year old bladder (size wise). Eventually it did catch up and his problem ended. In a stress related situation once the stress is gone the wetting should stop. There are so many reasons and just as many cures. I hope it turns out that your's is one that will reverse itself.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 18

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My question is I told my mom I wear and she is taking me to a doctor. I'm a little nervous and don't know what I'm going to say. Any advise would be great, thanks. I also am used to wearing and want to be comfortable sleeping in them at night. Could you give me advise and soon thanks. I'll send an email as well. I feel I wet because I drink before I go to bed because I breath from my mouth and get thirsty I also feel that I have dreams of wetting and actually do. -Chris



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Dear Chris,

When you see the doctor I would be honest with him and say you wet at night. Ask him if your theory about the drinking before bed and breathing the way you do might be a factor in your wetting. Also if he recommends to continue wearing diapers ask him for a script- your medical insurance might cover it and you won't have to pay for them. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Eric Grant
Age: 33

Q:

How does something like this happen, to make me wet at night. And now it's started I do not let friends over. I was told by a friend that all the stress in my life is doing it to me.


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Dear Eric,

Stress is the number one reason beside disease that people wet. Your friend could be right. If there is any way you can de-stress- even a little- the wetting should ease up. Just because you wet is no reason to stop seeing your friends. They have excellent products and medications out on the market. If the wetting continues, see a doctor and discuss with him your options. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CZ
Age: 18

Q:

I want to ask what is the best kind of baby diapers? And could you give some suggestions to try?  I have tried Huggies, Luvs and Pampers. I have tried youth sizes and think they're too big and do not feel right. Suggestions would be great.


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Dear CZ,

You have pretty much tried all the good diapers out there. There are other brands but the quality is low. You might like to try Goodnites. They are good for comfort and absorbency. Go to our absorbent product page and look around and see  what looks interesting. Alot of the companies will send samples for a low fee. good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chopper
Age: 13

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I want to know how to make a very nice diaper out of a towels because if my parents find out they will freak.
One night I guess I couldn't hold it so I wet my bed. I told nobody and started to make diapers out of towels and nobody knows yet.


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Dear Chopper,

Since you wish to use towels as diapers you should put specific towels aside for your use. Remember to wash them often. Use bleach and if you can rinse twice- do so. To get the best use, if you can have a large towel around your posterior and use a hand towel folded in thirds put inside in the middle- you will have good absorbency. Of course plastic pants of some kind is needed. Have enough towels put aside for a few changes and you should be okay. And don't wait more than 3 days to wash them or they will begin to grow mould.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Justin
Age: 19

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Been wetting the bed most of my life, on and off. When I was younger my mom and I consulted a doctor and he gave me these pills, they didn't work. Then I tried to " cure " myself by just trying not to drink a lot before bed and that didn't seem to do it either. I then was on a nasal spray for awhile and felt that it was working very well so I got off of it. I didn't seem to wet the bed anymore for a long while after that but now it's every other night, sometimes every night. I know my mom knows but I don't know how about telling her that I think I should wear diapers or go to a doctor. should I just ask her to buy diapers?


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Dear Justin,

You have been through the ringer. All the routine treatments you seem to have already been given. Some worked and some didn't. I think you know better than anyone what works for you. Talk to your mom, she already knows as you said. Going to a doc is a good idea only to be sure there are no medical things going on. And if diapers are good for you then go for it. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Riley
Age: 15

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So I go to friends house and sometimes they are really funny and I peed my pants. Do you have anything I could wear that no one can see and it is easy to make.


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Dear Riley,

Actually you are in luck. One of our members just made a suggestion that is perfect for you. His idea was "Wear 2-4 pairs of tight boxers. Then lay 2-4 pairs of underwear on top of each other but don't put them on yet. Fold them long ways and position like a diaper pad inside the boxers with them brim near the back. Then put a sanitary napkin in the front. Pull it up as tight as you want." It sounds like a real good idea as a substitute for a actual diaper. good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Wesley
Age: Unknown

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Hey I want to ask a question. Is it ok for a 20 year old boy to wear goodnites as long as he is using it for protection. Even in a day time.


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Dear Wesley,

What is right and what is wrong? You are a grown man and hurting no one. You have the right to be happy. So yes it is definitely okay to wear diapers, even if you are not using them. So wear as often as you want.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mia
Age: 15

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Hi I been looking at the website for help and wanted to ask my question but the other had little detail so...First question ... Is it possible that if a person grew up being abused and now have sometimes nightmares that this can be why they wet the bed? Also ... my aunt who I live with says I will stop eventually it's just because I have problems and anxiety at the moment and need to see doctors and people, but I don't like to. Is this necessary? I also find that if I am not in a deep sleep then I am more aware of getting awake to pee but sometimes I notice I sleep right to morning and be wet is this normal? I have supportive aunt/uncle and sisters but would also like you to answer my question ..thank you very much for help on this
Mia


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Dear Mia

You are very fortunate to have family on your side. To answer your first question it is very common for persons who have been abused to have problems later on. One possible cause of wetting is stress. If you are having nightmares I do believe that is definitely in the stress column. So it follows that the wetting could be related. And your aunt could be right. If you could see a doctor/therapist to find a way to deal with your abuse perhaps the stress would decrease and with it the nightmares. To answer your last question, if you are a deep sleeper it is possible to sleep through your body trying to wake you up. I wish you all the best, take care of yourself

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Pj
Age: 18

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Why am I bed wetting? I feel like a two old. It suck I mean I'm an 18 guy who has to put goodnight on. Like why me? why has this happened I don't like it. Like I recall making fun of people wetting the bed when they were five, now shoes on the other foot you know and I want some answers.


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Dear PJ,

It is difficult to have to deal with sudden onset of wetting. As for the reason why, only a doctor can tell you for sure. You could have a weak bladder or it could just be stress related. Wearing diapers has nothing to do with age. There are many medical conditions that can cause someone to be in diapers. Like I say a diaper is a piece of cloth covering your butt---so is a panty, boxer or brief. It is all in your perspective. You know you're not a child, so relax. See a doctor, this could be a temporary thing. But even if it isn't so what. You are still who you are. We will always be here for you if you need to rant or answer general questions. Good luck to you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Michael
Age: 42

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I'm 42 years of age and I know I'm grown up but I'm in a dilemma with my mother. I told her some years ago that I was over the problem of mine - the bed-wetting part - to be treated more as a grown up person and not a child anymore. I feel on the other hand that it is unfair to her that I lie by saying so. Also when I sleep over in her house I run the risk of being seen in diapers no matter how discreet I am about this. What is your feeling about this dilemma - I really want to be honest with all people and tell, but I risk all sorts of questions - I'm in a deadlock about this! Please. help.


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Dear Michael,

The things we do for our mothers huh? You say that you feel uncomfortable not telling her the truth. Well my question to you is this- was it better her treating you like a baby at your age or is it better you and her having a proper grown son and mother relationship? Being a mother myself , all I want for my children is for them to be happy. I know that is what your mom wants for you. The ultimate decision is of course yours. If she does know that you are still wetting what will change? When you visit try wearing a brief over the diaper- it cuts down on the noise and if anything peeks out from pants or shorts it looks like a brief because it is one. Just a suggestion. I hope all works out for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mia
Age: 15

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Is it true abuse can lead to bed wetting?


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Dear Mia,

There are many reasons for wetting. There is medical problems or stress and yes abuse can also be a cause. To be certain you would need to see a doctor. They would rule out any medical reasons and then your personal history would fill in the rest of the blanks. But if you know someone is being abused, they should try to get help from someone they trust, a counselor,church leader or trusted relative.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Riely
Age:15

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So my parents are suspicious about me and the smelly towels. Do you know about any other things that are easy to make and I could use beside cloth so please help


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Dear Riely,

Using a towel is the fabric of choice. Of course the problem is...Mom. At some point Mom notices either a strange smell on her towels or the lack of towels. A method that is gaining some popularity is using old T-shirts instead of towels. They are your shirts, so Mom doesn't notice if some are missing especially if they are old ones you don't wear that much. Also do your own laundry and slip them in with your regular wash and no one will be the wiser. Just a suggestion.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Charles
Age: 34

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My question is how can I keep them not as noticeable? The only kind I can wear is the ones with a plastic backing. And does having diabetes have any thing to do with me having to wear diapers?


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Dear Charles,

There are a few tricks you could try to lessen the noise of the diapers. One fav is to wear your keys on a ring handing from your pants. The clinking of the keys hides the sound of the plastic. Another good trick is to wear briefs over the diaper. The tightness of the brief keeps the loose plastic tight against the body so no rustling sound and the added benefit is if you bend over, all anyone would see if the brief banding and not the top of a diaper. Hope those few tips help. Diabetes can cause some to urinate more if their blood levels are not under control. If you are in good control then there should be no problems in that area.
-Hugs Sandra