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Question Asked By: Don
Age: 12

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Sometimes I like to wet my underwear for fun. I also like to wear diapers. My question is, I heard that you can untrain a bladder. I don't want to. So I was wondering,if I wet myself everyday for fun will untrain my bladder??? How many times a week do you think I should wet, without damaging my health??


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Dear Don,

There is no  magic formula. Everyone is different. Someone could be 'untrained' in only a few days and others could take weeks.  I wouldn't wet more than once a week to be on the safe side.  If it becomes a routine then you are teaching your body to do that routine.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Dan
Age: 13

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I want to know how to tell family and friends. And what kind of diapers I should use?


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Dear Dan,

If you think the problem is you drink too much before going to bed try not drinking before bed and see if that makes any difference.  If it does then you know why you were wetting.  If you still continue wetting I want you to Email me back directly at gypsy12143@yahoo.com to see what solutions we can come up with, okay.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Amanda
Age: 16

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How can I get my mom to stop putting my diaper and plastic pants on me at bedtime? It is embarrassing laying there like a baby while she does it.I am able to put them on myself.


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Dear Amanda,

You should have a heart to heart with your Mom.  Tell her that you are old enough to take responsibility for yourself.  That you appreciate all the help she has given you but that this is something you need to start doing for yourself.  If you come across as being
confidant but still grateful for her efforts she just might be open to listen to what you have to say.  Hope all goes well.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paulo
Age: 23

Q:

My friend is AB (I don't make fun of him) but he purposely untrained his bladder to become a 24/7 bedwetter. Now he regrets the decision. Anyway he could re-train it thanks.


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Dear Paolo,

You didn't really ask a question but I will assume you are asking if your friend can retrain himself to be regular again.  And the answer is yes.  He would have to go through all the steps like a child does. Learn when he wets and try to catch it in the toilet. Sit on the toilet after meals for a time to see if he goes. He needs to make the brain/body connection again.  The body telling the brain I have to go so go to the bathroom.  When he untrained himself that connection
was cut.  It will take time but can be done.  I wish him luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Donna
Age: 29

Q:

My son just started to wet and I've never been an expert in washing. So am I supposed to wash his sheets or just put them in the dryer? Thank You


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Dear Donna,

It is recommended that the sheets be washed. You can use warm to hot water and regular detergent.  continue to be supportive of your son.  I know it can be hard at times but keep the faith. My son is now in his 20's and very happy. You'll be there too one day.

- Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Harry
Age: 13

Q:

Well I'm not really a bedwetter but last week I drank to much soda before bed and I woke up next morning soaked. I don't want to tell my mom I wet but is there a way I can dry everything up before my mom sees my wet sheets? I'm home alone sometimes I don't know how to wash my sheets

please reply ASAP

Thanks


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Dear Harry,

You're right, once does not make you a wetter.  However if you need to wash your sheets it is really easy.  Put your machine on small load and put your sheet in. There should be a dial for the load size. You can put the laundry detergent right in with the sheet. The detergent box/container will tell you how much for a small load.  Then you turn on the machine. When done put in dryer. In the future ease up on the soda.  Take care.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Nevil
Age: 14

Q:

How do I clean my wet sheets without my parents knowing. I have only wet once and I don't know how to do laundry.

ThankYou


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Dear Nevil,

The only way to do them without them knowing is to wait for when they are not at home. Put them in the washer and dryer and hopefully back on your bed before they arrive back home.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Robert
Age: 41

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My question is my doctor wants me to try to use the bathroom every 2 hours to "retrain myself".  I have been wearing diapers now for 20+ years and change about 3 times a day. Since I have been wearing diapers for so long I have grown use to having one on all the time. I also work at Walmart and find it hard to make trip to the bathroom before I have already gone in my diaper. I am married and my wife helps change me.

So my question is how can I try to make this work? I am trying to balance home time routines with work and I find it hard to do.  I still wet at night to. Thanks


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Dear Robert,

If you truly wish to become independent of the diapers then you do need to be 're-trained'.  And pretty much the way your doctor said is the way to do it.  You can modify his directions - if you know you go after lunch for example then that's is when you would go to the
bathroom.  Try to see if you have a pattern and use the bathroom according to that pattern. All you can do is your best.  Like you said you have been wetting for over 20+ years. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra
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Question Asked By: Shanice
Age: 12

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I have been wetting for a week. Luckily my cousin is staying with me and she is a bed wetter and wear pull ups. I woke up one morning and found myself wet. My parents are not at home usually as they need to work so I quickly took the sheets to wash and dry it before my parents come back. The next day I took her pull ups and it fit me well so I wore it that night in case I wet again. Well I woke up next morning and I was wet. My parents didn't find out as I wore the pull ups. What I'm worry is she is going back in three days time. What should I do??? I really don't want anybody to find out about my problems.


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Dear Shanice,

You could have your cousin leave some pull-ups for you.  But I think you need to tell someone in your family you are wetting. This way they can take you to a doctor and make sure there are no medical problems. For my son he had a growth spurt and his bladder
didn't keep up so he wet.  He did outgrow it when his bladder finally caught up. Be brave and remember we are here for you if you need us.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Embarrassed
Age: 14

Q:

I don't understand why I bed wet but I sometimes wake up in the morning wet and have to change sheets whilst my mum is at work. It started about five months ago when I moved home and I found the move very hard because I was taken away from my friends. I still don't know how I started bed wetting but it just happened on around the third night of living in my new home. Do you think I should tell anyone because it is making me really unconfident and is there anything I can do to make it stop because it is really embarrassing?


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Dear Embarrassed,

It sounds like you have stress bedwetting. Probably because of the move.  You said it was stressful and losing contact with your friends can definitely cause it. When the stress goes away most likely the wetting will stop. Perhaps you can talk to your parents about the problems concerning the move- just about how you miss your friends and stuff. That might help to ease your mind. I hope things work out for you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Stacey
Age: 25

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About 6 months ago my fiancee thought that talking to others with enuresis would be helpful for me, but not knowing where to turn he suggested myspace. So I did one of the profile things, and right off the bat I started getting friend requests. Thing is, very few of the people who talk to me are actual bedwetters. It's easy to tell who's lying, but still I feel violated and it's just constant. How do I get these scum bags to leave me alone? I have a bedwetting problem, I don't need these horny AB's to make it worse.


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Dear Stacy,

Unfortunately your fiancee went to the wrong place. There are some who use some of their sites for nothing else but to be 'horndogs'. Well we are an authentic wetter site.  We allow no sexual content and we allow no bad language. Our members ages range from 10 to 92- so we have to keep it clean for the younger ones.  If you have any questions or just have any comments to share feel free to post them.  I look forward to hearing from you in the future.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Gary
Age: 11

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I am incontinent. My mom thought I was doing it on purpose and treated me like a baby until I was 7. Now she knows I can't help it.  I get embarressed when she changes me in front of other moms and kids. Should my mom be changing me in private? Why should other kids know about what I wear? Don't most kids with my problem get changed in private?


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Dear Gary,

I think it should be a private matter. What happens at your home is no one's business unless you want them to know about it. And yes most kids with your problem are changed in private. If you are not perhaps you could ask your Mom to do so. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brandon
Age: Unknowen

Q:

I just started wetting the bed. What should I do. My mom doesn't know yet. But I am running out of goodnights. I have since I wore them to a friends house, cause he wet the bed and I wanted to make him feel better.


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Dear Brandon,

You didn't mention your ageso I don't know if you are old enough to get a job.  If you don't want to tell your Mom and can't work you do have a few options. You could save up your allowance.  Perhaps do odd jobs.  I know one young man that mowed lawns in the summer, raked leaves in the fall and shoveled snow in the winter (he made $20 a house)  Another person I know lived near a retirement village.  He offered to do odd jobs like running to the pharmacy to pick up medication or getting light groceries etc. Not glamorous but money is there to be made.  Hope some of these tips help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Denise
Age: 61

Q:

I wet myself all the time because when I was young and still in diapers I took a medicine that acted as poisen to me and it crystelized in my bladder and uretha and wreck it permenantly.  When the medicine cyrstelized in me I could not urinate at all.  Hospital had to put me in a coma for several days because I couldn't handle the pain while we waited for the antadote to work which it finally did. I've been incontenant ever since and because of all the damage I can't be cathed at all. Also, I have MS and Diabetis type II.  My skin is ultra sensitive and gets damage when using paper disposal diapers. Cloth diapers are very hard to find until I came to your web sight and ordered some.With my extreme sensitivities to many fabrics and materials used in the production of diapers, I've had a difficult time finding anything that works consistantly well for me.  I'm alergic to most flannels but I don't know what Birdseye fabric is so I just ordered some to see if it will work for me.  Do you have any suggestions about safe diaper fabrics that can be used for those with extra sensitive skin?
Thanks


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Dear Denise,

Sorry to hear about all that to had to endure when you were younger. It can be difficult to find diapers when you are sensitive.  Birdseye is a good fabric. You could also try using just pure cotton diapers. Perhaps also change frequently and have some 'fresh air' time. Use a chair pad and go au naturale (bare butt) for a time. Just to give your skin some breathing time. You might have a few accidents (reason for the chair pad) but to have a fewer problems with reactions would be nice. I hope these suggestions help.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sadie
Age: 17

Q:

When will it stop? Also please note it's stopped happening EVERY night. Maybe 3 in 7 nights. I think I caught it from someone in my family older than me. Maybe too because I sleep too deep. Also mummy and daddy are divorced.


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Dear Sadie,

I am unclear as to what your question is exactly. If it is bedwetting, it is never known for how long it will last last and you don't catch it from someone although you can inherit the trait. Please write back if you need more info.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Holly
Age: 17

Q:

My friend who knows of my wetting and nappy wearing slept over one night I awoke to find her hand exploring inside my nappy and plastic pants. Although I pretended not to notice she has been texting my mobile phone for the last couple of weeks asking if we could have another sleepover even offering to buy lots of alcohol. I think she wants to get me drunk so she can fondle me. She now seems to have an obsession about nappies even to the point of saying she would wear a nappy to make me feel better. (of course it won't) What do I do ignore her and hope she goes away? or let her sleep with me?


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Dear Holly,

First and foremost never do anything you are not comfortable with. That being said your friend is crossing the line. She is violating your personal boundaries. You did not ask her to explore inside your nappy and she did it- a true friend would not do that. And to bring alcohol into it is just not right. I do not know what her intentions are but I think you should stay clear of this girl. I don't believe she has your best interests at heart. Of course the final decision is yours but in my opinion any true friend wouldn't treat you that way. You are much too precious.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Kenneth
Age: 18

Q:

Is it wrong to be wearing diapers and wetting the bed at 18? I'm so scared. I just started wetting my bed. I got caught by my mom she seen my sheet and the smell. I do plain on seeing a Dr. I do plan on getting diapers.


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Dear Kenneth,

What is right or wrong anyway? Like I always say a diaper is a piece of cloth around your posterior- so is a brief, boxer or panty. It's all the same. It is okay. I am glad you do plan on seeing a doc to see if there is any medical reason for the wetting. But relax you are not alone. Stress can sometimes bring on wetting episodes- any stress in your life lately? Just remember you're okay.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Akil
Age: 19

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I'm 19 and I moved out of home 2 years ago, other the past few months to a year I've been wetting more and more often it's gotten to the point where I've reduced to diapering myself every night just to be safe and carrying them with me during the day while wearing 1 (luckily its not started during the day (yet)), I haven't wet the bed previously since I was six and it just seems to have started again (slowly at first but its getting worse) I've seen my doctor and he says it's nothing and it would pass. My question is A. what should I tell my parents about the situation B. will I need diapers for long because its getting hard to hide C. what should I say if anybody finds out.


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Dear Akil,

According to your doctor you have no medical problems and it will pass. Do you have any recent stress in your life? Stress is known to be a factor in some persons wetting. Carrying diapers is a good idea. To reduce nighttime wetting- limit fluids after 6 PM, go to the bathroom right before bed and no caffeine. Whether to tell your parents is up to you. As for how long you will be wearing- only your body knows. And it can be hard if people find out but your true friends will stand by you and support you. The rest of them you don't need in your life. Stay strong and remember your doctor has told you it is temporary and will pass. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Lewis
Age: 19

Q:

Why is it that I seem to have less control with a nappy on?


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Dear Lewis, The main reason you have little control is that your body knows that it is okay for you to go since you are wearing a diaper. Also since you have been in diapers your entire life it is difficult to have that control because your body doesn't know how to regulate your system. Just remember that even if you are in diapers you are still a special person. And that we are here for you if you ever need someone to talk to.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Chris
Age: 17

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I'm sick of hiding the fact I wear diapers and I would like to tell or show my girlfriend or mother. I need advice on what to do. I don't want anyone else to find out especially my friends or my doctor. I would like to be changed but I don't want my girlfriend to break up over it. I have dropped some hints to her about diapers and my mom saw baby diapers in my trash can a while back. I want a way to to tell either of them, but my mom cannot keep a secret and I'm not sure about my girlfriend. What can I do?


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Dear Chris,

There are no magic words that you can say. You know how accepting your mom and girlfriend are. Is this something they would understand? If it is then sit them down and tell them. But if you have any doubts I wouldn't mention it. Also if you know your mom will be spreading the news perhaps you might want to reconsider telling her at all. It would be nice to have your mom on your side but are you willing to risk having her not be. You have a lot to think about and I hope it all turns out okay. Either way we are here for you. Although you really should have the wetting checked out. Just to make sure it's nothing serious.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 20

Q:

I wet the bed because of a small bladder problem. I think I need help by trying to tell my girlfriend about it.


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Dear Paul,

I usually tell people that only they know the mindset of the other person and whether they should say anything or not. However your case is different. You have been wetting for 13 years, most of your life, so the assumption is you have a medical reason for doing so. People are accepting of a medical problem. So my suggestion is if you still want to tell her approach it as a medical issue. But be sure it is what you really want. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Vinny
Age: 13

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A few years ago I was a constant bedwetter. That was when I was younger. My dad bought disposables pretty much at the same time the wetting stopped so I never used one. It recently started up again so I used the disposables from a while ago. I just ran out. My dad was so happy when the wetting stopped. I AM NOT going to tell him I started again. I want to do this myself. So I am going to buy them from a Walgreen's. I think this is really embarrassing so I want to know how the best way it to hide the diapers on the bike ride back to my house. Also the best way to hide my image when buying them. P.S. I don't have sunglasses. Please help me! Thanks you rule!


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Dear Vinny,

It is very common for boys at your age to start wetting again if they wet in the past. You most likely had a growth spurt and your bladder didn't keep up. If this is the case with time the wetting will subside. Now you don't have to hide when you buy your diapers- just put it on someone else. If you can still fit the toddler sizes say it's for a younger brother/sister. And if you need to buy adult sizes just say it's for a grandparent. And for concealing for the bike ride- backpack. Good luck with your purchase. Stay strong and if you need us we are here.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Sarah
Age: 19

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Ok here's the deal, I my self am a TB but my girlfriend is a bedwetter. I recently told her about being a TB, and she then told me that she still wets the bed. It is not an every night thing, but she is no longer living at home, she is living with a friend of ours, someone who she wishes to remain in the dark about her bedwetting. I have tried telling her that she could use diapers at night, but she won't. I personally have not wet the bed in a very long time, so I don't know what else to tell her. I love this girl very much and I want her to be able to actually sleep at night, but at this rate she is too afraid to fall asleep because she might wet. This isn't good for her. What should I tell her to do?


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Dear Sarah,

Your girlfriend doesn't have many choices. If she is wetting at night the only option is to wear diapers or she could try Goodnites since those are better for people who feel really uncomfortable with wearing diapers. She could try to prevent the wetting by not drinking after 6 PM, avoiding anything with caffeine and using the bathroom before going to bed. One thing she could do is to use a mattress protector- that way if she does wet at least she won't be doing laundry constantly. Hope all turns out alright for her.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Unknown

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Is there any REALLY good way to stop bedwetting, apart from the use of diapers. I never used to wet the bed but my friend told me if you never did then you might start sometime in your life soon and I did just last week so my mum put me in diapers. I don't mind too much though to be honest.


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Dear No name,

You need to know why the wetting started to say if it can be stopped.  There are ways to make it happen less often. You could try drinking less in the evenings- no liquids after 6 PM, avoid caffeine (coffee, tea, soda) and use the bathroom before bed. There are medications that can be taken but they must be prescribed by a doctor.  So try the tips I said and see if the wetting subsides. Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Josh
Age: 14

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How could I keep my mom from knowing that I wet the bed? I am almost out of Goodnites and I wet the bed at night (when I sleep) but I am embarrassed to buy them from a store, and it's hard to get money in my family. I am not close to my mom or dad so don't say just tell them. They will probably yell at me. I have a common bladder problem, it doesn't grow as fast as I do.


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Dear Josh,

There aren't too many options for your problem. I have written in the past about different ideas to earn money- paper route, doing odd jobs for neighbors (raking leaves, shoveling snow or cutting grass etc.), also if you are near an assisted living facility you could offer to run errands for people- walk their dogs, pick up items from stores/pharmacies etc.  Maybe offer to clean around their homes. When you go to the store, if you wear a child size you could say it's for a younger brother/sister and if you have to wear an adult size say it's for a grandparent. I hope everything works out.  If you ever need us we're here.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Brendan
Age: Unknown

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My question is should I be wearing some kind of protection. I try to get up out of bed but some time I am caught short. What can I do please. I had an accident in February. I had collapsed and was brought to the hospital. When the nurse was getting me undressed she noticed I had wet a lot and suggested I wear a pad/diaper. I was embarrassed. Anyway I did and couple of hours later I had completely soaked I was not too happy about this situation. I have to see a consultant urologist regarding why I'm wetting plus I'm getting up 5 to 6 times a night.


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Dear Brendan,

I'm sorry to hear that your wetting is so out of control. It sometimes takes a while to get it in check.  It is good that you are going to see an urologist. There are a few treatment options including medications. In the meantime I would suggest getting a mattress protector and using nighttime diapers as well.  If you are a heavy wetter you could also use a diaper stuffer- which is a rectangular pad made of diaper material made to be put inside the diaper for added absorbency. It should help avoid the leakage problem. I hope all goes well when you see the doctor. Please keep us informed.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Linzi wood
Age: 42

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I have been wetting myself for as long as I know. Some times I don't wear nappy like for work but some time I do wet myself. Do you know a way I could stop this or have I been doing it too long???


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Dear Linzi,

You don't mention if you wet due to a physical illness or injury. Because you have been wetting for so many years it would be difficult for you to regain control.  All the muscles involved have not been used in years. My suggestion to you would be to see a doctor and ask if there is anything that can be done. You might be able to retrain the muscles involved and get some control back. Let us know what happens when you see your doctor.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: SaDiE
Age: 19

Q:

When will it stop.......IF it stops how long must I use protection for?


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Dear Sadie,

Depending on the reason as to why you started wetting will determine when and if it will stop. If in fact your wetting does stop it would be a good idea to still wear protection for at least 4 weeks to make sure it has ceased. However you say in your email that you have wet all your life. It is likely that you will have to get a doctor's help to end the wetting. Or at the very least lessen the frequency and volume of each incident. I wish you well and let us know how you are doing.

-Hugs Sandra