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Question Asked By: Smokey
Age: 21

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Dear Ma,

For as long as I've had accidents, they've always been associated with nightmares from my childhood. With that in mind one would just deduce that my accidents are part of that trauma. However, what very few people know is I was actually shot once. I was wearing
kevlar, so the bullet didn't penetrate, but that round nailed me right over my bladder. I had to wear protection for a couple weeks, but it cleared up. I should've dropped out of selection then, but I refused, which makes me wonder if I aggravated it with all the excess exertion. I got cleared with the medics, and the Dr's never picked up on it, but they weren't looking for it either. Could that bullet have
caused unforseen damage? Hit me up.


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Dear Amokey,

I am very sorry to hear about your injury.  Thank god you're okay.  It is very possible that the bullet and activity following could of irritated your bladder muscle and/or area and caused some problems. Previous wetting aside, just this new injury is enough to cause difficulty.  If you want to know for certain- make an appointment with an urologist and see what they say. You might also go see someone about  the PTSD. They have many support groups, find the one that fits you. I wish you well.  Keep us infomed on your progress.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Art
Age: 55

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Not really a question but a comment. I applaud your decision on telling people that you won't give them any info. on how to become a bedwetter. There are plenty of other sites out there that will give them this info. I have been wetting nearly my whole life and find I can't stop. Few if any sites out there will give you this info.


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Dear Art,

My chosen career was a nurse.  The reason I take the stand of not giving any info that might permanently harm a member is because I have seen the results of when things go wrong. When people try something they heard about and end up injuring themselves permnanently. But I do thank you for your kind thoughts.  We care about our members and will always strive to give the best information we can.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Julie
Age: 20

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I have a boyfriend whom I've recently gotten very close to and
we've started to get intimate. I haven't stayed at his house yet but I do know he likes to use an electric blanket. I've heard if you wet with one on you can get shocked or electrocuted. Is there any truth to that?


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Dear Julie,

As long as his blanket is in good repair- no kinks, no rips, no frayed wiring- it is perfectly safe for you to use it.  The only danger comes if there is a tear of some kind is the cord covering the wires.  But otherwise relax and enjoy the time you and your boyfriend spend together snuggled beneath that nice warm blanket.  Ohh now that does sound nice.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jennell Belcak
Age: 35

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Do you have any advice for me? Sadie is 6 and is diabetic.  She has been really good about staying dry until around a few months ago.  Her endo has increased her DDAVP and she is still wetting
the bed.  We don't yell at her becouse it's not her fault.  She doesn't know when it is happening.  Do you have any advice for me? She is a beutiful wonderful girl and I feel bad for her.


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Dear Jonnell,

Is Sadie's diabetes in control?  Her condition is a balancing act.  Both sides-the diabetes and the bedwetting- have to be in sync with one another or it will go out of whack. Her DDAVP might be increased but is she still watching her fluid intake. A few trips to the bathroom before bed might help. Restricting any beverage containing caffeine could also reduce some accidents. It is difficult being diabetic as a child with all the restrictions. Continue to encourage her to do her best.  And doses of love are just what the doctor ordered.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: James
Age: 17

Q:

Is it ok for me to go outside in just diapers?


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Dear James,

As a general rule most communities have laws agaisnt being outside with minimum clothing.  To go outside in only a diaper would definitely be breaking that law and not be a good idea.  The only place you could get away with it would be in the privacy of your own
enclosed backyard.  The only exception to this would be if you lived in a nudist community.  There of course it would be no problem. If it gets too hot and you really need to shed the outerwear just be sure
you're home in your own backyard!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Robert Peterson
Age: 40

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I was diagnosed with OAB / Urge incontinence about 2 years ago by a urologist.  She has told me that there is no cure for it but there are things that can help the symptoms.  She wants me to try to use the bathroom every 2 hours which is challenging for me at times depending on where I am at.  I work for Wal-mart as a stockman which means I am outside bringing the carts back inside the store for the customers, doing carry outs and so on.. 

    I have been wearing Depend Adult diapers and change about 3 - 4 times a day, probably should be more often.  I am married and have a 8 year old son. My wife helps change me and buys them when needed. I have grown to be dependant on diapers and know that I need them.

     The Urologist wants to try and help be stay dry longer but I am thinking that means I will not be wearing diapers. How can I adjust to this way after wearing a diaper for so long? They have been part of
me for so long. I even have an adult diaper bag to carry changing supplies around when needed.

   Thanks,

Robert (from White River Junction, VT)


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Dear Robert,

First I would like to commend you for the great way you have adapted your life to your wetting.  It pretty much mirrors how mine is. I would like to point out one fact to you.  Your urologist said he would help you stay drier for longer periods of time.  He didn't say he would cure you.  In time of extreme physical exertion or stress- hello the old symptoms will return. It would still be a good practice to wear your diapers just in case.  It's better to have a used dry diaper than a wet pair of pants! So have no fear you wouldn't have to give up on the diaper just cut back on them- go from a 2 case a month habit to a 1 case a month habit!  :)

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joshua
Age: 18

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The problem is lately I've been having trouble in the day time too. Its been bad enough that I've wound up standing in a puddle crying. :( I just don't know what to do any more. I could handle night time, but during the day time too. It has me really worried and I don't know what I should do about my problem? Any advice would be welcomed.


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Dear Joshua,

There could be a few things going on here.  My first question to you is this--Has there been any added stress in your life recently?  Your problem sounds like what my son had and whenever there was stress his accidents would increase. If your answer is yes then eliminate the stress and problem solved.  If your answer was no you might need to re-visit your doctor and see why your accidents have increased.  It could be that you are in need of better nutrition and/or
vitamins or even more sleep.  Let us know how it goes. Take care of yourself there's only one you.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Mark
Age: 47

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Hi ya mommy, I wet at night & now have a bad diapee rash. I also have chafing a lot when working. I now use lots of baby powder for it.  What is better on the rash & chafing? A&D ointment or Desitin? What other creams work ... Thanks for your help..hugss :))


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Dear Mark,

Sorry to hear about your rash.  :( The creams and ointments you mentioned are good but the one I swear by is Balmex.  You have a rash, you use it and in 24 hours if that rash is not gone it is at least not a pain (pun intended) in the butt.  Also on days when you think chafing might be a real problem, eg: hot days etc. use a thin coating as a barrier.  This cream is also good on other skin ailments. So the whole family can get use out of it. Stay dry and happy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: CB
Age: 21

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I have not wet the bed in three years. But when I stay over at friends' place I still worry about it and don't get much sleep cause of it. I know I won't wet, so why do I worry? Should I secretly start wearing depends or other diapers so I don't worry? And if decide to, should I tell my girlfriend? I know she had a problem with bed wetting a few years ago, b4 I met her.


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Dear CB,

I am not sure exactly why it is you feel so strongly that you will wet yourself when you don't. It could be emotions left over from when you did wet at night.  If it bothers you that much maybe when you are staying over at someone else's house you could wear something. You can't deny yourself sleep over a problem that can
be fixed so simply. As far as your girlfriend being informed- you know your relationship.  She should be understanding about it all since she was a wetter herself. Just do what you need to do to be
comfortable.  If that means to wear diapers once in a while then so be it.  Life is too short. Just be happy..

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Ryan
Age: 28

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This might sound silly but I need to ask. Mygirlfriend and I have recntly gotten serious and intimate. She wants me to spend the night and she likes to sleep with an electric blanket. I've heard rumors that if you wet the bed with an electric blanket, you can get shocked or electrocuted. Is this true or is just a tall tale?


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Dear Ryan,

It is amazing how these stories spread. You can not get electrocuted by wetting a bed with an electric blanket---that is as long as there are no cuts or exposed wires. The amount you urinate is small and under regular circumstances cause no problems.  The
problem arises when you are dealing with an old blanket with frayed and exposed wires. Then there is a possibility of injury.  Just examine the blanket and make sure it is in good repair and you should have nothing to worry about.  Of course you could just skip
using the blanket-- the two of you should generate enough heat to stay warm! Be happy.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Misty Summers
Age: 27

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My husband has lost all control over both wetting and messing. He has been in diaper for ten years now for bladder problems and his doctor ordered him to wear for that, but he has started messing him self also. Is there some thing I can do to get him some help. Thanks


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Dear Misty,

I am sorry to hear about your husbands problems.  It does sometimes happen that after many years of being incontinent you lose complete control.  You need to talk to your doctor and see if there are any treatments for him. To re-potty train might not help.
It all depends on how bad his original condition is. Your best bet is like I said talk to his doctor and seek his opinion. I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Joel
Age: 33

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I am back living with my parents for about 6 months until I get my house built.  They know about my problem bedwetting and one of my brothers and a few friends. The biggest thing is what should I do about the dribbling during the day?  I wear diapers at night. You think I should see the doctor again or just wear diapers during the day too?  The next question is: If I have to wear diapers during the day,  I am scared on what people (in public) might say to me if they know that I am wearing a diaper?


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Dear Joel,

I would definitely let my doctor know about the daytime wetting. He might need to prescribe something stronger for you to take or like you said you might need to start wearing diapers during the day.  As far as wearing diapers go there are ways to disguise it. In truth most people won't even notice but we are always self-conscious. And so what if they do notice- I am fond of saying 'It's a piece of fabric around my posterior- the same can be said of briefs and boxers. Just fabric!'. Be proud and hold your head up. So check with your doctor and see what he says.  And above all else be happy!

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Daniel
Age: 20

Q:

I am 20 years old and I have a problem wetting my bed all the time. I want to wear a diaper but my mom will freak if she found out, so what should I do for my problem?


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Dear Daniel,

The first thing you need to do is see a doctor and make sure there is no medial problems.  Before you panic, wetting can be brought on by stress and over-work.  I always say to see a doctor to rule out any problems.  He can then tell you what if anything you need to do.  If it is stress related- you might only need to relax, take a warm bath, listen to soothing music and cut back on fluids before bed. So relax and have things checked out.  Good luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Marcus
Age: 25

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I have just recently found this site and I was wondering if I may ask which pant would be decent to use. I generally use goodnites due to my wetting that restarted about 4 years ago after being fully trained as a child. Anyway the goodnites tend to leak, Would pull-ups or any other brand work better? I really don't want to go to the adult section of a store. I have a 31 inch waist and the Goodnites seem to fit perfectly. Any suggestions? Please do not post this on your faq it is really embarrassing to ask your opinion as it is.


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Dear Marcus,

First off you have no reason to feel embarrassed especially in this forum. No personal info is released only your name.  Secondly it might be time to step up to adult products.  As good as the baby products are they are designed for an infants output- not an adults hence they leak simply because the amount is too much. There are many good on-line companies that will send you sample packs so you can try their inventory and see which one better suits your needs.  Using on-line ordering no embarrassing looks from any store clerks. Check it out.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

Here's the link to some companies that sell diapers:
http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Diaper_links.html

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Question Asked By: STEVE
Age: 26

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I would like to know, all the med's that I have taken haven't helped me one bit. The doctors say that I may need surgery,that is one thing that I do NOT want to do. I have talked to a bunch of different people that have had surgery and they all say that its not worth having it done.  Now my question is; if I don't have that surgery done will that mean that I cannot get a medical disability note that I can use at work, or jail? Not like I plan on going to jail.  I guess the real question is the doctor won't say that he won't give me form that I need to be diapered 24/7 and that I need more breaks at work for changing will he, because I won't have the surgery? I hope you understand what I'm trying to ask...please email me if you don't------------------- Thanks sooo much for your time.    Steve


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Dear Steve,

No one can force you to have surgery if you don't want to.  They can't penalize you if you don't either.  You weren't very specific with what your diagnosis is but I am pretty sure you could get a note from your doctor about changing and taking breaks. It is alot harder to get disability. Once your doctor approves you then have to undergo examination from the government doctors and they have to also approve that you are unable to work due to the condition. Talk to your doctor and get the notes you need for work and you're on your way.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Paul
Age: 17

Q:

I am pooping my pants.


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Dear Paul,

You didn't ask a question.  Please write back with a question if you have one. Be sure to clean really well and powder.  We want no rashes.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: STEVEO
Age: 26

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I am a heavy wetter and I would like to know,what are the best diapers for night time use?  It seems that no matter what I do I still have leaks.  I do also use rubber pants with my DEPENDS and have the same outcome. I really HATE using to rubber pants because I dont think that they fit like they are suppose to. How should they fit over a diaper? Mine are baggy.  So the best overnite diaper and the best pair of rubber pants are my question.  Thank you.


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Dear Steveo,

You threw alot at me so we'll take it one thing at a time.  There are many good diapers out there- the two brands i will recommend is Molicare and Uniquebriefs. But I must also address the plastic/rubber pants issue.  The proper size plastic/rubber pant should be snug and not loose agaisnt your body.  How can it be expected to help hold anything if its sagging and leaving open potential leakage points?  Also if you are a heavy wetter you might also try using 'stuffers'. These are diaper material formed into a pad that can be put inside a diaper before you put it on.  The purpose is to add a boost of absorbancy to the diaper.  So your mission is twofold- keep the diapers you have and use the stuffers or try a new brand and to also purchase better fitting plastic/rubber pants.  At least this way you can have a comfortable leak free and worry free night.  Good Luck.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Jeff Norris
Age: 39

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Which is better for me, cloth diaper or dispoable diapers?  Because I wet and mess my diapers I wear cloth.        


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Dear Jeff,

Whether to wear cloth or disposables is really a matter of personal comfort.  Whichever one works for you is the one you need to use.  Cloth has its advantages that you save money and only have to launder them. Disposables have the advantage that they are no fuss and you just throw away- convenience to the extreme. As for absorbancy both can be good and rash control is directly related to cleanliness at diaper change for cloth or disposable.  So the only real question is which one are you more comfortable with?  That is the one you go with.

-Hugs Sandra

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Question Asked By: Marisa
Age: 25

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Today I laughed at work and sure enough I had an accident…I think I covered it up well but I had to sit in wet pants for the rest of the day.  I just started wearing adult diapers during the night for my
current diagnoses of IBS (that also causes a moderate amount of urine loss when I have an attack) but am not used to wearing them and really am embarrassed that someone will find out…I’m 25 years old and have to wear adult diapers!!!!

Adult pull ups wouldn’t work if I had an IBS attack and I am too afraid to wear adult diapers during the day; however I am starting to realize that it would make my life easier!!! How can I get over my fear of wearing diapers in public and make my life easier?


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Dear Marisa,

It can be difficult trying to adjust.  First a few pointers- get a mattress protector , so if there is any leaking it won't require a full load of laundry. Also there are many good adult diapers on the market. Molicare and Uniquebriefa are two that I highly recommend.  Also if leaking is a concern you should try using 'stuffers'- they are pad shaped diaper absorbant material.  How you use them is when you put on a diaper you insert as many as you need in the areas you wet to boost the absorbancy.  It's like putting extra diaper stuffing in your diaper. Then if you did have an accident- it would all be absorbed and nothing left to leak.  I will give you a link to our diaper suppliers.  It is a good starting place.  I wish you luck.

-Hugs Sandra

http://www.bedwettingabdl.com/Diaper_links.html